Birmingham Blended Family Counseling

Blended Family Therapy in Birmingham, MI

When Carol and Mike got married, they were a match made in heaven. She had three girls with blond hair, the youngest in curls. He had three boys—four men living together, but they were all alone… “they knew that it was much more than a hunch; That this group must somehow form a family.” Yes, The Brady Bunch is the iconic standard of the blended family. While Marcia and Greg had their tiffs, the Bradys made bringing two families together look easy. The only problem is that blending families is rarely that smooth. All blended families experience roadblocks and bumps on their journey toward being one, big, happy family. More and more, stepfamilies are navigating those roadblocks with guidance from a family therapist and blended family counseling.

“You have to take things slowly. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean that you’re going to automatically love their children.
All relationships take time to grow and develop. Be willing to give everyone the time and space they need. It will come.”
—Kelly LeFurgey

Time and space are two ingredients for a blended family to flourish. Without a doubt, bringing two families together can be a challenge, but without a doubt, it is worth the effort. With every challenge, there is also opportunity. Children and parents alike often learn to love in new and deeper ways. They may build up their resiliency. They often learn more about who they are and what they need. No one has to walk through the challenge alone. Mental health professionals have helped many families overcome these difficulties and come together.

Your blended family may be just starting on its journey or you may have been working on harmony for a while. In either case, know that Thriveworks Birmingham offers therapy for blended families. We understand the process of building a family, and we are ready to help.

What Does a Blended Family Look Like?

There is no formula for what a blended or step family can look like. No list could contain the different shapes and sizes families can take, but here are some examples of blended families:

  • Parents who are divorced and living in separate homes but sharing parenting duties of their children. No partners are involved in the children’s lives.
  • A remarried or re-coupled parent whose new partner steps into a parenting role in their child’s life (thus, the term step family) where the new partner does not have their own children.
  • Remarried or re-coupled parents who both have children from a previous relationship and both are stepping into parenting roles.
  • A remarried or re-coupled parent whose new partners does not take on a parenting role the child (children).

In 1969, The Brady Bunch first aired, and the divorce rate for first-time marriages was 30 percent. Today, that rate is 40 percent, and it rises exponentially for second and third time marriages. There are many, many blended families. In fact, the US Census Bureau says that 1300 new blended families are formed each day, and half of the 60 million children ages 13 and under are living in a blended family. If you are experiencing the growing pains of blending a family, you are not alone. Many others understand the challenges that face both the children and the adults in a stepfamily.

Blended Families: Common Challenges for the Kids
When a child’s home life is changing, even if those changes are for the better, children often feel stressed. Often, children are required to undergo the most amount of changes, but they have the least ability to control the situation. They may be grieving a parent’s divorce, break-up, or death. They may have to adjust to one set of rules in one home and another set of rules in another home. The resulting frustration, loss, and grief may lead to emotional and behavioral problems.

When a parent’s new partner takes an active role in parenting or when they have children of their own, children can be caught in confusing and unclear roles. Their birth order may have been disturbed, and they may no longer be the baby or the boss. Children often wonder if liking their new stepparent is a betrayal to their other parent. If the parent’s new partner is taking an active role in parenting, what is that role? If not, what will the relationship between the child and the partner look like? Without clarity, children can have difficulty adjusting to the blended family.

Blended Families: Common Challenges for the Adults
When adults come together as a couple and as a family, they also face many challenges. They have the marriage or partnership to establish, but they also must set the course for the whole family. If one of the spouses or partners had not previously been a parent, then parenting is a set of social skills that needs to be learned. If each partner brings their own children to the family, then they will need to decide upon a parenting style and navigate differences with former partners/spouses. Any one of these issues can cause great tension, but often, multiple challenges are in play at the same time.

Scheduling Counseling for Blended Families at Thriveworks Birmingham

If you are blending two families together, consider reaching out to help from Thriveworks Birmingham. When you contact our office, your first appointment may be within 24 hours. We accept many different forms of insurance, and we offer weekend evening sessions. Let’s work together. Call today.

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Overall Rating: 5★★★★★ based on 14 5 1 14 reviews. See all reviews
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Great therapist

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Andrea Golden is easy to talk with and goes or of her way to give a balanced perspective.
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Lindsey is great!

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I had the honor of working with Lindsey at a previous job and she is one of the sweetest individuals I have ever met. Lindsey listens intently to everyone and is open to people from all walks of life. Lindsey is knowledgeable and passionate about advocating for mental health. This makes Lindsey a great leader and counselor. I would refer anyone I know to Lindsey!
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I’ve known Tammy Wagstaff for quite some time. She was very helpful to me for finding my strengths and improving my working and personal relationships. She is a good listener and is able to “see” my point of view . I would highly recommend this counselor
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Review for Sandra Quigley

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*****I have been a patient of Sandra's for nearly 2 years now and I really can't say enough good things about her work with me. She is a true Christian counselor and that was exactly the perspective I needed to guide me down the path God was trying to lead me. She definitely strengthened my faith and made many of life's big problems seem like small speed bumps when looking at the big picture!! I highly recommend Sandra Q. if you are looking for the someone who honestly cares about you and the journey you are on. Remember, there’s ultimately only one way to peace in your life, and that’s to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus!! *****
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I really enjoyed meeting Melissa.

