When you and your partner begin premarital counseling, your counselor will want to get to know you both as well as your relationship. In order to accomplish this, they will ask questions around the following:
- Common interests and activities
- Marital expectations
- Budget and Finance
- Children and parenting
If there is a particular area that they feel needs to be explored further (for example, you note that you and your partner have very different spending habits and views on money), they’ll guide the conversation in the given direction.
Many of us dream about our wedding day as children. At the young age of 13, we’re deciding on the venue, picturing the ceremony, and even thinking about who we’ll ask to be our bridesmaids or best men. The excitement builds and builds, and then one day we’re actually engaged—that long held dream soon to come true. While the true triumph here is the love we’ve found with our soon-to-be life partner, oftentimes we become distracted: by the flowers, the cakes, the dresses, the centerpieces. We focus so much on these wedding preparations that we neglect to prepare for our marriage.
What exactly do I mean? You’re likely confident in your relationship, being that you’re engaged or you’re considering marriage. But the truth is that you can never be too prepared for this lifetime commitment. Premarital counseling helps couples make these necessary preparations. These counselors can help couples work through any current tribulations, equip them with effective tools for addressing future issues, and ultimately assist couples in building a solid foundation for their marriage.
If you’re engaged or talking with your partner about marriage, consider working with a premarital counselor at Thriveworks Newton. Your Thriveworks counselor will assess your unique relationship and utilize their expertise to best help you. If you think you could benefit from these services, reach out to Thriveworks today.
How Can Premarital Counseling Benefit Me?
As we touched on above, if you and your partner recently got engaged or are thinking about getting married, meeting with a premarital counselor can prove beneficial—as research has shown that couples who used this service were more satisfied with their marriage than those who did not. This rings true for couples with obvious challenges to work through, as well as those who were happy with their relationship prior to beginning premarital counseling.
So, how exactly do premarital counselors help their clients? While this varies from couple to couple, here are some popular topics that premarital counselors discuss with their clients:
- Budget and finances
- Plans for the future
- Marriage expectations
- Common interests
If you and your partner have different desires or expectations related to the above (or other areas), your counselor can help you understand and work through these differences. Additionally, they can help you determine whether these differences prove important enough to affect your plans for marriage. In sum, a premarital counselor will help you identify any potential stressors on your relationship and make the best decision moving forward for you and your partner.
What Can I Expect From a Premarital Counseling Session?
Counseling sessions typically vary from counselor to counselor and client to client. For example, in premarital counseling, some counselors prefer to meet with each partner separately before holding a joint session. Others like to see and focus on the two together from the start. In any case, your premarital counselor at Thriveworks Newton will lead you and your partner in talking about your relationship, identifying any problem areas, discussing expectations for marriage, and lighting the right path for your future together.
Often, premarital counselors will use tools like Couples Resource Maps to aid their clients’ counseling journey. Each partner can use a map to identify and record resources that will help them resolve conflict down the road. They’ll come up with an action plan, such as stepping away to conduct breathing exercises before returning to a conversation or setting aside time to have a focused conversation.
Set Up a Premarital Counseling Session at Thriveworks Newton Today
It’s great that you are excited to plan your wedding and finally tie the knot with your beloved partner—however, it’s important that you take the necessary steps to ensure your future marriage stays happy and healthy for years to come. That’s where premarital counseling at Thriveworks Newton comes in. Our counselors can help you get ahead of the challenges that might threaten your relationship and assist you in successfully preserving your marriage. They will provide that safety net you’re looking for.
If you think you could benefit from working with a premarital counselor at Thriveworks Newton—whether you’re newly engaged or simply talking about marriage—schedule a session today. It’s a simple and easy process: all you have to do is call (617) 992-2827. We look forward to working with you, and we hope to hear from you soon!