How to Forgive Yourself: Letting Go of Past Regrets

How to Forgive Yourself? Let it go. Forget about it. Move on.

Forgive yourself. It’s easy to say, but so much harder to actually do! We all mess up sometimes, whether it’s lashing out at a friend, engaging in a self-destructive behavior, or cutting corners at work. And with those mistakes often come overwhelming feelings of guilt. Shame. Self-condemnation. Humiliation. Counselors and life coaches have found that these emotions can lead to stress, depression, anxiety disorders, and even heart disease if ignored.[1] Not exactly the formula for a happy life! Forgive. We’ve all heard the word before, but what does it mean? And why is it so important? Dr. Frederic Luskin at Stanford University reports that “learning to forgive helps people hurt less, experience less anger, feel less stress and suffer less depression. People who learn to forgive report significantly fewer symptoms of stress such as backache, muscle tension, dizziness, headaches and upset stomachs. In addition people report improvements in appetite, sleep patterns, energy and general well being.”[2] If self-forgiveness is such a good thing, why is it so hard? Too often, we punish ourselves for past mistakes, as if we could somehow “make up” the wrong that we’ve done. We walk through each day feeling less-than. We call ourselves losers. No good. We live chained to our past, holding on to hurts and grudges. And though no one else may know about our secret pain, the negative emotions we feel gnaw away at our joy and satisfaction in life. Counselors and life coaches report that the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Not the friend who backstabbed you. Or the dad that wasn’t there for you. Or even the ex who broke your heart. Why? Because you know yourself and you live with yourself every day. Go figure. If you feel stuck in the rut of your past failures, try these tips for embracing forgiveness:

    • Talk about it.

When it comes to the past, silence can be deadly. So stop pretending. Free yourself from the bondage of holding it all in. Talk about what’s tearing you apart inside. Express the emotions you feel to a counselor, mentor, or friend you can trust. Forgiveness starts with being honest and vulnerable about who you are…the good and the bad. So say what you need to say.

    • Be honest with yourself.

“If I just pretend it never happened, maybe it will all go away,” we tend to think. Sounds nice…but not true. Choose to break out of denial. Be honest about how you’ve messed up and the consequences of your behavior. Journal out the specific behaviors and actions that are causing you angst.

    • Accept it for what it is.

As an imperfect person, you will make mistakes in life. Face it. You will hurt people sometimes. Youwill have regrets. It’s part of living in a less-than-perfect world. But you have a choice. Either your past will keep you in a rut of guilt and shame…or you will accept it for what it is and experience the freedom to move on and enjoy the now. Self-acceptance is critical to your emotional health…so don’t miss out.

    • Let go.

Don’t hold on to guilt. You don’t need to justify your past actions or try to prove yourself. Letting go of the past means burying it and giving up your right to engage in self-condemnation. Forgiveness is a choice, but also a process. It’s choosing to stop hating yourself and cutting yourself down, but instead, seeing yourself as a valuable human being. One of the first steps of letting go, is to just get it out there. Please feel free to use the form below to let it go, or apologize for something that has been on your chest for years. You can use an anonymous name (and the email will NEVER be shown).  Your post will be added to the wall below. It’s okay. You can let go.

You can let go… Here

Develop realistic expectations.Evaluate the expectations you (and others) set for you. Are they healthy? Or unrealistic? If you find yourself never being able to measure up—no matter how hard you try—you may just need to change a few things in your approach to life. Healthy expectations are achievable and fulfilling, not draining and overwhelming. Forgiving yourself is tough. It means striking a deal with yourself…

  • to let the past be past and live in the present
  • to stop beating yourself up about something that happened two or five or ten years ago
  • to banish guilt and shame from controlling your thoughts and behaviors
  • to accept and respect yourself as you are…in spite of your screw-ups

Counselors and life coaches tell us that “to forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”[3] Tired of living as a prisoner?


Notes: [1]Dr. Frederick Luskin, Research from Standford University, learningtoforgive.com/ [2]Ibid. [3]Lewis B. Smedes Interested in scheduling an appointment for counseling? Or maybe you just have some questions? We’d love to hear from you. As always, if you need to speak to a counselor, give us a call and we can offer you a free 10 minute phone consultation (1-855-2-THRIVE).

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  1. Bob says

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  2. Chelsea says

    I wish to let go my behavior after a fling I had with a man who basically slept with me, then never told me his feelings changed and wanted to remain friends. I felt used and taken advantage of. I told a bunch of people that I hated him which was very embarrassing. I tired to act like I didnt care but it was rather obvious that I was very angry. I know he knows I still care, and it bothers me I wish I didnt care. Why? Because I know he doesnt give a shit about me, and I wish I didnt give a shit about him.

  3. markus aries leo says

    Every day I wake up, I struggle to see the reason to get up. I’ve blown every opportunity I’ve ever been given or that I’ve worked for ether through self-destructive behaviour or simply not trying or caring enough. I’ve stolen from people, strangers and family I’ve hurt people physically and mentally, people close to me and total strangers. I resented the one person I care about most for leaving me, even though she had no choice I broke my father’s hart and believe I was the reason he became an alcoholic.

    I’m sure there’s many more I’ve forgotten but I’m having trouble getting them out I’ve never spoken to anyone about any of this well at least not truthfully. All in all I never say how I’m feeling or talked about my feelings (this is kind of going to be all over the place so I’m sorry If it doesn’t make any sense)

    I’m male, in my mid 20′s, unemployed and I smoke pot every day, I have anger issues ( I had them before I started smoking marijuana) and I can’t seem to be able to sleep much If I do it at like 3 or 4 in the morning if not then maybe not for a couple of days.
    I’ve been smoking pot everyday for the last 2yrs maybe 3 I’m not sure it’s all kind of a blur but I don’t want to stop because when I do I can’t mind from constantly running and replying everything things I screwed up, thing that could have been and having to face myself It kind of acts like a blockade stopping the part of myself that wants to tear me apart, it keeps the anger issues at bay.
    Anger issues I’ve had them for as long as I can remember.
    The person I resented is my mother, I’m not upset with her anymore but I use to be. My mother died when I was young the only things I have that to remind me of her is stories I’ve heard from other people. I think I have one memory of her but to be honest I know that it’s a dream. I hated her at one point because I couldn’t understand why she left. I still don’t know how I came to that conclusion I know she didn’t want to die. Maybe it was because I felt cheated in some way or another my child hood memories are filled with jealousy of my friends I wanted desperately what they had with their mothers, it made me so angry and I dint know what to do with it

  4. Michael Morrison says

    My regret of cheating on my girlfriend. I was so stupid to ever hurt her. She is the best thing in my life and I let her down so badly.

  5. Ella says

    I want to let go of my shame for my sexual past. Im 23 today, and still not over my failed first love relationship 4 years ago. Since the heart break, i slept with 9 guys. Some one night stands, others for a few months; the sex and warm feelings were temporary.

    Although today ive changed and am now more nun like, im left with the baggge of trying to forgive myself of such a past i believe is shameful, and that society shames too. Im embarrased of the plethora of cheap and superficial sexual encounters i had, and lie to friends who ask me about my past. I want to forgive and its difficult. I kniw i didnt kill or steal, yet im stuck with self shame every day. I feel like my past is a dark shadow that follows me everywhere. Thank you for reading.

  6. Bob says

    I have let my father down with decisions that I have made in my life. I have to let this go. I am a stronger person now and I am still learning.

  7. Daniel says

    I performed oral sex on my best friend when he was drunk. I don’t know how much he remembered. We grew up together and he was like a brother to me. We hung out several times after this, and we were even drunk together in hotel rooms again with nothing like this ever happening again. About three or four years after the night of my mistake, he took his own life. I know that I let him down as a friend. I have to let this go, because I have a wife and kid now that I have to be strong for and I am still very young. I pray for forgiveness constantly and I make an effort to visit with his parents. I never wanted to hurt him. It felt like harmless college experimenting at the time, but now I feel like I’ve contributed to his death. I want so badly to ask for his forgiveness, but I can’t and I never will be able to. I know that I am a piece of shit for having done this. However, I want to go back to being able to enjoy life again.

  8. Wesam says

    I want to let go of the regret i have for what i emotionally did last night. Although i was glad that i let some things off my chest, i acted emotionally and want to forgive myself for this. I let it go.

  9. Me-the real Me says

    I want to let go of self-doubt, feeling unloveable, incompatible and depressed. I want to let go of my fear and anxiety and the shame of being arrested for a fight that was contrary to my nice nature. I want to let go addictive thoughts and behaviors and alcohol, which has been something that eventually makes me lose control and say negative stuff. I just want to accept myself and feel secure and healthy and happy and inspired while accepting and loving my mom and dad as I still have many ambitions to fulfill at age 30. I just want to let go of my bad habits and live in the present moment where so much can be accomplished with focus and likewise so much enjoyment can take place.

  10. CLK says

    I have a longstanding problem with controlling anger. I was mean to a small child at a public place. I was not correct in the reason I was mean to him. I have no way of apologizing to the child. I reacted with rage towards something I perceived he did to me. He was not involved with the thing I thought he did. Many people were aware of my poor behavior. Many people were staring at me about what I said to him. The thing I am most mad at myself for is that this is a pattern. I am not learning from my past misteakes, because I continually do things like this. I have to take a Xanax if I know I’m going to be around people because I need something to help control my behavior. The majority of my outbursts are during PMS. As I approach menopause, I am petrified at this all becoming much worse with even less control. I feel terrible that I have to rely on medication to be around other humans. Medication only seems to take the edge off of things. My family deserves better. My husband deserves a nicer wife. My kids deserve a nicer mom. I have a public persona as a nice person. I am so embarassed of my behavior. No one else around me seems to be such a hot head – certainly not women. I rationalize my behavior to make myself feel better/justify my behavior. I cannot justify this latest incident that happened. I’m having trouble sleeping over this. I need to find a way to forgive myself for this. Shortly after this happened, I had an opportunity to cool down and apoligize to the child and his parent. I chose not to. I rationalized that my approaching them would be too embarassing and could potentially make the matter worse. I am just so sick of making the same mistakes over and over again. I want to change so much. I have chosen not to change, over and over. I feel like a terrible person. I have spoken to a close friend over this. Of course, when I spoke with her about it, I somewhat sugar coated my behavior to make my actions look more justified.

  11. MA says

    I had sex with a guy at 16 whom I did not love and did not want. It was out of marriage which is perhaps what bothers me most. I haven’t told anyone about it because I regret it so deeply and I don’t want anyone thinking ill of me. I didn’t want to do this but I wanted to make him happy. I can’t stand myself sometimes. It’s been about 9 months since this happened and I’m still feeling guilty. A few weeks after this happened I was raped. I started to not care what I did or what people did to me. I drank a lot. A LOT. To forget. My actions were not very becoming of who I want to be. I have anxiety because of the rape instance but I can more easily let that go because I know I had no choice in the matter. But the other..I had more of a choice in. I told him I didn’t want to but eventually caved because I knew he wanted it. I could have not done it though. It’s troubling that I am just now allowing myself to process everything. A lot of it I don’t even rebember. I just feel this overbearing guilt. I am now with a guy who so perfect. I have told him about the R word incident but not the other. He was very understanding about the rape issue but I’m not sure how he would react to the other. I am a completely different person now and I like who I have turned into but the weight of my past is really killing me. I need to tell my boyfriend because it’s the only way we can have an honest healthy and Godly relationship. We both hold our Christian values very highly. So I know I will have to tell him soon. I’m just afraid to. And I’m not sure how to process this guilt. I wish it had never happened. But I suppose I have to let it go.

  12. John says

    Years ago I took a job at a major company as the salary was good and the career prospects were good (so I thoughts). However, I soon realized that certain aspects of the business I was involved in was somewhat “shady” and downright immoral (at least to my standards). I didnt realize that at the time, and I quit after five months as I couldnt sleep at night working there. Still, six years later, I still feel shame and guilt for what I may have contributed to while working there.

  13. angela says

    I know that i have sinned and my sins have separated me from you. Aim truly sorry. I want to turn away from my past sinful life. Please forgive me. I want to receive all that Jesus Christ has me as my savior. Your word says, ” Whosever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved ” Aim calling you, Lord Jesus to be saved from my sins. I believe and confess that you, Lord Jesus Christ died for my sins, was buried, and from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures. I prayer and ask, Jesus Christ to come into my heart and be Lord over my life. Thank- You that Aim born again by your Spirit and I can now see and enter the kingdom of God. Thank- you for giving me eternal lite. I receive my salvation and all of its benefits right now. Lord, Thank- you for saving me this day. In Jesus’ Name I pray. Amen

  14. angela says

    There is no one who really cares about me, who will be available to help me and whom, I can fall back on; This one resonates, but almost nothing else in that list does. I not know what part of people like that to me bad things. I just from away to people not good for me friends.

  15. angela says

    I know what it’s like to hurt so much you’re not sure you can stand it any longer. And there have been times when I didn’t understand how God could allow me to go through some of the things I’ve been through. My father sexually abused me & stepmother abuse on me and pick on me deaf beat me from the time I was about 9 years until I left home at 18, move live with Uncle’s John Wright since doing fine great, but my father not good not teach on me nothing else because he was use dunk too much plus that why how I without my grandma gone in the heaven free and I miss her so much and she so good care of me grow up since until 9 year old she was pass ways. Real my mom left me I was 6 weeks older year. Shame on my mom and my dad too my gran pap shame on wrong to me thing stuff hurt my feeling break my heart. I feel cold heart change my way. No body love me like me Jesus’s Christ. I never forget about past bad in my life sinner… Not my fault, it’s from family fault hurt me in my life. My father is wrong lair to me so much; his action wired running call something stuff bad sound. I feeling not love him anymore, but I did trying be nice to him but we not forward together that cold. I just left dad once that it. I’m not afraid of my father and my mom, stepmother, stepsister, stepbrother no body scare. I just move on already new my life. I’m not worry about them. I just let them go and will someday be sorry reason to me, I not need them no have time for me. I want own my life b happy with God’s Jesus’s Christ peace. But I do love in my family of course. But other family doesn’t love me anymore. I not mad at them. I just am happy with my boyfriend good to me and him so sweet nice help with me everything new my life. Thank you to God’s Jesus’s Christ change in my hearts loves him so much for real.

  16. Dee says

    I made a very stupid mistake, one which I deeply regret. I was desperate at the time, which is no excuse. It was a stupid error in judgment.

