Mental Health Topics

TODAY IS THE BEST DAY OF THE REST OF MY LIFE! What do you think about that? Declaring your day? Owning it. How does it feel? Way deep down in your gut, how does it really feel? I have a feeling I know what is going on in your head…

A common (and underrated) conflict between couples is the fight that takes place when buying furniture and decorating the home. Here are some thoughts. This conflict seems to be increasing as it’s now common for both partners to be involved in the domestic affairs of the home. I find it’s…

Why is asking for help so hard? I know that when I was growing up, asking for help was seen as a sign of weakness. We were raised to not go outside of our family system with our problems. It is no wonder that I was well into my twenties…

It happens to all of us sooner or later. We look at the neighbor and we’re jealous. We wonder why they can afford a new car, new house, and new furniture and we’re still stuck with something that barely runs, barely stands and is threadbare. Why is their life so…

Whether constructive or otherwise received from a spouse, boss, family member or friend, criticism for some of us can provoke defensiveness, justifying, rationalizing, minimizing, and sometimes self-defeating hostility. I’ve personally seen these responses to criticism displayed more frequently in those who reported histories of trauma of some sort. Whether the…

A Goal, not a Resolution If you’re anything like me, you’ve set so many goals in past years and have had so little to show for them come December that you’re flat out tired of hearing about “New Year’s Resolutions.” But what if there were actually a way to set…

The Holidays are upon us. This is the time of year when experimental drinking and drug use happens. This is the time of Holiday parties and Holiday cheer. As parents, we hope our children are safe. We hope we have taught them how to make good decisions. We hope they…

Are you happy, truly deep down happy with your life right now? This is a question not to be taken lightly. Deep contemplation is required. Most of us go through life on autopilot being passive observers in our own lives. Short-term focus on to-do lists tends to dominate our lives,…

When you think of the word “teenager” what is the first thing that comes to your mind?  Attitude? Defiant? Impossible? It’s no secret that it can be difficult to communicate with adolescents.. Many people assume  their teenagers are overly emotional, impulsive, and sometimes just  mean. All of those statements can…

  Just as men have some unique physical issues because of our biology, we also have some unique psychological issues because of the way we were socialized. This process starts early when baby boys are touched less and later touched more roughly than girls. It continues in the expectations that…

A new study found that millennials really don’t like being associated with their own generation. In fact, they are more embarrassed by themselves than anyone else. Millennials have been given a variety of unsavory names such as, “Self-absorbed”, “Lazy”, and “The Worst Generation”. With these titles, it’s understandable why the…

I was talking with a colleague today. We’ve both seen an influx of new clients whose email addresses and personal information was found in the Ashley Madison hack. He, unlike me, has already had one client commit suicide over it. These are not fun times for many. For spouses who’ve…