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Relationship Counseling: Healthy Boundaries in Tucson, AZ

When discussing communication in relationships, mental health professionals often use the word “boundaries”. Good boundaries, both emotionally and physically can improve intimate relationships, relationships with friends, coworkers and most importantly, with the self; but what exactly does it mean? We need to understand how far we will go and how far we will allow others to go with us.

Boundaries in the context of relationship are defined as: the awareness of internal thoughts and emotions and then the reaction to this internal state. Pat Ogden, a prominent psychologist and author writes:

“Healthy boundaries enable us to separate our thoughts, feelings and behaviors from those of other people, so we do not blame others for our feelings, thoughts or behavior, and we do not take responsibility for the feelings, thoughts or behaviors of others.”

It is important to develop a clear “sense of self”, an understanding of where personal emotions, needs, and wants end and another’s begin. Equally important, is to develop the skill to say “no” when we mean “no” or say “yes” when we mean “yes” AND to allow others to take care of themselves in the same way. Below is a list of red flags in relationships with poor boundaries:

  • Avoidance of verbalizing feelings and needs because of fear of causing disappointment or conflict.
  • Difficulty differentiating personal feelings from the emotions of others.
  • Difficulty saying “no” to others and feeling overwhelmed by own emotions and/or the emotions of others.
  • An overly developed, rigid and inflexible sense of independence and/or over-protectiveness of personal space.
  • A preference for distance in relationship and difficulty with trust and intimacy.
  • Explosive, defensive and non-productive expressions of feelings, needs, and wants with no resolution after the conflict.

Tips on developing healthy boundaries:

1. Use mindfulness. Spend some time observing, as if watching a movie, the physical sensation of emotions. What sensations appear when there is anger, fear, sadness or anxiety? Is there hotness in the face, increased heart rate, sinking stomach or heaviness in the chest? What about when there is happiness, excitement or contentedness?

2. Once there is a sense of what emotions feel like, there is a stronger sense of confidence to communicate about them and there is less emotional overwhelm. It becomes easier to say, “When I heard you yell, I felt my heart jump which means I was scared”.

3. Breathe. If closeness both physically and emotionally feels overwhelming and vulnerable, take a breath and then decide, “Is this reaction an overly protective and defensive one or is it reasonable”? If it is defensive, breathe into the physical sensation of vulnerability and anxieties then, with compassion, tell it that it’s ok to trust.

A daily meditation practice can help foster a stronger understanding of the inner world. Find a class on meditation or give yourself the gift of talking to a qualified professional. Talking through experiences with another person can help bring understanding of unhealthy patterns and the cause of disconnection from the self and others.

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Blanca worked in our school as a school counselor and working with students in K-8th grade in a 1:1 setting. She worked with students who came from diverse backgrounds: divorced parents, incarcerated parents, no parents, homelessness, etc. The students she met with maintained a noticeably strengthened sense of self. Blanca also helped these students to develop strong coping skills in order to help the students self regulate throughout the school day. We would be happy to have her work in our school again.
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Erica Wagner

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Erica Wagner is an exceptional therapist and person. Her understanding, caring, funny, and welcoming nature made my recovery process so much easier to cope with over the years. I came out of each session feeling validated of my emotions and learning something new each time. She has truly helped me change my life. I highly recommend Erica to anyone seeking mental health guidance!
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During the unprecedented times of Covid19, Gaye Adams was able to hear me and to understand what I needed to get through it. Her expertise and her compassion was apparent always and it helped me immensely.
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Ms. Adams

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Ms. Adams, in my experience, is not only an excellent artist and superior counselor for clients, but also is bright and insightful in her understanding of patient problems.
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Simply the best!

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I've worked with Dominique for a few years and she is very caring, approachable, and passionate about her work. She works well with everyone. She's ordinary yet extraordinary at the same time!
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Make an appointment…you’ll be so glad you did.

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From the moment I walked in the door, I could tell this is a healing space. The environment is warm, welcoming, and uplifting. All around are beautiful, lighthearted images and positive messages. The staff is so professional and caring, you can't go wrong with any of the counselors if you're ready to make a change in your life. Thriveworks serves all--people of all ages, ethnicities, faiths, backgrounds, and lifestyles. Many of the clinicians take insurance and those who do not have a very reasonable fee for out of pocket costs. The changes and improvements you'll make in your life with the help of a Thriveworks clinician are worth every penny. The fact is you are really INVESTING in YOU--every aspect of your life can improve and that is PRICELESS. I can't say enough great things about Thriveworks, just being in that lovely atmosphere and knowing you're taking a stand for your growth and wellbeing is worth celebrating. And you can even have a nice cup of coffee or tea and a snack while you wait! Make an appointment...you'll be so glad you did.
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Kay Henderson

