The dress, the vows, the honeymoon. The arguments, the silence, the distance.
Does this sound like your story? Before saying, “I do,” few couples are prepared for the challenges that many face after the wedding. Arguments may begin with small disagreements that never really get settled. These small disagreements may breed resentment, and then escalate into fights, complete with yelling, slammed doors, and nights spent apart.
Love and attraction are powerful forces that bring people together. But a healthy and long marriage requires much more than just these basic elements. Cooperation, mutual respect, dedication, and good communication are just a few of the components of happy marriages. You and your spouse may know this, but be unable to implement them into your relationship.
Do We Need Marriage Therapy?
You love your spouse, but you can’t live with them anymore. You are staying together for the kids. You don’t know how you could ever live alone, but you can’t be happy in this marriage. The person you married now seems like a stranger. You are so hurt that you cry yourself to sleep. You made a huge mistake and you don’t know where to begin to ask for forgiveness. Does this sound like your marriage?
Marriage problems can be caused by many problems. Some of these include:
- Financial trouble
- Health problems
- Problems with children or extended family
- Loss of employment
- Psychological problems
Perhaps your problems with your spouse just began. Perhaps they started even before the wedding. Whatever the duration or cause of your problems, help is available. Divorce is a painful and all too common result of marriage problems. If you desire help, that is the first step in creating the type of relationship that you dream of, or used to have, in your marriage. Knowing that you need help and seeking it out are wonderful first steps for change.
Where Does Our Marriage Go From Here?
Although it may feel like the problems in your marriage cannot be solved, change is possible for many couples. There are many tools that a trained marriage counselor can teach couples to help them move forward in a healthy way. Simply having an objective third party listen to and analyze the problems in your marriage can help foster tremendous growth and realizations for both members.
Some of the ways that a marriage counselor can help are:
- Admitting the relationship is not perfect
- Admitting each spouse is not perfect
- Acknowledging that the relationship needs help
- Teaching healthy communication skills
- Teaching active listening
- Controlling anger
- Working as a team
- Making decisions together
- Increasing positive time and energy as a couple
This may seem like an impossible list. Perhaps you cannot imagine you and your spouse accomplishing any of these tasks. That’s where Thriveworks can help. We are trained to walk through this process with you and your spouse.
Unhealthy ways of interacting may have been present for such a long time, you cannot envision how else to relate to your spouse. In any area of life, patterns can be very difficult to break. You may want to speak differently to your spouse, but are so established in your roles in your marriage that you cannot change them on your own. We are here to help create a new reality in your home, and in your marriage.
Thriveworks Cambridge Marriage Counselors Can Help
Our trained and licensed marriage counselors are experts in their field. Our counselors have been featured in many reputable news outlets and publications, such as The Cambridge Globe, CNN, The Journal of Mental Health Counseling, Counseling Today, and many others. We are ready to put our knowledge to work for your marriage.
We are ready to help now, and have appointments available within 24 hours. We pride ourselves on not operating with a wait list, because we know that when you call, you are ready to get help, right at that moment. Our phone number is 617-395-5806.
We can help you create and develop new, healthy ways to deal with the issues that you and your spouse are facing. We are ready to walk this journey with you. It would be an honor to accompany you on the process of healing your marriage and improving your family life.
Maybe you have looked up resources for help many times, and perhaps have read this same paragraph over and over, wondering whether you should call. You should. You and your spouse deserve to honor your relationship by spending time working to create a healthy and happy marriage.
Together, we can help you build the relationship that you have always wanted. We appreciate your desire to improve your life, and we have the expertise to help you make that change.
Marriage Therapy in Cambridge is Available. No waiting lists. Most insurance plans accepted.
Call us today to schedule an appointment at 617-395-5806.
872 Massachusetts Ave, Ste 2-2
Cambridge, MA 02139
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929 Massachusetts Ave., Suite 103
Cambridge, MA 02139