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709 people sought infidelity counseling help in Massachusetts in the last year

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Starting Infidelity counseling

What is Infidelity counseling?

Infidelity counseling is a specialized therapeutic approach designed for couples grappling with the aftermath of one or more partner’s infidelity. It offers a nurturing and non-judgmental environment where both individuals can delve into the underlying reasons behind the breach of trust, openly express their feelings, and collaboratively strive to mend their relationship.The overarching objective of infidelity counseling is to either facilitate a path to reconciliation, should both partners desire it, or guide them through the process of separation or divorce with clarity and empathy.

How does Infidelity counseling work?

Infidelity counseling combines various therapeutic techniques, such as individual and couples therapy, cognitive-behavioral approaches for changing destructive thought patterns, communication skills training for conflict resolution, Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) to rebuild trust, narrative therapy to reframe relationship narratives, and mindfulness practices for managing intense emotions. These methods work together to foster self-awareness, emotional healing, and the reconstruction of trust, leading to a healthier, more resilient relationship.

Is Infidelity counseling conducted in person or online?

Infidelity counseling at Thriveworks Lexington, MA is conducted both in person and online by video. We encourage you to choose the option that works best for you.

How long does Infidelity counseling last?

The number of sessions needed for infidelity counseling can greatly vary based on the specific needs of the individuals or couples involved and the complexity of the issues being addressed. Thriveworks infidelity counseling in Lexington, MA typically includes multiple sessions spanning from several weeks to several months, with the exact number of sessions decided in consultation with the therapist, considering the progress made during therapy and the therapeutic goals.

Need more help deciding?

More likely than not, you recognize this song about how one woman reacted to adultery. Have you heard these lyrics?

“I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped-up four-wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seats
I took a Louisville slugger to both headlights
I slashed a hole in all four tires
Maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats”

Carrie Underwood belts out these passionate words, and you might even be able to sing along. “Before He Cheats” is one of country music’s most popular songs and for a good reason: it captures the intensity of infidelity. Even people who do not listen to country music like this song because it can be cathartic to sing about taking revenge on a cheater. However, healthier and more helpful reactions are available.

In the fallout from an affair, many people seek the help of a counselor as they try and find those healthier responses. Whether the marriage ends in divorce or whether the couple can reconcile, counseling has helped many people recover from infidelity. The adultery counselors at Thriveworks Counseling in Lexington, MA understand how adultery can leave deep wounds that need extensive treatment. They have journeyed with many couples toward relational healing, whether the marriage survives or not.

The Shades of Infidelity

The theory of cheating is simple: someone in a devoted relationship broke the rules and expectations for that relationship. Those rules may come in the form of marriage vows. They may be less formal but agreed-upon by both partners. Either way, the reality of infidelity is complicated, painful, and even traumatic. Counselors often classify affairs so that couples can comprehend what happened.

  • Sexual Affairs: When most people think of infidelity, they usually think of illicit sex and understandably so. Infidelity often involves sex with someone other than your spouse or partner. Adultery can involve one-night stands, pornography addictions, solicitations for sex, visits to strip clubs, and more.
  • Emotional Affairs: Not all affairs involve a sexual component. When partners form a bond outside of the marriage relationship that hinders intimacy within the relationship, they may be having an emotional affair. While they do not betray their spouse sexually, partners often lie, keep secrets, flirt, and fantasize when they conducts emotional liaisons. Emotional affairs are very different than close friendships. Good friends support their marriages whereas emotional affairs tear down the marriage relationship.
  • Emotional and Sexual Affairs: Infidelity may also blend emotional and sexual elements. Emotional affairs may turn sexual and vice versa.

A Framework for Infidelity: Working Through It in Counseling

When people are caught in their infidelity, they often give excuses for why they committed adultery. Rationalizations are rarely helpful to either spouse. Choosing to cheat is a painful choice, regardless of the reasons why.

Nonetheless, understanding the framework in which the infidelity happened can give the couple valuable information they need to make difficult decisions about their future. Understanding the root cause of the infidelity can determine the path toward healing.

Counselors speak about two frameworks in which infidelity can grow: a deficiency framework and a circumstantial framework.

1. Deficiency – People may pursue an illicit extramarital relationship because of a deficiency in themselves, in their spouse, or in their marriage/relationship. This is a very personal, internal reason to commit adultery, and the deficiency can be real or perceived.

What does recovery look like in the deficiency framework?

The spouse who committed adultery may need to pursue cognitive behavior therapy to help understand the thought patterns that led to their behavior. Therapy may help these spouses address inaccurate beliefs about themselves, their spouse, or their marriage and empower them to utilize healthy coping strategies.

2. Circumstantial – Certain contexts foster the development of illicit relationships, making the choice to commit adultery easier. One example of a circumstantial framework is the workplace. Many people meet the person they will conduct the affair with at their place of employment.

