Chesapeake Marriage and Couples Counseling

Chesapeake, VA Therapists—Couples and Marriage Counseling

Four couples head off to a week of vacation—with a catch. In the movie, Couples Retreat, a wife and husband are considering separation, and they persuade their friends to join them in paradise for a couples retreat. If they go together, they can qualify for a group rate, and they have no intention of going to the therapeutic activities. They arrive, ready for a week of beach time, yoga classes, and massages, but they are told that the 6 AM couples skill building class is not optional. Neither is any of the other therapy. “I think there is a misunderstanding here. We signed up for the fun stuff,” Vince Vaughn’s character says. “So we have to give a little bit of our day up to talk about feelings. How bad couple it be?” The couples learn quickly that improving their marriage takes a lot of work, but it is worth their efforts, even if it means missing beach time.

The statics for divorce are daunting—up to 40 percent of first-time marriages end in divorce and the rates go up for second and third marriages. However, divorce is not the only option for couples who are struggling. Many couples are learning new and healthier ways to relate, and they are working with a marriage and couples therapist to do so.

“Couples counseling gets many couples back together. But not all, and not always. For your own sake and that of your children, however, I recommend it – I almost insist on it – as the first step for anyone unhappy in a relationship.”
—Laura Wasser, divorce attorney

Just because a couple wants a better relationship, does not mean that they know what “better” means or even how to achieve it. Marriage and couples therapy can often help couples identify the issues within their relationship and strategies for overcoming those problems.

The counselors, psychologists, and therapists at Thriveworks Chesapeake offer marriage and couples therapy because we know that how easily a marriage can get off course, but we also know how to get it back on track. Every relationship has issues, and every marriage needs help at some point or another. Thriveworks Chesapeake is here to help.

Common Relational Issues

When couples are in the midst of a more difficult season, it is easy to think, no one else is struggling like this. It is an understandable thought, but it is also usually an untrue thought. The reality is that many of the issues that plague a relationship are very common. Here are a few examples:

  • Differing Goals – Couples do not always agree about where the relationship is going. When each partner is pulling in a different direction, then there can be stress and tension.
  • Problems with Intimacy – Emotional and physical intimate are foundational for a relationship’s health. When these are not priorities, the overall health of the relationship may suffer.
  • Distrust – If trust has been breached, it can be restored but only with consistent, trustworthy actions. Trust does not rebuild itself.
  • Communication Difficulties – Good communication involves sharing, empathy, vulnerability and empathy, but these are difficult relational skills. It is easy for couples to get away from these fundamentals.
  • Disagreements about Family – Issues like how to relate to in-laws, which housing options to pursue, and how to parent may be some of the most tense and sensitive issues that can trip up couples.

Most likely, you can resonate with something on this list. You are not alone in the struggle, and you are not alone in the solution. Many couples are going to marriage therapy to work through these issues because they can be worked through.

What Might Marriage Therapy Offer?

Many of the difficulties that couples face are also opportunities to improve their marriage. Marriage therapy can often facilitate that process of growth. A few of the ways skilled counselors can do is include…

  • Providing neutral space for dialogue. When couples are passionate about a discussion, it can escalate. What is needed, however, is often a neutral discussion so that the issue itself can take priority.
  • Setting expectations and timelines for change. Some issues are more urgent than others. Some change needs to happen now. Others can wait. How do people know the difference? Counselors can guide the change process.
  • Identifying toxic patterns. In his famous study on marriage longevity, John Gottman used four indicators to determine whether a marriage was headed for divorce. They are contempt, stonewalling, defensiveness, and criticism. These are toxic patterns of relating that can be identified and replaced with healthier patterns.
  • Developing conflict resolution skills. If toxic patterns have infiltrated a relationship, each partner may need to learn new ways of relating. Experienced counselors can lead couples through exercises that teach them how to attack the issue, not each other.

Appointments at Thriveworks Chesapeake, VA for Couples and Marriage Counseling

You and your partner may be experiencing a more difficult season. If you are, consider reaching out for help. The counselors, psychologists, and therapists at Thriveworks Chesapeake are ready to provide guidance and support to your marriage. Difficulty is not the end. Often, better days are ahead.

