Chesapeake Divorce Recovery

Healing from a Divorce in Chesapeake, VA—Counseling and Therapy

When a couple plans the dresses, the tuxedos, the cake, and the flowers, they are also planning for a happy life together. Unfortunately, many couples know that plans change. Whether it takes a few months, years, or decades, 40 percent of first marriages end in divorce, and second and third marriages divorce at a rate of 60 and 70 percent respectively.

“And I’ll sign on
The line beneath my name
The road is gone
I can’t go back the way we came.”
—The Avett Brothers, “Divorce Separation Blues”

When a marriage ends, a road is closed. New roads can be forged, but the process can be challenging. If you or someone you love is finalizing a divorce, you know about the financial strain, the legal decisions, the custody battles, and the housing accommodations. You also know about the anger, guilt, fear, depression, loneliness, anxiety, and confusion.

Forging a new road can be challenging, but it can also be good. When people take time to process their divorce and heal, they can often break free from unhealthy patterns and build toward their goals. A mental health professional can often give much needed guidance and support during the healing process.

Thriveworks Chesapeake offers counseling for divorce recovery, and we have helped many clients forge a new, fulfilling future.

Hallmarks of a Difficult Marriage

Many different circumstances can bring a marriage to an end, but in general, just below the surface details of a divorce lie four toxic behaviors that incite distance and separation. Dr. John Gottman identified these “four horsemen” in his famous study on marriage and divorce:

  • Criticism: Instead of attacking the problem, spouses can attack each other. When dissenting, negative, nit-picking, pessimistic interactions are more common than loving and kind experiences, they take a toll.
  • Defensiveness: Shifting responsibility, blaming others, and other defensive actions mean that people do not accept responsibility for their own choices and actions.
  • Stonewalling: Many couples can overcome difficult problems if they deal with them, but when they are denied, minimized, and/or avoided, hardships quickly grow and overpower a marriage.
  • Contempt: Disrespect may be the leading killer of intimacy. Superiority, derision, and condescension drive wedges between spouses.

If you have recently ended a marriage, do you recognize any of these behaviors? Most likely, you do. These four horsemen are toxic attitudes and actions, and anyone who has experience them may need to detox. Many people choose to take intentional time to heal from a difficult marriage by pursuing divorce recovery.

Recovery and Healing from a Divorce

Healing from a divorce and building a joyful, fulfilling future is a unique process for each individual. Many factors will govern what the path of recovery looks like, factors such as…

  • If and how many children are in the family as well as their ages.
  • How long the couple had been together.
  • If anyone was surprised by the divorce.
  • The details that surrounded the couple’s decision to end the marriage.
  • Each partner’s physical/mental health, personality, and/or age.
  • The couple’s finances.
  • Whether new liaisons have formed.

While each marriage is unique and the circumstances of each divorce is unique, divorce recovery inevitably involves at least two components (and possibly more): grieving the losses and learning from the past.

1) Grieving the losses:

The end of a marriage is the tip of the iceberg when it comes to losses. Recovering from a divorce often means naming those losses and grieving them. For example, losses may include shifting relationships with friends, in-laws, and extended family. Transitioning to co-parenting or single parenting comes with many new challenges. People also may have to leave their home or reduce their standard of living after a divorce.

Each of these costs may stir grief and a variety of feelings. The key to healing is allowing oneself to feel any emotion that arises. During grief, people often ricochet between anger, fear, bargaining, denial, guilt, shock, and sadness. Mental health professionals have helped many people become curious about the emotions they experience as they grieve, process these emotions, and resolve them.

2) Learning from the Past:

One of the more challenging parts of coming out of a marriage is looking back into it. Learning from the past can be painful, but it can also be one of the most fruitful undertaking for a divorcée.

The past often holds the key toward establishing healthier patterns moving forward. When people know what went wrong and what drove their prior decisions, they can make adjustments moving forward.

Counseling for Divorce Recovery at Thriveworks, Chesapeake, VA

Do you want to meet with a mental health profession as you heal from a divorce? If you are ready, Thriveworks Chesapeake is ready too. We have appointments available for divorce recovery.

If you call our office today, you may be meeting with a counselor tomorrow—many new clients have their first appointment within 24 hours of their call. We also work with many insurance companies, and our therapists offer evening and weekend sessions.

Do not go through a divorce by yourself. Call Thriveworks today.