  17. Olivia says

    About 8 months ago I was set up to win. My relationship with God, my son, and myself was so strong. I had 10,000 dollars just fall into my lap at the exact time I was planning the move from my aunt and uncles house with my son. We had everything we needed. Plus I had recently got a new job making more than I ever had before. At that job I met a man. I instantly got so wrapped up in him. As a young single mom of a boy, I was afraid to branch out on my own for the first time. My son was coming to an age that having a male influence counted. I thought this man was the answer. I ended up getting an apartment with him myself and my son. It was okay at first. But it did not take long before he started changing. He told me he used to be a pimp and wanted to go back to doing it for money. He did not want to pimp me but other women. When I protested his dark side came out and he hit me. Then he wanted me to become a stripper for money. When I said no he became more violent and hit me more. There were a few times he became violent. Also he wanted me to purchase a vehicle for the sake of his prestige. I put 4,000 of the 10,000 I saved into a down payment while he put nothing. Since he had no credit history I put it on my credit. I now had 16,000 auto loan on my credit. The payment and insurance together is very high. We were supposed to split everything down the middle. Also he would want to share “the car” and bring me to work (otherwise sometimes he would just take my key and leave) but then take me late or not at all. I ended up getting fired so no income coming in. He would lie and say he did not have any money to pay for things. I ended paying for everything and therefore spending the rest of my savings. His violence scared me. Although my son did not see him hit me he was uncomfortable around him. I left him finally but it was when I had nothing. My son and I were blessed with an apartment and made it so far but those bills are piling, I still have the burden of the auto loan and paying the payments and insurance by myself. This man that “loved me so much” won’t help. I feel so guilty because God had favored us so much but I blew it all by putting my faith in this man instead of God and now I am under so much stress to pay bills, etc, and it affects my kid as well because I am under a lot of stress. I try keeping positive. I know God will turn it around if I stay faithful. I have called the guy and told him i forgive him and wish him a blessed life. But it is still so difficult. I really do try forgiving myself but everyday I am stuck in this circumstance, although I work, school, internship, etc, and constantly search for even better opportunities. I have good days but since the circumstances are still what they are, it is hard for me to fully let go when I have a constant reminder.

  18. Olivia says

    About 8 months ago I was set up to win. My relationship with God, my son, and myself was so strong. I had 10,000 dollars just fall into my lap at the exact time I was planning the move from my aunt and uncles house with my son. We had everything we needed. Plus I had recently got a new job making more than I ever had before. At that job I met a man. I instantly got so wrapped up in him. As a young single mom of a boy, I was afraid to branch out on my own for the first time. My son was coming to an age that having a male influence counted. I thought this man was the answer. I ended up getting an apartment with him myself and my son. It was okay at first. But it did not take long before he started changing. He told me he used to be a pimp and wanted to go back to doing it for money. He did not want to pimp me but other women. When I protested his dark side came out and he hit me. Then he wanted me to become a stripper for money. When I said no he became more violent and hit me more. There were a few times he became violent. Also he wanted me to purchase a vehicle for the sake of his prestige. I put 4,000 of the 10,000 I saved into a down payment while he put nothing. Since he had no credit history I put it on my credit. I now had 16,000 auto loan on my credit. The payment and insurance together is very high. We were supposed to split everything down the middle. Also he would want to share “the car” and bring me to work (otherwise sometimes he would just take my key and leave) but then take me late or not at all. I ended up getting fired so no income coming in. He would lie and say he did not have any money to pay

  19. Mina says

    I was peer pressured to get into a wrong act with a friend. It was the first time i ever did something like that. It hurts so bad that I felt humiliated and embarrassed. It’s been days now and I keep thinking about it. I wish I could turn the clock backwards..it hurts so bad. I feel at the lowest point

  20. Victoria says

    I want to let go of all the things that I held in, I want to let go of all the times it spilled out in anger especially when I was drunk. I want to let go of all the times I was irresponsible with alcohol and hurt ppl verbally and physically. I want to let go of my immature decisions and making scenes when emotionally drunk

  21. Taylor Joy says

    I want to let go the 5 people that I’ve slept with and didn’t loce. I want to let go of cheating on my boyfriend that I love with my whole heart and soul. I want to let go of how badly I’ve treated the people around me. I want to let go of it all.

  22. Selfish says

    I cheated on the love of my life. I was drunk and I knew what I was doing was going to hurt me. I don’t know why I let it happen. I let myself do things I know will hurt me and the people who love me the most. I have spent hours crying. I can’t live with myself I feel so bad

  23. Determined says

    I want to let go of my sister. 3 years ago our mother died and she was named as executor to the estate and my brother was named as co-executor in case she could not carry out the duties. Mentally, emotionally and physically she was a mess and could not live up to what needed to be done, so my brother and I forced her to sign off- which she did and she immediately hated us and wanted no part of us ever again. I just found out my brother has since re-connected with her awhile ago- unbeknownst to me – I found out by a fluke- anyway – they are all cozy back together but she has told him she will never ever re-connect with me – never wants me in her life- end of story. Funny thing is all of this was my brother’s doing and I just had to go along with it to support him – I agreed totally that she was in no condition to handle the job but my name was not the co-executor so I made none of the decisions- yet my sister and other in-laws seem to think it was all my doing. So I really need to let go of this whole situation forever because its been eating me up inside. I have my own wonderful family and I just want to concentrate on them. But it is much harder than you think.

  24. James says

    I’ve been feeling guilty about lying this friend/love interest I’ve had for over a year about my previous love life.

    What happened before was this – I had my first (and only) girlfriend during my freshman year of high school. It was a simple relationship – we barely fought, we built each other up, supported each other when we were down, and we would tell each other every time we met how much we appreciated and loved each other. But after 10 months of bliss, she did the unexpected – one night, after my first semester of sophomore year (my high point: excellent grades, someone to love), she sent me a Facebook message to me saying that she had moved out of my hometown a few weeks previously and started dating another guy. She even told him every secret about me. I was just so betrayed and hurt, that after a few weeks of heartbreak, I fell so low and drastically changed. I was just angry and gave up on loving another person again (not just because of her, but because every friend I made before HS always easily turned their backs on me – no goodbye, no words, just silence)…

    I regret lying to this girl about my previous love life. I was just ashamed of the truth, and every time I start remembering, there’s never a moment when my face turns red, my eyes water and my face and voice start shaking…

  25. Kate says

    I’m a student. I get blackout drunk often. My friends have gotten tired of looking after me and taking me home early all the time. I slept with my ex-boyfriend’s best friend twice. My ex forgave me after the first time, but will never forgive me for the second time. I also told a guy who is in love with me that I like him back. I don’t. Last year, I did the same thing to him. I feel I have to pretend to like him now because everyone will hate me if they find out I’ve lead this guy on and hurt him twice. He is such a lovely and gentle guy. I am suffering from depression and can’t face life at the minute. I hate myself so much

  26. alice says

    Hey. I was in a similar boat as you. I am sober now and as a sober woman who has been in your shoes, you need to walk away and hope that he does what’s best for himself. You can not help him be the man he is when he is not on drugs when you are not sober yourself. Furthermore, it is not your job to save him. If you are ready to get help for your addiction, just worry about yourself for now. He says awful things to you and does awful things to you. I am so sorry to hear that you have gone through that. What he is doing is not okay, you do not deserve it or have to put up with that kind of inappropriate behavior, and you are not in a position to be in a relationship with such an abusive person. You can do some research and pursue treatment, or you can start to get involved in a twelve step program. A twelve step program is what helped me. Drugs was my problem but I do AA. You might not take my advice right now, which I hope you do, but if you dont, please keep in mind that you deserve to get well and not be in an abusive relationship. The resources you need you get better will always be out there. Please take care of yourself. Love and Light.

  27. Blue says

    I fell in love way too fast but I was so into this guy, he was my dream guy and the spark faded away. As soon as we began dating I had to leave for uni, we promised we’d wait for each other and I didnt I broke many promises. I lied, cheated, and strung him along, I could never tell him this because I knew if he knew the truth it would hurt him. We’re over now and I’m left with resentment. I know my actions where low and wrong, now I’m stuck with these feelings of shame and regret. I hope to learn from this and grow from it. I’m heartbroken but I guess I deserve this pain.

  28. Jessybug says

    My husband started a business in 2001. we sank everything into it, including a big amount of money from his parents. He told me from the get go NO MORE DRUGS!! but about 2 years into it, I started using again, stealing money from his cash box, bank accounts, lying about the size of my paycheck, anything to keep getting high, he would flush them threaten my dealers he tried with all his might to get me to stop, eventually, being that he too is an addict he started using, that was it within a year we lost all and then some..he was unable to get his feet back from under. he had an affair with another addict and began gambling, he pawned EVERYTHING we owned including his wedding ring. He lied, abused me physically and emotionally for over a year…finally he wrecked the car and almost died after a week partying in vegas with her, since then if i ever ever try to bring up the affair or find reassurance that we will be ok he attacks me physically and verbally, bad..my ears bled from the inside after a particularly harsh beating, i have bruises everywhere, he tells me no one would care if i died, and then brings up all my past mistakes. he is in jail right now for possession of a firearm by a previously convicted felon, and possession of a controlled substance. I have been using drugs as well, should i walk away and try to get help while wishing him the best? or bail him out, and help him become the man he is without the methamphetamine?

  29. Rocbottom says

    I lied to the love of my life — my girlfriend, the woman I thought I was going to spend forever with. She asked me not to play around with drugs and I promised her I would never do it again after she caught me hiding it from her over 4th of July weekend. But after my friend’s wife died of an overdose later that month, I did do it again. And I hid it from her for months. She grew suspicious but was afraid to confront me about it. One morning after we’d made the most beautiful love in weeks, a morning so epic I will never forget it, we walked for coffee and went to the dry cleaners to pickup the comforter. She tried to put cash in my wallet after I paid the bill and found dope; I was caught, redhanded. She tried to give me a second chance but I noticed over the ensuing weeks she wouldn’t look me in the face. I had betrayed her trust. She took me to the Hollywood Bowl for my birthday and barely spoke to me the entire night, giving me a birthday card that warned of the coming execution. But I didn’t recognize what was happening…the day after my birthday, she called me around dinner to tell me it was over. Cold. Emotionless. Callous. Heartless. My things were in a bag on the porch. She said nothing. No hug, no kiss goodbye. No wishing me all the best or good luck. She locked the door behind her and never spoke to me again. Two months later I asked her if she’d see me just for a moment to give me a chance to tell her how sorry I am and to just hold her again for a moment because I’ve been so ashamed that I cannot seem to move on and forgive myself for losing the only woman to ever really love me — the woman I waited a lifetime for. But she refused. I have lost her completely. She said she won’t see me because she is dating someone else and it wouldn’t be fair to them. She said “Maybe there will come a time in the future we can talk, but I’m not sure this is the right time. Try to trust that this surge of emotion and pain you are feeling will pass in time. You’re strong and will get through this, but I’m not the person to help you now.” But what she doesn’t realize is that even when the pain has gone away, I will still love her like I’ve never loved anyone before. I wasn’t ready for her. I have so much growing to do. And I am filled with so much regret that I will NEVER be able to get over losing her. Some mistakes you never stop paying for. So how can I let go when all I want is hope that someday she will let me see her and show her I can be trusted? How can I show her I have learned my lesson if she won’t see me? She has moved on, to a new relationship, and she did it INSTANTLY! Within days of leaving me…and yet she still said to me that “I didn’t want to break up, but your actions forced me to.” I have no idea where I stand. I have no idea what to even consider a “realistic” expectation! Is there NO hope? A glimmer of hope? Will she ever be able to forgive me? I’ve never been so utterly lost…and although she is sorry I’m struggling right now, she will not see me or help me. She is happier without me. And the hurt is unbearable! We were so in love…WHAT HAVE I DONE?!! I have shattered my life and the only chance I ever had at true happiness into a million little pieces….my god, what have I done?

  30. sharon says

    Stealing friends and family,mum,step dad,lying ,masterbating,oral ,falling in love someone who stole and broke my heart ,bad friends,talking behind people back ,bitching,slyness,regrets,bad memories everything terrible I have done and have happened in my life ,addictions ,lust

  31. Sharon says

    Regrets,talking behind people back making my mum cry and feel like I don’t love her when I do ,to forget all the bad things ,stealing phone from class mate,lying everything bad I have done oral sex,lust everything falling in love with someone who stole and broke my heart bad friends step dad

  32. JR says

    forget it all – not judge my past errors with so much condemnation that sometimes the past clouds it all and hides any accomplishments. not sure it can be overcome.

  33. Joe says

    I have a University Engineering degree. Because of the many choices I made over my lifetime, I now find myself working and competing with young , less educated people and losing out to them for promotions, better jobs, etc. I want to let go of the jealousy I have for then, and the dissappointment that I have for not doing better with my career, for being a 62 yr old man who competes with kids in their 20′s, etc. I want to get over my clinical depression and the pills I take, etc., and go back to living an enjoyable life with my wife and three kids.v
    Why is the job bothering me now and causing me to depress.

  34. alias says

    I got raped at a party
    my parent’s kicked me out and im only 18
    I got cheated on bitten down by my mom my dad and my ex
    my boy friend has a girl best friend
    and im vary joules

  35. Scared says

    I slept with my half brothers, ex girlfriend and now 3 years later I’m suffering from shame and guilt , I feel horrible

  36. Ashamed says

    I can’t forgive myself for blowing my sobriety again last night. My marriage is in big trouble and I hate myself for putting my adult children through hell last night. And my husband. I’ve done it several times last month and then 3 times this month. I have been a sober woman for most of my life. Didn’t drink when the kids were young. Didn’t start abusing alcohol until I was in my fifties. Took myself to 30 day rehab and didn’t drink for two years. I can’t move on until I forgive myself. My sons have forgiven me but neither msel or my husband can forgive me. I’m in psychological fear and having more anxiety today than I have experienced and I’ve experienced a lot of it in my life. I’m so disgusted with myself today. And I’m very scared. Need to let this go so I can begin to heal and start over. I am in therspy and I called her and told her. Thanks for listening.

  37. that'snotme says

    I don’t drink often but got blackout drunk this weekend and became a cruel, dark, ugly version of who I thought I was. I did and said some horrible things to my husband. I never thought I could hurt someone I love like this. I was out of control. I am ashamed of my poor choices that resulted in my behavior. I hope that he can forgive me and also that I can forgive myself.

  38. Hailey Diane says

    I want to let go the fact that I made a stupid mistake years ago. That I have matured now and look through the world with new eyes. I just pray with all my heart that my mistake in the past does not affect my marriage. I want to ask forgiveness but without reconciliation with that person because I believe that could be more harm than good in my marriage. I just… want to move on from the past and not constantly wish I could take it back or go about it differently.

  39. Ella says

    I ruined a picture frame while drunk. I tried messaging, to like offer to pay for the damage. I know he received it, but he won’t answer. Should I pursue or should I just let it go, because I did offer to pay for the damage.

  40. Ivorytower says

    I’m in a long distance relationship. One night, I went out with my mates for clubbing.. I was extremely intoxicated. The next day, I found out I kissed a married man. I live in a country where it’s a small community and I just moved here. I’m afraid of what I had done and how people will perceive me.

