Greenville Codependency Counseling

Overcoming Codependent Behaviors—Therapists and Counselors in Greenville, SC

Everyone knows how flight attendants review safety rules in case of an in-flight emergency: what to do in case of a water landing… what to do if the cabin air pressure changes… what to do if the oxygen masks deploy. Before take-off on every flight, attendants make clear—secure your oxygen before helping others put on their masks. You have to be breathing to help other people breathe. These directions are founded upon an important life principle: prioritize your own well-being before offering help to others. But a lot of people have a hard time living this principle, and when people fixate upon other people’s problems instead of addressing their own, they run into trouble. They may be hurting themselves and their loved one, and their behavior may be codependent.

Take Steve, for example. Steve has a 20-something daughter who needs a lot of support but who is also capable. Steve pays his daughter’s utilities, rent, and tuition because he worked his way through school and promised himself that he would provide for his children. Steve is happy to provide opportunities for his daughter that he never had. With every semester where she changes her major or drops a class, Steve feels a little more resentful that she is not capitalizing on this opportunity to advance her education and career. But then Steve remembers that seeing her happy is worth it.

There is little question that Steve loves his daughter, but his actions may be causing serious harm. Steve’s behavior may be fulfilling his own need to be needed, and in the process, he is hurting himself and his daughter. Steve may be codependent.

Steve is not alone. Many others offer help from a place of need instead of strength. Thriveworks Greenville offers counseling for codependency because when people recognize they have a problem, they can overcome codependent behaviors and learn to relate in healthier ways.

Codependency Characteristics

Codependent people usually choose relationships with people who need their help—people with a history of vulnerability, addiction, or reckless behavior. These relationships can form in many different contexts—between parents/children, spouses, friends, co-workers, and more.

People who wrestle with codependency may at first seem unbelievably kind, nice, and giving. However, with time, hurtful behaviors can become apparent. Codependents struggle with deep-seated shame and feelings of inadequacy. Focusing upon other people’s problems and fixing their problems distracts them from their own serious issues. They may tell themselves that helping others is a way to earn love or prove their value.

Distinguishing between hurtful codependent behavior and appropriate support can be difficult. The following are a handful of characterizations that mark codependent behavior:

  • Poor/no boundaries: When codependent people receive a request that is unreasonable, they often still respond with a, “yes.” They may fear that saying, “no” will cost them the relationship, so they may put their financial, emotional, or physical health at risk to help others. \
  • Minimization/denial: Individuals who are codependent are often clueless about their own problems or the harm they may be causing. Admitting their own problems can be excruciatingly painful, and they are often unaware of where they personally need healing.
  • Caretaking: Codependent people have interwoven what they do for people with who they are. If a person refuses their help, codependents take the rejection personally.
  • Obsession: Worry and anxiety often drive people with codependency to fixate upon another person. They may obsess about a particular person as a way of distracting themselves from their own issues.
  • Dependency: Codependent people may appear to help, but often, their help is driven by a sense of need—they need to be needed. They can be very clinging and needy in a relationship.
  • Low self-esteem: Individuals who struggle with codependency have a hard time acknowledging their inherent self-worth and dignity. Their often tie their self-worth with how much they do or achieve.
  • Poor communication skills: If a codependent thinks their own thoughts, feelings, or needs will upset another, they may not communicate these to others. With time, codependent people may even stop admitting to themselves what they really feel, think, or need.
  • Tendencies to people-please: Codependent individuals often take responsibility for how other people feel. They may work hard to ensure everyone in their life is happy. If someone is angry, upset, or disappointment, they may feel like it is their fault.

Counseling for Codependent Behaviors at Thriveworks Greenville, SC

As you read through the list of codependent behaviors, did any stand out to you? If so, you are not the only one. Many people struggle with codependency, but many people have also overcome it. With a skilled therapist, you may learn how to…

  1. Prioritize your own physical, emotional, and financial needs.
  2. Recognize and respect your own feelings and thoughts.
  3. Value who you are above what you do.
  4. Learn new, healthier relational skills.

