Fathers often lose control of their anger and use cruel measures of discipline on their teens. They can benefit from leading with patience and understanding, instead.

A Rochester study observed that when conflict arose, fathers often lashed out in anger at their kids. They assumed their teen was being intentionally difficult, which led to harsh disciplinary actions.

The team says it’s important for parents to navigate conflicts with patience as their teens test new boundaries.

When parents do become frustrated, they should “set-shift” or consider why a teen may be behaving a certain way. Factors to consider include the child’s age and development.

This study says patience and understanding will help fathers better resolve conflicts and improve family dynamics.