  41. weakling says

    I am so upset with myself for not ending my abusive 26 year relationship earlier. He beat on me, put me down, took away any self worth I had for myself he just left an empty shell. Not to mention he was sleeping with my mother and my sister because they were on drugs real bad at the time. When I confronted him about it he told me that I made him do it. Never the less, it was so traumatic for me to take in that I buried it in the back of my mind and took him back. This was ten years ago. I’m tired, overwhelmed, and I have unburied the past and now finally I want out. The relationship is dead he no it and I no it but he leaches in to me like I’m a meal ticket and so I feel guilty

  42. cml says

    I have severely hurt and betrayed one of my best friends. I am 16 and she has been my beat friend since we were very young. she was always there for me, always complimenting me, always texting me words of encouragement. She fell in love with a boy 2 years ago. he is 2 years older than us. they dated for 2 years and recently broke up last winter. she was heartbroken and cried about it to be often. she loved him so much and couldn’t figure out how to normally live life without the boy she was with for 2 years. Last April, I was at a party and this boy showed up. we got drunk and started talking and flirting a little bit. before I knew it we kissed. nothing else happened that night and I tried to forget about it because it was my best friends ex boyfriend. later that week we started texting and before I knew it I started growing emotionally attached to him. a couple weeks later we had sex. and then it turned into 2 times, then 3 times, then 4 times, then before I knew it I was fully engaged in a secret relationship behind my best friends and everyone’s back. nobody knew about it except me and him. it got so bad that I would spend the night at her house and leave the next morning to go have sex with him. the whole time I was soon it I felt terrible, knowing that if she ever found out she would be beyond devastated. this carried on for 3 whole months until early July. someone had found out about our secret relationship and told her. she was beyond upset and told me to never talk or acknowledge her again. she was in love with him and I was having sex with him behind her back for 3 months. this was totally unlike me because I am always the friend that is loyal and turkey values all of my friendships. I am in love with this boy and we have been together for 7 months. he makes me happier than anything I’ve ever known. he is the male version of me and I don’t know what I would do without him. yet I am still haunted every day over having emotionally torn apart my best friend over something so spiteful. she trusted me with everything and her every feeling about him, and I would listen to her vent her heart out to me while I was making plans on having sex with him that night. I was so overcome with lust that I didn’t realize the true consequences of my actions. I’ve tried to make amends a couple times but she wants nothing to do with me and views me as the shittiest person that she’s ever had the displeasure if knowing. it eats away at me every day knowing I was capable if hurting someone so deeply. I try to get over it but it hurts every time I pass her in the hallways and she doesn’t even look my way. I am nothing to her now. I love him, but I shouldn’t have engaged in a secret relationship with him behind her back for so long. everybody claims that we will never be friends again but I still have this deep down feeling that one day she will find it in her heart to forgive me of the awful thing I’ve done to her and we can share laughs and sing to our favorite song on the radio again. I know I am more than what I did, I was blinded by lust and trying to do what makes me happy. I am still in a relationship with this boy and I plan on being with him for as long as possible, but I am trying to find acceptance for the awful thing I did. I just want to not wake up every day in the morning feeling sick to my stomach because me best friend 100% believes I am a piece of shit. it kills me inside and I just want to be truly happy and forgive myself.

  43. Anonymous says

    I once was in i tough time with myself and i made a friend online. I liked to joke around and fake my gender but. Once i found he was a pretty cool guy and i actually wanted to be his friend but wished i didn’t have to fake my age or gender. The relationship went too far by the time i could have told him and i didn’t know what to do. He was a really good friend and upset me that i had to act like this to keep him as a friend. Making all these accounts and faking my age and gender and name. Until it got serious and i had to pull the plug on it. I did this for 2 years straight and i feel like i wasted 2 years of my life being someone i was not. I could never forget or forgive myself for the damage i did to him and myself. I wish i could just go back in time and changed the mistake i made that wasted 2 years of my life and someone else’s life and tricked his feelings and trust for others all because of me. At first it was a game and then it turned into a friendship i dreaded the end of and wish never began.

  44. beth says

    i almost had sex with a married man who cheats.we were friends but after the make out i feel awful and i cant forgive myself for letting that happen. i am scared the relationship between him and me will be awkward because he hosts me in his house

  45. i wish says

    I had such nice teeth, my folks spent alot of money on them.
    As i hit 21 though my late 30. I was told to take better care of my teeth by my dentist, i grinded them. Me, not taking seriously or caring like i should because i was PARTYING, i grinded them. Now i no longer drink and do other THINGS, I have looked at my xrays of my teeth. I have done a number on them. I can not restore them. I can only blame myself.

  46. Anonymously says

    When I was 11 a girl who I thought was my friend betrayed me. I thought we were friends only to find out that she didn’t like me and made fun of my appearance. One day I was at her house and found a drawing they she drew of me making fun of my big eye brows. I confronted her and she lied and said her brother drew it. I wanted to believe her and so I did but deep down I knew she was lying. I kept being friends with her and a mutual friend tells me that the girl was talking about me to her calling me “crispy” because of my dark complexion. Finally I stopped talking to her and started to talk about her and called her retarded because she was a bit on the slow side. My friend told the girl and she starts going off about me behind my back. She says that I wasn’t funny and she doesn’t like me. A few weeks later I go to my friends house and she’s there so I ignore her and she pretends to fall asleep and talk about me in her sleep. She’s calling me names or making fun of my appearance. For some reason later on that day we started talking again. But then a few months later I find out she was still talking about me. I finally stopped talking to her. I feel stupid for forgiving someone who showed so much disdain for me. I feel dumb for trying to be friends with someone who had no respect for me. One time we were play fighting and she literally acted like she wanted to fuck me up. Why didn’t I end the friendship ??? I feel weak and stupid. Idk what’s wrong with me. Why did I not pay attention to the signs ? I’m 24 now and I’m so depressed over the decision I made to continue a friendship with someone who clearly hated me.

  47. MovingON says

    I let go of missing out on a great relationship, even though at the time it didn’t feel very great. only in hindsight has it hit me. Although, the truth is, what I really need to let go of is not pursuing my own dreams and desires…of living chained to an imaginary expectation. I forgive myself for not motivating myself enough to ‘go after’ anything worth going after and today I will in the present and move forward into a new future.

  48. Sisaru says

    My husbands passing and the guilt of the last few moments we had to gather in the floor of my bedroom, I’ve not only can’t forgive myself but I seem to be getting deeper in non-emotions , which follows with sex and drugs and lies. I went from a person that work everyday to pure shit. It’s been One year and six mo. sense my husbands passing.

  49. Save my life says

    When I was 9 I met someone I really liked and really loved her. Cause I was really young and scared I couldn’t say anything to her and this went on for 3-4 years I told a friend wh betrayed me and starred teasing both of us and my crush went off and got boy friend. Present day. I’m now in the same class as her and I see so many simerparities and apart still loves her as much as both my parents and the other can’t forgive or refuse to love.

    I am in Limbo. Someone please inspire me. You can change my in tire life by replying.

    Thank you for your time.

  50. Me says

    I’m sorry for trying to get a family friend’s cell phone from between her legs to see if she was the one who was prank calling me when i was 17

  51. Casey says

    I got married when i was 18 to the man of my dreams. Now, we have been married for 3 years and I made a terrible, terrible mistake. My husband and I were going through a bit of a rough patch. Being the person I am, I’ve always been one to go above and beyond to let those i love know i care for them. However, my husband, while he is a fun-loving, extraordinary man, is not one to really express his feelings (not frequently, at least). 3 months ago, I met this guy who gave me a lot of attention and made me feel very good about myself and after a month of flirting, he kissed me. And I didn’t do anything about it. Worst part is, the kissing went on for 2 weeks (a total of maybe 7 times). During this time, however, my husband was trying really hard to become more affectionate. When this finally set in with me, I completely broke off ties and have been feeling an overwhelming sense of guilt and fear for him learning of this ( for he would certainly divorce me). I can’t ever imagine life without him and have decided to just suffer the guilt for awhile and learn from my mistake and NEVER do it again. I love him so very much and refuse to cause him any pain from a meaningless mistake

  52. Harlan says

    My ex wife will not forgive me for our divorce. I asked for her forgiveness, but she says never! How do I forgive myself?

  53. Angelsanddemons says

    My hubby was extremely violent to me, I left him and turned to drugs and alcohol. I had two kids, I feel so guilty about it all because not only did I do that it had a knock on effect for other disasters that could of been prevented had I not taken drugs and become self absorbed

  54. Bruised says

    My x infected me with hiv,hpv and yeast.He acted as if he did not know but later on was brave enough to say I deserved it.
    I helped him study so we can be able to buy medication,live healthy and be financially owk.
    When he was done,he ran away.I kept being his fool for long.
    He had promised to help me financially but now he just says I must leave him alone and laughs me to scorn.
    It hurts right deep within.
    I don’t have a child,I met a good man who loves me but he is not sure if He will be able to deal with my status.

  55. sabrina says

    I’ve lied so much that it destroy the relationship between me and my baby father, the love of my life, one of the best thing that ever happened to me… I didn’t cheat but because I lied so much him think me cheat. So because of this we break up and it could cause my child his happiness. I blame myself everyday can’t find it in my heart to forgive myself. Word of advice whenever you decide to change dirty habits make sure you change everything because it could rob you and your love one of their happiness.

  56. ellie says

    I’m sorry for being me and for blaming my insecurities on you and for cheating youband wastingbyourvtime, I did really love you but couldn’t vive you what you deserved but you also didn’t give me the one thing I needed….. love. I will always love you and regret my actions but I deserve love and happiness and even though this hurts so bad and to see you being happy with someone else will kill me I know that I have changed and one day we will both have what we deserve

  57. acceptingme says

    I messed up 3 not one but 3 wonderful relationships by being me…selfish…ungrateful…angry…moody….one even proposed and he has moved on and its been 3 years and I cant….I can’t I don’t know how. He taught me how to love but never taught me how to stop loving….then a whole sequence of horrible events happened after that and he seems so happy. He did wrong too, but mostly it was me but he was my life…I don’t want to be under his spell anymore bc in my dreams he only brings me black roses that turn into dust…I have over 3 years worth of mistakes and I punish myself everyday and every night….I cry every night…I don’t talk to anyone….I can’t forgive and forget how different my life could be right now if things I did I didn’t do. I don’t know what to do. 3 years and lives 3000 miles away. My other one gave me 4 chances and I let him down each time so I wouldnt come back to me either and this was 6 years ago…but I have changed I have and I can’t move past any of this….I have tried….I can’t I tried it works for a.day…please help….

  58. acceptingme says

    I messed up 3 not one but 3 wonderful relationships by being me…selfish…ungrateful…angry…moody….one even proposed and he has moved on and its been 3 years and I cant….I can’t I don’t know how. He taught me how to love but never taught me how to stop loving….then a whole sequence of horrible events happened after that and he seems so happy. He did wrong too, but mostly it was me but he was my life…

  59. acceptingme says

    I messed up 2 wonderful relationships by being me…selfish…ungrateful…angry…moody….one eBen proposed and he has moved on and its been 3 years and I cant….I can’t I don’t know how…then a whole sequence of horrible events happened after that and he seems so happy. He did wrong too, but mostly it was me but he was my life…

  60. matt says

    I am in senior year high school in delhi, india. This time is very important for me as the most crucial exams of my life are coming. However, I cannot concentrate because I have made so many mistakes. My life didnt turn out as i had hoped it would. I have many regrets now. I have no friends. Not even a single girlfriend. I could have made many friends if not for my screw-ups. I had so many chances but i kept harming myself due to my own choices. I blame myself for this situation. What do I do now?

  61. Taylor says

    I fell in love with my bestfriend from day one. I met him 4 months ago. After we started working together I was his ride to work every single day. He told me he was Bi and I told some people and lied to him for to weeks, the first two weeks of our friendship. But he let that go. Then as our friendship progressed, I fell madly in love with him. He told me he couldn’t date guys. He likes girls to much. Mind you he has slept with men before he just lived in a homophobic environment. He never slept with me becuase he saw how much I loved him plus he saw that all I wanted was sex which was not entirely true granted there was a strong sexual desire, I cared more about him as a person than that. Moving on, I left my parents house to move in with him and his dad blindly following my heart holding on to the thought that one day he was gonna fall in love with me and we would be together forever. I got really depressed there for a little bit and he had to deal with that plus his own problems. I used to think he didn’t care but it was because it was alwways somthing new with me. everytime he snapchated a girl I got jealous. He couldn’t have a girlfriend the first two months I lived there. When I first moved in he let me sleep in his bed with him (nothing sexual) just because the couch was very uncomfortable, every so often we cuddled as humans do. but one night in my sleep I through my arm other him ( he was laying with his back to me on his side) and my hand touched his genitals. He woke up as soon as it touched I was sound asleep but I did wake up after god knows how long realized where my hand was moved it promptly and rolled over. That was the first time he lost trust in me. Fast forward some weeks, I went to a mental hospital for self harm. When I got out things where alot better. He got a girl friend I was ok with it. We were both kinda happy and blissful. Then four nights ago we lay down to go to bed and after he fell asleep I touched and groped his rear end for 30 min striaght. I knew it was wrong and it brought me no enjoyment I don’t know why I did it. That morning we got up he didn’t say two words to me what so ever. later that day I got a snapchat message Stating that he was awake the whole time and it better not happen again ever. So I packed my things and moved out. I already had been crying for 5 hours now. he got home from work and walked in got dressed and went to hang with his girlfriend. I left in tears. then I went back later that night to talk to him in person and I will never forget what he told me. He lost all respect for me whatsoever and can never trust me again even if we become friends again at some point I will never be a trusted friend or a brother to him ever again. He said he has no sympathy for me being the second time which drew him to believe I was awake the first time. It has been four or five days sense this happened and I am slowly wasting away I have sadi sorry so many times. I try to sleep but I cant because I know hes not next to me I wake up several times at night looking for him knowing he wont be there. I cry every single day. It doesn’t hlep we go to the same highschool and I see him everyday ignoring me. I dont know what to do.

    Thats what I would like to let go. There is a whole lot I left out. But this is the basics.

  62. RedBird says

    Dear Becky,
    PLease I am begging you, save yourself and get out of your marriage. He is not a man. You can do better then him, YOU ARE better then him. think of the example he is putting in front of your son. go back to your parents, or your sister. and begin a life from their with your son. He has cut you down to your very core, depleted you as a woman , and doesn’t provide money for you and your son to eat. He abuses you. You have EVERY RIGHT to not trust him and EVERY STRENGTH to walk away. if you’re too afraid to do it for you then do it for your son. You don’t NOT deserve what is happening to you. NO ONE does. I don’t care what you have ever done in your life but you need to save yourself and your family. It will be hard and lonely for a while believing that you have to depend on him ; but I promise you. once you let go of him, as scary as it is, and can manage to get away from that abuse you will Feel stronger, you will Be stronger, and you will be protecting your child. You don’t have to be alone during this, I know numerous women, some friends that have been in a similar situation and still have trouble coping. But they are stronger, wiser, and independent. My mother was a victim with my father when he abused alcohol, I was 4 years old holding my mother on the staircase while she cried. My father got help after the divorce and my mother has been strong and independent ever since. My father is now a changed man and I love him dearly. Don’t let your son have to witness anymore abuse, physical, verbal, or emotional. he can feel what you feel. Save yourselves and live a life of fulfillment, not bowing to a man that literally shits on your things and then blames you for it. It may feel hard or as if you are a failure because your marriage didn’t work or that you had to move back home, but it is so much safer and you can grow as a beautiful woman and a strong mother .

  63. Tony says

    Perverted behavior as a teen influenced by pornography. Same sex experimentation as a teen and young adult ( now 50) Infidelity in marriage.