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I really enjoyed meeting Melissa. It was easy to converse with her. She was very professional but completely relatable too. I would definitely recommend Thriveworks!
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Moving with meaning

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Much Gratitude Christine, You're helping me become the best version of myself. The self I've always pictured the vision is clear and I am ready to LIVE!!
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I wouldn’t recommend it – one of the worst therapists I’ve ever seen

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The doctor (PhD) I saw for therapy decided, on the second session, to pay more attention to doing things on his phone than to listening to me. He thought he was hiding what he was doing behind his portfolio, but he was not. I could see the reflection of what he was doing, and he was looking down more than up. He was pretending to listen but didn't do a very good job of that, because when I stopped talking, he would incorrectly try to restate what I said or, make a comment on what I said which turned out to not be relevant because it was clear he wasn't listening. He did not seem to want to be there. It was a horrible experience. I called the next day to complain to the lady on the phone, and got a sincere "I'm sorry" and that's it. When I got the bill (very expensive, by the way), I have been attempting to call the office to pay it over the phone but I keep getting told that the people that do the billing are currently busy and that I should call back. It should not be that difficult for someone to take a credit card number and apply it to my bill, especially a bill I shouldn't have to pay due to horrible service. I hope the other therapists at Thriveworks are better than the one I selected, and actually have interest in helping their patients.
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Couldn’t be happier

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We couldn't be happier with the staff and help we have received for our family at the practice. Christine has been particularly helpful in assisting myself and our family get back on track.
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Comfortable

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Comfortable, private space for anyone and everyone in the family to get the personal time and space they need.
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She helped change my life

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Dear Marcy, I can't thank you enough for recommending your therapist Dawn Gaden to me. She has helped change my life. I have always struggled with feeling misunderstood. But recently I fell into a deep depression; beyond something I could resolve myself. Therapy was required for my recovery. Since childhood I have been weary of therapists because I would talk through my problems but I didn't get tools and strategies to handle my problems better. Dawn has changed that. For the first time I leave each appointment not only relieved from having talked my issues through, but more importantly with tools to help me move forward. She has introduced me to methods I had considered silly, but now I could live without. I am proud of the person I am becoming and the journey I have chosen to take. Thank you for all you have done to change my life and my family's future.
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She Inspires Hope

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I found Sandra Quigley on the web while searching for a Christian counselor. I was having a lot of anxiety about making a career change. She not only helped through the anxieties, she also helped me with concerns in my personal life. Sandra's non-judgmental and compassionate approach, made me feel comfortable and hopeful.
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Karen Waldrop

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Ms. Waldrop is an active listener and excellent problem solver. She offers practical resolutions to everyday problems for those suffering with depression, life changes, anxiety, and stress. She provides empathy in a quiet manner with a gentle sense of humor. She is capable to offer a variety of tools for those seeking positive and lasting life changes. If you are seeking someone with whom you can discuss your deepest personal issues in a confidential manner I would highly recommend Ms. Karen Waldrop as your therapist.
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Everything I needed

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I found Sandra Quigley in the back of a magazine (Psychology Today). I desperately needed someone to talk to. Newly retired with plenty of time to allow my mind to take over my life, I felt constantly anxious and very out of sorts. Enter Sandra Quigley- compassionate, non-judgmental, kind, and gentle. She is everything that I needed to heal myself. I had never talked to a therapist before, so this was a new venture. It was very important to me that I find someone with whom I could feel comfortable. Right away, I felt comfortable. I did have assignments; I never was prescribed a single drug. She went out of her way to help me specifically with my issues- finding me articles, books, telling stories. I never felt uncomfortable; I felt and still feel that my time with Sandra is valuable. With Sandra’s help, I have unearthed a much calmer, happier, together self that now wakes up each morning looking forward to the day ahead. We all have our baggage- I never once realized that I could unpack that bag and put my crap away. I now get to walk through life so much lighter!!
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So helpful!

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I really love the helpful and peaceful approach at Thriveworks. I have known Marcy for a long time and her ability to work through tough spots and discuss personalities makes her a lot of fun for me. Time flies when we chat and that is a good thing for a guy like me who is always worried about time. I also love Dawn Gadens video blogs! Wow...so insightful and easy to access. I don't see Dawn in counseling but if she is that good on video I have to believe she is great in person. Give a shot...I bet you will love them.
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    Beverly Hills, MI 48025

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