Westborough Codependency Counseling

Counselors and Coaches for Codependency in Westborough, MA

Often the old clichés turn out to be helpful guidance for life. Take, for example, Shakespeare’s question, “can one desire too much of a good thing?” Too much of a good thing often turns a situation bad, even if it is offering relational support and help. People run into trouble when they help other people too often or too much. When this behavior becomes a habit, it can greatly harm the person who helps and the person who receives the help. There is even a term for such behavior: codependency.

Consider Rebecca’s situation. She offers a lot of support to her 20-something, capable daughter. Rebecca pays the rent for her daughter’s apartment and the bill for her tuition. She sees it as her responsibility as mom to provide for her daughter. But her daughter has started and stopped classes several times and has a hard time holding a steady job. Rebecca has a plan, even though her daughter seems uninterested. Rebecca is happy to help, but with each passing semester, she feels like her daughter is using her. Rebecca also feels angry at times that her daughter is not capitalizing on these opportunities for work and education—opportunities Rebecca never had.

Without doubt, Rebecca loves her daughter deeply, but Rebecca also may be contributing to or even causing these problems with her daughter. Rebecca may be engaging in codependent behaviors.

Thriveworks Counseling in Westborough offers counseling and coaching for codependency because many people have realized that instead of helping, they are hurting themselves and their loved ones.

What Are Codependent Behaviors?

People who struggle with codependent behaviors often choose relationships with people who exhibit irresponsible or addictive behaviors. The codependent person then focuses their thoughts and actions upon other people and often neglects their own needs. Codependent relationships can form between spouses, friends, parents/children, co-workers, and more.

Codependent behaviors may seem kind and selfless, but they are often motivated by people’s deep need to prove themselves. When someone struggles with codependency, they usually also feel intense shame, insecurity, and passivity. Rescuing other people, therefore, becomes a way for codependents to prove their worth. As the famous lyric says, “I need you to need me.”

Codependent behavior can be very hurtful, but it can be hard to delineate between healthy and hurtful ways of helping. If you are wondering if you or someone you love may be codependent but are not sure, the following list gives characteristics of codependency:

  • Dependency: Codependents often fear being rejected or abandoned. They may compensate for this fear by forming relationships where people need them, thinking, “if a person needs me, they will not leave me.” This thinking, however, leads to many relational problems.
  • No/few boundaries: Codependents have a hard time asking for what they need or denying a request. Internally, they may think, “no,” but externally, they often say, “yes.”
  • Low self-esteem: Feelings of shame, guilt, and inadequacy may plague codependent people. Instead of drawing strength from their inherent worth, they measure their value on how much they can do for others.
  • People-pleasing tendencies: When other people are upset, angry, or disappointed, codependent people usually feel blame and intense anxiety. They can take responsibility for the feelings of others, trying to ensure people are happy all the time.
  • Poor communication skills: Codependent people often struggle to express their own needs, feelings, and thoughts. They may fear upsetting others if they are honest. They may also be unaware of their own desires because they are so focused upon others.
  • Caretaking: Codependent people may seek-out ways to help people and offer solutions without even being asked. If people decline the assistance, codependents may grow resentful and angry.
  • Minimization: Because their behavior can, at times, benefit others, codependents have a hard time recognizing how harmful their behaviors can be. They may cast blame upon the person they are helping instead of owning their own responsibility in the situation.

Breaking Free from Codependency

Overcoming the minimization and denial about codependency is challenging, but breaking free from codependent habits is worth the effort. Codependent people can learn new, healthy ways of connecting.

Have you struggled to know how, when, and where to help? Do you feel resentful, at times, toward the people you are helping? If you recognized some of the behaviors and attitudes of codependency, you are not alone. Thriveworks Westborough treats codependency, and our therapists love seeing people learn how to be in healthy relationships while prioritizing their own well-being.

If you are ready for something new, know that our office provides convenient weekend and evening appointments. We also accept many types of insurance, and new clients may even see their therapist within 24 hours. You do not have to wait for healthy relationships. Call Thriveworks in Westborough today.

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Donna hayes

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Hello all, I just want to tell everyone at thriveworks in Westboro mass office and future customers that I have had the pleasure of a 5 star counselor in donna hayes. Donna helped me when I was at the lowest point in my life. A law enforcement life, with lots of issues. She has helped me immensely. God bless you donna. Hopefully I will see you in fall when I return home. Thanks for your help and sorry for quitting exit today on my last appointment. Best regards always. Brian
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I’ve had a wonderful experience.

