Marriage and Couples Counseling – Therapists in Fitchburg MA
Thriveworks Fitchburg MA works with a lot of couples. We’ve seen it all, from couples on the edge of divorce, couples dealing with infidelity, and even couples in which one or both partners are facing major depression. There’s nothing painful in quite the same way as a struggling romantic relationship. It makes the other areas of your life seem darker and less joyous. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
When Should We Seek Therapy?
Have you been frequently fighting with your spouse? If the fights are not frequent, are they particularly harsh or unkind? Do disagreements with your spouse and the resulting tension interfere with your daily activities? If you can answer yes to any of these questions, or if you just know things could be better, it’s time to think about couples counseling.
We most often see couples when they are in crisis, and that’s understandable. When couples start throwing around the D-word, one or the other of them often thinks of couples counseling as a last-ditch effort. While that’s a great time to call a counselor, the ideal time is much earlier—the earlier, the better. We see recently married couples looking to avoid the strife they so frequently see, couples debating major decisions such as a job or a move, and we see couples who are very much committed to the relationship but know they’re growing apart and want to rebuild the closeness they once shared. Maintenance is key in almost all areas of life, and marriage or long-term relationships are no different. They have a better chance at long-term health with a tune-up once in awhile.
How Can Couples Therapy Help Us?
The goal of counseling is the same in all areas: to help you regain balance. The goal of couples counseling is no different. The specific focus for your sessions will depend on the specific issues you are facing, how long you have been struggling, what phase of marriage you are in, and what your shared vision for the relationship is. “You’ll analyze both the good and bad parts of your relationship as you pinpoint and better understand the sources of your conflicts” (Mayo Clinic). In other words, you’ll figure out what works, what doesn’t, and how you can better manage the issues between you.
The reality is, no marriage is perfect. There will always be disagreements. What’s important is that you learn to manage those disagreements in a constructive manner. Typically, couples struggle with communication. The specific ways in which they struggle may be different, but almost everyone, whether or not they are in a relationship, would benefit from learning how to communicate more effectively. While we may speak the same language, our past experiences impact the way we interpret what is said to us. Therefore, you may say something to your partner you interpret as totally innocuous yet they take offense, leaving you surprised, hurt, and even angry. From here, this agreement can spiral out of control. A Thriveworks Fitchburg couples counselor can help you and your partner learn to speak each other’s language.
In addition to communication skills, your therapist may work with you to learn conflict management skills, time management skills, and more. Sometimes conflicts with our spouses actually stem from issues in our past that are impacting the way we respond to situations today. Going through the process of figuring out the root cause of your disagreements not only strengthens your marriage, but it can also bring you closer together through the mutual discovery and processing of past hurts, whether or not they were inflicted by the spouse.
Thriveworks Fitchburg MA Marriage and Couples
Thriveworks Fitchburg MA counselors know your marriage or long-term relationship is deeply important, and when it is struggling it’s hard to feel balanced in the other parts of your life. Our counselors are here to help. You deserve a successful, close, supportive romantic relationship—and you can have one. To get on the road to rebuilding your relationship, contact us. We don’t keep a waiting list, and we can usually get you scheduled within 24 hours of your initial call. You can thrive. We can help.
“Marriage Counseling: What You Can Expect.” Mayoclinic.org.