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Kay has been a blessing in my life personally and professionally! She was an amazing supervisor who was always willing to be supportive while challenging me to learn and grow as a new conditional licensee. Her guidance and direction continue to be an important part of my learning and growth as a successful clinician in Maine! I am forever grateful for her kindness, caring, and support in making healthy pathways for my future!
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Kay Henderson

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Kay is a well-respected therapist who genuinely and compassionately connects with her clients. She really sees people for who they are and what they can become. She is warm and easy-going and insightful. She is able to pinpoint the challenge and competently encourages self-reflection, insight and change. Somehow, despite being very easy to talk to and patient, she is able to cut to the key issue and motivate her clients to reach their goals. I highly recommend her and would certainly refer individuals and couples to her who want to make changes and improve relationships or increase life satisfaction.
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Kay Henderson

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I'm composing this professional review for Kay Henderson. I've had the privilege of knowing Kay for a little over 3 years, and have worked with her in a professional capacity at our former place of employment in Maine, as Regional Clinical Director's for approximately 2 years. During the time period that I was Kay's colleague, I had the pleasure of witnessing Kay showcase her innate clinical counseling skills, as well as her management and leadership skills. She had a keen ability to analyze various business or programmatic issues, while developing and implementing solutions with a client-centered and employee-centered approach that also benefited the business. Additionally Kay's clinical mental health counseling adroitness was clearly portrayed through her prowess to quickly establish a therapeutic alliance, in a truly Rogerian person-centered manner, with clients of all ages, ranging from children to adults. She also was able to engage with families and successfully implement family systems approaches, which not only enhance family unity and cohesiveness, but also assist families and clients utilize skills independently outside the therapeutic environment. Lastly, Kay was experienced in developing treatment plans that captured the client's/family's input, and was able to work on monitoring, tracking and working with clients and families alike to achieve collective treatment objectives and goals. I would highly recommend Kay for any clinical or administrative role in the mental health industry and consider her an assist to any organization that she choses to join.
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Great location, great help

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Alanna has been very helpful, patient and kind. She also doesn’t hesitate to tell you like it is. The new office is comfortable, quiet and at a great location with really flexible hours.
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Great location, great help

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Alanna has been very helpful, patient and kind. She also doesn’t hesitate to tell you like it is. The new office is comfortable, quiet and at a great location with really flexible hours.
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I've been working with Alanna Boyd with Thrive works and have only GREAT things to say about my experience. I reached out to Alanna and her response was very fast, she emailed me back regarding my needs and concerns and set up a time for a telephone intake and I've been seeing her weekly since. She's very accommodating, empathetic, personable and has given me the tools I need to make it though my trying times and everyday life. I highly recommend her. I look forward to my appointments, which is not something that I thought I'd ever say.
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More than I hoped for

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I initially went to Amy to help me manage my fear of flying, but before we could really tackle that, my relationship began to fall apart. My counseling sessions with Amy saved my sanity. I looked forward to being able to openly share my feelings and get tools to help manage my anxiety around flying and the loss of my relationship. Amy helped me get through one of the toughest times of my life. I wish we were still in the same state, so I could get "tune ups" when I get stressed out.
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My counselor

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I have worked with my counselor in the past, and  I'm so excited my counselor is now with Thriveworks helping people. My counselor has a wide range of experience in various behavioral health settings, and a wealth of knowledge from those experiences and from education. What makes this counselor special is their authenticity that makes people feel comfortable from the start. I highly recommend Thriveworks!
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Team at Thriveworks

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I have had the pleasure of knowing the team members for 12 years and working with them for 9 of those years. They bring a strong spiritual side to counseling and has helped me enhance my spirit personally, professionally, and to utilize mindfulness practices in my own work. They are a support, resource, and someone I can refer to when client's are in need of specialized movement services as part of their counseling care. I highly recommend the team and appreciate their work, support, and care.
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Amy C. Davis

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As a licensed therapist, I worked with Amy C. Davis, LPC while she was living in Denver, Colorado. She is professional and compassionate and clients who I referred to her, were grateful to have her walk with them on their journey towards healing. If you are looking for a therapist who can connect with you, truly listen and hold space for your stress, ask for Amy.
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I have had the pleasure of working with Thriveworks for three years. They are truly amazing! The work ethic, heart and follow through is unparalleled. What makes Thriveworks stunning is the pride  in the services provided and the unrelenting commitment to client’s success. They provide their clients with the confidence and skill set needed to succeed, but more importantly, to improve their lives.
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My counselor is a woman of high Integrity, drive, discipline, and an eager ness to help those in need. She is of character, and passion for those around her. I recommend her highly. David Fitch Prior Authorization Coordinator Banner HealthPlans.
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Amy is amazing

