Relationships are a huge part of our lives. From our partner in life to our coworkers- they are impossible to avoid. Some of them might be rather inconsequential, like your relationship with the local, and some might be instrumental in shaping your present and future life, like your significant other.
Romantic relationships are truly spectacular and beautiful- two unique human lives coming together to interact on a daily basis with love and trust is a wonderful thing. But partly because of their power in our lives, they can too easily become corrupted. All that love turns to hurt, the trust to lying, and the respect to shame. The beauty of human interconnectedness also makes it messy.
Couples counseling is a way to make the messy beautiful again and restore the love that you once had. With the right tools and practices, your relationship can heal and grow to become something stronger. Thriveworks in Toms River is excited to meet you both and begin working on a future of safety and contentment.
For more information or to schedule an appointment, give us a call at 732-852-4977.
Does Relationship Therapy Work?
Most of the couples we see come into therapy because of tension in their relationship. This is not the only reason couples might seek counseling; whatever your reasoning behind going to counseling, it is welcome at Thriveworks in Toms River. Premarital, relationship issues, or preparing for a big change- we’ve seen it all!
Still, why is relationship issues the biggest reason for couple’s therapy? The news is actually good:
Because you still love the person! You want to make the relationship work and you are willing to fight for the possibility of a future with them. Toms River couples’ counselors admire your dedication and resolve. If you are reading this and considering counseling, then you have that spark in you that is necessary for healing a strained relationship.
Or maybe you’re still confused if there is actually a problem in your relationship, or if the problem is just you. Signs a relationship has taken a turn for the worse include:
- Feeling underappreciated, unloved, or not respected
- Constant arguing
- Loss of love, boredom, stagnation
- Thoughts of leaving the relationship or cheating
- Changes in sleep or eating habits (signs of underlying stress)
- Mental health problems like a rise in anxiety or depression symptoms.
These are all possible symptoms of a much larger problem: your relationship. But don’t worry, large doesn’t mean untouchable.
Some common issues our Toms River relationship counselors help couples walk through include:
- Recovering from cheating
- Managing busy schedules
- Improving on communication skills
- Learning how to live together
- Adjusting to life changes and stress together
- Feelings of jealously or underappreciation
- Unmet needs for affection
- Differing expectations for the relationship
Whatever you are dealing with- whether big or small- matters. Toms River couples’ therapists offer a safe, nonjudgmental space for you and your loved one to heal and grow.
What Does Couples Therapy look like?
Thriveworks in Toms River practices a client-first philosophy. This means that counseling is not a one-size fits all. Your situation, goals, individual personality, and relationship function are all vital parts of a successful therapeutic process. Toms River counseling strives to meet you where you are at and build a plan that will get you where you want to go in a healthy, lasting way.
Because of that, the first step in couples therapy is often to talk to you and your partner about what couples therapy will look like. We’ll talk through your goals, possible setbacks, and some action steps. In Thriveworks in Toms River, counseling is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Our couple’s therapists are the experts in relationship psychology and all the techniques that will help your relationship, but you are still the expert on yourself and your relationship, which is an equally important part to the session.
A few of the specifics we might talk about include:
- Communication skills
- Forgiveness
- Action steps to create personal change
- Talk through visions for the relationship
- Reveal any negative emotions directed at each other or the relationship at large
- Exploring how to best love and support one another
- Addressing any underlying personal mental health struggles that might be influencing the relationship
- Problem solve- Red Bank couples’ therapists are here to support you!
Loving relationships are life-giving. But a toxic relationship can be life-taking. If your relationship doesn’t fill you up anymore, if it even harms you mentally or emotionally, Thriveworks in Toms River counseling is here for you. We are excited to meet you and your partner.
To schedule a session or learn more, reach out to us at 732-852-4977.
