Marriage Counseling in Miami, FL—Marital Help in Florida
The Princess Bride has one of the most memorable marriage ceremonies of all time. “Marriage. Marriage is what brings us together today,” the priest opened the wedding. “Marriage,” he continues, “that blessed arrangement, that dream within a dream… and love, true love, will follow you forever… so treasure your love.” Interrupting the sappy speech, the groom, Prince Humperdink presses, “skip to the end!” Certainly, the forced marriage between the prince and Princess Buttercup is not a dream within a dream or true love, but even normal marriages can never live up to that ideal. Marriage takes a lot of work, and that is why most spouses promise to love each other “in good times and bad.” Marriage is not always a dream and it is not always a blessed arrangement. Normal marriages have both good times and bad times. Normal marriages also may need professional help from time to time. More and more, spouses are going to marriage therapy to work on their relationship.
“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.”
—Barbara De Angelis
Marriage is a verb. When life gets busy or when conflict grows unbearable, spouses can stop working at their marriage. This does not mean that spouses need to part ways. Marriages can be mended. There are no guarantees, magic formulas, or quick-fixes, but marriage therapists often help spouses identify why their marriage is not working and what adjustments need to be made for them to regain their intimacy.
The counselors at Thriveworks Miami provide marriage counseling because many spouses need guidance as they work on their marriage. Our professionals have helped many couples work through the bad times and experience more good times.
Is Now the Time to Start Marriage Counseling?
There is no right time to start marriage counseling, but there is also no wrong time to start either. In many ways, going to therapy is a very personal decision. If you or your spouse is wondering if marriage counseling may help you, then the fact that you are asking the question may be a sign it is time to go. There is no way to list every reason why couples start therapy, but it may be helpful to know why some choose to do so. Here are a few examples of why spouses have come to Thriveworks Miami for marriage counseling…
1) A spouse has cheated: Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and in a marriage, trust is particularly important. Cheating destroys trust. Adultery puts the relationship into cardiac arrest, and just as anyone having a heart attack needs intervention, so do marriages who are recovering from an affair. There are no guarantees for a relationship’s future, but whether spouses decide to stay together or part ways, a marriage therapist can often guide that process.
2) Each spouse is trying to change the other: Each spouse should take responsibility for their own personal growth, but often, marriages get off track when spouses try to change each other. When this occur, spouses can begin to feel frustrated, disappointed, and shamed. The reality is, no spouse is perfect. All people can improve, but change has to come from within. Marriage counselors can often help spouses let go of trying to control each other and accept responsibility for their own personal growth.
3) You and your spouse never argue or disagree: Surely, this cannot be a problem, right? Wrong. Spouses should disagree. It shows a healthy individuality within the marriage. It shows that each spouse has the maturity to know their own thoughts and respect those who differ. When spouses always agree and never argue, it is a sign something may be off in the relationship. Spouses may have, at one time, disagreed but the tension escalated to personal attack, and they each grew weary. It may be a sign that one spouse is controlling the other and not allowing personal thoughts, opinions, or feelings. In either case, it is not a sign of health. Marriage therapists often work with spouses on how to disagree well.
4) You and your spouse argue or disagree all the time: Relationship experts have a metric called The Golden Ratio that says the happiest couples have five positive interaction for every one negative interaction. When The Golden Ratio is off kilter, it can feel as if spouses are fighting all the time because negative interactions have more power than positive ones. It is important for spouses to argue, but it is also important that they resolve the issue so that they can move forward. Marriage therapists often help spouses learn how to do just that.
Marriage Counseling at Thriveworks Miami—Making an Appointment
If you or your spouse are ready to meet with a marriage therapist, the professionals at Thriveworks Miami are ready to meet with you. You may have recognized something on the list of why others seek out therapy. You may be struggling with something completely different. Either way, you are not alone. When you contact our office, you may have your first appointment within 24 hours. Our scheduling specialists answer our phone and help our clients make their appointments. Weekend and evening sessions are offers. We also accept many forms of insurance. Let’s get started. Call Thriveworks Miami today for an appointment for marriage counseling.