You and your spouse were said to be soulmates from the start. After meeting each other for the first time (about 10 years ago), you were both smitten. And after just a few dates, you couldn’t remember what your life was like before each other. Your parents loved him like their own, and his parents loved you like the daughter they never had. Soon enough, it clicked: you both knew you belonged together. And didn’t want to go a day without each other.
Your marriage has been absolutely wonderful… for the most part. But lately, it feels like there’s a disconnect. And as hard as you’ve tried, you just haven’t been able to figure out why. In addition, you feel like your husband doesn’t hear you anymore: he doesn’t seem to listen when you express your feelings and he doesn’t understand when he’s in the wrong. He appears to be completely checked out. And you’re losing hope. Fast.
Fortunately, if you and your spouse are struggling with these issues (or any other issue) a trained marriage therapist or psychologist at Thriveworks Counseling in Newton, MA can help. You might feel hopeless—or pretty close to hopeless—but working with a counselor can prove to be the solution you were looking for. They’ll dedicate their efforts to helping you and your partner address/manage whatever problem you may be facing. And they can also provide you with helpful tools for addressing problems properly in the future. Does this sound like something you’re interested in? Reach out to Thriveworks Counseling in Newton, MA today.
What Is Marriage Therapy?
In short, marriage therapy helps couples work through their problems and maintain a strong relationship. It is designed to help partners address and manage current as well as potential issues that may arise in their marriage. Common matters discussed in marriage therapy, include…
- The implications of infidelity
- Financial blunders or plans
- Thoughts on starting a family
- Anger management toward a spouse or other individual
- Ineffective vs. effective communication strategies
The above are just a few examples of what might be discussed in marriage therapy. Whatever it is that you and your partner need to address (or could benefit from addressing), a marriage therapist can likely help you do so. In fact, a recent survey by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists revealed that 97% of those surveyed reported finding success in working with a counselor or therapist. Additionally, 93% of survey respondents said that their therapist helped them prepare effectively for issues in the future. Thriveworks Counseling in Newton, MA is also proud to offer clients the Gottman Method approach to marriage therapy. The Gottman Method takes a detailed assessment of your relationship to then help you:
- Build love maps
- Grow affection for one another
- Better understand each other’s needs
- Improve problem-solving skills
- Better manage conflicts
We have several counselors who have completed Level 1 Training of the Gottman Method and would be happy to use this technique to help you and your spouse build a stronger friendship and develop shared meaning. If you and your spouse could benefit from working with a marriage therapist, the healthcare professionals at Thriveworks would love to provide you with this service. All you have to do is reach out to us, and a scheduling specialist will get you all set up. Soon enough—perhaps within even a couple days—you’ll meet your caring provider and begin this journey.
What If I Want Marriage Therapy, But My Partner Doesn’t?
Of course you can’t and shouldn’t “trick” your partner into going to marriage therapy. However, you can try to encourage them to see the value in giving it a try. Here are a few tips for encouraging your spouse to join you in marriage therapy and in turn improve your relationship:
1) Emphasize your desire to work on you. If your spouse is under the impression that you want them to join you in marriage therapy because they have a lot to work on, they probably won’t be jumping at the opportunity to go. It will make them feel more comfortable if you highlight your wanting to work on yourself and your role in your relationship. You can also highlight relationship dynamics that you both need to work on together.
2) Let your spouse know that you’re in this together. Building off of the last stop, emphasize the fact that you two are in this together. Marriage counseling doesn’t pit you and your partner against each other. It actually works to do the opposite: as your counselor will help you two work out any issues, strengthen your relationship, and nip any future problems in the bud.
3) Explain the benefits of marriage counseling. Is it possible that your spouse doesn’t actually know what marriage counseling involves? Tell them how it works. Let them know that your counselor is on your side. And delve into the benefits you both could reap from the process, whether that be helpful tools for communicating more effectively or a mediator who can help you get through a long-standing debate.
4) Discuss “even if…” If you are seeking marriage therapy in hopes of saving your relationship, which will otherwise go under, your partner might feel like doing so is pointless. And that’s why they’re resisting. In this case, discuss “what if…”
If you think that marriage therapy could play a role in recovering or improving your marriage, it’s worth having an extensive conversation with your partner about this opportunity. And if you’re both ready to begin the therapeutic process, the mental health professionals at Thriveworks Counseling in Newton, MA are ready too.
Schedule Marriage Therapy Session at Thriveworks Counseling in Newton Today
If your marriage is in discord, or if you simply think that it could benefit from a little professional guidance, schedule an appointment with a counselor or psychologist at Thriveworks in Newton. Our providers are focused on providing you with the high-quality care you deserve. And they’re eager to use their skills to help you and your partner improve your relationship. To schedule an appointment, all you have to do is give us a call at (617) 992-2827 and a scheduling specialist will help you complete the process.