When you reach out to Thriveworks Chesapeake, we know that you are ready to get started. New clients often meet with their therapist the day after their first call to our office. Weekend and evening sessions are offered, and we accept a variety of insurance plans.

Let’s work on your relationship together. Contact Thriveworks Chesapeake today.

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Positive Feedback

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I've had the pleasure of working with Tammy Boone for about 5 months now and it has been a wonderful journey. She has challenged me to do the work and express myself in ways I never thought was possible. She provides ways to cope with difficult situations without being judgmental. I couldn't have asked for a better clinician!
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Simply the BEST

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Dr. P. Jones, I can only say that she is simply the best!!! I found Dr. Jones in a rush, she had authentic concern for the situation, she went over and WELL ABOVE assisting us with our needs. She was our angel during this process!!!
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Phenomenal services with Dr. Jones

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I have had the pleasure of working with Dr. Jones for the past 9 months. She is incredibly genuine and easy to confide in, even over our online sessions. She was able to help me through a difficult time and I will truly miss my sessions with her. I highly recommend her services. Thank you Dr. Jones!
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Close out Review

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Close out review with Dr. Patricia Jones. Outstanding service and was extremely helpful in giving me several techniques that I can use. Having video sessions was very convenient and effective. Highly recommend Dr. Jones just for her listening skills and the ability to relate to what you are going through. Very passionate about her job and you will not be disappointed when selecting her as your counselor!
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Close out Review

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This is a close out review for Dr. Patricia Jones. Amazing therapist who helped me with increasing self-esteem and gave me tools to assist with problem solving skills and healthier thinking techniques. Extremely easy to talk to and sincerely engaged in every session. I look forward to using the tools to document my daily mood/thoughts and finding ways to keep myself active. She will definitely be missed!!!
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Great Service

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I really appreciate the efforts that Dr. Jones put toward helping me. Even in an online environment, I felt really comfortable and the tools and skills I acquired have continued to help me today.
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Excellent Counselor

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Sherry Lee is an excellent counselor. I have had the pleasure of knowing her and having her as a colleague for over 20 years. She is empathetic, caring, knowledgeable ,competent,and responsible.
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Parent

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Mrs. Sowers is by far the best counselor out there!! She made such an impact on my children, providing them with tools they can utilize everyday. She personally helped me learn positive coping mechanisms that have had a tremendous impact. Mrs Sowers is the best! I highly recommend to everyone!
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Dr. Patricia Jones Review

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Therapy was a brand new experience for me and i was actually very nervous about going. Dr. Jones was so great and helpful! She made me feel comfortable the very first day. She provided me the tools and guidance to combat my negative thoughts and anxiety. I was given great handouts that I can even carry with me in my wallet. I really enjoyed speaking with her and looked forward to each session and finding new tools to help me improve my self-esteem. I am truly grateful for the guidance I received from Dr. Jones!
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Excellent Rapport

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First of all, I was so afraid to go to counseling yet open up to a total stranger. However, Dr. Crayton is THE exception to the rule. I didn't feel like I was being judged, or that I was "crazy... She is so kind, calm, and very easy to talk to. She helped me overcome my hesitation about counseling. She allowed me to talk and "hear" my inner voice. Her style and compassion for helping people seems to come naturally. She allowed me to see things from a variety of perspectives but did not discount my feelings and perception. I feel like a new person just from my initial session. I welcome the next session and have already reflected on my mini homework assignment that she suggested. Dr. Crayton has given me a new outlook. I will definitely continue with her!
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DTRs changed my life lol!

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I have spent the last year learning so much about myself and mental/emotional health! From day 1 Dr. Patricia Jones, has been open, welcoming and nonjudgmental. She truly created a space for me to work through the things I was going through there in the office but also gave me the tools that continue to help me now. DTRs changed my life lol, but seriously I would recommend Dr. Jones in a heartbeat! Also Thriveworks is simple to work with and the newsletter articles are great
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Great Place for People Considering Therapy

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At first I was super hesitant on going to therapy for myself. Once I found out about Thriveworks, I started up for about a month. Dr. Jones, Patricia Jones, helped me with much more than my mental health and it exceeded my expectations. I would highly recommend her if you are considering therapy. It is a very reasonable priced place to go to if you have a great copay as well. I changed for a better during my time there and would 101% recommend if you are considering counseling.
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Great Guy!