  64. love says

    I had a crush on a guy, my neighbor, for 2 years and he didn’t want me. His friend, a relative of another neighbor, started flirting with me and I wanted him instead. Then the old crush started flirting with me, wanting me too, and I felt flattered at first, but then felt like I was in a love triangle. The whole summer passed and I grew angry and bored and impatient. Something came on the TV that pissed me off, involving Obama. I have bipolar disorder and I snapped. I sent out dozens of angry, semi-racist text messages to the former crush (they are both non-white, I am white). In truth, I meant everything I said, and was mostly talking about how I’ve been mistreated by other races, but it certainly made me look bad and crazy. I did it again a month later. Finally I texted him letting him know I had a crush on his friend instead. They all gathered across the street and the old crush cursed me out, but the next day he was back to begging for my attention and flirting. He’s pursued me ever since, 5 years later. All this time I wanted to approach the new crushes family and tell them I want him and I’m sorry for what I did. Finally, after dreaming about it so much and making inroads with one of them, I did.
    He claimed to have reached out to his relative (my crush) who is with someone else and isn’t interested in me.

    I have to live with the fact I may have ruined the love of my life. I may not have. He may never have asked me out anyways or the relationship could have led to disaster or not worked out. But I’ll never know. And I’m older now, and looking to marry and have kids soon, so I don’t have time to wait for him.

    I have to live with the fact I should have approached his family and made amends and inquired about him sooner- not let 5 years pass with him always on the back burner of my mind.

    He’s the most beautiful, handsome man in my mind on earth. Tall, slim, perfect. But what do I know of him beyond his looks?

  65. Andy says

    I want to let go of all the many times I cheated on my wife with escorts. Today I’m single and I need to learn to stop wanting to have sex with escorts. I have probably lost somewhere in the 4000 dollar range over the years on escorts. Help me I’m tired of feeling like shit

  66. bob says

    Abusing substance as a mother
    not putting my child truly 1st…
    neglecting the gift of life…
    lying to the ones I love because of shame

  67. Leo says

    I was 15 and I shoplifted a lot of items from a nearby mall. A while ago I was caught, and I realized how it would affect my mother and father. They work hard everyday to take care of me, provide shelter for me, and food for me. My mom already had enough stress going on in her life, and I am just a bother to her. I cried and cried and cried when she picked me up from the juvenile detention center, I felt like the worst daughter on earth. This is the first time I’ve ever committed such a sin. I was with my friend, and as a teen, I just wanted the thrill and experience of it. I was an A student, and I never dated, or done drugs or anything. I regret everything that had happened that day, and my mothers stress had been getting worse and worse since that day. It was my sin, but my parents had to pay the fine and take care of it for me. And the worst part was that I had at least $40 with me, and yet I still stole. I lost all the respect and trust that my parents had in me. I also lost my dignity, going so low and resorting to stealing. I’m so sorry mom.

  68. Phill says

    I am brand new to the world of driving and thus poor at it. I forgot the traffic law about stopping in front of a school bus. There were no children in the way and I did slow down (People did this all the time when I was a kid). The bus driver honked on the horn and yelled at me. I was too embarrassed to stop. I feel utterly terrible and I have been beating myself up about it.

  69. becky says

    For the last 2 years my boyfriend has been treating me horrible, the same time I gave birth to our son. I love him but I cant cope anymore. I just cry over everything. It started when he hit me, and grabbed me round the neck, he said it was my fault I push him. Then he started his new job working away. Id go with our son to see him and the once he seemed off with me so I did what I shouldnt n looked at his emails. That’s when I found an email to someone asking it they could fit him in. I copy n paste the email address in google to see if anything came up. Thats when I found out she was an exotic thai escort, I was heartbroken and confronted him. He said he didnt no and had ago at me for reading his emails. When he stopped working he came home with the samsung tablet I brought him to only go on it and see in the contacts thai 1 thai 2 and thai 3. He said it wasnt him and he doesnt to where there came from. After that the violence started again and then my mom saw something was wrong so she booked me a holiday with my sister to go away for 4 nights im only 22 so I needed a brake from it all as I look after me and the boyfriend and our son, all on my money *bf* gives me no money for food ect or even his son. Anyway so we went away * me and my sister* only for me to come back to all my clothes ruin in cooking sauce, beach, wee and p.. and my mattress which he used as a toilet. He said its my fault I went away and he thought I cheated. I keep trying and trying with him but now ive found him talking to other girls. I no I shouldnt flip as there is nothing wrong with girl and boy being friends but I dont trust him. He has also joined dating site and escort sites in the past. I cant do it anymore and I feel he has broken me to my lowest and now I cant let him go because he said I cant do better then him. He doesnt let me talk to him he just takes the mick out of me and laughs when I start crying or havibg panic attacks, I dont no what to do and I need help. I dont no what to do anymore. I need help

  70. aaron says

    i had did great mistake in my life that is i had stolen a lot of money from my neibourhood house when i was 15 n 16 yrs but i am 19 years old so what to do to be free from this kind of guilt? plz reply plz frn

  71. Em says

    I want to let go all of the guilt I feel from not talking with my best friend for several months. She moved in with these girls and grew to really like them, and I was afraid that they were replacing me and she wouldn’t need me after a while. I was also at a really low point in my life and trying to figure out who I was. I was amazed that my friend was still putting up with me, and that she did her best to make me feel better about myself. Eventually though, it got to be too much for her and I feel incredibly guilty for that. She’s forgiven me now…but I still don’t always feel like I deserve to be friends with her again.

  72. rija says

    I want to let go of the embarrassment of being used by a man who I showed my soul to I was completely honest with him, sacrificed my happiness for him and he used me for my money and then got engaged to someone else while we were to gather . I feel exposed, humiliated and beyond hurt.

  73. Heartbroken says

    I want to let go of the guilt, ramose and regret for cheating on my, now ex, boyfriend. He was a wonderful person with a beautiful soul and I just got caught up on the excitement and thrill of doing something I never thought I was capable of doing. I lost his trust, his love and any future I may have had with him. He forgave me and gave me another chance but I was so caught up on self-pity and guilt I didn’t take care myself or my relationship. I lost his love and now he is with someone else.

  74. Clayton says

    Well, I wanna let go all the terrible things from my past: the things that I did, the words I said and even the thoughts I thought, where I INTENTIONALLY hurt two women’s feelings with my rudeness, and I believe they two will know that I’m talking about them.

    One of those woman I refer to had her art works and style literally thrashed/”criticized” by me with the harshest, stupidest and nastiest words possible, where I lacked any sense of respect to her and her life in TWO days.
    To me it’ still nowadays the most embarrassing and traumatizing thing that I ever did to someone: how could I say such horrible things to her ? She didn’t deserve NOTHING of this at all!
    In the end, she wrote me that she doesn’t want me contacting her again.
    Nice job, Clayton. Nice job. *facepalm*

    As for the other one, we had some serious argument that ended with me keep ordering her to draw me something that she didn’t want to and her calling me “rude” all the time. I tried to apologize to her but it was too late.

    I wanna let go ALL guilt, sorrow, remorse and all these horrible things from the past from my life. I’m even taking providences to this, searching on the Internet how to forgive and like myself despite all my mistakes. I’m literally in a journey of self discovery and knowledge, facing and confronting my past almost everyday, despite the fear I feel and the guilt wanting to come back along with my “Heisenberg”/”I AM THE DANGER!” side, trying to condemn me and crush my willpower, my hopes and my wish to move on.

    However, this is a “fight” that I’m sure that I’ll win, and to quote “Highlander”: “There can be only one!”

    “And you ask me what I want this year
    And I try to make this kind and clear
    Just a chance that maybe we’ll find better days
    Cuz I don’t need boxes wrapped in strings
    And desire and love and empty things
    Just a chance that maybe we’ll find better days

    So take these words
    And sing out loud
    Cuz everyone is forgiven now
    Cuz tonight’s the night the world begins again
    Cuz tonight’s the night the world begins again”
    Goo Goo Dolls ~ “Better Days”

    “‘Cause you’re a sky, ’cause you’re a sky full of stars
    I want to die in your arms (oh, oh)
    ‘Cause you get lighter the more it gets dark
    I’m going to give you my heart”
    Coldplay ~ “A Sky Full Of Stars ”

    “If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.” ~ “vinnikeez” comment on “Learn to Forgive Yourself Even When You’ve Hurt Someone Else” article.

    PS.: We’re all human. We make mistakes that we can regret later. But once we learn from them and stop seeing everything in the positive/negative light and see everything as a teaching for life instead, we grow and mature in life. Life is an “eternal” teacher and therefore, we’re always “in training”. ;)
    I thank you ladies for this opportunity you brought to my life to improve and mature myself. I confess that, without these events, I’d never had the attitude of entering this journey in search of wisdom, changing myself for the better and starting loving me for who I am. May ALL the gods bless you and that you two “live long and prosper”, heh. :)

    - Goblinko The Bat

  75. Alias says

    I have been in a three year long distance relationship and have slept with someone else twice, both times I had drunk too much alcohol and lost control. I dont want to lie and keep secrets but I cant see how I can tell my partner without a huge amount of pain and suffering for both of us……In the past he was unfaithful to me…we have been to in a relationship a complicated relationship for over six years and we have come a long way, but he has improved the way he treats me…i feel horrible, i cant look at his face when we are skypeing without feeling disgusted with myself. To make things more complicated I am a professing Christian and feel like I have been unfaithful to two people…God and my partner….

  76. lucky's charm says

    I am only 18yrs old and I have low esteem! drop out of school, and started living the street life!!!!!!! giving myself away to the wrong boy’s just living life like a Monster,,,, smoking weed drinking, snorting powder, had an abortion!!! live just going down the wrong path!!! I just want god to forgive me everyday I wake up I feel like why,,, ugh another depressing day, I just feel like everyone in the world is against me,,,,,, I need help crying out for help!!!!! I feel like my life is over,,,,, and I feel like that I will never ever find a husband in the future cause of my past relations and my lifestyle!!! nor happiness, I am a very intelligent girl, very beautiful, but my past just wont let me love myself!!!! no sleep, no good days,!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what do I do? PRAYING FOR BETTER DAY!!!! IN JESUS NAME AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #HELP

  77. Brooke says

    I live with regret of experimenting with drugs and now I worry that it has ruined my life. Really brings on a lot of regret. I want to let my past go and start worrying about today only

  78. leep says

    i kissed a guy for a dare and other people were there and they told others and i regret it so much and i didn’t want anyone to know.

  79. Happygolucky says

    I want to let go of all of the pain and sorrow I caused my sons by being arrested for shoplifting. I had no jail time. One loves me no meter what, the other has cut me out of his life. His unforgiveness makes it hard for me to forgive myself and get over the past. I have apologized, but no response. I have to let go. This is making mr so depressed, ashamed, worried, sadder than hell, even suicidal. but I can’t change
    it…the past…I will change my future, with or without his forgiveness. God has forgiven me.

  80. Sad girl says

    i cheated on my boyfriend when he was abusing me and I thought he stopped loving me, so I went elsewhere for attention and now regret it more than anything

  81. KP says

    I lied to my husband about my relationship history when he asked me. I wasn’t honest because I didn’t want to hurt him about a non-relevant past.

  82. Rachelle says

    I started smoking and now I am addicted. I am going through a divorce and so is my partner and we live together and are having sex. I feel extremely guilty for these things. I can’t stop either thing and would love to let go somehow

  83. Joey says

    I want to let go something that I did to my best friend I hurt her and in no intention meant to I would never want to even hurt her and now she won’t talk to me and I have no idea how I want to let go of it but I can’t because i still need her in my life but I don’t know how to even talk to her anymore without her ignoring me.

  84. Matt K says

    I had an emotional affair on my wife of 6 years, together 8 years. I have lost my wife and family. I want to let go of the guilt, the self blame, the selfpunishment, I cant take it any longer. Every day is heart wrenching. I want to forgive myself for my mistakes, and become a better person. I want to feel joy and happiness. I wish that could be with her, but doubtful. I am slowly dying inside and need to let it go.

  85. Chantal says

    I have soo many things to let go of ,, unhappy childhood, absent parents, foster homes, abortions, and now when I drink I get nasty with my partner.. I insulted friends the other evening and feel soo bad and embarrassed as they said they never wanna see me again.. I’m a good person ,, just made a bad mistake and now feel overwhelmed with sadness , can’t take it back but have to get past it..

  86. Kailee says

    I want to let go of the guilt and shame for not being perfect. I want to except my imperfections, and love myself for every single bit of who I am. I want to let go of feeling like I’m not good enough. I want to accept and always remember that I am undeserving of God’s and others’ love. I want to let go of that one specific mistake that’s holding me back in life. I want to wake up every morning, knowing that God is on my side, along with so many other people. I want to stop feeling like I don’t deserve my boyfriend, or my supportive family, or my happiness. I want to, once and for all, let go of all negativity towards myself, to let go of the guilt and shame I have for the mistake, accept and embrace my imperfections, and love myself just as much as God loves me.

  87. Gaq says

    I want to let go all the past, accept myself for exactly who I am. I accept that I’ve made mistakes and that people have made mistakes that I didn’t like. I want to let go and forgive myself completely and start over

  88. TR says

    I cheated on my wonderful girlfriend. It was a drunken kiss, one I don’t recall, but it happened. It was my fault, I got too drunk, I made a mistake. A big one. But I have learned from it. It’s made me realise what I got, and how much I want that relationship to work. I will tell her tomorrow, and maybe we can both forgive my actions. I will not let this destroy our wonderful memories.

  89. idiot says

    I want to let go of quitting a job after two days that could have been awesome, I could have been independent for a while and I wrecked it all because I was afraid. Now I have to go back to NZ and stay with my mum, I should have just been stronger and hung in there, but it felt like everything was working against me, I tried, failed, quit and I can’t fix it….

  90. di says

    pain and suffering i caused myself, my children, my husband , other family members and friends due to my alcoholism, mental illness, bulimia and cigarette smoking

  91. SuperSorry says

    I’m really sorry for all my past mistakes and trust me they are numerous. From hurting my parents, family, friends and others hurting me and me raging at them and for me hurting myself so badly so, so many times. For trying to numb myself and for taking so long to forgive myself. I’ve stolen, lied, cheated, used and been used. I would love to feel I deserved the really good things in life that so many others enjoy on a daily basis.

  92. Stefanie says

    I knew his wife. I was black out drunk. He was drunk. After drunken flirting, we wound up sleeping together. This was 5 years ago. I cannot forgive myself. I am ashamed, scared that everyone knows and that my reputation proceeds me. I want to forgive myself and move on.