Are you ready to learn how to put your own oxygen mask on every day before helping others breathe? Thriveworks Greenville has appointments for codependency available, and our therapists are ready to help.

New clients often see their counselor within 48 hours, and we have weekend and evening appointments available. A person answers our phone—no voicemail and no automated directory. We also work with many insurance companies.

Are you ready to make a change? Let’s get started. Call Thriveworks Greenville Today: (864) 952-4048

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People Love Our Providers!

Overall Rating: 5★★★★★ based on 47 5 1 47 reviews. See all reviews
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Great Facilitator of Change!

★★★★★
LaKimberly Dowdell was an excellent counselor. She was a great listener, while at the same time knowing precisely the right moment to provide her expert knowledge. She is very personable and caring, yet knows what to say to support the change you are seeking. I highly recommend her.
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Patient, Compassionate, Very Knowledgeable; leaving you with renewed dignity and Self Worth

★★★★★
The only reason why my Family stopped going to see Ms. Dowdell is because I had to change jobs and at the time my schedule would not allow us to continue services. She made sure my Family had a great transition to another Provider and that we had continuity of care. Now that my schedule has a little more flexibility, I am very thankful to be able to continue services with Ms. Dowdell who still remembers my Family’s history like we were just in her office yesterday (over 1 year ago)! She listens intently and never puts you down, and helps you understand your emotions and what issues and problems you may be going through in a way that you can understand but clearly. Personally, I deal with a lot of stress and being pulled in a lot of directions, and would when I felt as though my words did not make sense coming out of my mouth, she would know how to piece together what I was saying and not make me feel bad for being too vulnerable and made my therapy sessions a safe space to learn and grow from them. I am forever grateful for how she is helping my Family accept what we need to accept, change what we need to change, and heal from the root of our wounds; wounds I did not know were there. I highly recommend her.
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Emily Gilliam

★★★★★
Emily was the first therapist I had ever gone to after thinking for a long time it would be good for me. I was stuck in a rut and repeating patterns and using coping skills that were no longer helpful to me. She helped me work through many of my personal issues, some which had been stewing since childhood. She always knew when to push and when to back off if a certain issue was too sensitive at that time. She is honest yet kind. I was sad to see her move out of Chicago but I will forever be grateful for the tools she helped me to develop for dealing with the sh**show that life can be sometimes. She helped me get back into alignment with who I really am as a person. I would highly recommend her for anyone who is struggling or even just looking for a little more balance in their lives.
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Emily Gillian

★★★★★
Emily has been an amazing help in my life for the past couple of years. She helped me see my worth when I couldn't see it myself. She helped me with my grief after losing my father. She helped me overcome my addictions with drugs and alcohol. She taught me to be kind to myself and that everyday is not gonna be an amazing day and that's okay. She helped me accept that I don't have to know the outcomes to big life changes that it's best to go with the flow, wear life like a loose garment. Emily is such and amazing counselor and I am forever grateful for everything she helped me see. Emily cares tremendously and I know deep in my heart she is gonna continue being the sunshine in many more client lives. Emily has made a huge impact on my life and I don't think I will ever find a counselor as down to earth as she is. Chicago misses you already!!! :) :) :)
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Thankful for Emily Gilliam!

★★★★★
Emily helped me out of one of my most scariest times in life. I was suffering from intense anxiety and depression. I thought I was handling it well until one day had a massive panic attack. I did my research and reached out to her immediately. She met with me the next day and helped my put a plan into place for recovery. The first time I met her, I knew I could trust her and she tailored my therapy and sessions to what I needed at the time and at each stage of progress. There were times I digressed and she helped me get back on track and we celebrated my small wins and progress together. I would recommend her to any friend or family member. I know personally, taking the first step to get help is an important one. I can confidently say she was a great first step for me and I know she's fantastic at helping others too.
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Emily Gilliam

