Many people think about getting married starting from a young age. It sounds like a fairytale, you can’t wait to plan your wedding, and live happily ever after. However, it’s not always like storybooks. Some people think that marrying their partner will fix all of their issues and that their love will heal all. While that may be true, it’s sometimes impossible to do alone. As soon as they get married, they start fighting again over cleaning, working long hours, and who forgot to turn the coffee maker off all come back. Everyone experiences challenges in their relationships, but marriage doesn’t fix everything. Great communication, understanding, and endless love do.
Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.
Around 50% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. Why? Because when couples have small arguments as mentioned before, on top of larger issues like disagreements on values, it can lead to a giant whirlpool of emotion, anger, and sadness. Getting into disagreements or arguments isn’t always a bad thing though. It’s when you and your significant other can’t communicate on a healthy or productive level that divorce tends to loom.
If you are in the New Haven area, consider working with a marriage counselor at Thriveworks Counseling. We have marriage counselors and relationship experts who have the qualities and experience to help you and your spouse make meaningful changes in your relationship. There is no shame or judgment in getting help. We understand that all couples struggle from time to time. If you are ready to make a change though, just give us a call at (203) 586-4264.
Can My Spouse and I Benefit from Working with a Marriage Counselor?
The short answer is yes! Most married couples could benefit greatly from the guidance and support offered by a professional. When you decide to pursue marriage counseling, you are not admitting failure. Instead, you are both putting your relationship first and showing each other just how big of a priority it is in your life. Admitting that you need a therapist can be hard though. Consider the following questions:
- Are my spouse and I on the same page when it comes to starting a family and raising our kids?
- Do my spouse and I feel fulfilled on an individual level? Do we need to work on ourselves more?
- Have we encountered intimacy issues? Are we currently experiencing them?
- Are my spouse and I happy in our relationship overall?
- Do we communicate effectively, or do we need to work on our communication skills?
- Do my spouse and I argue a lot over small matters that make us feel angrier than necessary?
- Has either of us been unfaithful in our marriage? Are we having a hard time working through this?
These are some important questions to ask yourself when trying to decide if you are ready for action. If you have determined that there is an area of your marriage that needs work, consider working with a marriage counselor at Thriveworks Counseling.
How Does Marriage Counseling Work?
If you have been to therapy before, marriage counseling is not that much different. For those who have not been to therapy in the past, here is what you can expect! During your beginning sessions, your marriage counselor will sit down with you both to see and address what your unique goals and challenges are. You both will be able to express your feelings on the situation to better help your therapist understand what action needs to be taken. Marriage counseling will most likely involve discussing present issues, past issues if they are still lingering for one or both partners, as well as developing skills and tools that will enable you to work through future issues.
You can expect to learn tools like:
- Effective communication skills
- Parenting tips and styles
- How to tackle individual goals
- How to manage family time
…and more! We also understand that sometimes arguments and turmoil can be hard to overcome. In instances where divorce does need to be discussed, your marriage counselor will be able to help you make important decisions. In addition, they can help you and your spouse look at all aspects of your marriage. Sometimes separating is the healthiest option for both partners and with the help of your counselor, you can both walk away at peace.
Schedule an Appointment with a Thriveworks Marriage Counselor in New Haven
Our caring, professional team of marriage therapists are here to help you. When you are ready to schedule your first appointment, you can do so online through our online booking system or by calling us at (203) 586-4264. We don’t have waiting lists. Call us today to see a therapist this week, possibly even the day after you call!
We look forward to walking down a path of healing with you.