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3,657 people sought marriage counseling help at Newport News in the last year

Discover how starting therapy with a marriage counseling can support your own journey toward a happier, more fulfilling life.

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Starting Marriage counseling

What is marriage counseling?

Marriage counseling, also known as couples therapy and relationship counseling, helps couples work through their specific relationship issues. Thriveworks marriage counseling in Newport News, VA is led by licensed professionals — often licensed marriage and family therapists (LMFTs) — who are experts in their field and best-equipped to help couples. Some examples of common focuses within Marriage counseling include:

  • Jealousy
  • Trust issues
  • Infidelity
  • Opposing values
  • Different visions for the future
  • Disagreements in parenting
  • Lack of trust
  • Financial distress
  • Sex issues

How does marriage counseling work?

Marriage counseling works by helping couples identify and better navigate their unique challenges. Following an initial assessment of the couple in terms of strengths and needs, the therapist would then discuss their therapeutic goals and any possible approaches or ways of working together as therapist and couple.
Couples attend sessions together, whether they meet in person or by video. In addition to regular marriage counseling sessions, each partner may also be asked to attend a few individual sessions to supplement their progress. This will allow their counselor to get to know each individual better, assess each of their personal needs, and develop the very best treatment plan moving forward.

Is marriage counseling conducted in person or online?

Marriage counseling at Thriveworks is conducted both in person and online by video. We encourage you to choose the option that works best for you and your partner.

How long does marriage counseling last?

On average, couples attend marriage counseling for 12 weeks. However, marriage counseling may last longer or shorter, dependent on the couples’ needs, the challenges they’d like to work through, and the pace of their progress. Marriage counselors and therapists at Thriveworks in Newport News, VA work with their clients to create goals, decide on ideal timelines, and establish treatment plans.

Need more help deciding?

Your marriage is different. Your spouse is different. Maybe you are different. Something changed. What was it? When did it happen? It was definitely subtle, but it was definitely real. Maybe times like this are why you vowed to love each other “in good times and bad, for rich or for poor, in sickness and in health.” This is definitely a time of difficulty, poverty, and sickness. Conversations that used to be filled with patience, understanding, and empathy are now rushed and cold. Tension escalates quickly. Then, coldness sets in. This is not the relationship either of you envisioned when you said those marriage vows, and like many other couples, you are struggling. Like many other couples, you are also considering marriage counseling.

“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.”
—Barbara De Angelis

Many couples reach a point in their marriages where they never wanted to reach. They are not experiencing a happily-ever-after. For some, it happens slowly. For others, it happens in an instant. That is why forty percent of first time marriages end in divorce. And yet, that means sixty percent of spouses work through their differences and stay together. What is the right path forward? Only you and your spouse can decide, but there is help. Many couples go to marriage therapy.

All spouses experience difficulty, and when those hard times come, the marriage therapists and psychologists at Thriveworks Newport News are ready to help. It is normal to struggle. It is also normal to reach out. Marriage therapy has helped many spouses establish a healthier relationship, regardless of what form they choose for that relationship to take.

Should We Go to Marriage Therapy?

When spouses are struggling, they are often desperate for any kind of change. They may wonder if marriage therapy will help and if their struggle is the type of thing other couples go to marriage therapy for. Marriage therapy is not a magic potion that quickly restores marital bliss. Working toward a healthy marriage takes effort and time. As Barbara De Angelis says, marriage is a verb. Here are a few of the reasons other couples have come to marriage therapy to work on their relationship…

1) One or both spouses have had an affair.
Adultery is often a point of crisis for a marriage. It may signal the end of the relationship. It may spur each spouse to make needed changes. It is the spouse’s decision, but in either case, they have many difficulties to navigate. Marriage therapists often help spouses navigate the challenges moving forward, whatever future they are moving toward.

2) You are trying to change your spouse, or your spouse is trying to change you.
An important principle for healthy relationships is that people cannot change others—each individual is responsible for their own personal growth. This principle is particularly important in a marriage. When spouses are trying to change each other, there may be real areas that each spouse need to address and change. However, trying to change someone else is not the path to take. This rarely produces healthy, long-lasting change. Instead, it often introduces shame, disappointment, and frustration into the relationship. Marriage counseling can often teach spouses how to take responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, choices, and growth.

3) Tension or apathy are stunting the relationship.
Certain problems can leave spouses stuck. Sometimes, being stuck looks like fire. Sometimes, it looks like ice. Sometimes, spouses fight all the time but never resolve the issue. Sometimes, spouses use apathy as a weapon and ignore each other as well as the problem. In either case, the marriage is in trouble. When tensions run high or when apathy runs high, it may be time to go to marriage counseling. Therapists often help spouses identify the underlying issue and learn conflict resolution skills.

Setting Up Marriage Therapy at Thriveworks Newport News

There are several ways that marriage therapy may benefit spouses who are struggling. Counselors and psychologists often help spouses…

  • Pinpoint unhelpful patterns of behavior. It can be difficult for spouses within the marriage to see the patterns that play out and undermine their intimacy. Marriage therapists, however, often see these patterns clearly and help their clients see them too. Once they are pinpointed, these unhealthy patterns can be changed.
  • Learn relational skills. Marriage takes hard work, but it also takes interpersonal and conflict resolution skills. Sometimes, spouses need to work smarter instead of harder, but they have never learned how. Marriage therapists often teach their clients these important relational skills.
  • Set a timeline for change. Certain ways of relating are more problematic than others. When safety is a concern, changes need to be made as soon as possible. Other adjustments take time. Marriage counselors can often set a reasonable pace for change.
  • Better manage present issues and prepare for future conflicts. This is a staple of a little something called the Gottman Method. The Gottman Method is an approach to marriage counseling and couples therapy that has a foolproof plan for helping couples improve their overall relationship. We have marriage counselors who have Level 1 Training in Gottman Method who would be happy to incorporate this into your treatment plan.

