Most couples who’ve been together for years go through hard times. This doesn’t always mean it’s time to call it quits. If you’re in a relationship and don’t like the direction it seems to be headed in contact Thriveworks Fredericksburg, VA Counseling and Coaching. We can help you get back on track. Here are several steps you can take to get the process started.
Focus on your communication
If your relationship is rocky it’s likely that you’re not communicating well. Take the time to sit down with your partner and openly and honestly discuss the issues in your relationship. You can’t begin to fix them until you know what the issues are.
Find ways to take action toward a better relationship
Talk is good but action is essential. After you’ve identified the main obstacles in the way of you and a healthy relationship it’s time to figure out what to do about it. The right action will depend on the specific issues you’re dealing with.
Give yourselves time to get back to good
It’s good to want your relationship to get better but it can be counterproductive to expect that to happen on a particular timeline. It may be that your relationship begins improving as soon as you start working on it but it may take some time. Be patient and trust the process.
Do what you can today with an eye on the future
As you work on your relationship keep your long-term goals in mind. Don’t just make changes today and expect them to protect you in the future. You must incorporate real, long-term changes that will transform your relationship forever.
Take a look at the positives
It’s necessary to examine what isn’t working in your relationship but you also want to look at what is working. Let your partner know that you appreciate them. Communicate the things you love about them. This will make you both more open and willing to work on your future together.
If you’re stuck in a rut, dealing with anger, or are otherwise unhappy with your relationship you don’t have to give up. Work with a Thriveworks Fredericksburg, VA couples counselor with the experience to provide you with a focused plan that will get you back on track.