There are so many things that go into a marriage. Sharing space, children, pets, vehicles, the list goes on and on. Instead of marriages and relationships breaking up, it’s becoming more common for affected couples to try counseling for adultery or infidelity instead. If a couple loves each other and thinks that it’s worthwhile to fight for their relationship, especially if there are children involved, then trying to understand the cause of the problems that led to the infidelity through professional counseling is often the best way to go.
There are two sides to every story. At Thriveworks Columbia, our therapists work to bring the two sides to the table and work out an effective solution. They see both sides equally and want to help resolve the issues at hand in order to restore a happy and healthy marriage.
Roots of Infidelity
There are many base issues that can lead to a partner in a relationship making the decision to cheat and be unfaithful. It is not normally one action that leads to infidelity but a snowball effect of events and/or feelings. That said, the vast majority of these issues are rooted in one real cause—unhappiness. The unfaithful partner for the most part will not choose infidelity and all the problems that it brings if they are completely happy in their relationship. Typical causes for unhappiness can be:
- Feeling neglected
- Feeling bored
- Feeling misunderstood
- Feeling unwanted
- Feeling unattractive
Any of the above causes can plant a seed in a relationship that can lead to unfaithfulness that may require counseling for infidelity.
What Infidelity Does to a Relationship
Those who attend counseling for infidelity know that the damage done from adultery is vast. For most people, finding out that their partner has been unfaithful to them is the biggest betrayal that they will experience, causing the following effects:
- Feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt
- Lack of trust in anyone ever again
These effects can cause true hatred that will damage both parties and the families of both parties and can lead to destructive home breakups and separations.
If infidelity is not handled correctly, it can have lasting damage on everyone involved. Learning how to overcome the hatred and hurt that accompanies infidelity in a relationship can be extremely crucial in moving forward in not only your marriage, but in life as well.
Counseling for Infidelity
For couples affected by infidelity, it can seem that the world has come to an end. But that needn’t be the case and it’s possible, with professional help, to put infidelity in the past and rebuild relationships. The two tasks of a marriage/relationship counselor working with infidelity are:
- To bring the couple to terms with the infidelity and the causes that led to it
- To help the couple heal, forgive and move forward with their lives.
Through both individual and couple’s counseling, the professional can bring the damaged relationship into the sunlight and work to make it complete again. It can take time and it can be tough, but if both parties in a relationship want it enough, counseling for infidelity can definitely work. If you are thinking that counseling for adultery or infidelity could be beneficial for your relationship, please contact us for more info and we will be happy to help.
Schedule a Session at Thriveworks Columbia Today
If you feel like infidelity has ruined your marriage and you could benefit from discussing ways to tackle life’s obstacles and regain trust, schedule an appointment at Thriveworks Columbia today. Infidelity therapy could be the helping hand your relationship needs to move forward and work on rebuilding your marriage.
At Thriveworks Columbia we strive to create a personalized treatment plan for every couple. In this manner we try to ensure that our clients’ individual needs are met in the best way possible. At Thriveworks we accept many different insurance plans as well as offering flexible hours with weekend and evening availability. Thriveworks has a “no waiting list” policy. We want our clients to get the help they need as soon as possible, and new clients can have an appointment set up within 24 hours.
Infidelity counselors would be happy to further discuss the effects infidelity has on a marriage and steps to begin moving forward. Call our office today at (410) 910-2708 to schedule an appointment.