What does recovery look like in the circumstantial framework?

When an affair is conducted under certain circumstances, recovery may require boundaries and accountability. For example, a couple may want to reconcile after a spouse had a one-night stand while traveling. A Thriveworks in Lexington, MA therapist could help the couple form and agree upon accountability measures that may make one-night stands more difficult for the future, such as always traveling with a friend or business partner.

Of course, many affairs combine these frameworks, but a skilled therapist can help each couple find the path toward recovery that works for them, whether they pursue a divorce or choose to reconcile.

Schedule an Infidelity Counseling Appointment at Thriveworks in Lexington, MA

Is your devoted relationship struggling after infidelity? Know that the pain and chaos that comes in the wake of an affair is normal and so is reaching out for help. The counselors at Thriveworks in Lexington, VA understand and are ready to provide professional and compassionate care.

When you call our office, here are a few things we do to provide client-centered care.

  1. A scheduling specialist will answer your call (no voicemail or automated systems).
  2. If you need a weekend or evening appointment, we have them.
  3. We work with many insurance companies.
  4. Our fist-time clients often see their therapist within 24 hours of their call.

Are you ready to recover after infidelity? Call today to get started.

Pricing & insurance

Our therapists accept most major insurances. We accept 585+ insurance plans, and offer self-pay options, too.
Learn more about pricing for therapy and counseling services at Thriveworks.

Our Lexington therapists and counselors accept 26 insurance plans

  • Aetna

  • Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Massachusetts | BCBS

  • Blue Cross Blue Shield | Anthem (Blue Card)

  • Blue Cross Blue Shield of Massachusetts | BCBS Medicare Advantage (HMO | PPO)

  • Carelon

  • Cigna | Evernorth

  • Cigna | Evernorth EAP

  • Cigna | Evernorth Medicare Advantage

  • Compsych

  • Fallon Health

  • First Health Network

  • Humana Exchange

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Self-pay costs at Lexington
Talk therapy

Talk therapy

Includes individual, couples, child/ teen, & family therapy

First session

$1

Ongoing sessions

$1

Talk therapy

Psychiatry

Includes reducing symptoms with medication & management

First session

$1

Ongoing sessions

$1

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5.0 Thriveworks Lexington reviews are collected through Thriveworks.com.
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Sara is a dedicated, compassionate, organized, and kinds therapist. She will work with your schedule and your specific needs as to why you are in therapy. I have had the chance to work with her and love her dedication to this field.
Read more Sara is a dedicated, compassionate, organized, and kinds therapist. She will work with your schedule and your specific needs as to why you are in therapy. I have had the chance to work with her and love her dedication to this field.
Lexington Sep 2021
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Genevieve is a caring and nurturing therapist. She goes out of her way to make sure that she finds the resources her clients need.
Read more Genevieve is a caring and nurturing therapist. She goes out of her way to make sure that she finds the resources her clients need.
Lexington Jul 2020
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★★★★★
Genevieve is an outstanding counselor that always shows her clients compassion and empathy. She's well informed about area resources and has a lot of experience. She is committed to confidentiality and always follows through. With a good heart and the best intentions she provides amazing support to the families and clients she works with. I would highly recommend her!
Read more Genevieve is an outstanding counselor that always shows her clients compassion and empathy. She's well informed about area resources and has a lot of experience. She is committed to confidentiality and always follows through. With a good heart and the best intentions she provides amazing support to the families and clients she works with. I would highly recommend her!
Lexington Jul 2020
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★★★★★
I've met with Francesca at her previous practice, and she is far and above the absolute best. From a personal one on one basics she helped me immensely. I recommend her to anyone.
Read more I've met with Francesca at her previous practice, and she is far and above the absolute best. From a personal one on one basics she helped me immensely. I recommend her to anyone.
Lexington Nov 2019
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★★★★★
Sumio Shinohara has provided me with outstanding counseling, life coaching and consulting services. His information, desire to be of utmost help and advocacy have been extremely valuable.
Read more Sumio Shinohara has provided me with outstanding counseling, life coaching and consulting services. His information, desire to be of utmost help and advocacy have been extremely valuable.
Lexington Jan 2019
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★★★★★
I had a lovely experience meeting with Emily, I’m looking forward to attending another session soon!
Read more I had a lovely experience meeting with Emily, I’m looking forward to attending another session soon!
Lexington Apr 2018
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Where to find us

Getting here

Thriveworks Counseling & Psychiatry Lexington is located off of Massachusetts Ave. We share a building with other businesses, including Clay Oven and Limited to Endodontics. Our office is on the second floor. Across the street is a post office.

Phone number

(781) 386-0443

Languages spoken by MA providers

  • English
  • Spanish
  • Mandarin
  • Farsi
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