  93. Vee says

    Reply for Gina:
    This was NOT your fault. I know you might feel this way, but you did not force your friend to get drunk, nor did you break her headlight and you did not make her yell at her daughter. Each person is responsible for their own actions. You can’t blame yourself for the mistakes that someone else has made. She chose to do something irresponsible and is now paying for it, but this was not your doing — and she should know this, herself.
    Some people are terrible drunks; they get angry, say rude things, lash out at people, or they become extremely depressed and do bad things. From the comment you posted, I get the feeling that this night was not the first night that your friend got drunk and started acting out because of it.
    People who can’t handle alcohol well should stay away from drinking, because sooner or later, you end up doing something bad and paying for it dearly. Her irresponsibility is not your fault, and you shouldn’t be blaming yourself for it.
    She is being unreasonable towards you by punishing you for her mistakes, when it was her own fault she ended up with the DUI. She is an adult, fully capable of making her own choices and taking responsibility for them. The later death in her family also does not excuse her past actions and poor choices.
    Please try not to beat yourself up over this – it wasn’t your fault. I’m sorry your friend is being so unreasonable towards you, and I’m sorry that this has split up your daughters.
    Take care.~

  94. Vee says

    Reply for Lauren Wright:
    If you are finding yourself reaching out to so many people physically like this, including people you barely know, you will eventually need to explore why it is you feel such a strong desperation for physical comfort like this.
    You aren’t doing this because you’re a bad person and you’re not a slut. There is obviously something in your life that has caused you to feel an emptiness inside of you and you are trying to fill it with these men.
    In the end, you will have to discover what it is that is making you feel this way and find something in your life that will fill up that void in you in a way you can feel good about. I wish you the best of luck.~

  95. Vee says

    Reply for Brianna:
    Hello there. I read your post here and I just felt like leaving a message for you.
    God doesn’t get back at people for making mistakes or doing wrong. You are young – everyone makes mistakes, and especially young people who don’t yet truly understand how love and relationships work. Try not to be too hard on yourself, things will work out for you. Also – don’t worry about God being angry with you. God understands everything that we do and why we do the things we do. God is loving and forgiving, he forgives us long before we forgive ourselves. You can do something truly terrible in life and God will even forgive you then. He forgives people who steal and murder and still loves them. God never takes revenge on people. Bad things happen to people not because of God, but because often because of the actions of other human beings. We all have the free will to do whatever we like, be it good things or bad things. If something bad happens to you in life, it wasn’t God who did this to you. Unfortunately, sometimes shit just happens and we can’t do anything to stop it, but that wasn’t God’s doing.
    Take care of yourself and try to feel better, you didn’t do anything wrong. :)

  96. Mae says

    I forgive myself for not dealing with problems in my relationship face on and the poor decisions i have made in the past as a result of that. I forgive myself for not being able to disclose the full details of past mistakes and I also forgive myself for not being able to let it go. I now choose to let it go and commit myself to fulling experiencing the present, and take the valuable growth and knowledge from my mistakes with me to help improve my character and be able to love more honestly and be compassionate with not only myself but others too.

  97. Sam says

    I kissed another boy other than my boyfriend and I can’t tell him I’ll never hurt him again I promise and I’m going to put all my might into not lying or hurting him again

  98. don says

    I stole money. I became dishonest to my wife. I am weak at this point. I messed up and i even thought of ending my life.

  99. Drew says

    8 weeks ago ago I lost the love of my life. We were at the beach and got into a huge argument, which was my fault. I said terrible things, and ended up slapping her. I have apologized several times in writing. I haven’t ever done anything like this before. I feel so so bad, I’m truly sorry and remorseful. She want speak to me, or forgive me,and I don’t blame her. What do I do. I have talked to counselors, friends, and her brother. I just can’t forget what I did. I really care for her deeply, and want her to know I’m truly sorry.

  100. Dumb bunny says

    I was mad at my boss and ” borrowed 400$ for 12 hours from the company credit card now I have to realize how dumb it was to react then when he returns in a week own up to it… I could lose a job that I really hate

  101. Alphonse says

    I’m in a relationship but I slept with one of my best friends. We were drunk and when we got to her apartment I kissed her and went inside her bedroom. The biggest issue here is that the next morning she asked what happened last night. She doesn’t remember anything. I basically raped her and I didn’t meant to hurt her. I never detected any negative behaivour on her, she never told me to stop I thought she was enjoying it. I thought the both of us were having such a good time and now she is blaming herself. I told her that if anything it is my fault. She is a beautifull person and I feel awful, I hate myself and I have no idea what to do. I have said that I am sorry but I know that wont solve anything she still blames herself and I probably destroyed one of my greatest friendships. I also must tell my girlfriend I can´t look her in the eye and not tell her.

  102. Dan L. says

    My x fiance…she’s moved on and happy after our 7yr relationship. 5 months later she’s happy with another man. I miss her and her kids I raised..my tears are flowing and I hurt, I’m depressed. I’m 35 with no one at home. I want to not think and not hurt anymore..

  103. Scott says

    I was extremely mean to a girlfriend
    I assaulted my father
    I assaulted my sister
    I was cruel to my son
    I was abusive to my wife in a drunken rage
    I lied to make money
    I lied about other people I worked with
    I had non-sexual relationships during my marrage
    I was disrespectful to my father in law
    I was disrespectful to my uncle
    I was cruel to my younger cousins
    I was cruel to my sister
    I was not attentive to my mother when she was sick

  104. brittany says

    I became close to a man that I thought was really sweet and funny. WE went out on a few dates. While he did some things that were questionable, I never gave him a chance. I chose to return back to my ex boyfriend and am still hoping that things will be better between us now… I regret ever letting the other man go. I think about him all the time. When i see him at work, I can see how hurt I made him. He won’t look at me in the face anymore…. I waited too long to tell him I was talking to someone else and I feel terrible about it. I really do.

  105. Me says

    I treated my kind and caring boyfriend poorly and hurt him many times. I pushed him away and now I miss him every day. I caused our breakup.

  106. SMS says

    I was out celebrating and got extremely drunk. I kept running into stuff and my bf said it was time to go. I cried the whole way home because I wanted to stay and dance. I feel like such an asshole. Why can’t I be normal and go out and have fun? I feel so guilty and childish. I’m letting it all go now. A new me is in progress.

  107. DC says

    I want to let go of few decision I have taken in the past. I wanted to buy a home. So I have searched it for two and half years. finally I purchased the home. based on opinion of others, I felt that I made wrong decision. I payed more money than I should have paid. I regret deeply for the same. but my father, my wife and my all other family members supports my decision and always says me encouraging words. I want to get rid of this situation. I want to get rid of my bad habit. I always regret once I made some decision. like I would be good if I could have done this so and so. Please help me. I am running out of my present life. I almost either live in past or worries for future. Let me tell you, rest of the things are very good in my life such as very good job, very good family ( my wife, and my 8 year old son). I love my life and I want to live it fully in present. Please give some advice. this kind of situation arise frequently in my life which damage me a lot. If makes me so negative that I cant see whatever good in my life. I bag your words of advice for the same.

  108. Ben says

    I’m working abroad and one night out I drank way to much and kissed a girl, I’ve been in a steady relationship for 3 years and this is really killing me, I feel sick to my stomach and I am having panic attacks every night since it happened, I don’t want to tell my girlfriend because it will break her heart! I don’t know what to do.

  109. Spirit says

    I was secretly in love with my friend, but acted like we were just friends. I knew that if she really knew how I felt, she would ditch me. We got too close once (tickle fight), and she put distance between us soon after. I’m gay in a relationship, and she’s straight. I could never see her for the talented exquisite person she was because I was so stuck in the fantasy of who I wanted her to be. She started spending tons of time on Instagram (IG) and I got jealous and made fun of her while eating out one night. My partner came to the same restaurant to meet a friend, which was weird. The following was our last text exchange. I haven’t heard from her since:

    Her: I am still processing what happened last night in the restaurant

    I need time to take care of some issues that I am becoming aware of.

    I trust we will connect soon

  110. Em says

    I’ve been single for 4 months. And I haven’t had sex in 4 months as well because I don’t want sex without a relationship. I’ve been under a lot of stress lately. Money, loneliness, car trouble. And have been hanging out with a guy from work. But just as friends. I’m not interested in him in any other way. Well I drank to much last night wheel we were hanging out. He didn’t drink very much. I had sex with him. I’m so ashamed, angry, sad, and every other emotion at the same time. I can’t believe I did it. I’m so mad. I don’t know how to get over it.

  111. Mona Rista says

    The fact that I made some horrible decisions, and I’m afraid to tell anyone, because I would get in big trouble… So i worry about it every day, and i dont even know if i can if my normal life anymore

  112. SallyQV says

    I AM SO SAD I didn’t take the opportunites I had in California and use them more. I thought I had to come back to Colorado because my family is here so I broke up with my boyfriend who was a nice guy and really loved me and left and now I am trapped and my parents are depressed and my career field feels like a dead end (I wanted to be a painter, now I realize that they all end up living with there parents…) JESUS I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT AND I AM PARAKYZED by inaction . I will be here waiting table for the rest of my life and I want to go home. I don’t know why I became so unhappy I think I was lonely. I MISS IT ALL AND I FEEL LIKE NOTHING WILL EVER BE THAT GOOD AGAIN.

  113. FG says

    Losing the best woman I would ever be with, who loved me more than I loved her but over our time together I rejected that love until it was too late.

  114. down2earth says

    I did the same exact thing a few weeks ago, your were probably just curious and unsure about yourself. Now you know what you want and don’t want.

  115. Waterman says

    I want to let go of the fact that I have physically abused two of my past partners in life. I want to let go that I have lied and cheated at times to get ahead or to try and get myself out of situations I did not want to be a part of. I keep making the same mistakes and I think it is because I have already self – destructed so much that I just tell myself how much worse CAN I already make it since I’ve repeated the same mistakes over and over. I want to start living with and contributing positively to the amazing people I love and care about who love and care about me. I absolutely hate myself for so many things in my past. How can I possibly let it all go??

  116. Human says

    I have on more than one occasion compulsively masturbated in public places. It was the only way i knew to cope with my anxieties. I was caught in the act and humiliated/abandoned by my peers, thus making the anxiety worse and starting a vicious cycle. On some days I still regret it

  117. Josh says

    Today I was experimenting w this guy I met on Campus. I told him that I was bi but I honestly wasn’t sure what I was sexually. So we met during lunch and I’m a freshman in college, he’s a senior. We started talking and eventually he starts to like me. That’s fine but I didn’t like him like that. So after that we go to a lobby and start talking more. It was cool. Now he invited me to his house and I was like Yeah sure. I don’t mind. So we pull up to the house, go inside, start talking again. We’re sitting on the bed. I lean in to kiss him and it felt nice at first but the more I did it, the more uncomfortable it got. Eventually I was completely bombed out by it and was ready to go home. He was like why u wanna go and I told him that I don’t feel comfortable doing this. He took me back to the campus and I felt so much regret that I had to do something for what I just did. So there is a girl I’ve been talking to that’s a freshman as well.. I went to her room and we kissed and then I went to talk to this hot girl. I jus had to do something to get that kiss out of my system. I felt so uncomfortable kissing him but at first it was ok. Now I’m definitely am not kissing another guy ever!!

  118. Phi the rising phi-nix says

    To start out, I am 22 and I have been doing so well at letting the thoughts and memories of my ex boyfriend Sean (27) gradually fade away in the past 5 months…. until tonight. I was transferring pictures of us from the 15 months of living together and all of a sudden our memories, good and bad, started to come back along with the guilt that I’ve been trying to let go of. All of my guilt came from abusing him verbally. I was miserable because I bought into his expectations of me to also be as sporty as he was which I was never able to meet. I felt like he was controlling and wanted to change me to be the “ideal version” that he imagined in his mind: keep active physically (by walking or jogging outside with him without warm enough clothing when it’s 14 degrees outside), know what I am passionate about and what I want in life (I was 21 for fuck’s sake I don’t think anyone can EXPECT me to know what I want in life, I am 22 now and I still don’t) , have a steady job and attend college. All very reasonable and good intentions right? But what good would it do when he was all in my face FORCING me to do so? It just made me resent him and want to find a way to snap back at him. I was doing the same thing in my head, expecting him to be the “ideal” person that I WANTED, instead of grow to love him for him. Often I would call him stupid or idiot or even useless or worthless when he can’t do a task that I request. This habit came from my interactions with friends in the past. Little did I know, I can’t use the “sass” I do around my girlfriends calling each others “hoes” “bitches” or “stupid” in a joking way with my man, especially when he have had bad experiences with it in the past. He brought it up a couple of times….but I never understood how much damage it was doing to him and insisted that he just needs to be less sensitive. I didn’t get how relationships work anyhow at the time so I feel like if I have the chance to do it all over again with the same exact knowledge I knew at that time, I’d end up doing the same exact thing I did. I was also in deep fear of having a 9 to 5 job that pays the minimum wage that I settled for a part-time online job that was paying $12 – 30 an hour working only 2 – 5 hours a day, a couple days a week….making under $900 a month. I was so afraid of failing or being not-enough to keep a job that I just hid behind the excuse of, I am okay….when I wasn’t….both of us knew that. Now the negative belief of I am not enough or I am worthless came from being criticized all the time and the feeling of being abandoned as a kid. My mom passed away when I was 10 and my dad was not there for me in the next few months following that…and it has caused me to feel a deep sense of betrayal and abandonment from both of my parents. All of those things have caused me to be triggered emotionally whenever I felt like Sean didn’t care. I would blow up and shift into anger almost immediately. He expressed that he felt like he was walking on eggshells with me all the time and it has stressed him out greatly. And being the ignorant person with no relationship experience I was, his concern just flew right past my head. I pretended like the relationship was okay…and actually believed that it was fine. My cup was filled by him and his attentions but he was drained. I just didnt fill his cup. But of course there were other good and bad things in our relationships. There were many compromises, and many healthy commitments that at least balanced out the bad….or so I thought. However, things got worse because we didn’t know how to efficiently communicate, mostly because when I presented my concerns, he just say “I am sorry” and EXPECTED me to forgive him without further discussing. And his concerns were so poorly expressed that I never grasped what he was talking about 90% of the times. We got to the point of screaming at each other at 3 in the morning, calling each other the most horrible names imagined because we were so hurt and broken inside that all we wanted to do was to get at each other and inflict pain in any possible way. And after 4ish months of misery and constantly putting each other down and getting on and off saying let’s break up but never have the strength to actually let go….he finally made up his mind and broke up with me…and this time it was real). We continued to live for 3 and a half miserable more months together because I did not have the courage to let him go. I thought staying there would somehow change his mind, but it only made things worse. All of those guilt and emotional roller coaster aftermaths of a breakup slowly devoured whatever respect and love we had left for each other.
    I finally moved out almost 2 months ago, focusing and focusing and focusing on keeping busy and filling that void left behind by that relationship with physical exercise, personal development programs, learned as many tools to get me back on track. And still… that guilt of “I could have done better” lingers. Perhaps I need to remind myself that I am only human and I will make mistakes… just like everyone else. Choosing forgiveness and peace would free my present and future from the negative belief of “ya but what if I did things differently?” because…. like mentioned above, with the knowledge I had at the time….most I wouldn’t have done it very much differently.

    So I choose to forgive myself and let go of regret that will get in the way of my self – love and self – acceptance.

  119. Mya says

    Lord, I need forgiveness from you and for myself for not setting boundaries from the beginning in my relationships. Now, I have compromised my values and the man that I love seems to have lost respect for me. We used to be such good friends before and at the beginning of before our relationship. I should have listened to you and the people that you sent to me to set boundaries . Now I am trying to set them and he feels like I don’t love him and am taking things away. I thought we’d agreed about this as believers. I remember when he had other Godly men around him discussing this, we were on the same page. I’m not sure what happened, but it’s back to square one. I need your forgiveness and help to fix the mess that I created and to let it go to you. Help me to be strong and courageous for you are The Lord, my God and you are with me wherever I go. Help me be strong enough to not hang on to my past mistakes and to move forward into your will knowing that what the devil meant for evil, you can turn it into good. Lord, you know my heart, and you know my true intentions and how I just wanted us to spiritually grow together, but not my will, but your will be done. I am human, fall short, and makes mistakes. Thank you for understanding this, loving me anyway, and being so quick to forgive me always. Thank you for your love and your peace. I forgive myself because I fall short. That’s what I have Jesus for, to remind me how much I need him. Forgive me Jesus for not putting the focus on you, and expecting so much from a man who also falls short. Help me to be strong from here and to let him go to you, so our lives can be better whether together or apart. Although that sounds sad and scary, help me to trust you and let him go to you. I pray that during this time, you teach him to be slow to anger, be quick to forgive, develop patience, self-control, understanding, and wisdom. Again, please put the right Godly men around him to develop him spiritually. Lord, let him be willing to go to events together as a couple that talk about purity if that’s in your will.

