Grand Rapids Borderline Personality Disorder Therapy

Borderline Personality Disorder Counseling in Grand Rapids, MI—Therapists

When Pete Davidson, cast member of Saturday Night Live received a difficult mental health diagnosis, he responded as any comedian would: he shared his struggle in an open and honest and vulnerable and funny way. On the show’s segment, Weekend Update, Pete told Colin Jost about the difficulties that Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) has caused in his life as well as the help he has received through therapy. Pete encouraged others, saying, “first of all, if you think you’re depressed, see a doctor and talk to them about medication, and also be healthy. Eating right and exercise can make a huge difference. And finally, if you are in the cast of a late-night comedy show, it might help, if they, ya know, do more of your sketches.” That last piece of advice may or may not be applicable, but the reaching out for help and seeking care is excellent advice for anyone who is struggling. In particular, when people reach out to a therapist and go to counseling for BPD, they often receive the help they need.

“This heart of mine has just two setting: nothing at all or too much.
There is no in between.”
—Beau Taplin

Thriveworks Grand Rapids works with clients who have Borderline Personality Disorder. BPD can make people’s lives unstable and volatile, but with therapy, many of our clients have managed their symptoms and learned how to live a more stable, controlled life.

Symptoms for BPD

There are ten different disorders that The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5) classifies as personality disorder. These ten are all characterized by maladaptive practices—patterns of behavior that undermine an individual in some significant way. Each personality disorder has a unique maladaptive pattern, and Borderline Personality Disorder’s maladaptive pattern is volatility. When people have BPD, it can cause them to have unstable relationships with themselves and with others.

This volatility is shown in BPD’s symptoms, which include…

  • Going to extremes, avoiding any real or perceived relational separation.
  • Fear of being separated and abandoned in relationships.
  • Antagonistic behavior— participating in and/or starting fights, frequently lashing out in anger, using sarcasm and bitterness, et cetera.
  • Frequently altering one’s identity—values, perceptions, and goals in particular.
  • Swinging between emotional extremes: anxiety and anger, happiness and outrage, and so forth.
  • A pattern of difficult and even broken relationships (often, when people have BPD, they glorify others initially, and then when others inevitably fail to live up to the expectations, they may be deeply disappointed).
  • Experiencing paranoia that can last for minutes or hours wherein people are not in touch with the real world.
  • Attempting or threatening suicide or self injury as a way to cope with fear, criticism, or rejection.
  • A deep-seated, on-going feeling of emptiness.
  • Difficulty receiving rejection or criticism in any form (even constructive feedback).
  • Engaging in impulsive behavior and taking unnecessary risks that put people in danger: gambling, unfettered spending, reckless driving, drug use, self-sabotage, unsafe sex, binge eating, and more.

Borderline Personality Disorder, clearly, can cause significant harm in an individual’s life all by itself. However, BPD can also increase an individual’s risk for other mental illnesses like self-harm, disordered eating, depression, addiction, and substance abuse.

How BPD Develops

There are many mysteries as to why and how BPD develops, but mental health professionals understand that certain factors raise an individual’s risk for the disorder. Risk factors include…

  • A genetic history of mental illness in general or specifically BPD.
  • Surviving childhood abuse (verbal, sexual, or physical) and neglect, especially if received from a caregiver or parent.
  • A smaller hippocampus (the part of the brain that regulates stress hormones and responses).
  • As a child, experiencing the death of a parent or caregiver.

BPD and Therapy

The harm that BPD can bring into a person’s life is not inevitable. With treatment, people may be able to manage the symptoms of BPD. Skilled and experienced mental health professionals can often tailor a treatment plan to meet their clients’ individual needs. The best care is often personalized, but often, treatment for BPD includes Dialectical Behavior Therapy—an intervention develop specifically to treat BPD. This therapy emphasizes certain healing and coping techniques like…

  • Mindfulness: Observing oneself, what one is feeling, thinking, and sensing. These observations should be received without assessment or judgment or blame.
  • Emotional regulation: The ability to feel emotions and use these responses well. Emotional regulation gives people the skills they need to feel a wide range of emotions (anger, frustration, desperation, euphoria, joy, relaxation, and more) without being controlled by them.
  • Distress tolerance: Life is filled with disappointments, setbacks, frustrations, distress, and more. These are normal, universal experiences. Distress tolerances teachers people how to handle the harder moments of life with resiliency.
  • Interpersonal effectiveness: Relationships are vital in life, and interpersonal effectiveness teaches people who to build a wide variety of connections, from romantic pursuits to acquaintances to professional contacts.

Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment at Thriveworks Grand Rapids—Appointments

The therapists at Thriveworks Grand Rapids offer treatment for BPD, and we have appointments available. When you contact our office, your first appointment may be within 24 hours. We offer evening and weekend sessions, but we do not put our clients on a waitlist. We also accept many different insurance plans. Call us today.