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I've had the pleasure of working with Tammy Boone for about 5 months now and it has been a wonderful journey. She has challenged me to do the work and express myself in ways I never thought was possible. She provides ways to cope with difficult situations without being judgmental. I couldn't have asked for a better clinician!
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I have had the pleasure of working with Dr. Jones for the past 9 months. She is incredibly genuine and easy to confide in, even over our online sessions. She was able to help me through a difficult time and I will truly miss my sessions with her. I highly recommend her services. Thank you Dr. Jones!
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Close out review with Dr. Patricia Jones. Outstanding service and was extremely helpful in giving me several techniques that I can use. Having video sessions was very convenient and effective. Highly recommend Dr. Jones just for her listening skills and the ability to relate to what you are going through. Very passionate about her job and you will not be disappointed when selecting her as your counselor!
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This is a close out review for Dr. Patricia Jones. Amazing therapist who helped me with increasing self-esteem and gave me tools to assist with problem solving skills and healthier thinking techniques. Extremely easy to talk to and sincerely engaged in every session. I look forward to using the tools to document my daily mood/thoughts and finding ways to keep myself active. She will definitely be missed!!!
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I really appreciate the efforts that Dr. Jones put toward helping me. Even in an online environment, I felt really comfortable and the tools and skills I acquired have continued to help me today.
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Therapy was a brand new experience for me and i was actually very nervous about going. Dr. Jones was so great and helpful! She made me feel comfortable the very first day. She provided me the tools and guidance to combat my negative thoughts and anxiety. I was given great handouts that I can even carry with me in my wallet. I really enjoyed speaking with her and looked forward to each session and finding new tools to help me improve my self-esteem. I am truly grateful for the guidance I received from Dr. Jones!
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First of all, I was so afraid to go to counseling yet open up to a total stranger. However, Dr. Crayton is THE exception to the rule. I didn't feel like I was being judged, or that I was "crazy... She is so kind, calm, and very easy to talk to. She helped me overcome my hesitation about counseling. She allowed me to talk and "hear" my inner voice. Her style and compassion for helping people seems to come naturally. She allowed me to see things from a variety of perspectives but did not discount my feelings and perception. I feel like a new person just from my initial session. I welcome the next session and have already reflected on my mini homework assignment that she suggested. Dr. Crayton has given me a new outlook. I will definitely continue with her!
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I have spent the last year learning so much about myself and mental/emotional health! From day 1 Dr. Patricia Jones, has been open, welcoming and nonjudgmental. She truly created a space for me to work through the things I was going through there in the office but also gave me the tools that continue to help me now. DTRs changed my life lol, but seriously I would recommend Dr. Jones in a heartbeat! Also Thriveworks is simple to work with and the newsletter articles are great
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At first I was super hesitant on going to therapy for myself. Once I found out about Thriveworks, I started up for about a month. Dr. Jones, Patricia Jones, helped me with much more than my mental health and it exceeded my expectations. I would highly recommend her if you are considering therapy. It is a very reasonable priced place to go to if you have a great copay as well. I changed for a better during my time there and would 101% recommend if you are considering counseling.
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I have accessed therapy myself but have never had the opportunity to see James for therapy. I have known James for a long time, probably about ten years and have always found him to be eager to help and able to help. He is a very devoted father and a good friend. I would trust him as a friend and as a therapist.
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I attended several sessions from February-July with Patricia Jones. Ms. Jones provided me with breathing techniques, positive thinking, situation analysis and how to resolve different problems. I am now able to deal with daily stress and I can handle situations better by turning them into positive resolutions. Ms. Jones is an awesome counselor and it was a pleasure working with her in providing me with the help that I desperately needed.
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We have a family member who suffers from anxiety and depression. It affects the entire family as well as the victims. It's ok to talk and get help. We encourage anyone with any mental health problems to not hide those issues, but seek help from professionals trained n these areas.
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James was always respectful to coworkers and fellow colleagues in the field, always pleasant to work with, was professional, and seemed to have great passion for his clinic and the work he did.
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James Boughman is a great therapist. He is especially skilled helping individuals, couples and families deal with depression and other difficult mood disorders. I believe in him.
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I had the pleasure of Brittany Morris working with me in my 4th grade classroom this past school year! She not only helped me manage my many students with anxiety and social adjustments, but she helped guide me along the school year as well. Brittany has a knack for keeping chaotic situations calm, reminding adults and children that they are being heard and are important. Brittany shares stories and advice that easily help children and adults in not so easy situations. She was not only a counselor to me and my class, but also became a friend. I will treasure everything Brittany taught me and my young students! I cannot say enough positive and wonderful things about her, I highly recommend her to anyone!
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James is great!

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James used to work with me in Oklahoma and I think he would be a great therapist to see!
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James Baughman

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You have an extremely caring counselor in James who’s empathy helps him relate to those he comes in contact with. I had the pleasure of getting to know him before he left Oklahoma and consider him a great asset to your organization.
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