Virginia Beach Domestic Violence Counseling

Domestic Violence: Counselors and Therapists in Virginia Beach, VA

The best-selling novel and HBO’s sensational adaptation, Big Little Lies, have kept both viewers and readers on the edge of their seats, trying to decipher this murder mystery. Laine Moriarty’s plot has accomplished more than excellent entertainment: it has highlighted the realities of domestic violence.

(Spoiler alert! Skip ahead if necessary.)

One of the main characters, Celeste White, appears to have it all—money, friends, children, romance, beauty, and comfort. Everyone envies her. However, a dark secret haunts Celeste, and her life is not as it appears. Celeste’s seemingly perfect husband is violent with her.

Survivors of domestic violence can explain how appearances are sometimes just that—appearances. What happens privately in a relationship can look very different from the couple’s public presentation. Domestic violence can happen in any relationship, in any socio-economic class, in any education level, and in any race. Escaping the violence is also much harder that it appears.

The counselors at Thriveworks Virginia Beach know the dangers of domestic violence and understand how to support their clients who are in a harmful relationship.

The Seriousness of Domestic Abuse

Home should be a place of safety, but many people experience the opposite. They would rather be anywhere but home. Domestic violence can transform a home into a warzone of physical, verbal, and/or sexual abuse.

Living in such an environment can have long-term, serious health effects. People who live in a violent home suffer with the direct injuries from the violence, but they also have long-term health problems. When people feel a threat, the brain releases stress hormones that allow people to respond to danger. These hormones were never intended to be released too often, and if they are released frequently because of a toxic environment, then people’s health will suffer.

One victim illustrates the feeling, “He would be alternately kind and then fly off the handle for no reason. I always lived in fear of his temper. It was very stressful.”

A Cycle of Violence

This victim’s experience is common and describes what therapist call the cycle of violence. The particular circumstances of each case of domestic violence are unique, but they all follow a general pattern. The cycle may take a few minutes, or it could take years. However, it almost always involves these stages:
The Honeymoon Phase: People are almost never violent all the time. Good behavior, romantic gestures, promises for the future, extravagant gifts, tearful apologies, and more can all be a part of domestic violence. These often confuse victims so that they never know which partner they are dealing with – the sweet one or the violent one.

The Tension Building Phase: Inevitably, the violent partner may feel they have atoned for their violence so the niceties get dropped. As the tension builds, victims may do everything in their power to prevent the impending harm: give into ridiculous demands, appeasing their partner, shielding their partner from anything that could trigger the violence. Victims, however, cannot pacify their partners out of the abuse.

The Abusive Phase: Domestic violence is never deserved or the victim’s fault. It is a choice a violent partner makes and sole responsibility for that choice rests on the perpetrator’s shoulders. The abuse may be sexual, physical, emotional, or a combination of all three. Whatever form it takes, domestic violence is illegal.

Red Flags of an Abusive Relationship

Because domestic violence follows a fairly predictable pattern, there are also fairly reliable warning signs that a relationship is abusive or that it will become abusive. Seemingly out-of-place behaviors that could easily be minimized and ignored could be the signs of domestic violence. Many of the red flags for an abusive relationship relate to control: a partner may want to control the other—what they wear, think, say, feel, do, and more.

If you are in a relationship with someone who displays these behaviors, it may be time to get help:

  • Prohibiting (or showing agitation when) you spend time with family or friends
  • Subtly putting you down or feeling threatened by your talents/abilities
  • Using derogatory names (even in “jest”)
  • Threatening you and/or other people
  • Blaming/criticizing you and/or other people for their behavior
  • Harming you, your kids, or your pets
  • Prohibiting you or discouraging you from going to school or working
  • Compelling you into sex or sexual acts when you have said, “no,” or where you feel uncomfortable
  • Trying to minimize or take away agency, the ability to make decisions—such as what to wear, how to spend money, where to go, and more

Counseling for Domestic Violence

Do you recognize any of the behaviors on the list of red flags? Has your partner behaved in those ways? If so, know that what you have experienced is not a normal or healthy relationship. The abuse is not your fault, but you are strong enough to make a change. And Thriveworks Virginia Beach can help you make those necessary changes to be safe.

When you call our office, we will prioritize your care. It’s why a person will help schedule your appointment. It’s why we offer weekend and evening sessions. It’s why we work with most insurance plans. We want to see our clients receive the care they need. Call today to get started.

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Don Costigan – Highly recommend!