★★★★★
I don’t write many reviews but this one is worth it. I found myself in a difficult and dark spot. A time in my life where in my mind, I had nowhere to turn. I reached out and I had never done this before. It was extremely difficult to say to myself, “I need someone to talk to.” Not knowing who or where that someone would be. And so, I was introduced to Emily Gilliam. A stranger, a therapist, a counselor. I don’t talk as it is, but Emily made it easy as I spilled my circumstances, actions, thoughts, and beliefs to Emily in a comfortable and secure setting. And for over a year, Emily and I were able to get through my darkness, my tough time, my thoughts, my situation. I would not be in my better place right now if it were not for Emily or people like Emily that are in her profession. Emily and people like her are needed and I’m am very happy that our paths crossed. And if you find yourself in a dark spot, a dark place in life, and you have the opportunity for your path to cross into Emily’s, you would be in a safe, secure, professional, space. I do thank her every day, even though she may not know it, or may not know how important she is and was to me and how her help, advice, thoughts, options, and opinions that she gave me got me through my darkness. So, if this review reaches one person and that one person has the opportunity and good fortune to meet and talk to Emily, I would be happy for that one person, as that person would meet an excellent stranger, therapist, counselor, and maybe a friend. Thanks again Emily, I wish nothing but the best, CB.
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Review for Emily Gilliam

★★★★★
Full of compassion, wisdom, and humor, Emily helped guide me through one of the toughest years of my life. She is exceptionally skilled at what she does, yet makes each session feel effortless. I could feel she truly cared for me. She taught me practical coping mechanisms while also helping me discover who I was and why I should love every part of myself. I highly recommend Emily Gilliam.
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Emily Gilliam

★★★★★
This practice is really blessed to have Emily. Having been her supervisor and colleague for long enough to appreciate both her genuineness as a human being and as a clinician, I know she practices what she teaches, understands the human condition better than most clinicians I have supervised, and truly enjoys learning and working with people as unique individuals. I very strongly recommend her to anyone seeking therapy.
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Emily is the Best

★★★★★
Emily is a therapist with instinct!! She’s very good with all types of people and I can attest that she puts her 100% into each session. Emily has the ability to understand individual needs more then many other therapists I’ve ever encountered and is truly a joy to visit each week!
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Emily Gilliam

★★★★★
I met Emily as a fellow clinician with a shared client. I was impressed by her thoroughness and thoughtfulness. So much so that I referred a family member who significantly benefitted from her therapeutic support as a therapist who truly understood his challenges.
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Great experience

★★★★★
I worked with Dr. Emily and she helped me during a stressful time in my life. Every session with her was positive and beneficial. I left every one with more clarity. We focused on my personal relationships and major life decisions. I would recommend her to anyone!
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Good experience

★★★★☆
I have worked with Emily Gilliam in the past for my anxiety, depression and eating issues. I felt very much at ease with her and never felt judged. She was a good listener and encouraged me to take control of my life and my decisions.
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Emily Gilliam

★★★★★
Emily has been working with me for over two years now. [I was a patient of hers at her former employer and still continue to see her.] I started going back to therapy and was connected with Emily when my anxiety and depression were ruining my life. The way she reframes thoughts and changes the perspective on issues I've had has been amazing and eye-opening. I am also a trans individual and Emily's ability to cater to my needs throughout my transition has been the strongest point in her favor. In short, in my experience, she's great with people struggling with depression and/or identity issues. Also, as a bonus, she's been very flexible with appointment times and dates and always fit my schedule no matter how booked I felt.
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Caring and Friendly

★★★★★
I've seen Emily Gilliam for over a year and has been excellent. She is very friendly and definitely puts in a lot of effort during our session. It's really helped me out a lot and I feel as if I've made a great friend. When times were low, she'd find a way to cope with that stress or anxiety. I would recommend Dr. Gilliam if you are dealing with anxiety, stress, depression, or just need someone to talk to.
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Quality Therapist

★★★★★
Emily is amazing! I have never felt so comfortable talking to someone the way I did with her. Sometimes it can be hard to face your problems and talk about them out loud, and to a stranger. However, I felt that Emily just understood me and she cared to listen. She was real and companionate. I highly recommend her!!
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Emily is awesome!