  120. Tris says

    Me and this boy were at a party and we were drunk so things got quite heated between us both but now my heads not spinning and I can see straight I completely regret it. It’s not like me at all to do that.

  121. Broken says

    I had what I thought was a man who loved me I gave in the his. Request and now he dumped me said I was too high maintenance for him he said he loved me but he put every think before me I would go to his home he would say hello then read his news on his I pad read his mail play his casino games then after all that he would turn to me. He never said I was nice looking nice said any thing about how I dress never a word about me personally yet he said he loved me. Then one. Day after I drove him for a treatment I told him I could not stay long he went into his bedroom and I waited one hr looked and saw he was lying on the bed so I left. After I left he called I told him why I left. He said he was making a phone call I never heard that and told him I did not hear him. He screamed something at me and broke up now he said I gave him some disease I was married for. 53 years to the same man and no sex how could that be I am sick over it I think he just wanted to dump me. How could I be such a fool.

  122. Blarg_2 says

    I was at my step-grandmother’s house a month or two ago, and while with my cousin (please note, I am 13,) I stole her makeup when my cousin was not looking, I also took two of her makeup bags to store the makeup in. Then, I proceeded to stealing my grandfather’s Jujyfruit candies. On the drive back to our state, I started feeling really guilty. I ate the candy when I was alone, and I hid the makeup in my closet, hoping to return it the next time we would see them. But, my mom found it yesterday. She was extremely disappointed in me, and worse, I tried to say I borrow the makeup from my friend. So, she called my friend, and my friend told my mom she had no idea what my mom was talking about. I lied to my mother, which was awful, but worse, I hurt my mother and my family. The next day I called my step-grandmother and grandfather, apologized to them, addressed my idiotic mistake, and offered to buy my step-grandmother more makeup, and to buy my grandfather the candy I stole and ate. They were so kind, and told me that what I did hurt them, but they’d never be mad at me. I bought them makeup and candy, and sent it to them today. I have finally forgiven myself, and my mother is not upset anymore, just disappointed. I have begun to earn her trust back. That felt good to say.

  123. Share says

    I divorced my husband because I couldn’t be the wife he needed or deserved. I couldn’t be the person I wanted or needed to be. I needed to find me and grow up. I can’t forgive myself for not being able to live up to my end of the deal.

  124. xome says

    Be careful what you wish for. How true this old saying is.

    My husband (though never actually married) of 18 years, I destroyed. He is a good man, always there for me, did every and anything for me. Loved me and still does. I met someone online in a game and through friendly talk ended up thinking I am in love with him. We decided to meet in another state and my husband busted his butt to raise money for a trip that was doomed to destroy everything.
    I returned home after a week and told him I was going to leave. Why? This great love of a man I don’t even know. He helped me leave and I moved 6 states away. The new man and I were not able to get together and I got homesick and he asked me to come home and I did but only for a month. That was a year ago…. I moved 5 states the other direction and for the past 5 months the new man has been with me. I don’t love him. I do love my husband but not the way he deserves.
    I cry daily. I’ve wanted to die. The hurt I caused him should never happen to anybody.
    I can’t get past it though he forgave me immediately and we still talk daily as friends. He has met someone finally and has a chance to be happy if it works out.
    I seriously am having trouble living with myself. It’s been pain on a daily basis. I want to be happy. I’m no spring chicken and the new guy is 14 years younger than me. What could he be thinking? He says he doesn’t care if I’m ‘sexless’ he loves me. ugh… I can’t do things like that if the feelings are not there and that was the problem with my husband. The feelings requiring that were not there though I love him dearly. I can’t go back… I would never EVER want to put him through that again and I can’t trust myself. I don’t know that I’ll ever get over the hurt of the things I’ve done

  125. doodah says

    I worked hard for a month to get my EX back I followed a book. It worked! I got her to eat lunch with me. My next step was to ask her to a theme park to reignite a spark. But yesterday I had a break down and said some of the worst things. One reason my ex left me. It was a mental breakdown from the divorce and seeing her beautiful face at lunch this past weekend. I put in a month of self help to get her to lunch. All I had to do was ask her to a theme park for our next outing. Instead I lashed out at my parents for ruining my relationship. which led me in to a nervous break down and I said things to my ex you don’t say to some one you love. especially her. I wish I could take it back but no one ever forgives me. I broke down because I love her so much. She will not forgive me and said all she wants is friends. I’ve ruined everything. Im lost and lonely. But its my own fault.

  126. guilt. says

    I cheated on my boyfriend. I told him but I can’t forgive myself because I now love him. I still hurting and its been 11 months when this happened. I told him on the 10th of this month after we made a year together on the 9th . He cried and it hurt me deeply because I never ever wanted to hurt him. I can’t seem to forgive myself even thought he forgives me and swears he still loves me.

  127. Stupid says

    I met the man of my life 19 years ago. the second I saw him I knew I wanted to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him. We started dating and less than a month into the relationship I cheated on him multiple times with ex partners that I had no respect for. because I didn’t get to spend a lot of time with my boyfriend that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with I always felt as if he was cheating on me and wanted to huhe treated me so different from any man I ever dated. He treated me so different from any man I ever dated. Therefore I never felt his love and always believed he was cheating on me I’ve never treated the way he treated me. He is a very laid back, shy, passive person and I have never dated anyone like that. We got married in 2001 had five children together and I still never felt loved by him so I cheated on him six years into our marriage. after I cheated I found that I could not live with the guilt. I ended up totally trashing our home and destroying our family. My heart breaks I did all this but I truly was never happy with the man I thought I wanted every since I laid eyes on him. Every single day I felt so alone empty and unheard and never could understand why I wanted him. Now I see what an amazing man he is and any woman would give her left arm to have a man like him. Even though he is an amazing man, husband, father and provider I still wanna let him go. I feel as if I would be very lonely with out him. I love him more than anything BUT I don’t think I deserve him.

  128. Ruined it all again says

    MY CRIMINAL PAST. FIGHTS WITH BOYFRIEND. I WAS SO MESSED UP AND ANGRY AT THE WORLD. PEOPLE MUST THINK I’M A PIECE OF SHIT. BUT I’M NOT. I’M HUMAN AND I’M SUFFERING….
    Parents divorced when I was 11, (dad had an affair) I was heartbroken. Id always been daddies princess, but he never bothered with me after he moved out. The only time I saw him was if rang or contacted him. At 13 I finally hit the destruction button of life……. If my own dad didn’t want me then nobody would. Got into drink & drugs, pregnant at 15, raped at 17. All the while still craving my dad’s attention. I put my poor mum through such hell. So glad she never gave up on me. She died when I was 27, & I struggle every day, (12yrs) I’m sad & angry that she was taken so young. I’m angry at myself for causing her so much pain. & I’m so angry that I pushed away for so many yrs & yet I know I should’ve embraced it coz it’s the 1 thing now that I crave.
    I’ve been in abusive relationships & yet now it’s me doing the abusing.
    I have become the person I so don’t want to be!!!! MY DAD!!!! It sickens me that I’ve beaten up my boyfriend, smashed up our home that we worked hard for. & I’m embarrassed that I’ve let myself become him.
    Sooooo need to let him know that I’m finally seeking help about my issues & I can’t promise you I’ll never let it get to this stage again.
    I’m sorry.x

  129. Joshua Mitchell says

    Making the love of my life cry and making her feel a certain way about herself because of my careless mistake and for doubting myself and being so hard on myself to the point of no return also feeling sad near my girlfriend I let it all go today

  130. Joshua Mitchell says

    For masturbating to a picture of a girl I use to have a crush on. For question if I truly was in love with my girlfriend and for not being honest the first time with her when I had the issue. Last but not least for fantasizing other women when she gave me head when I was drunk one time.

  131. Mike says

    I know that everyone makes mistakes, and we all have to learn from them. Worrying about the past only makes things worst. What’s important is the present, and the future. I am letting go!!! For good!

  132. paul says

    I was addicted to porn during my marriage, even though I called myself a christian. I affected my marriage badle and made me get angry and my wife and i separated. I was so sad and lonely that i looked for love instead of working on myself and my marriage. I SO regret that because now I am in a relationship with a lovely beautiful lady for 3 years and I have been pulling away from her because I still have so much unresolved guilt and hurt that i dont feel ready to marry this lovely lady. I dont want to jeaopardize this relationship but eventually she will drop me because she is sick of getting hurt. I know I havent forgiven myself for the divorce. Whats worse is that my ex still loves me and wants me back!!

  133. Tiggergirl says

    I have physical feelings for a guy I dated over 10 years ago. I am really in love with him. I have been since we reconnected when my marriage fell apart to someone else. I hurt him tremendously and feel such regret. We have been great friends for years and he even gave me and my oldest a place to stay when I needed one. We just moved in. Despite all my protestations I have discovered I am still in love with him. Physically I am overweight and have major dental issues that need looked at (didn’t have dental insurance for 4 years that could have prevented this issue). He has verbally stated he had no feelings for me and was only a friend when my ex accused us of romantic interest. Now I am in a tough spot of desire but know disappointment is immanent if I pursue something. I regret all of the things I have done to get here. I loved him and clearly still do, but because of choices I made he will never be mine again to love. My heart breaks everyday now.

  134. MaryK says

    How I manage to hurt my God, my husband and my best friend and myself with the stupid choice to be unfaithful! Even though my God forgives me, my husband is doing is very best to forgive me my gf I have yet to even tell the truth to….and myself who wakes up every day with regret! The past I can not change….Will I ever be able to look into his eyes and not see a reflection of the pain I inflicted not only on him but everyone who knows! I sooo want to let go of this feeling of being less than, a loser someone who without real deep thought has impacted her thoughts perhaps for the rest of her life…please pray for me.

  135. Heather says

    I sent another man a boudoir photo of myself that a professional took. The photo was mean for my fiancée and when you saw that I sent it to a friend who was talking to me in a derogatory manner he called off our wedding and I don’t know how to live with that.

  136. Blue says

    I’m so sorry for how I treated you after the break up. I’m so sorry for how I still treat you. I wish I were a stronger person, but the pain of losing you was a lot for me to cope with during a time when I was already struggling. I can’t erase anything I ever said to you or did, but if somehow this apology doesn’t come out like a groveling, emotional mess, or even if it does, please, please, please accept my apology and know that I’ll always try to grow into a better person. I’ll never stop doing that, and to all the sentient beings and love and goodness that is out there in the world, I hope I can find peace.

  137. DJ says

    A friend wanted to hang out, after she got better. I texted her, and after she didn’t reply, I sent her a long rambling message full of pain. I feel like I’ve ruined the friendship, and hurt her feelings. It’s so awkward and I just wish I had played it cool.

  138. 4give me says

    My boyfriend of 10 yrs we separated once for like six or seven months during this time I slept with his brother and his brother’s wife I just told him we are now married for 5 months it took all of me to tell him it’s no excuse for what ive done I guess I wanted him to hurt like he hurt me for all those years now I can’t forgive myself…… *advice anyone*

  139. monty says

    I loved a girl since 2003 and started drinking in 2007 when she left me alone I ve been drinking for the last 7 years everyday but now no more I ve already wasted my whole youth drinking nd feeling being lonely…I want to start afresh again nd ll never think about her again ever in my whole life

  140. Siti Nur I'syah says

    Hello everyone, my name is I’syah and I’m from Singapore. These are the words that I could never convey to someone whom I used to love and care about. I feel extremely guilty towards him and I’m truly sorry towards all his close friends and loved ones for leaving him high and dry. Dear Gideon Chia, I hope that they have social media up there and if they don’t, I pray that The Most High will show to you what I’m putting down here when that ‘time’ comes. I never thought that I’d see you again, not in person but on my tv screen where you were filling in as extras in a Malay Drama. I was eating dinner with my husband when I saw you that night. I waited for the drama to be over and for the credits to roll. I was shocked when I saw (in loving memory) beside your name. I frantically searched on Facebook for your profile for condolences. I was still in a state of denial and disbelief. I saw that your close friends have gathered and tagged each other at your funeral on your Facebook wall. I felt so wrong and so bad, for dropping you like a bad habit. I wanted out of our relationship and I saw no other way to do it. I blocked you on MSN, on Facebook and even threw away the SIM card so you would completely have no access to me. I never gave you a chance to tell me what you wanted to at that time, good or bad. I’m very happy with my current husband and he’s everything to me now but upon the knowledge of your death, memories of our wonderful times together resurfaced and
    made me berate myself for leaving you the way I did. I was so selfish. I was so bad for doing this to you. You were a sweet guy and gave me all you could but you were not what I needed in my life and I had to get away from youthe way I did because you chased me each time I told you I wanted to break up with you. I guess one day you gave up and you probably would have hated me like crazy. You were my first real boyfriend and I won’t forget the feeling I felt when I’m with you. I know you won’t forget me too, my good and my bad. I hope to seek for your forgiveness when that ‘time’ comes. May The Most High forgive your sins and may you rest in peace until the time comes that I’ll see you again, my prince.

    Love,
    I’syah(your Bee)

  141. Amy says

    The large amount of disgraceful, horrendous and harmful actions I have made whilst crazed by teen lust. It seems unfair how such an intense emotion can be felt so young and has led me – an otherwise innocent and kind girl – to behave in a way I can never forget. I just hope one day the guilt will ease to an extent I no longer feel cramps and sickness from it.

  142. Anastasia says

    Let go of the pain and guilt. Let go of the years of regret and fear. Let go of a love that has only caused me pain. Be able to forgive myself and this man who once was my all. But most of all let go of the old me who accepted a life that never completely fulfilled her. And be able to love myself, accept myself, find myself and embrace a new beginning.

  143. Abby says

    What I said to Someone Who I really wanted to date and his reaction and now he won’t talk to me. I keep blsming myself for saying what I said. I had a little too much to drink. I keep thinking if i hadn’t said what I said we were off in the sunset still. But there is a lot I’m leaving out to this situation bc id rather not talk about it. But he and I were never going to be happy ever bc he already was w someone else

  144. Sukkah for luv says

    I was in love with a man who was using me up he wouldn’t let go and my love for him made it impossible for me to be the one to let go even though he wasn’t good for me . So I slept with his good friend of mAny years so that he’d have to let go but my love for him hasn’t told him yet. I afraid of being alone even though I already am. 2 days after I slept with his friend he finally told me he loved me after 5 years. I cried . I’m so sad but I could no longer be hi doormat what’s done is done I did it for a reason and now I have to women up

  145. justme says

    maiesthename – I have almost the same experience as you with your step-daughter… I am trying to forgive myself for all the nasty things I have thought and sometimes said. I guess I don’t have much to tell you other than, you are not the only one….. you are not evil for feeling this way, and realizing that she’s just a kid and you need to deal with your feelings means you are on the right track :) In the end, she will be soooooo blessed by having had you instead of her real mom.