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Angel

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Angel was the sweetest person! I’m so glad I chose this place for help! I felt like a crazy person at first but she made me feel like I was just normal and just going through a lot! I really appreciate angel!
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So Thankful

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Thriveworks is a blessing. I got an appointment with a counselor within a week. Margaret Rose was wonderful. She was kind and insightful and I felt safe with her. I highly recommend Thriveworks Grand Rapids
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Denise-NP

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My son saw Denise for the first time recently and she was great. She seemed very well informed in every area and so willing to help my son with his anxiety. She actually spent time with us and seemed to care. I'm so glad we found her.
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Denise Skonieczny NP

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I was in need of a psychiatrist for chronic depression and anxiety. I came across thrive having only a 4 month wait instead 9 to 12 month wait with any other psychiatrist. This was wonderful news. I met Denise as my clinician. She is very empathetic very knowledgeable. She has helped me alot sine my first vist. She is very dedicated to her patients which I truly appreciate. I would highly recommend her for any psychiatric needs. I think she goes above and beyond her role. She is a caring individual. There should be more people like Denise. She needs to be recognized for her work.
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Wonderful

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I am so pleased with my therapist, Lori. She does an outstanding job. When I read her specialties online I knew I had the right person, but when I met her for the first time I was convinced. I’ve raved about her to numerous people and have recommended Thriveworks a few times to people I know - everyone could use a Lori in their lives to help sort things out. The old adage comes to mind: “if you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day, if you teach a man to fish he will eat for a lifetime.” I am learning the skills to live and navigate life circumstances. I am calmer, happier and better off than I was when I first walked through the door. I’ve been given a gift and I am most grateful for all her help.
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No compassion

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I saw Nancy. I specifically asked for someone who SPECIALIZES in domestic abuse. I am in an abusive relationship and she kept telling me "it's your choice to stay." She always questioned why I felt things or did things, like I should have this all figured out. I'm seeking therapy because I feel like I cannot leave and I know that's not a good thing. She had no compassion for what I have been through and just said it's my choice. No addressing the pain I've been through and how I have been affected by this. I feel like I can't leave because I feel like I would fall apart if I left, but I feel like I'm dying inside the relationship. This is a whole process that occurs over a long period of time. I have no self esteem, I have tried to leave and there are so many threats and manipulation, etc. I get shit from everyone about leaving, like its as simple as that for me. I wanted compassion from a counselor. I needed validation of my feelings, not another person telling me that I choose to live like this, like I want my life to be a living hell. I realize that I do make this choice ultimately, but there is so much more to this situation and I needed to process it. I am a doormat to everyone and she just asks why I do this. I NEED TO FIGURE OUT WHY and how to change! Her tone and questioning made me feel like she was being judgemental. She is a nice person, but she is not therapeutic. I couldn't move on with her after this. It felt like she was invalidating my feelings just like the rest of the world, like nothing I feel is real and I'm crazy. I shut down. I got a letter about being non compliant, that's why. It was no longer a priority for me to go and get treated like that. She never tried to help me process my feelings, just to say positive phrases to myself and eat healthy and exercise. This stuff is good, but doesn't help me deal with the things I have been through.
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Awesome!

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I have nothing but good things to say about my therapy with Lori. I was hesitant to begin a therapy regimine without knowing anything about the therapist. After the first session I knew I had found the right person. Lori is so adept at pinpointing the problems and gives very useful ideas of how to handle them. She is very personable and easy to talk with. I will miss these sessions but I have the confidence to know I have the tools to deal with whatever comes my way. I am a much happier person!
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All is well!

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All is well!
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Fantastic. Look forward to future sessions

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Fantastic. Look forward to future sessions with my son!
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My therapist is amazing

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My therapist is amazing she listens to everything I say she is very nice and kind I would recommend her to anybody that needs help i am so blessed to have her
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Good grasp of my problem.

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Good grasp of my problem.
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Very professional

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Very professional. Counselor is engaging and helpful.
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I actually did not get to

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I actually did not get to bring in my daughters due to a personal issue, but when I spoke with their therapist over the phone she was very helpful and although she isn’t my therapist she talked to me about my issue and helped me calm down preventing a panic attack that was starting. I am very thankful to her and will be rescheduling my daughters to see her.
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Everything was great.

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Everything was great. Alot of information given
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I look forward to

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I look forward to working with Jason.
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Lori is amazing.

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Lori is amazing. Relatable, fluid conversation. Going back next week!
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Amazing availability

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The therapists availability is amazing. The scheduling was smooth as well as paperwork. Thank you!
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Work Wonders

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I've had one lesson so far and I can already tell that this place is going to work wonders.
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Enjoyed

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I enjoyed having my visit at your location.
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Highly Satisfied

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My meetings with my therapist were thought provoking but humorous. We clicked together the first time I met her ten years ago. As she moves on, I know that I am able to move forward also.
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Integrity!

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Grand Rapids is an awesome place, filled with caring employees and overflowing with integrity. You can be sure that you are in good hands, and will see great changes in your life after a few sessions with these counselors.
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Wonderful

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is wonderful - the office is beautiful, the therapists are amazing and everyone makes you feel so comfortable. Thank you, thank you!
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Great Therapy!

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You won't find a better therapist than Olja Haglund! She moved here recently from another practice where I originally was her patient and I "moved" here with her. If you are looking for a therapist who will give you what you need, not what you want, look no further....I highly recommend and the professionals who work here!
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