As you read through the issues of why spouses come to marriage counseling, did you recognize anything? Maybe you did. You are not alone. Maybe you did not. You are not alone. Deciding to start marriage therapy is a personal journey. If you are ready, so are the marriage counselors at Thriveworks Newport News. When you contact our office, a real person will answer your call and help you make an appointment. We do not have waitlists or voicemail. Instead, new clients often meet with their counselor within 24 hours of their call. Let’s get started. Call Thriveworks Newport News Counseling today.

Pricing & insurance

Our therapists accept most major insurances. We accept 585+ insurance plans, and offer self-pay options, too.
Learn more about pricing for therapy and counseling services at Thriveworks.

Our Newport News therapists and counselors accept 24 insurance plans

  • Aetna

  • Anthem Blue Cross and Blue Shield Virginia | BCBS

  • Anthem Blue Cross and Blue Shield Virginia Medicare Advantage

  • Blue Cross Blue Shield | Anthem (Blue Card)

  • Carelon

  • Cigna | Evernorth

  • Cigna | Evernorth EAP

  • Cigna | Evernorth Medicare Advantage

  • Compsych

  • First Health Network

  • Humana Exchange

  • Humana HMO/POS

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Self-pay costs at Newport News
Talk therapy

Talk therapy

Includes individual, couples, child/ teen, & family therapy

First session

$1

Ongoing sessions

$1

Talk therapy

Psychiatry

Includes reducing symptoms with medication & management

First session

$1

Ongoing sessions

$1

Hear from our clients

4.8 Learn about verified reviews
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Ms. Brenda, is a outstanding MHP, she takes times to listen and gives outstanding advice. She always give suggested reading and the reading has helped tremendously.
Read more Ms. Brenda, is a outstanding MHP, she takes times to listen and gives outstanding advice. She always give suggested reading and the reading has helped tremendously.
ROBERT Feb 2024
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Pennie Hurta has been a great therapist for me. I also love that she is always doing continuing education. She is on it! Highly recommended!
Read more Pennie Hurta has been a great therapist for me. I also love that she is always doing continuing education. She is on it! Highly recommended!
Hedi Feb 2024
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Thank you Thrive Works fdor your servicesw. The therapy,counseling and Coaching I received from DR.Patrical Jone Psy was excellent all the material and coaching was so much beneficial to me>The first day i was fearful that i would not be able to get through my grieving of loss of my wife of 52 years but after going through the affirmation of self-esteem gave me a new outlook that i could put my life together aqgain.With hope and prayer along with support group iam on the road aqgain. I feel better about now and iam optimistic about life.. so thank you Dr. Jones again for your coaching. It is not what happened to me but how I handle it that determines my emotional well-being Donnell
Read more Thank you Thrive Works fdor your servicesw. The therapy,counseling and Coaching I received from DR.Patrical Jone Psy was excellent all the material and coaching was so much beneficial to me>The first day i was fearful that i would not be able to get through my grieving of loss of my wife of 52 years but after going through the affirmation of self-esteem gave me a new outlook that i could put my life together aqgain.With hope and prayer along with support group iam on the road aqgain. I feel better about now and iam optimistic about life.. so thank you Dr. Jones again for your coaching. It is not what happened to me but how I handle it that determines my emotional well-being Donnell
Newport News Nov 2019
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★★★★★
I decided to seek counseling for the first time 3 months ago and I’m glad I did! It’s been a huge blessing for me, and my counselor James Martin is so wonderful! I look forward to our sessions and find myself feeling so good after them. Coming to counseling gives me an opportunity to talk about everything that has happened in the last two weeks and really process it. James has taught me a very important lesson of learning to accept things that happen in life & I’m really happy with Thriveworks. I tell people about you guys all the time!
Read more I decided to seek counseling for the first time 3 months ago and I’m glad I did! It’s been a huge blessing for me, and my counselor James Martin is so wonderful! I look forward to our sessions and find myself feeling so good after them. Coming to counseling gives me an opportunity to talk about everything that has happened in the last two weeks and really process it. James has taught me a very important lesson of learning to accept things that happen in life & I’m really happy with Thriveworks. I tell people about you guys all the time!
Newport News Apr 2019
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I had the pleasure of working with patrica jones .a very caring and thoughtful counselor ,but due to her leaving the newport news office i chose to stay on this side to get future help.
Read more I had the pleasure of working with patrica jones .a very caring and thoughtful counselor ,but due to her leaving the newport news office i chose to stay on this side to get future help.
Newport News Mar 2019
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I highly recommend Dr. Patty! She is amazing and very professional. From the first call to the last session, I was always treated with respect and kindness.
Read more I highly recommend Dr. Patty! She is amazing and very professional. From the first call to the last session, I was always treated with respect and kindness.
Newport News Jan 2019
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My daughter really enjoys her appointments.
Newport News Jan 2019
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I love the gentle treatment im shown whether its on the phone or in person. Its been easier to see hope in my future just from the two visits ive had so far.
Read more I love the gentle treatment im shown whether its on the phone or in person. Its been easier to see hope in my future just from the two visits ive had so far.
Newport News Nov 2018
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Where to find us

Getting here

We are located off of Loftis Blvd, directly across the street from the Sentara Medical Campus. Once you reach the parking lot, you'll see our office (with our logo on the door) at the front of the building parallel to Loftis Blvd.

Phone number

(757) 418-8127

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