  146. He stole my joy and made me heartless says

    I slept withe my lovers best friend to get him to let me go because he was sleeping around but I still loe him and I’m so hurt have to tell him tho

  147. Mariesthename says

    My intense dislike of my sister who has always managed to make me feel like shit with her cutting remarks and actions…
    My anger over coming back from my honeymoon and having my step-daughter age 13 dumped by her mother and refusing to ever have her back! she is now 15 and still with me, but eveything she does winds me up, she acts, talks, looks like her mother which I know she can’t help. but her stupid thick attitude and manners are getting to me, I know this is about ME and not her, after all she is just a child, but I am angry very very angry at not being asked or consulted or given a choice to have her and my husband(her dad) says and does nothing!!! ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

  148. Ray says

    I want to let go of the past. Mistakes I’ve made and grudges I’ve held against people. I want to forgive myself and others. I want to let go of fear and open up myself to love again. To not be held back by my fears. Let go of expectations. Keep things in perspective.

  149. Jr says

    Just want to let go the regrets that I have with him for not telling him. The truth that t I love him until now .i need to forgive myself and try do hard to think him anymore.just focus on my own lives.

  150. Shouldawoulda says

    I held in secret that my divorce wasn’t final. I had longed separated from my ex husband. Now it’s taking forever to get it done and it’s reeking havoc in my current relationship. I can’t decide what’s really issues and what comes as a result of my guilt. The divorce itself isn’t hard. We’ve agreed and settled our differences long before the paperwork began. It seems like it’s always something else needed to get it done and then that’s not enough. Transportation fell thru, there was a death in the family. Just like one thing after the other. My current boyfriend pissed off, his words not mine. I’m scared that even once the divorce is final things will never be the way they were. That what had will be what we had.

  151. NoMoreBurdens says

    I want to apologize and let go of all the times I’ve spoken out in anger and hurt someone’s feelings. I want to let go of bad decisions I’ve made. I want to let go of guilt, hurt, and pain. I want to let go of everything because it’s all temporary anyways. I AM FREE BECAUSE I AM LETTING GO!

  152. Me says

    I am an ex kleptomaniac. I have hurt people close to me and let others down. I was so ashamed with myself. I felt like my whole existence was a sin; there was this side of me that no one knew except after I was caught.. I felt freed. I had interventions and counseling and was forced to right my wrongs. I had never been so honest with myself and with my family. There was a release and finally the real me did not have a part of me that I felt I needed to hide. I have been good for several months and feel no urge to return to my old ways but still I am haunted by my actions. I have a new boyfriend and constantly question if I should tell him. People I love still cannot trust me and probably not for a long time will I be able to earn that back. I have turned to God more than ever and want to make a final “let go”. Piece by piece I have let go.. I feel love for myself again and pride in my character again. But this doubt in myself I want to let go. I want to trust myself whole heartedly. I am letting go now. I feel like I’m walking on a tightrope over a large canyon but I’m not afraid. I am sure footed. This just turned into a cake – walk.

  153. Ann Barber. says

    I gave my ten year old dog away. I deeply regret it and want her back. She is full of fleas and I am so worried for her. They got the police involved saying I was harassing them. I wasn’t. I only called to find out if she needed cutting, she does, also for Parve
    O virus jab? I paid for both. The lady couldn’t cut her as she had to give her three flea baths and showed us the fleas still on her? They also have two cats. I am in pieces.

  154. Ronnie says

    Pain from a bad childhood, a bad marriage and disappointing relationships with my adult children and friends

  155. AS says

    A while ago I cheated on my gf and she found out and we broke up a few months ago. She’s happy to be single now but I’m a wreck. I know that it’s all my fault that this happened in the first place, but that only makes the feeling worse. It’s been months since I blew my chance with her and I still stay up at night hating myself. I don’t know what to do sometimes, other times I just want to give up. Idk wtf to do with my life without her and I need help

  156. Jess says

    I’m under the age of 16, but I’ve been through many heartbreaks and life lessons. I hear all the time that I’m very mature for my age. But, I’m not sure that’s a good thing. I think it all started with my first break up. He had already had many girlfriends and experience. I hadn’t even had my first kiss. He was always pushing and pushing for me to kiss him but I’ve always hated being on the spot. So I refused and he got tired. So one day he left me a voicemail telling me that he was breaking up with me. I cried and screamed at the moon. I didn’t understand we were dating for 3 months (not a long time but I loved him like no other). I hate myself for letting him go and now he’s dating one of my good friends. And it about killed me when I found out. It’s been a year since we’ve been separated. And I still miss him. But not like my second breakup. He was a pothead, had nothing going for him and thought the world revolved around him. I guess I felt like I deserved lower quality boys after my first breakup. So, he ended up being my first kiss and we hung out every weekend. We broke up twice and he came back a couple weeks ago. I started flirting and we were basically dating. But I realized that he just got bored. So I broke it off. He acted like he was hurt. He wasn’t. Poor me for thinking that he actually cared.. He’s cheated on me god-knows-how-many times. Him being under the age of 16, is pretty pathetic that he’s smoking weed, drinking alcohol and having sex. So I still love him even though he’s a piece of shit. And then long-story-short, there was another boy, we’re neighbors and he’s better than the pothead but not much. We’ve dated two times also and I’m not over him either. Seeing him on a daily basis doesn’t help. We flirt constantly and that doesn’t help either. He disrespected me one day and I went off on him and we hated eachother for awhile. Now we’re fine. But basically, I’m stuck between a boy with a girlfriend, a pot-smoking player, and the boy next door. I need help. I also suffer from depression and trust issues. So if you have the effort to read this please leave some comments. It would help immensely. Thank you so much.:)

  157. emoen says

    so i screwed up my first job, got fired after one day and now my mom and sister hate me how do i get over this

  158. Euphoria says

    Im letting go of my regrets of my mistakes in a past relationship. I learned from my faults and understand how important it is to love myself first.

  159. Olga says

    I read your story and w as shocked. It hunted me the whole day… Image of your dog was in front me all the time, I felt his pain and asked “why?” … he was asking “why I am hurt by my best friend, why he keeps kicking me?”… Your poor dog simply couldn’t comprehend what was happening. he simply wanted to be loved and enjoy life with you and you killed him. What kind of person are you? Do not even try to justify yourself by saying that you didn’t want it to happen, then why you kept kicking him? And how hard someone must kick a dog to get him bleed internally to death? do you think you loved him? No… Your story is the worst I ever read. I do not know how you can live with this… People like you shouldn’t have pets. You wanted to teach him a lesson? But you needed a lesson, not your dog. I wish I could have your dog and comfort him and love him and enjoy his love… As for you, I wish you being hunted by what you have done…

  160. Lily says

    I want to let go of the termendous guilt and shame I feel about leaving my husband. He loved me and cherished me and all I did was repetedly hurt him with my unreasonable expactations and demands from our relationship. He wanted to start a family with me and like an idiot, I could never commit. But possibly the worst decision I have ever made was to respond to my ex-boyfriend from years back and enter into an emotional affair with him. I started feeling so guilty for betraying my husband in that way that I could not look him in the eyes any longer and had to leave. I left to live with my shame and punish myself for what I have done. It has been 7 years now since we split. He moved on very quickly and has a family now, whereas I continue to live in shame and punish myself. I had a couple of relationships since we split but not a single one came even close to what I had with my husband. And I cannot help it that every new man I meet, I keep comparing to my ex. And of course none of them come even close. I feel like I will never meet anyone who will love me as much as my ex did and with whom I will be able to have as amazing a relationship that I had with my ex-husband. And deep inside, I believe that God is punishing me for what I have done to my ex for a reason, and I will be doomed to years of suffering in shame and regret over something that could have been and never was. I keep thinking, if I could just turn back time and act differently . . . I never should have left . . . I so desparately want to move on. I want to let go of the regret that I have over loosing my marriage and I want to believe that I deserve happiness and love in spite of what I have done. I want to forgive myself for my past actions and believe that I will find my happiness again some day and will have a family that I so desparately desire.

  161. S.P says

    I wish I could turn back time and take back the embarrassment I’ve caused to the person I loved and to myself. These guilts have been haunting me for months. I realized it’s never easy to just forgive myself after the constant cycle of this wrong doings. The thought of people gossiping and laughing at the things I’ve done, kills me. Oh how I wish I could turn back time and make things better as they are now. How I wish I didn’t have to go through all of these by myself.

  162. Ryan says

    My wife and I had been in a cycle of punishing each other, lashing out at each other, and ignoring each other for years. I love her so much, but we were becoming increasingly fractured. I travel and was depressed. She was becoming more distant. We had a huge fight about our sex life and we were both drunk. She went to hit me and I restrained her. She headbutted me and I headbutted her back. It was the final nail in the coffin of our relationship. I am wracked with guilt over it. I had never hit her back or laid a hand on her in any way over the years. I just wish we could have honestly talked about our feelings so we weren’t always boiling over at each other for the littlest most unintended things.

  163. Anonymous says

    I have an ex boyfriend who wanted to get back together with me, but I didn’t want to get back together with him. I shared with a best friend some guilt I had over things that happened during our relationship, and my ex found out that I did. He was furious about some of the things I told my best friend. I then severed contact with him because I couldn’t handle it anymore. Now I struggle with the guilt of “Should I repair this damaged ‘friendship,’ or what was left of it?” I don’t think it’s a good idea to repair it, but I just feel so guilty about it.

  164. JULIE says

    MY CRIMINAL PAST. I GOT DUI’S, POT POSSESSION, FIGHTS WITH BOYFRIEND. I WAS SO MESSED UP AND ANGRY AT THE WORLD. MY MOM WAS DYING, I WAS SCARED AND SICK. I FOUND OUT I HAD HEP C, MY WORLD WAS CRASHING DOWN….. NOW, I’M BETTER AND TRYING TO GET A JOB. I HAVE TO DRAG THIS CRIMINAL BACKGROUND AROUND AND I KNOW PEOPLE MUST THINK I’M A PIECE OF SHIT. BUT I’M NOT. I’M HUMAN AND I’M SUFFERING….. PLEASE GOD, HELP ME TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF. I CAN’T LET GO OF THE SHAME

  165. CeeCee says

    I want to let go of the fact that I hurt the man I love the most, the man I would die for, the man I want to marry, the man who would die for me, my bestfriend, my lover, my everything. I foolishly gave up on our relationship because of my own insecurities and failure to have faith in us.

    He has since taken me back into his life and has forgiven me of my actions which I am forever grateful for and extremely blessed. But although he has forgiven me, I have not forgiven myself, I hate myself for what I did – I am constantly flooded with regret and shame. I know what I did was wrong, yet I know that I am a strong person for realizing my mistake and fixing it but I AM SO ASHAMED OF MYSELF…. I hope that letting it go on here helps at least a little bit

    I dont know who will read this but, to everyone else out there who needs to let go, I don’t know who you are or where you’re from, or your past, but I am proud of you.

  166. alex says

    I am a teenager and i just wanted to be cool. i brought my dads alcohol to school without him knowing. i dint intend to giv it to anyone. i had brought very little and somehow people found out and they asked for it so i jus gave it, some one ratted me out, i was taken to the principals office, i thought i would get kicked out, but he let me off the hook, i was thankful, but i had worked very hard for a good name, now all teachers will know me as an alcoholic, i spoilt my disciplinary record, i regret it alot, i feel so ashamed .

  167. Samantha says

    I can’t stop thinking about my ex. We dated off and on for five years, but haven’t seen or spoken in almost a year. I just found out he is moving in with his current girlfriend-and seeing as I have a stable live in boyfriend- I just want to move on with my life and stop thinking about him all the time! He makes appearances in my dreams on a regular basis, and I can’t stop myself from feeling guilty about so much from our past. I used to lie to him a lot, I broke up with him several times because I was confused and kept losing site of who I was in our relationship, I sabotaged what we had. He gave me so many chances and always treated me great. I just wasn’t ready and didn’t know what I had. We lead completely different lives now, and I need to move on. I am sorry, I wish you well- I just don’t want to think about or torture myself with the past so much anymore. I want to learn from my mistakes and lead a happy life with someone else. Please forgive yourself and allow yourself to move on.

  168. Madeline says

    I’ve struggled with masturbation for years now and I always feel so guilty and ashamed. I also struggled with cutting and anorexia so I also feel bad about my past with that. Something really bad happened with my sister and I let it go on without saying anything. I lied to my parents about it for 2 months. Even though I didn’t know the extent of the situation at the time, my mom blames me for everything that happened and I blame myself. Because of anger and different reasons, I often say things to my parents that I don’t mean. I want to be able to forgive myself of all this and let it all go.

  169. anon says

    I want to let go of all the shameful and humiliating ways I reacted to my break up. I want to stop hating myself for it, and I want to stop hating him too

  170. Savannah says

    The other night me and two of my close friends (who are also female) got very drunk. We are all straight and our boyfriends had just gone away to football camp earlier that day and their phones were taken from them so we couldn’t talk to them. We all wanted to just hang out and drink because we couldn’t see or talk to our boyfriends and it sucked.. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years and I have never cheated on him or had any desire to. He has never cheated on me either and we talk about getting married one day. Anyways, it was my first time ever drinking liquor, second time ever being drunk. I had 7 shots of tequila and played beer pong and then I was completely shitfaced.. I hated it and I’m never doing it again. But then we were all talking about how we missed our boyfriends and were all super drunk and sad.. and then we started kissing each other because we were drunk. it wasn’t really making out at first. and it stopped for a while. One of my friends had fallen asleep on the couch and me and my other friend went to a bed that is also in their basement. We kissed some more and I was honestly so drunk that I can’t even remember exactly what happened. I remember touching each other, but I can’t remember if it was sexual. I remember kissing each other but I don’t remember if it was sexual either.. the fact that I can’t remember is driving me crazy… I have told my boyfriend exactly what I do remember and he has forgiven me and we are fine, because I have promised to never put myself in that situation again, and I mean it. But I haven’t told him that other things might have happened, but I can’t remember them… I guess I shouldn’t feel bad because I can’t remember anyway.. its just the potential of something having happened and I’m just having a really hard time living with myself because I don’t know if i cheated or not. and that is not something I could ever imagine doing to him. If I’m capable of it while I’m drunk then I am so incredibly shocked at myself because he is the best thing that has every happened to me and I am well aware of that.

  171. redemption says

    a mistake that i made . that hurt my parents dearly, dated a guy who i trusted , he turned out to be a huge regret. who got me a bad name , having to hear the things said about you due to this guy, and living in the fear that if my mom and dad ever hears of it , itll break their heart. i want to tell them, but i feel i have hated my self for so long, and im not strong enough to face what happens if i tell them ……

  172. Ashley says

    I kissed someone else while on vacation while being in a relationship for almost a year. I love my bf so much and I regret it every second since it’s happened

  173. Dylan says

    I’ve never had sex with anyone else but my girlfriend, whom I’m with since three years now. I’ve been away from her for a month this summer.
    While sleeping with a dear girlfriend of mine, things got weird. We started kissing, undressing and started intercourse for about ten seconds. That’s when I pulled myself away from her and started regretting every single moment of cheating towards my girlfriend.
    If I’ll tell her she would break up with me no matter what..I’m sure about it, and she would be completely right to do so.
    I wish I never did what I did and keep thinking I’m an idiot and I’ll never forgive myself from that experience. I’m sorry, I truly am, I don’t know what the hell I was thinking. I love you so much it can’t be explained and I wish to be by your side as long as I can.

