Montclair Anger Management Counseling

Anger Management at Thriveworks in Montclair, NJ

If you’ve traveled the nation’s roads, you have probably witnessed aggressive drivers. You may have been the victim of this type of driver. Or, maybe you are an aggressive driver. This kind of driving behavior has earned its own name–“road rage.” People with road rage sometimes flash headlights; tailgate; give dirty looks; make obscene gestures to other drivers; use the horn; swerve; change lanes frequently too quickly and without warning; do not use turn signals or talk on the phone or text.

The actions of these individuals can lead to physically hurting others or themselves. People who have frequent, uncontrollable anger also put their health at risk. There are many health issues, from minor to serious, caused by uncontrollable anger.

For the past 10 years, the therapists at Thriveworks in Montclair, NJ have worked with thousands of people with anger problems. The therapists at Thriveworks work with them to recognize the causes of and appropriate responses to their anger, as well as an anger management treatment plan, so they are able to enjoy healthier lives.

Expression, Suppression and Calm

The most frequently verbalized emotion of children and adults is anger. It is a healthy and normal emotion unless the anger is being expressed inappropriately. Anger is a natural adaptive response to threats. It is an emotion that can cause powerful—and often aggressive—feelings and behaviors that enable people to defend themselves when they are under attack. A certain amount of anger is necessary for survival. But, people can’t lash out at everyone and everything that makes them angry. The following are different approaches used in angry situations: expressing, suppressing and calming.

Expressing Anger

When people express angry feelings assertively instead of aggressively, it is the healthiest way of dealing with anger. They make clear their needs and how to get them met without physical force or verbally hurting others. To be assertive is to be respectful of others when expressing thoughts and feelings.

Suppressing Anger

When people hold anger in, quit thinking about it or go on to something else, this is suppressing anger. It buries anger and uses more constructive behavior as a substitute. However, when people keep anger in and do not express it, the effect can mean that it is turning inward on them. According to the American Medical Association, the American Psychological Association and the American Psychiatric Association, anger turned inward can lead to serious health problems, such as high blood pressure, hypertension and depression.


When individuals monitor themselves while they are angry, it means controlling outward behavior and internal responses. Calming lowers heart rate. Often, people will walk away from the situation or the source of their anger and let it deescalate.

The Causes of Anger

  • When tired, the temper becomes shorter.
  • Struggling with money and debt problems.
  • Sexual frustration.
  • Feeling like a failure or a disappointment.
  • Withdrawing from alcohol and substances.
  • Living with severe pain or an illness.
  • Being the victim of a crime, such as a violent sexual offense or a burglary.
  • Being treated unfairly.

Learning to Calm Yourself When Angry

The following are a few simple things you can do to keep yourself calm when you are feeling angry.

  • Believe that you can control your anger by telling yourself that you can.
  • Practice breathing deeply from the diaphragm. (Breathing from the chest has less of an effect.)
  • Slowly repeat a phrase, such as “calm down or” “relax”—repeat the phrase while breathing deeply.
  • Your muscles will feel relaxed and you will feel calmer when you do slow, yoga-type exercises.
  • Imagine a place where you would like to be, such as sitting in a beach chair among palm trees on a tropical island. Or, remember a calming vacation or a nice memory from when you were a child.
  • Meditation has calming effects.

Don’t wait any longer to begin anger management control at Thriveworks in Montclair, NJ. For 10 years, therapists at Thriveworks have worked with people to recognize the causes of their anger, learn how to respond to its triggers in positive ways and find the most effective anger management treatment plan. Call Thriveworks in Montclair, NJ at (973) 512-5088 today to get started on the road to healthier living.

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