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Don is an incredible human being who is right where he needs to be helping people regain balance in their lives. I lost mine. My husband lost his. We lost our marital balance. Don helped us face hard truths and taught us how to acknowledge our negative communications and replace it with the knowledge of how to break the cycle. We learned how to healthfully detach, accept & grow. We are forever thankful to Don for his guidance.
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This is a review for Mandy Donnelly at the Virginia Beach location. I worked with Mandy for more than one year in community mental health and she is the real deal. Mandy was able to build strong relationships with her clients and had a great impact with with children, adolescents, and adults. Mandy is also highly ethical and respectful. I would strongly recommend Mandy and would take my own children to her.
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Don Costigan

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I started seeing Don in Feb. of this year. I have several behaviors I am currently dealing with. Don is compassionate, knowledgeable, sympathetic and easy to talk to. He is like a friend and has helped me with so many things I'm currently dealing with.
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Dr. Turon's passion for working with couples and families is far-reaching! Having worked with him in many capacities, I can say with all clarity, Dr. Turon is genuine and presents his most authentic self, in and out of the therapy room.
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I had the pleasure of meeting Juan 7 years ago during a very difficult time in my life as well as my kids . Very professional made us feel very comfortable,he helped my kids and myself. I couldn’t be more thankful .
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I've worked with J Turon for several years and can account for the positive impact he has had with so many of our clients. Mr. Turon has a natural way of relating to others, ensuring they understand what he is sharing and then implementing changes that are reflected in behavior, attitude and approach. I would recommend Mr. Turon to anyone or any family seeking answers as well as a guide to a well balanced and healthy approach to mental health.
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I love everything about Thriveworks!

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I love everything about thriveworks! The first time I called I was able to get an appointment the same day with a great therapist, Shuan Salzman. I was diagnosed with FND and on of the treatments is cognitive behavioral therapy. My daughter also goes here and sees Jeanie. She is workingwonderful with teenagers. My daughter was very hesitant in going but she has open up. Both therapists are perfect very professional. I would recommend thriveworks to any of my family members, friends, and coworkers.
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I love Donna

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My sessions have been very helpful

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My sessions have been very helpful.
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Digusted

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I cancelled my daughter's appointment due to illness (she was throwing up) and was charged a $99 fee! The fact that you would rather me bring my child throwing up to your office instead of allowing me to cancel is disgusting. It is bad enough having a sick child at home, now I have to incur a $99 fee for having a sick child and doing the right thing by keeping her home. Gross. Shame on you.
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Personable and professional.

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Look Forward to our next

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Only had one appointment so far but we liked the session and look forward to our next
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I would like to continue with Donna

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I felt it was good, donna listened, understood our feeling ,even those which i could not put words to. I would like to continue with her.
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Pete is great

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Going great so far. Pete is great, knowledgeable and relatable.
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Pete was amazing and answered my questions

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Pete was amazing and answered my questions
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So far therapy is great

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So far therapy is great, this is going on my 3rd session in my entire life! and im starting to notice some changes already
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I really look forward to my visits.

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I really look forward to my visits. I feel comfortable and I love the office set up down town.
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The staff are very professional and punctual

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The staff are very professional and punctual and my therapist is extremely knowledgeable, hands on, relatable, and exudes genuine interest in helping me overcome my issues.
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My 1st session was interesting

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My 1st session was interesting looking forward to my next session
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The session was good.

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The session was good. I feel like I got a lot accomplished and obtained a lot of tools.
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My first session and I can already see the light at the end of the tunnel.

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My first session and I can already see the light at the end of the tunnel. I’m as hard headed as they come and I have to admit, therapy works!
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We’re both looking forward to our next session.

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We’ve only had one session but I felt Dr. Love really understood what I was trying to relay to my partner. We’re both looking forward to our next session.
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Dr. Love is going to save our relationship!

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Dr. Love is going to save our relationship! Thank you for listening and giving advice !
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Appointment went well

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Very please with how easy to set up appointment & first Appointment went well. I left feeling very comfortable which is the first to learning how to deal with some challenges that I am having to deal with and more to come.
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Donna immediately made me feel comfortable

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Donna immediately made me feel comfortable about her being my daughter’s therapist. She has a true understanding of what she is going through. When I call to make appointments, I am met with a friendly voice.
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Monthly Administrators Fee

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It is unfortunate that my therapist of many years Dr. Amanda Trent started working for Thrive. Thrive charges a MONTHLY Administration plus your copay which is ridiculous. To my knowledge noone charges a monthly fee other than Thrive. In my opinion their goal is to gain money not assist patients in need.. If you need help , i recommend locating a facility that does not charge a monthly fee.
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No appt available

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Your website advertises appointments available within 24 hours, but I just called to schedule with a NP and was told you have no new patient availability.
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Impressed

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I'm repeatedly impressed by Ebonie's insights and knowledge. She is a great counselor
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