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I’ve had a wonderful experience. The staff is punctual and kind.
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My therapist is very supportive and communicative.

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Thriveworks has been wonderful so far. My therapist is very supportive and communicative. The appointment reminders are very helpful, too.
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I love my therapist

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I love my therapist and feel better about my life knowing that I have guidance and direction in my life
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My therapist is thoughtful

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My therapist is thoughtful, compassionate, incisive in a good way, understands complex trauma, and is full of good humor.
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Attentive, note-taking, observant

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For a first visit, this place set a very good example for what is ahead. Attentive, note-taking, observant I am pleased with the initial visit.
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Just met Greg today so far everything went well.

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Just met Greg today so far everything went well.
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Good chat with Stephanie

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Good chat with Stephanie
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I’m so grateful to have found this practice.

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I’m so grateful to have found this practice. This is the first person that I felt truly confident in their ability to help me.
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Stephanie was great!

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Stephanie was great! AJ seemed very comfortable talking to her. Thank you!
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I really enjoyed speaking to Ayala

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I really enjoyed speaking to Ayala and I’m looking forward to future appointments.
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Counseling

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My husband and I were having great difficulties in our marriage and seeing Ayala was the last thing we were willing to try before divorce. Ayala helped save our marriage! Not only did she listen and offer support and guidance, she was not judgmental and did not take a side. Ayala was amazing and I would recommend her to any couple who is experiencing marital difficulties.
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I had my first visit with Stephanie

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I had my first visit with Stephanie the other day and I instantly felt very comfortable with talking to her. She was so nice and was ready to accommodate for my 15 month old son in case he needed to stay during my appointment (and for future appointments) as well!
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I had a great experience!

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I had a great experience! I was really nervous and anxious going into it, but I felt comfortable as soon as I got there.
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I loved meeting Vivian.

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I loved meeting Vivian. She seemed to really understand where I was coming from and what my goals are. So warm, engaging and smart. Really looking forward to working with her.
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Great experience!

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Great experience!
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Excellent, very welcoming.

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Excellent, very welcoming. Looking forward to continuing to work with thrive works
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Vivian

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Vivian is an exceptional therapist. Our family sessions with her have been an investment in our family's health. We get to the issues quickly and sort out what needs addressing. Vivian validates how we are feeling and helps us to process solutions. It feels like a team effort, and Vivian treats us with the type of care one receives from a family member. She combines her professional skills with a compassion that is rarely found in a therapist. We leave each session with much accomplished and strategies to help us reach our family goals. She greets each session with great enthusiasm, so even the beginning of the session feels like we will get the answers we are seeking.
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Vivian

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Since this past summer, I found myself having to deal with residual anxiety, PTSD, depression and (what I felt like, was life changing psychosis) that came after the death of my very best friend in a horrific car accident. Long story short, I thought I’d never be normal again, I was sure I’d carry the weight of my problems around with me forever. Not to mention I had all of these issues AND the undeniable pressure of trying to be a college student and working full time. I stumbled into Vivian’s office not long after I realized I was falling apart. Over the course of about six or seven weeks of visiting Vivian, my life has changed completely. I’m a healthy and happy person, planning to move to Worcester at the end of this summer. It’s hard to think that just a few months ago, I had to move home from college to be under the supervision of doctors and my parents. There are not many people in a lifetime that help you dissect the truth of who you are as a person and how you can embrace it. Vivian is an amazing woman with truth and insight beyond what I could achieve on my own. She has an awesome way of saying really intellectual concepts very simply, which helps me to think about myself in a different, more positive way. Vivian went far past just helping me develop strategies to deal with my panic and trauma; she went to the verity of what was making me feel this way. It’s impossible for me to explain the growth and strides I’ve made since going to thrive works. Vivian has made me feel proud, brave and sure of my ability to overcome anything in my life with a new understanding of myself and who I am.
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Vivian Sockol

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My family and I have been with Vivian for years now. She is an amazing person and goes above and beyond for her clients.
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Greg is a Svengali (In a good way)

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After only one year of seeing Greg I have transformed my personal and professional life. Battling substance abuse, a marriage on life support, despondent children, unable to hold down a job, financial ruin and depression was what I gave Greg to work with. Undaunted, he listened and did something I did not expect. He never asked me about my Mom or upbringing as a way to lay blame or explain my condition, instead he focused on giving me the tools and encouragement to reverse the cycle and put me on a positive path to rebuild my life. He is a master of individual and couples therapy because of his decades of experience but his approach is less clinical and more conversational. I look forward to my sessions because I always leave feeling energized and motivated to make up for lost time. Thank You Thriveworks for staffing such a high quality individual in Westborough.
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Insightful