★★★★★
Emily is amazing to work with! She empowered me to navigate my past experiences and taught me how to release their hold over my life. I never left her office without a smile or reassurance that I am “okay”.
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Transformative therapy

★★★★★
Emily has been an amazing therapist for me during a very difficult time in my life. She is affirming, gentle, and the therapy partner I needed to work through some hard questions. I fully recommend her.
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Great practice – Jessica is amazing!

★★★★★
I've been seeing Jessica McCraw for the last 7 months and I have nothing but good things to say about her and her practices. With every session she gives me her full attention and listens to everything that I have to say. She continues to provide me with the tools and coping skills that I need to work through every day stressors no matter how big or small. She has provided me with a "game plan" and makes sure I do my homework to stay on track to reach my personal goals. Through working with her I have achieved a level of peace that I haven't experienced in a very long time. I would highly recommend her to anyone going through personal struggles or if you just need someone to talk to.
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Bethany is fantastic!

★★★★★
Bethany is open, caring and an amazing listener!
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Great service

★★★★★
Nathan was great. He was on time and a real professional
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Just amazing

★★★★★
I had a sessions with Nathan Hanson and I swear he helped me change my life. I am finally doing what I love and allowing myself to be happy because of him!
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Emilee Scruggs

★★★★★
Emilee is very understanding and easy to have discussions about whatever is on my mind. She takes her job very seriously and has a godly heart.
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Krista Martin

★★★★★
Krista is great! She is very professional and has helped me tremendously. She was there when my daddy passed away after a long battle, when my momma passed away unexpectedly and when my son was going through so many teen challenges. Krista's compassion and honesty are amazing. I would definitely recommend her to any of my friends and family.
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She listens to me.

★★★★★
Help(s) in troubled times. She listens and understands.
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Mind-Body Connection

★★★★★
Not only is Krista well-versed in the mind-body connection but she was very instrumental in helping me live out day to day stresses. My emotions have a tendency to try to rule me but Krista gave me some empowering tools that I can do to help myself maintain my emotions.
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Krista Martin

★★★★★
I have known Krista for over 12 years. She has and continues to be a true friend that I trust implicitly to talk to about any personal or emotional challenges I am dealing with. She listens calmly and without judgement and helps me to think things through and helps calm my anxieties. Only recently did I even realize that Krista had been providing me therapy many times throughout the years. When I am speaking with Krista, I am her priority. Krista is wise beyond her years. I would highly recommend Krista. Krista is professional, reliable, kind, caring, trusting, patient and 100% confidential.
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Krista Martin

★★★★★
Over the past 5 years I have had a chance to work with Krista Martin. Krista is a wonderful person who is very smart and truly cares about the work she does. Over the past two years she has become a mentor to me. She takes her time to walk me thru processes and makes sure I understand exactly what management expects from us. Krista is wonderful to work with. When I make a mistake she will tell me about the mistake and take the time out to show me where the error was made. When I'm right she takes the time out to come praise me for a job well done. Thanks for taking time out of your schedule and investing it in me.
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Great

★★★★★
Nathan is a great counselor and has been very helpful in helping with my battle against depression. After trying multiple counselors I finally found one that is great.
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Highly Recommend

★★★★★
I've had a great experience interacting with the staff, especially LaKimberly who is a great counselor, very supportive, caring. I would highly recommend this company if looking to improve yourself or get help in handling the ups and down of life.
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Jessica McCraw

★★★★★
I had the privilege of working with Jessica McCraw for 5 years. She is an amazing human being and her counseling ability is way above average. She cares about what she does. I can assure you, tgis addition to your facility will be the best.
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Easy to talk to

★★★★★
Nathan Hansen is very easy to talk to. The times when I threw him curve balls, he was always happy to do the research to help me with the problem that I was having. I always feel like he is listening to me when we talked and that made me feel more at ease to open up to him. I always found him to be polite and professional.
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Great first appointment.

