Jane deemed her relationship picture-perfect. She couldn’t ask for a more loving, compassionate, or compatible partner. These—and all of Jack’s other redeeming qualities—made Jane excited to get married and more than confident about their future together. And for the first few years, she proved herself right: they fit into the cookie cutter of a perfect couple. Their relationship was full of love, intimacy, and fun; void of apathy, distance, and discord.
But eventually, this pattern changed. The love, intimacy, and fun became scarce, as apathy, distance, and discord crept in. There wasn’t a clear cause for this shift… but the subsequent effects were crystal. Jane and Jack were no longer happy together. In fact, they spent less and less time at home as they sought more and more time apart. Jane put in longer hours at work and was excited about a possible promotion. Jack was exploring a newfound love for rock-climbing and hoping to follow it all the way to Germany someday. They both found fulfillment in other areas of life… and the farther away they got from each other, the more fulfilled they felt. Still, they were afraid of separating—even though they’d already done so both mentally and emotionally.
“Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn’t matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned.” –Mehmet Murat Ildan
Divorce counseling can help you safely exit your marriage. If you and your partner have grown apart (like Jane and Jack), and you are navigating a divorce, consider working with a divorce counselor or psychologist at Thriveworks Waltham. Our providers have a specific skillset, of which enables them to help you through this trying time. They can help you work through your divorce together or independently, depending on what you want and need. And they are eager to get started.
Can I Benefit from Divorce Counseling?
Even those who are happy about the separation can benefit from divorce counseling. As splitting from the individual you vowed to spend the rest of your life with can take a significant toll on your heart, mind, and body. Fortunately, a divorce counselor is an expert when it comes to healing from this kind of loss. They’ll help you work through the following, which can result from divorce:
- Anxious thoughts
- Feelings of depression
- Significant weight loss or gain
- Social withdrawal
- General hopelessness
These harmful consequences of divorce are what make divorce counseling so important. They stress the importance of working with a mental health professional who can assist you through this often painful process and guide you toward living a happy and healthy—as well as successful—life again.
Meet With a Divorce Counselor at Thriveworks Waltham
Perhaps you get that the divorce is for the better; maybe you’re even happy to separate legally; or maybe you’re having a tougher time than you thought you would. In any which case, a divorce counselor can provide the assistance and support that will prove important to your life moving forward. Depending on your needs, a counselor can help the two of you navigate the divorce process or help you with your individual counseling goals:
- Joint counseling: A divorce counselor can help you and your partner work through the fine details of your divorce, like finances and/or living arrangements. They’ll do their best to make sure the divorce goes as smoothly as possible and can function as a mediator as needed.
- Individual counseling: A divorce counselor can help you work through your individual challenges regarding your divorce. They can help you confront any stifled emotions, work through this pain, and find the right path for moving forward with your life.
What do you say? Do you see the value in working with a divorce counselor or psychologist? Begin your counseling journey today at Thriveworks Waltham. Give us a call at (781) 309-9149 to get started.