Allow me to paint you a picture: There’s a wonderful, selfless woman who does everything in her power to help others. She is rich, famous, and free to spend her time and money on anything her heart desires — but she chooses to give back. This, ladies and gents, is Ellen DeGeneres, a true face of altruism.

Altruism is characterized by selflessness and concern for the well-being of others. Those who possess this quality typically put others first and truly care about the people around them, whether they have a personal tie to them or not. Let’s dive into a few additional traits of altruism below.

5 Characteristics of Altruism, the Generosity Trait

There are a few tell-tale signs that someone possesses this trait. If the following descriptions sound like yourself, chances are you’re altruistic:

1) You put others first.

You give your snack to your coworker even though you’re hungry, too. You give up your spot in the movie theater for the group that needs an extra seat. You use your lunch break to help your friend with her resume. Whatever the case is, you put others first — not because you think you’re less deserving, but simply because you’re innately thoughtful and prefer to prioritize the wellbeing of others.

2) You think about how your actions will affect others.

For example, you get super excited when you find out that your favorite fast food restaurant now has an app that allows you to place your order ahead of time and skip the line. But then you realize how annoying that is for the people who waited their turn in line — their own orders will get held up because the employees will have to prioritize your order. You decide against using the app and wait in line with everyone else, simply because you don’t want to inconvenience anyone.

3) You feel good after helping someone.

Altruistic individuals don’t despise how generous they are or wish that they catered more to themselves — instead, they embrace their selflessness and they love how it makes them feel. These people like to do good for others.

4) You’re proactive.

You don’t wait for the perfect opportunities to be selfless and help — you’re proactive. You volunteer in your community, you donate money to current relief efforts, and you offer your help before someone asks for it.

5) You possess a healthy level of self-confidence.

You are so sure in your morals and beliefs that you very rarely question yourself or experience self-doubt. You know that you’re truly making the lives of those around you better— and let’s not forget, it makes your life better as well.

Why Are Some People More Altruistic Than Others?

We can’t all be Ellen DeGeneres. In fact, some of us are pretty far off from being like this do-gooder. Why is that? While researchers aren’t exactly sure, there is evidence that suggests our brain functions influence how altruistic and selfless we may be, according to Walden University.

A recent study conducted at Georgetown University found that people who demonstrate strong altruism actually have a more active (and sometimes larger) right amygdala, which is a part of the brain essential to our feeling and perceiving emotions, especially fear. This finding hints at a possible link between altruism and the neurologically-driven capacity to observe fear and empathize with this fear in others. Psychology researcher Abigail Marsh explains this concept further in her TED Talk on altruism:

How Can I Be More Altruistic?

While there is evidence that altruism is linked to brain functioning and greater compassion, there are ways for individuals who don’t innately possess the quality to adapt more selfless behavior. Just follow these three simple steps:

1) Spread the love.

As we previously touched on, altruism is characterized by helping others. So start by simply spreading the love. Be positive, be kind, and be helpful — it goes a long way.

2) Serve your community.

Do you know what’s going on in your community? If you don’t, find out and then get involved. Volunteer at the animal shelter, help raise money for the local high school. It’s simple — figure out where your efforts are needed and then lend them.

3) Reap and enjoy the benefits.

When you do something good for someone, it’s natural to feel good about yourself. So don’t push these feelings away, accept and enjoy them! This will make you feel more inclined to continue your efforts. Besides, feeling a rush of joy upon helping another is characteristic of altruism — it’s a good thing, not a sign of selfishness.

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