Couples Counseling and Marriage Therapy in Pomona, CA
There are a variety of issues that prompt partners in relationships to choose couples counseling and marriage therapy. Dealing with a crisis or a conflict that prevents them from sharing communication and intimacy is often helped by couples counseling, where they can find avenues to explore and work on their issues.
Couples counseling and marriage therapy at Thriveworks in Pomona CA has helped many couples with various issues. Qualified therapists help their clients learn new insights, cognitive and emotional skills, as well as become aware of new habits that can make a positive difference on their lives and relationships. Thriveworks’ therapists can help couples overcome crises and guide them toward better relationships. The direction to a healthy relationship is here.
Relationships and marriages undergo all types of conflicts and, in some cases, there may be issues that feel immense. Each issue—great and small–can be explored with the help of a professional therapist who can steer couples through the rough roads or the problems that appear to be huge barriers. Some of the most common issues couples experience are:
Relationship is Not a Priority
Life can be hectic with people juggling work, family, health and other demands. It can be easy for a relationship to become lost among all of the other responsibilities life brings. While relationships experience ebbs and flows, cycles of change and growth, it is important to realize that healthy relationships are a work in progress. Each partner should take responsibility for the health and maintenance of a relationship, because failing to do so or chronically not making it a priority may place the relationship at a higher risk for problems.
Irresponsible, Immature and Unpredictable Behavior
A partner may have trouble with basic life skills, such as taking care of themselves, managing finances, holding onto a job and making plans for the future. Crises crop up in this individual’s life daily, taking a lot of time and energy. These people may still be working at growing up, and it is often hard to rely on them for just about anything. This leaves the other partner with little time left for their own issues.
Family and Friends Don’t Like a Partner
Other people—trusted family members and close friends–seem to see something “off” about a partner. When friends and family know a person for a long time, they are aware of many things that are best for that individual. It is important to allow them a chance to explain exactly what it is they do not like about the partner instead of shutting them out. While in in the throes of a new relationship or a long-time alliance, it is difficult to hear criticism about a “beloved” partner. However, others may see things more clearly from an outsider’s perspective, and it would be wise to hear these people out.
Honesty is always the best policy in a relationship, and most people have a moral code that tells them keeping secrets is the same as lying. Keeping major secrets is a form of deceit, and the more time that passes the harder it is to confess. In addition, being deceitful breeds mistrust, and once a partner loses that trust it is hard to regain. It is especially hard for a partner who has, in the past, been betrayed by a parent or former romantic partner or spouse. People are hurt by lies and grow apart, and it is hard to feel emotionally connected to someone when they are caught in a lie or “found out” with a secret. Trust is about so much more than finding a partner in a truth or lie. It is believing a partner truly has the best interest of the other person and the relationship at heart.
These examples are only a few of the many issues couples may experience in their marriage. Whether couples undergo a few ups and downs or a seemingly unsurmountable issue, there is help. Schedule a session with Thriveworks Pomona CA to find out more about how couples counseling and marriage therapy can help you get on the road to a healthier, stronger relationship.