Charlotte Increased Happiness Help

Therapy for Increasing Happiness—Counselors in Charlotte, NC

Daily, it seems as if there are news reports of the latest crisis or tragedy, and those do not even recount the personal challenges people face. Life is chaotic and crazy, and no one is exempt. And yet, somehow certain people weather the storm with a smile. These people do not live in a bubble. They face bad news, surprise diagnoses, financial strain, and more—just like everyone else. They are the people Pharrell describes in his song, “Happy,”

Here come bad news talking this and that
Yeah, give me all you got, don’t hold back
Yeah, well I should probably warn you I’ll be just fine
Yeah, no offense to you don’t waste your time
Here’s why: Because I’m happy…

How can people be happy despite difficult life circumstances? Blogs and podcasts make countless promises: Try power poses. Increase sleep. Avoid these foods. Do not have too many friends. The advice goes on and on, but is it possible to create more happiness in life?

Yes, being a happier person is possible. New research has shown that emotional strength (that is, resilient happiness) is quite similar to physical strength. Every person has a unique muscle tone and strength level, but every person can also improve. Similarly, every person has a fairly stable level of happiness they experience, but everyone can build up their emotional strength. The big question is how? Many people are working with a mental health professional to help them distinguish between beneficial emotional workouts and online clickbait.

Thriveworks Charlotte provides increasing happiness help for our clients who are ready to take on an emotional workout and build up their resilient happiness.

Happy Feelings and Control

A lot of people have intertwined the happiness they feel with people and circumstances that are not within their influence or control. For example, can you relate to any of these scenarios?

  • Your team pulled out a big victory, so your whole week has been awesome.
  • A random text from an ex- puts a damper on a fun evening with friends.

Most likely, you can, and you are not alone. Any number of scenarios could have become examples, but they all follow the same formulas: favorable circumstances=happiness, unfavorable circumstances=negative feelings. The foundational principle is control: who and what are in control of the joy in a person’s life?

Without a doubt, circumstances and people contribute to happiness, but how much of a contribution varies. Some people give them the lead role while other people relegate them. In general, people who draw their happiness from themselves—their own values and actions, experience a more stable, resilient happiness. How do these happy people exhibit so much control over their own happiness? They combat the negative emotional patterns in their lives and encourage positive emotional patterns.

Combating Negative Emotional Patterns

Certain emotional patterns inhibit people’s happiness, and these patterns are within each person’s influence. There are many ways that people undercut joy in their lives. A few examples include:

  • Entitlement: Feeling as if happiness is deserved instead of earned or feeling as if joy will simply appear means that people are passive about their emotional state. In contrast, happy people often actively pursue joy.
  • Blame: Shifting responsibility toward other people instead of problem solving leaves little room for working through difficulties and moving forward. Unresolved problems can stagnate happiness.
  • Comparison: Scanning to see what other people are doing, feeling, buying, and thinking is a trap that leads to feelings of superiority or inferiority—not happiness.

Encouraging Positive Emotional Patterns

With old patterns gone, new ones can form. Certain mental habits create a positive environment where happiness can grow. These exercises may be difficult at first, but just like physical strength grows with time, so does emotional strength. Mental health professionals can guide people toward the exercises that work best for them, but a few examples include:

  • Setting a goal – Having an achievable goal in both their professional and personal lives often means people’s days have focus, excitement, and clarity. When benchmarks are reached, people also experience reward and accomplishment.
  • Changing one’s mindset – There is opportunity everywhere—even in loss, pain, and challenge. When people are open to new information, interpretations, and possibilities, they can change their mindset and often change their emotional status as well.
  • Practicing mindfulness – Be in the moment and notice every thought, every feeling, and every sensation. Simply paying attention to what is happening will build up people’s self-awareness, a key element of happiness.
  • Promoting thankfulness – Saying, “thank you,” or writing down something for which they are grateful, means that people are noticing what is beautiful and kind in the world along with what is difficult. The more gratitude people practice, the more they focus their attention upon the good.

So much of life is out of people’s control, but when it comes to being happier, little changes can make big differences. As people learn to build their happiness upon their own internal strength, their happiness will grow resilient. Of course, they will always feel sad or frustrated at times, but overall, their joy may remain stable.

Help for Increasing Happiness at Thriveworks Charlotte

If you want help becoming a happier person, Thriveworks Charlotte is ready. We have appointments available for increasing happiness.

When you call our office, know that you might be meeting with you therapist the following day. Many new clients have their first appointment within 24 hours of their first call. We do not have a waitlist, but we do have evening and weekend sessions.

Your happiness matters. Contact Thriveworks Charlotte today.

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Gabrielle Montez

Gabrielle is an amazing therapist. She is very empathetic to her clients and their needs. She can help you through what ever you are going through. Schedule with her! You will not be disappointed.
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Highly recommend

I have had the pleasure of working with Clair Crow professionally and can attest to what an incredible therapist she is! She has a calm demeanor and creates safety with her clients. She balances that safety and care with clear boundaries. I highly recommend her and have often referred clients to her for her expertise.
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Great Counselor

I've worked with Mrs. Matson for close to a year now and I can say with certainty that she's a great counselor to go to for help with emotional regulation and understanding, grief management, and processing trauma in healthy and beneficial ways. Her use of meditation techniques to get to the root of my emotions and habits have helped me understand so much about myself and why I operate the way I do. I'd definitely recommend her to anyone just starting out looking for a good counselor, or anyone looking for a friendly empathetic professional who listens well and draws from a wealth of information to provide really quality services.
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Good therapist

I have seen Dr. Daniel Stillwell for a year for individual and couples counseling and I trust him immensely. He is a skilled, authentic, and highly competent professional. I’ve also referred him to others and they described the same. Thriveworks staff have been very helpful with insurance and appointments.
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Caring and personal

Adriana Blanco is wonderful. I never felt any judgement from her during our sessions. She is compassionate, firm and extremely knowledgeable. I could not see myself opening up as much with another counselor, thank you for putting her in my path.
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Excellent service. Blair Hamel was so wonderful. She truly cares.
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Great place for healing

This is a very safe place. The therapists and staff are knowledgeable and patient. I have had a really positive experience and I am learning and growing.
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Genuine and Comfortable

Charlotte has a team of Therapists that are skilled and compassionate. Matt and Kim have taken great care to ensure that client care is a priority. The environment is warm and welcoming. This is a group of Counselors who can really relate to the everyday challenges we all experiences.
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Great people…great office

I am a big fan of Thriveworks! I have known Matt and Kim for some time now and I feel like I have known them forever. They are approachable, helpful, and just great people. Their office is comfortable and inviting. is a place where anyone can find a little peace. Give them a try :)
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Owners have great experience and are caring individuals.
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Not servicing patients

A place/facility that isn’t accepting any new patients. You rave about how you are here to help and treat people but really you aren’t at all. How is some one supposed to get help if you aren’t willing to help them. Very disappointed with Thriveworks and their lack of assisting.
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For my son

The service was fine. We came in for an evaluation for my son Bryant. Mrs. Hamel was professional and seemed to be able to talk with Bryant although his lips sometimes get in the way of being understood by others.
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