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Amy supervised me when I was working toward licensure. She was always warm and inviting, and had amazing perspective on my clients. I attribute my current success to the supervision that I received when I was with Amy. I know her clients appreciated her nurturing and structured approach.
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Consistent, professional, understanding

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I have been a patient of Thriveworks for the last few years. The counselors are not only very professional but very empathetic. They seems to always be in touch with my needs and thinks outside the normal "medical" box to help me resolve my concerns. They follows up to ensure that there aren't any additional needs and is a consistent advocate for my needs. They have helped me also to become a better parent by helping me understand my child more as well. This is an added bonus to an already great patient/doctor relationship. Thank you Thriveworks!
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One of the Best Resources Around!

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I’ve known and worked with Linda for several years now and have experienced tremendous professional and personal transformation as a result. Linda and Thriveworks offer a unique gift in helping people progress, and simply, to get through the tough times that we all experience.
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Highly Recommend Amy Davis

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I’m not familiar with all of the counselors at Thrive, but I can highly recommend Amy Davis. She was my supervisor back in the day when I was an intern, and I learned so much from her. I loved working with her not only because of her knowledge and skill, but also because of her down to earth, open, and non-judgemental nature. I do not hesitate to refer to her!
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Amy Davis

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Amy helped my husband and I through a pretty significant crisis. She is gentle and compassionate, and she was genuinely invested in us and our success. She is wonderful!!
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Great counselor

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My counselor is one of the best people I have ever met!! I have known her for many many years. Thank you for your amazing advice and always listening when needed, thank you for being extremely professional and super caring! Your work ethic amazes me to the fullest.
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Selfless and caring

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My counselor is one of the most selfless individuals I have met in my lifetime. She's driven, hard working, and an amazing listener. One of the few individuals that I know personally, that listens with intent. She gives advice only after processing every aspect. She's honest, reliable, and humble. A great person to know professionally and personally.
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Honor to work with

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I have had the honor of working with a team member of Thriveworks. The sincerity, honesty, compassion, and respect I observed continuously for clients, no matter their circumstances, always impressed me with the reality that I was fortunate to be able to directly witness what the delivery of Mental Health services should, and must, always look like. The counseling team member beholds utmost integrity and a gifted professional who I have always known to display the finest qualities expected and required of Mental Health professionals dedicated to assisting people in need to learn to recognize and achieve their most potent sense of self-worth.
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Would like to thank Thriveworks Counseling for helping me along this difficult journey called “depression “ . I don’t have words to explain how wonderful and helpful counseling has been to me and people who surround me because helping me helps me be a better person to the people who surround me. I totally recommend because I can honestly say it has saved me in many ways.
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Linda is Awesome!

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My life was at a crossroads when I met Linda. She listened patiently and offered sound counsel that truly helped me understand how to recognize the things I need... and also how to spot the red flags that could steer me off course (equally as important, I think). My life is now full of joy, contentment, and love. Linda was instrumental in getting me there.
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Wise and Timely

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Linda's many years of counseling experience, her wisdom, knowledge of applicable therapies, her approaches and intuition serve her clients so very well. Whether you are looking for short-term guidance, long-term support, or healing from a deep-seated causal issue, Linda's empathic processes work to bring emotional healing, better coping skills and provide effective next steps. I gained a new lease on emotional and psychological well-being, received amazing breakthroughs that restored my hope and health, garnered a greater understanding of myself, as well as new communication tools that I could immediately implement.
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Support for when and how you most need it.

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During an initial conversation with Linda I felt that time stood still. She instantly brought me to a level of comfort to truly open up. I trusted her instantly and knew she had the knowledge, willingness, and experience to guide me thru therapy when I felt others could not. Linda truly honors and helps me see the highest and best good for myself, my marriage and our family. Eternally grateful!
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Linda is THE BOMB!!

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Linda is truly one of a kind. I have spent years in therapy and never had I gained as much value and growth than when I worked with Linda. I recommend her to all my friends/family and love knowing that no matter what comes my way, Linda can help me work through it.
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Phenomenal!

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Linda is the real deal! Whether life is not working for you right now or you are in a full blown crisis, Linda will walk alongside you with compassion, empathy and a genuine heart. You will walk away with a deeper understanding, a different perspective and the tools to make changes. Whenever a friend is struggling in life, the first thing out of my mouth is “You need Linda!” Your time with her will be a game changer... I promise.
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