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Only had 2 appointments, but so far we feel Stephanie is very knowledgeable & insightful!
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Excellent therapist

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Excellent therapist
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Great first meeting

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Great first meeting. Greg is awesome and I'm looking forward to my next appointment.
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Thoughtful and direct

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Our counselor was thoughtful and direct...after one session I feel very motivated to work towards our goals.
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Vivian is wonderful

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Vivian has such warmth about her that you feel right at home in her office. She has no judgements but a helpful ear that has made me have what I call "dawning moments". She has helped in a way that has felt empowering to me. I always look forward to our appointments because I know I will always leave feeling as if I have accomplished something substantial. Thank you Vivian!
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Excellent experience

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Stephanie is a great listener and is very good at getting right to the issues that matter. We've seen others previously who seem to drag out the process, and never want to get involved. Stepanie is the opposite - She is extremely skilled at zooming in on the key issue, unbelievably helpful. Highly recommended!
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Great Referral

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I have referred several people in our organization to Greg. The feedback is consistently positive with comments like "helped me figure out the next steps I needed to take", "he walked me through a really tough time" and "very kind."
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Patient focused help

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I have been a client of Greg Handel for about a month and I have already put into practice many of his suggestions to help me. I have been to a few other therapists who continually ask "how does that make you feel", and Greg really guides our conversations into points that will not only benefit me moving forward, but assist me in understanding how I got into the challenges in the first place.
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Outstanding environment and very professional staff. Decor of waiting room very conducive to wholeness and well being. Very accessible location and appointment availability is prompt
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Greg is awesome

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Amazing ..beyond words ..in only a short time he helped me realize ..that I was standing in my own way ..by letting me figure things out and advising me ..nit pushing me or making me see his viewpoint ..lime more therapist do...Everyone that dees his is very fortunate and blessed to have chosen him...thank you Greg ..you ate a true blessing .. Trish Silva
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Constructive guidance

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Thriveworks, Westborough has been both a place of solace and a source of empowerment for me. After being urged to talk with a professional by my family, Iheduled an appointment with Greg Handel. Greg has dispelled the stereotype of what I assumed a therapist to be. Instead of being distant and abstruse, Greg has been relational and engaged, empathetic and pragmatic. The tools that Greg has provided have helped me take steps toward greater confidence and well-being. The combination of reliable competence and patient-focused support has made my experience at positive.
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Should’ve done this sooner

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Dr. Greg Handel has been fantastic. Although our journey is just beginning its as if I've known him my whole life. really makes it easy to trust and open up. Anyone going through hard times or even just looking to work on themselves should definitely check out this practice..
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Greg is excellent

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From my first session with Greg I knew I would make progress quickly in resolving my anger and depression issues. Greg was highly skilled at getting to my root causes immediately, practical with his suggestions and compassionate. I recommend Greg and (a really nice, professional welcoming environment) to all.
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Trustworthy Care

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Over the past few years, I have referred some clients to Greg Handel. He has been exceptional in handling delicate situations and providing quality counseling services.
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Review

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I am very happy and thankful that I found Thriveworks. Greg Handel has been great in helping me overcome many obstacles. I look forward to every session.
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Understanding with compassion

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I have known Greg for a few years and he is always ready to listen and act. He understands complicated situations and handles with grace and tact (a difficult combination). He is always accessible and willing to step in and be resourceful.
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friend

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Greg is immediately engaging with a warm smile and uplifting personality. He has great insight about people and situations, showing genuine concern and desire to help people be the best they can be.
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Maybe a great place but yearly fee turned me off

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So I was referred to Thriveworks from a different therapist who was not able to work with me. So I called Thriveworks, desperate for help, and as I talked to a support staff, who was very nice, and thought I found the right place for me. When I was informed that I’d have to pay $80-100 for the year in addition to my co-payments and insurance being billed, I was taken aback. I have the money to pay it, that is not the issue. What about others who may not? Yes I know it’s because there are “support staff” on call or whatever the fee was for, but this deterred me from following up for services, as I have never heard of any counseling office doing this and I work in the mental health field. So Thriveworks, you seem like a great office, but your yearly fee for “supports” or whatever it is for, that you may or may not utilize, doesn’t make sense.
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