Bethlehem Divorce Recovery

Divorce Counseling, Treatment and Help in Lehigh Valley (Bethlehem, PA)

When you were planning to say your marriage vows—your “I do’s,” you never planned for the day you would be in divorce court saying, “I do not.” When people map out their wedding, honeymoon, and future together, separation and/or divorce are not usually in that picture. But most people know from experience that life does not always go according to plan. About 40 percent of first marriages end in divorce. The news is worse for second and third marriages: approximately 60 and 70 percent respectively.

“Imagine spreading everything you care about on a blanket and then tossing the whole thing up in the air. The process of divorce is about loading that blanket, throwing it up, watching it all spin, and worrying what stuff will break when it lands.”
—Amy Poehler, Yes Please

If you are one of the many people going through a divorce, your world may be spinning too. The end of a marriage means many other losses are incurred. Recovering from loss is never a simple or easy process. It takes courage to acknowledge the pain and embrace a new future, but people who do so are often able to rebuild a happy, fulfilling future. And no one has to go through the recovery process alone. Therapists, psychologists, and counselors can provide support and guidance, often when it is most needed.

That is why Thriveworks Bethlehem offers divorce recovery therapy and counseling. We know that divorce means the end of a marriage—not the end of a fulfilling, happy life. On the other side of pain and loss, new adventures and healthy relationships often are waiting.

Why Do Couples Split?

The psychologist John Gottman studied marriages and divorces for decades, and he was able to identify a couple’s future divorce with startling accuracy. How did Dr. Gottman know a couple’s marriage would not last? The surface circumstances of why couples split is infinite—adultery, financial irresponsibility, emotional affairs, workaholism, alcoholism, parenting differences, neglect, health challenges, in-law tensions, and on, and on. But underneath the surface of these particular scenarios, Dr. Gottman found at least one of four factors at play that undermined the marriage. He called these, “the four horsemen of the apocalypse,” and one or all four are almost always present when a couple divorces:

  • Contempt: Disrespect by one or both partners.
  • Defensiveness: Refusing to accept responsibility for one’s own attitudes and actions.
  • Criticism: Negativity, nit-picking, and judgments.
  • Stonewalling: Minimizing, avoiding, or denying problems.

Some couples overcome adultery while others end their marriage. Some couples work through financial stress while others split. What’s the difference? Usually one or more of the four horsemen. In most cases, it is not the problem itself that harms the relationship, it is the underlying disrespect, defensiveness, negativity, and/or stonewalling. These are truly toxic behaviors.

More likely than not, one or more of the four horsemen was present within your former marriage. When people come out of a toxic relationship with toxic behaviors, they often have wounds that need healing. Divorce recovery is an intentional time during and after a marriage ends to find healing for those wounds.

Divorce Recovery: Finding Healing and Hope

Divorce recovery has two main goals: Looking back to heal past wounds from the marriage. Looking forward to a new, bright future.

Achieving these goals will look differently for each person. Many factors influence a person’s journey toward healing after their marriage ends, such as,

  1. Whether children are involved.
  2. If the divorce surprised one or both partners.
  3. Whether the partners have formed new, romantic relationships.
  4. The circumstances that led to the divorce.
  5. The status of finances.
  6. How long the relationship had lasted.
  7. Each partner’s personality, physical health, age, and mental health.

Practically, divorce brings many new realities to face, and a skilled counselor can help people think through important decisions regarding custody of their children, navigating extended family and in-laws, legal battles, housing circumstances, and changed friendships.

Emotionally, people may need help processing their grief. The key is to allow oneself to feel anything that may arise. A counselor often provides support during the grief cycle. Before landing on acceptance, people often feel guilt, fear, loneliness, anger, anxiety, confusion, and possibly even depression.

There is no easy road to recovery after a divorce. Missteps are normal. It is okay to fall down and get back up again. It is also okay to ask for help.

Divorce Recovery at Thriveworks Bethlehem

Anyone who has recently finalized a divorce or is in the process knows how difficult the road is to recover a normal, vibrant life. Anyone who has come through the challenges of divorce recovery knows how building a new life is worth the effort.

Thriveworks Bethlehem offers counseling for divorce recovery because no one has to grieve their losses and rebuild their future alone. Our therapists and psychologists understand the pitfalls of divorce recovery, and have helped many people overcome those pitfalls.

