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Starting Codependency therapy

What is codependency therapy?

Codependency therapy with our Thriveworks Williamsville therapists helps people reduce and overcome codependent habits, which involve sacrificing one’s own needs to meet the needs of others (usually those closest to them). It helps to improve one’s well-being as well as the health of their relationships.

How does codependency therapy work?

Codependency therapy works by helping the individual recognize, understand, and accept codependent patterns — including why and how they might’ve developed. In addition, it focuses on helping the individual to kick these tendencies and build more balanced relationships that allow them to support others without neglecting their own needs.

Is codependency therapy conducted in person or online?

Codependency therapy at Thriveworks is conducted both in person and via Online therapy. We encourage you to choose the option that works best for you.

How long does codependency therapy last?

Codependent counseling can last for a few weeks, months, or longer. It depends on the exact needs of the client as well as the severity of their codependent challenges and other needs or preferences.

Need more help deciding?

The dictionary defines love as “an intense feeling of affection.” But if we asked a hundred different people their personal definition, we would probably get a hundred different responses. Things like, “my child’s laugh,” or “the light in my mother’s face,” or “a teasing joke from my significant other,” would probably come up. Love is an essential part of human existence that can foster individual fulfillment and growth.

But what if that love turned from being nurturing to detrimental? What if relationships became an outlet for the need to be needed?

Codependency is often a confusing and harmful emotional experience. There’s no mistaking the love and care people who struggle with codependency give in their relationships. They’re selfless, nurturing, and kind people.  But like everything, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. When selflessness becomes complete denial of personal needs and constant nurturing leaves no room for growth, love can become dangerous.

Staying in a codependent relationship is addictive and comforting. It can be hard to recognize the toxicity in a relationship that you hold dearly and even harder to take the steps to fix it. The counselors at Thriveworks in Buffalo, NY are here for you every step of the way.

What Is Codependency?

Codependency is frequently misunderstood. For one, it does not always involve a romantic relationship. Any relationship can foster codependency. The bond between a parent and child or two friends can develop into codependency just as easily as a romantic bond.

People who struggle with codependency have a need to be needed. They find so much satisfaction and fulfillment from serving others that it becomes an addiction. The problem is it is impossible to pour from an empty cup. That is exactly what codependency drives people to do. Even though they haven’t taken care of themselves, they still give and give and give. This is detrimental to both members. On one side, basic needs aren’t fulfilled and mental or physical health problems are being pushed away. On the other side, the member who is being taken care of doesn’t get the chance to learn how to take care of themselves.

Imagine a codependent mother-son relationship. Maybe the son drops out of college and comes back to live with his mom. She opens up her home, eager to help her son get back on his feet. Only the mom continuously provides for the son and doesn’t push him to build his own life. There is no growth or learning in this situation. Not only is the mom neglecting her own health and wellbeing, she is hindering the son from creating the best life he can. This is only one example of how codependency can turn a very positive and fulfilling relationship into one that destroys. The licensed counselors and therapists at Thriveworks in Buffalo, NY can help loved ones recognize how they can achieve emotional safety and confidence in relationships.

What Are the Signs of Codependency?

Realizing there is a problem is always the first step, and often the hardest. It takes bravery and insight to realize a relationship is damaging. The licensed counselors at Thriveworks in Buffalo, NY understand the work you’ve put in to make it this far, and we want to help you continue to move forward.

If you think you are struggling with codependency, but aren’t sure, look for these telltale signs. A codependent person might:

  • Have a continuous fear of being abandoned or alone.
  • Have a need for approval and recognition.
  • Continuously give in a relationship even at the expense of your personal comfort or health.
  • Do anything to hold onto a dying relationship, even things you normally would never do.
  • Feel undue responsibility for other’s actions.
  • Have difficulty making decisions, identifying feelings, or communicating personal needs.
  • Have excessive doubt in your ability to be who you want to be or do what you want to do.
  • Feel unfounded anxiety about the health of another person.
  • Struggle to say “no” to a request.

If that sounds like you or someone you love, know that you aren’t alone! The counselors at Thriveworks in Buffalo, NY are trained to help you overcome the challenges of codependency.

Get Help with Codependency at Thriveworks in Buffalo, NY

Our highly qualified, fully licensed counselors and therapists have great experience walking people through the necessary healing to break from a codependent relationship. Our care is individualized and flexible, but we have some tried and true techniques. Together, we can learn how to:

  • Recognize and accept personal emotions and thoughts for what they are.
  • Develop new relationship skills (like how to say no, or how to let someone try and fail on their own).
  • Prioritize your own financial, physical, and mental needs.
  • Value your true self above what you do for others.
  • Communicate your needs better.