★★★★★
Great first appointment. Emily was very considerate of my shooter time and accommodating. Looking forward to my next appointment.
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Great Therapist

★★★★★
I have worked with Lakimberly for over10 years. She has demonstrated excellent professional skills while working with her clients and co workers. Lakimberly is constantly enhancing her knowledge through trainings and seminars to better serve her clients in this changing world. She has even assisted me with working through several personal issues. Great Therapist indeed!!!
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Excellent Therapist

★★★★★
Lakimberly was my therapist when I entered into a very traumatic situation. The advise she gave me from our first conversation has still been the best advice two years later. Her demeanor totally makes you feel comfortable and never judged about any comments you say to her. If you are looking for someone who's calm , professional, and very kind Lakimberly will be perfect for you.
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Life Changing

★★★★★
Having been to several counselors without great success, I was not sure what to expect coming here, but knew it was worth a shot. Emilee Scruggs has been amazing! She validated everything I am going through and never judges or acts like I am crazy. She is understanding, kind, and helpful! She not only listens to what you are saying, but offers reasonable strategies to help you in your daily life. I did not realize how much I was struggling until after just one session with her! It sounds dramatic, but truly my life has been changed for the better, I have even had friends comment on it. I also love that the space is professional without seeming like a doctors office. Overall, great experience and I am so thankful to have found it!
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Emilee Scruggs is First-Rate!

★★★★★
Emilee Scruggs counseled my mother in her assisted living community for 18 months. Emilee is professional, pleasant and personable. She is also an effective communicator and was always willing to touch base with me. With Emilee’s help, my mother is thriving!
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Emilee Scruggs Excellent Counselor

★★★★★
Emilee Scruggs is an excellent counselor. I have worked with her for a number of years and seen first hand how families have received excellent services from her. Emilee is compassionate, smart and dedicated to her patients and their families. I wholeheartedly recommend her services and feel that she is extraordinary in her field.
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Emilee is fantastic

★★★★★
I had the pleasure of working with Emilee Scruggs for over 2 years when she was in the Long-term care setting. The patient’s would rave about her! They all talked about how compassionate she was and encouraging. I saw the progress they made from their sessions with Emilee. Hate not working with her now, but happy for her new career. She will help so many people. Highly recommend her!!!
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I have really enjoyed my session with Nathan!

★★★★★
I have really enjoyed my session with Nathan!
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Very pleased for responding right away. Thank you.

★★★★★
Very pleased for responding right away. Thank you.
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Love the Decor

★★★★★
The offices are fantastic. It is such a cool place, I LOVE the decor!!!
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Quick, and easy scheduling

★★★★★
Quick, and easy scheduling. Samantha provides positive feedback and coaching. It’s been very helpful for me to have a welcoming space to work through issues.
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Highly Recommend

★★★★★
Sam is a well-rounded therapist with a variety of experience. She is not only a compassionate therapist but demonstrates skill in organization, attention to detail, follow through, excellent time management, and maintaining healthy boundaries.
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Nobody Does It Like Thriveworks

★★★★★
Most counseling centers make you wait weeks before you see a counselor. The fact that I got a face-to-face appointment with a professional counselor within 24 hours was truly amazing! To top things off, Thriveworks accepted my insurance. So I got help quickly and affordably. Thank you Thriveworks!
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Service When You Need It

★★★★★
I am very excited to have a practice like this in Greenville. I have friends and relatives who have had to wait three weeks or more for an appointment. To be able to get a counseling appointment when I need it most, and not have to wait, is wonderful!
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Amazing Services

★★★★★
Thriveworks of Greenville provides exceptional services for those needing assistance in moving their lives forward. The staff are excellent as they are truly passionate about helping their clients make incredible advances in their lives. The staff are kind, compassionate, knowledgeable and highly skilled. They take time and care with each appointment, and the amazing results speak for themselves! I would recommend Thriveworks of Greenville to anyone looking for the highest quality of services.
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All talk

★☆☆☆☆
Having never done counseling before I gave it 2 session; first one get to know me and set plan and expect 2nd to be action. Well the only action advised in session 2 was to get a new job, thanks but not practical or helpful. After trying a different group/person for counseling I realized that my 2 session at Thriveworks were less helpful then initial thought.
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