Are you ready to speak with a counselor about your divorce? When you call Thriveworks Bethlehem, a scheduling specialist will answer and help you schedule an appointment. There is no voicemail and no automated directory—just real people helping real people. We also offer weekend and evening sessions and accept many insurance plans.

Has divorce spun your world around? Call Thriveworks Bethlehem today.

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Unlocking my potential

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Through my sessions with Lora I’ve been able to stop doubting myself and my capabilities. My life has changed drastically for the better through her teachings and spot-on feedback. I started seeing Lora because I was going through a tough breakup and not only were we able to acknowledge the toxicity of that relationship, we were also able to tackle my productivity issues at work and I have since completely turned my career around. I feel as though I’ve been running with a ton of weight on my shoulders and Lora was able to guide me on how to liberate myself from all of these burdens and run freely! Thank you Lora, don’t know where I’d be without ya!
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Christiana is amazing!

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I worked with Christiana for nearly four years in a clinical setting. In our agency, she was known as a compassionate counselor and was very sought-after by clients because of her caring nature and ability to hold clients accountable when needed. Her solid clinical skills made her a colleague I could always count on for solid feedback and a very thorough way of addressing client needs. She was able to look at clinical issues from multiple perspectives and with a real sense of fairness and respect for the client. Christiana is a rare find in this field!
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Stress & Anxiety

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Throughout my first job I have had a lot of stress. Christiana has helped me battle through my mental obstacles and become a better human being.
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Camille Mackey

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I've known Camille Mackey many years and she has always cared for/helped people. She is a wonderful and very compassionate therapist. I feel very comfortable talking to her.
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Christiana

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Christiana is great! She is easy to talk to , ask the right questions to help me figure out how to get through my difficult time with my anxiety. I would recommend her to anyone looking for someone to just talk to or to help get through tough times!
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Christiana

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Christiana is calm and patient and she is a great listener. She is very easy to talk to and makes you feel comfortable!
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Counselor

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I have known Brandon Ballantyne for many years. He is one of the most compassionate and caring people I have ever met. He certainly has a knack for working with people as a counselor. He brings a positive energy to the table and leaves a lasting impression on the patients he works with. I would highly recommend Brandon’s services to anyone seeking supports.
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Brandon is excellent

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Brandon is a great asset to the mental health field! Speaking as one that also works in medical field, I would recommend Brandon to any clients!
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Accountability

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Christiana helped me realize that I am accountable for my actions, happiness, success and impact on others. She always went the extra step to help me break down my own roadblocks but made me do it on my own. I’m forever grateful for her and her direct but empathetic style.
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Really enjoyed talking with Stan

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Really enjoyed talking with Stan on way to recovery.Also enjoyed connecting with him on other family issues.
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Stan was very professional and thorough

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Stan was very professional and thorough. He explained his role and the standards he would uphold for the public and DOT. He also listened to my point of view during the assessment to better understand my situation and recommend a course of action. He made clear what was expected of me. Stan also went way above and beyond what I would consider part of his job. He was a great help and resource. Thank you
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Marianne Bartos Helped Me

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Marianne Bartos was able to help me with anxiety. I was having panic attacks and she encouraged and taught me to practice breathing techniques and also meditation. These methods were very helpful to me! She is an excellent counselor and I would recommend her highly.
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LPC

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I saw Marianne when I left my husband and she was a GREAT help to me. She helped me with my anxiety, (which was sometimes overwhelming), finances, and depression. Marianne is a welcoming and warm person. I wish her the best of luck in her new venture!
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Stan Theodoredis

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What sets Stan Theodoredis apart from other professionals is his innate sense of compassion. He has a generous spirit that is evident the moment you meet him. If I had to use one word to describe him it would be "kind". I believe these are essential qualities to look for if you are searching for someone to guide you through any of life's challenges.
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Stan Theodoredis

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Stan Theodoredis is a deeply caring and compassionate counselor who shares his insight and experience with generosity. He has a way of being present and listening that is comforting and gives the sense of someone who understands and is willing to make the journey no matter how rough it may be. His genuine warmth and good humor make him a pleasure to know, and are truly remarkable as he skillfully yet honestly travels the emotional, psychological and spiritual issues we all confront in our lives.
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