Thriveworks providers accept most major forms of health insurance coverage. They can also meet with new clients quickly–usually within 24-48 hours. Full sessions can take place in-person at the modern office in Buffalo, or online.

It is important to find your true self and realize the worth you have without attaching yourself to another person. This is a hard and painful experience, but if you are willing, the mental health providers at Thriveworks in Buffalo, NY are here to walk you through it. Freedom and self-sustainability are possible, and our counselors are excited to help you get there.

Pricing & insurance

Our therapists accept most major insurances. We accept 585+ insurance plans, and offer self-pay options, too.
Learn more about pricing for therapy and counseling services at Thriveworks.

Our Williamsville therapists and counselors accept 18 insurance plans

  • Aetna

  • Cigna | Evernorth

  • Cigna | Evernorth EAP

  • Cigna | Evernorth Medicare Advantage

  • Compsych

  • First Health Network

  • Highmark Blue Cross Blue Shield of Western New York

  • Humana Exchange

  • Humana HMO/POS

  • Humana PPO | EPO | HDHP

  • JP Farley Corporation

  • Martin's Point (US Family Health Plans)

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Self-pay costs at Williamsville
Talk therapy

Talk therapy

Includes individual, couples, child/ teen, & family therapy

First session

$1

Ongoing sessions

$1

Talk therapy

Psychiatry

Includes reducing symptoms with medication & management

First session

$1

Ongoing sessions

$1

Hear from our clients

5.0 Thriveworks Williamsville reviews are collected through Thriveworks.com.
★★★★★
Jennifer balances her counseling expertly between talking/educating and listening. I already trust her after just a handful of sessions thanks to her objective feedback and concern. If you need a skilled mental health professional to help guide you thru life’s challenges, you will not be disappointed in Jennifer.
Read more Jennifer balances her counseling expertly between talking/educating and listening. I already trust her after just a handful of sessions thanks to her objective feedback and concern. If you need a skilled mental health professional to help guide you thru life’s challenges, you will not be disappointed in Jennifer.
Buffalo Sep 2020
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★★★★★
Wendy has been seeing my wife and I for almost two and half years. Her insights into how we both viewed our marriage so differently ultimately helped us both see that we are not the right people for one another. We have unfortunately decided that divorce was the right path forward for us as individuals but counseling made it a healthy, productive journey instead of letting things just fall apart at home. She is now my personal therapist helping me deal with the loss of my marriage. I don’t just appreciate our sessions, but I look forward to them. I take notes and I learn a lot about myself and my growth every time we meet.
Read more Wendy has been seeing my wife and I for almost two and half years. Her insights into how we both viewed our marriage so differently ultimately helped us both see that we are not the right people for one another. We have unfortunately decided that divorce was the right path forward for us as individuals but counseling made it a healthy, productive journey instead of letting things just fall apart at home. She is now my personal therapist helping me deal with the loss of my marriage. I don’t just appreciate our sessions, but I look forward to them. I take notes and I learn a lot about myself and my growth every time we meet.
Buffalo Oct 2019
Review left on Thriveworks.com
★★★★★
I was looking for a new therapist for my teenage son and came across their website. I called to see how long of a waitlist they had, expecting there to be a waitlist. ThriveWorks got my son in within 24 hours! Incredible! My son found a great therapist at ThriveWorks, Mr.Stephen Obrien. This guy has a unique approach and it works for my son. My son actually WANTS to go to therapy. He's getting more out of his sessions than either of us could have hoped for. We found this place at the right time and we couldn't be happier.
Read more I was looking for a new therapist for my teenage son and came across their website. I called to see how long of a waitlist they had, expecting there to be a waitlist. ThriveWorks got my son in within 24 hours! Incredible! My son found a great therapist at ThriveWorks, Mr.Stephen Obrien. This guy has a unique approach and it works for my son. My son actually WANTS to go to therapy. He's getting more out of his sessions than either of us could have hoped for. We found this place at the right time and we couldn't be happier.
Buffalo Oct 2019
Review left on Thriveworks.com
★★★★★
Had circumstances that made me very unhappy. My therapist Cheryl gave me great coping skills. The appointments were easy to get and the office was bright and inviting. I would recommend Thriveworks to my friends and family.
Read more Had circumstances that made me very unhappy. My therapist Cheryl gave me great coping skills. The appointments were easy to get and the office was bright and inviting. I would recommend Thriveworks to my friends and family.
Buffalo Feb 2018
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Where to find us

Getting here

Thriveworks Counseling & Therapy Williamsville is located at 1120 Youngs Rd Suite 300, Williamsville, New York 14221, near Millard Fillmore Suburban Hospital.

Phone number

(716) 453-2877

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