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I have accessed therapy myself but have never had the opportunity to see James for therapy. I have known James for a long time, probably about ten years and have always found him to be eager to help and able to help. He is a very devoted father and a good friend. I would trust him as a friend and as a therapist.
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James Baughman

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James is a very capable and compassionate counselor. He goes the extra mile to assist his clients to accomplish their counseling goals. I definitely recommend him.
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I attended several sessions from February-July with Patricia Jones. Ms. Jones provided me with breathing techniques, positive thinking, situation analysis and how to resolve different problems. I am now able to deal with daily stress and I can handle situations better by turning them into positive resolutions. Ms. Jones is an awesome counselor and it was a pleasure working with her in providing me with the help that I desperately needed.
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Valerie Proctor is a seasoned therapist with expertise and compassion for clients struggling with trauma histories, relationship challenges, and identity issues. She has a special talent for working with biracial, multicultural, and LGTBTQ clients. Her keen insights paired with sound/proven intervention approaches serve to empower and equip clients for wholistic growth. Very Highly recommended!
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Quality Counselor

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Jame Baughman (LCSW) is an experienced counselor that has greatly helped me in my path toward a healthy mental life. He's a good listener and offers several different aspects of dealing with issues. Thriveworks is definitely a better place with him there! - One door closes, another opens! Thanks, James.
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Mental illness hits close to home

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We have a family member who suffers from anxiety and depression. It affects the entire family as well as the victims. It's ok to talk and get help. We encourage anyone with any mental health problems to not hide those issues, but seek help from professionals trained n these areas.
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Brittany Morris

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Ms. Morris is compassionate and approachable. She listens and in nonjudgmental.She has insight and gently guides individuals to authenticate themselves.
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Former Coworker to James Baugh

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James was always respectful to coworkers and fellow colleagues in the field, always pleasant to work with, was professional, and seemed to have great passion for his clinic and the work he did.
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Great therapist

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James Boughman is a great therapist. He is especially skilled helping individuals, couples and families deal with depression and other difficult mood disorders. I believe in him.
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Brittany Morris is a top choice!

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I had the pleasure of Brittany Morris working with me in my 4th grade classroom this past school year! She not only helped me manage my many students with anxiety and social adjustments, but she helped guide me along the school year as well. Brittany has a knack for keeping chaotic situations calm, reminding adults and children that they are being heard and are important. Brittany shares stories and advice that easily help children and adults in not so easy situations. She was not only a counselor to me and my class, but also became a friend. I will treasure everything Brittany taught me and my young students! I cannot say enough positive and wonderful things about her, I highly recommend her to anyone!
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Valerie Proctor

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Valerie Proctor is a dynamic therapist! Her experience and breadth of knowledge, coupled with her kindness and compassion make her one of the best in her field. Highly recommend!
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Valerie Proctor

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Valorie Proctor is an excellent therapist. She is empathetic, professional, and very knowledgeable in her field. I recommend Valerie to any one seeking mental health services.
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Dr. Trent’s Sessions

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My first ever long-term counseling sessions were spent with Dr. Trent. In being apprehensive about therapy, Dr. Trent provides a safe and comfortable space to freely discuss my emotions. Her professionalism, kindness, and care were vital in my journey to control my mental health.
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James Baughman

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James is an awesome listener always mild toned
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James is great!

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James used to work with me in Oklahoma and I think he would be a great therapist to see!
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Outstanding and caring individual

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James is an outstanding therapist/social worker. He listens well and offers sincere advice. He’s a very caring individual with a true heart to help others.
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James Baughman

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James is an awesome social worker. His knowledge of the system is truly amazing. The compassion he has for his clients is truly beyond compare. He's definitely, one of a kind.
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James Baughman

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You have an extremely caring counselor in James who’s empathy helps him relate to those he comes in contact with. I had the pleasure of getting to know him before he left Oklahoma and consider him a great asset to your organization.
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