  174. Angie says

    I cheated on my ex bf 4 years ago and I want to let it go. I recently saw him and his new gf together and I really regret everything I did but unfortunately can’t change it. I’m very happy with my bf of 1 year but I can’t seem to forgive myself and replay what happened in the past. I’m so happy my ex found someone sweet and moved on but I want go forgive myself and be the happy girl I was before. No one is this world is perfect and I most certainly aren’t either I want to let go.

  175. Jo says

    I am currently on holiday with family and we were looking through old photos., and the conversation turned to 1985 when I was 16 and was invited to come and stay. I didn’t want to I had just got boyfriend and wanted to stay at home and be with him and my friends but as my sister had done this the previous year I was forced to.
    I stayed with the(people I am withnow) but every time they went out would ring my boyfriend. Three weeks later when my parents joined us all hell broke loose.
    Worst holidays ever.
    I still feel so guilty over this. Later that month when we got home my exam results arrived, I had not done as well as hoped so was told to get a job and that I would not be going back to school.
    I did get a job and enjoyed the money to buy clothes cigs and nights out.

    But always I have felt incredibly guilty about those stolen phone calls.

  176. Brianna says

    Hi . I’m a teenager and I was in a previous relationship with a disabled boy . We’ll I never told him I would date him he just assumed and I’ve always been scared to express my opinion so I went along with it . This went on for about 2 months until I met a friend from the past and he encouraged me to get a voice and tell my opinion . I eventually fell in love with him while dating the other guy . I felt bad but honestly I knew nothing about the boy I was dating . He knew nothing about me and we knew nothing about relationships . After a while I broke up with the guy and for almost 10 months I’ve been dating the (friend from the past ) I want to be with him for a very long time but I’m not sure if God has forgiven us because I don’t know if what I did was wrong and everyday I go around guilty not forgiving myself because I feel God is going to get back at me .

  177. teresa harbin says

    Married 25yrs not having children. I am 54 and can’t get it off my mind.
    Not having children causes me to have panic attacks feel like going crazy makes me so sad. Teres

  178. Trina says

    I want him to know that while we weren’t together, I have had close encounters with men. its not because i wanted to be with other men while we were on our breaks, but because i wanted to feel something that was as close as to what we had before. i’m sorry that i screwed that up and now i have to live with the regret of feeling as though i’m not as perfect as you treat me. the only thing i want you to know is that i could never go back there again, because as long as youre around i never want to be with someone else as long as you walk this earth.

  179. Mahrk Lyev1111 says

    Being attracted to the same sex in countries like USA,UK Canada is really easily as i have heard.There are still people there who don’t like people like us but it not as bad as that of Russia cos here we are beaten jailed and sometimes even killed.You can’t hold the hand of the one you care about in the public so as to avoid been harassed we can even set a place to me cos if we are caught we face jail time.Here in Russia we gay are prisoner in our own country.I am currently in a relation with my fiance and we had to leave Russia to be together.Before now his parent were against our relationship cos they had no idea he was gay we sneaked around knowing the risks if we were to be caught.When he finally got heart to tell him family the rejected him and asked he stops seeing me or they were going to turn him in and that scared him a lot his father is a very powerful man in Russia and he made it possible for him not to be able to live the country i mean as long as you have money in Russia anything goes.I was lucky they never got to meet me cos if they did i would have not been here right now writing this article that you are all reading.Probably i would have been in jail.Months passed and there was no way we could see each other cos they had him watched to make sure he is never get to meet me and also to know the person the was he was practicing this profane act with as they called it.They stripped him of all his right to the family assets and made him an outcast i could see he was suffering form the text he was sending me they made his life miserable and made him end our relationship.I knew he was confused and did know what to do to get his life back to make his family see him the way they use to.And i knew that his family were never going to accept his life style cos they are so anti gay.If they were to be a fund riser to fight gay practice in Russia his family will be the first to ask that they host it.I love him so much but he was scared of him family and they also had a grip on him.I know most person don’t believe in what about to say but still if it wasn’t for Mutton Osun a spell caster that i found on the internet i would not have been writing this.It happened maybe by a slim chance or fate that i was a blog were it happened that i read three distinct comment about how he help them with similar problem.I contacted him with an email address that was in the comment.I asked Mutton Osun to cast a spell to make my then boyfriend to make up his mind to run away from Russia with me to be together and also his family as in his father to make it possible for him to leave Russia with me and set a very comfortable life for us were we were going.And i know doing spells with someone you can’t even see is outrageous but i promise you he makes you feel more at else when he calls and he really goes through with his promise cos he did with mine he was really helpful to him and kind.And like other people said he doesn’t even charge you for what he is doing for you.I had to provide some list of materials that he asked that i get for my spell casting.I preferred that i sent the money down to him cos they were not easy to find and even when i found them it was so expensive but he could get them cheaply.He instructed me on how to make the spell work with great effect.It took 7 seven day and night to see it result.On the seventh night my boyfriend call me to tell me we could finally be together cos his father did agreed to do all i asked mutton osun to make him do i just knew at once it was Mutton Osun spell cos it what i asked for and now me and fiance are the happiest right now we can hold hand now without fear of being harassed or sent to jail for we are in love and we are very comfortable here.His father made sure everything was set before we even got here just like i asked it should be.Am going to also leave Mutton Osun email here just like others have done for contact purpose godsofosunx @ rocketmail. com…

  180. Jose says

    I was walking my dog who I really love a lot.we were going to the park.i was trying to train him to be a beter dog and he would not listen to me so I got real upset and started kicking him and hitting him with the chain.I was so mad when we finally got home I started kicking him some more several times. I was really upset and afterwards his stomach was hanging where I had been kicking him, I was really scared I wasn’t trying to harm his health I was just trying to teach him a lesson, I was just with him he started changing color,then I knew I had taking the beating to far.i was looking at him he was trying to get up and couldn’t no more and just collapsed to the ground. my dog had died I never loved a dog like I loved that one,I was crying a lot I was never trying to kill him I just got out of control I will never be able to forgive myself.

  181. Sally says

    I want to let go of past regrets and old negativities with old friends. To be able to move forward with light in my heart and attract positive events.

    I just want to be able to give love and receive love from true friends and to learn from mistakes, etc.
    Live Love Laugh! :)

  182. niki says

    I have had difficult time for many years i have done some things that i should have never done and i have been rude and shown bad behavior to the one i love but his patience and his faith in god mad me realize today that I was wrong and i now want to let it go and start fresh with patience love and faith in god.

  183. Mike says

    5 months ago I posted pictures of my ex girlfriend on the Internet. I honestly put the information in anger and did not intend to submit it but she said something hurtful through text and in rage I posted it her life has in allot of ways been ruined because of this I have tried to beg for forgiveness she has not pressed charges on me even though she knows it was me but she will not let go of what I did I’m not trying to be insensitive and I know what I did was wrong

  184. Tyca Riv says

    I yell at him and make him feel terrible for talking to other girls. But I’m just a hypocrite. I’ve cheated on him so many times. But I love him so much. And all I want is to tell him. To let it all out. But I don’t want to lose him. I can’t. He’s my everything. He’s the love of my life. I have never hated myself more than I do now. I’ve lied to him. Who do that to someone they love?
    How could he ever love me if I told him this?
    I’m sorry.

  185. Rae says

    When I’m drunk I get very flirty- and that’s putting it nicely. Last night I let myself act all slutty and hooked up with my ex’s best friend. I’m not that type of person, I feel like sex and love are supposed to be joint but when I’m drunk I just want people to want me and I don’t know how I’m going to change that but I am going to do my best to control or limit myself.

  186. S Miller says

    Let go of the guilt about leaving my son and ex-husband. The hurt I have caused. Let go of Cameron and I. Leaving the past behind and living in the present. I forgive you Shiffon.

  187. erin says

    I want to let go of not doing well throughout the school years and never getting a degree.
    I want to let go of marrying my first husband who is an alcoholuc/drug addict and for the drugs I did when we were together. I lost a job over it and lots of money. And not to mention the years I wasted being with him and associating myself with some very lowlife people.
    I want to let go of marrying the rebound guy because I got pregnant because if I don’t love him. I love someone else. I wish i could have another child with that person. I refuse to have anymore children with my current husband. Another failed marriage even though we are still together.
    I want to let go of comparing myself with successful women. Some I’ve treated poorly because of my insecurities and envy of them.
    I want to let go of having no love or self respect for myself pretty much my whole life.
    I want to let go of feeling like I’ve failed my daughter who was just diagnosed with adhd. I haven’t been mother of the year when it comes to helping her with school.
    I want to let go of spending money on frivolous things, many of which I no longer have or use. I have none of my own money. It’s all my husbands.
    I want to let go of not making the life I now wish I had. But then again I didn’t know what i want until I saw what I can’t have. It’s very hard to leave the bed some days.
    But I’m only 36. I want to try to make a dream come true. One of the only ones left, to get a degree in exercise science and become a personal trainer and compete in fitness competitions.

  188. Lauren wright says

    I had sex with a guy to try to get him to love me. Months later I drunkenly had sex with a random guy and beat myself up for it. It’s been years later and I haven’t had sex until last week and it was again drunken sex with a random guy who I don’t even know his last name, and it was completely my decision. Can’t blame it on anyone else like I did in the younger days. I feel so insanely bad about myself, and feel like a slut. This isn’t who I am… This is gonna be a hard one, help me God.

  189. Mars says

    Self destructive behaviors. Getting too drunk lashing out at friends and trying to kill myself at someone else’s house. Yelling, screaming, threatening, hitting crying about everything. I snapped for no reason at all. I don’t even remember alot of it. I feel shame. I’m disgusted with myself. I never ever wanted to hurt or do this to anyone. I don’t know why I did. I feel deep sadness. I can’t believe what I did. I tried throwing myself down a stair case. The only reason I didn’t was because I was held back. I feel so ashamed of myself. I’m hurting and I also hurt other. Caused a huge scene for nothing. I also brought my past into a new relationship that could have worked out so well. I messes that up multiple times and this time for good. It’s hard to let go of the things I’ve done. I want to forgive myself. I want to move on. And I never never never never want to do that to anyone ever again. I never want to act like that again. I’m going to be better.

  190. Paige London says

    I need to let go of the fact that i beat my boyfriend up out of anger and now seeing him with all the bruises makes me feel really guilty. I just had myself for what I have done but he forgave me and I can’t forgive myseld for hurting the one I love

  191. dstar7sunrise says

    I wish words could aptly describe the hurt felt for losing the love of my life…

    She is everything I could ever want. She’s the most beautiful woman I ever met, she’s kindhearted and funny too. Just being around her makes me want to be a better man. Her loving personality and warm smile have captured my heart like a butterfly catches the wind…

    I met her several years ago and although I liked her from the first time I met her, I feel like I’ve blown the chance of a life time because I took too long to respond to her subtle hints of love.

    “If only I could go back and change one moment,” are words that I just can’t seem to get out of my mind right now. How I long to go back in time so I could tell her how I felt before it was too late…before she got engaged to someone else.

    There were times where we would try to talk to each other but other things just kept getting in the way…or maybe it was me. Maybe I let that happen.

    And now I feel so lost and hopeless that I’ll never find a love like this again and I’m pretty sure of it too. The pain of this loss has cut so deep it feels like I have nothing left in my heart…nothing!

    Why did this have to happen this way?!

    Why couldn’t I have just manned up to the challenge when it called upon me?!

    So often you hear people talk about their relationships and how things aren’t quite the way they expected them to be—and yet we live in a world that also puts so much pressure on getting married when you’re young that it can be just as bad as the peer-pressure you felt when you were in grade school.

    Why?!…Why does it have to be like this?!

  192. Juliet says

    I wanna forgive ma friend and also ask her forgiveness for whatever I did to her and forgiveness for whatever she did for because I want Jesus to also forgive me of ma sins.

  193. Nadia says

    I dated a drug addict. Stupidest decision of my entire life. I can’t get over how naive and dumb I was to think that he would stop using the drugs for me? For a life with me? To find some ideal of happiness? As if that’s what he was really into. All he ever did was use me, lie to me, use drugs for the entire 5 years. My family warned me, my friends warned me, any person who I told about him basically warned me. But like a fool, I would take him back every time he’d return from a binge, even if it was a year later….all he’d have to do was sell me another story of how amazing and pure our love was, be charming and fun – and like a foolish woman I just soaked it all up. I thought we really had something special. I thought all the times we laughed for hours in the middle of the night, all of the passionate love we made, all of the times he did nice things for me actually MEANT something. I thought he was my bestfriend but he never actually cared. I ended up getting burned, and everyone who knew my family and his family basically look at me like I’m the most idiotic woman on the planet for being with someone like him. Our families knew each other very well. I just can’t seem to forgive myself for letting someone liek him get so close to me. What did I think he was going to be a loving father and husband? I get so mad at myself for being SO much in denial. I wish his love never had such an affect on me.

    I’m trying to let it go, maybe writing it here will help. But I think about it all the time. I think about how manipulative and intentional he was the entire time – while my head was in teh clouds trying so hard to be the one that could save him. Trying to be sweet enough, pretty enough, forgiving enough, honest enough, smart enough – anything to show him that he could put his trust and faith in me and our future, that life wasn’t so bad after all. But clearly it was. I just feel so stupid. Like this fool who believed in love while the entire world knew I was out to lunch. And I never saw it! IT took me 5 years to finally get it. 5 whole years of my young adult life wasted on a guy who would leave me in the drop of a dime for drugs…

    The worst part is, I would rather believe he actually did love me, then to have to deal with teh horrible reality that I was the biggest fool ever.

    After this ordeal the only person or being left to rely on is God (everyone I know judges me and looks at me like I’m a crazy person) God got me through everything…prayer saved me. So I pray for his soul…and I pray for mine…and I thank you for letting me put this out there. I hope I can finally let that awful drama go to the grave once and for all…

  194. Art says

    Over the past few years I haven’t been myself. It all started when my grandpa passed away. He was the closest person to me and I just wasn’t ready to let him go so soon. After he passed, I spiraled. I started sleeping with random strangers just to feel a void I feel like. After every encounter, I alway felt disgusting and ashamed of what I’ve became. I realized that I need to stop because this wasn’t the person I was and for almost a year I did, but recently I did it again. I feel so ashamed and I wonder why me everyday. I wonder why I can’t just go back to the way things use to be and I can be happy again, I’m so insecure about myself and I feel as though I’ll never find that special someone to love. Every time I’m in this situation I always tell myself why? I know it’s wrong. I just want to be happy again because I don’t like who I’ve become.
    I really needed to just let go and I hope that I can just become a better person and forgive myself for what I’ve done.

  195. Violet Gomez says

    My first relationship was the worse relationship in my life.He was my step brother. we were close buddys when our parents started dating. We would cuddle next to each oter an hold hands.when our parents married we decided to stop. Then in jr. high we got close again and would stay up late just talking. i wrote how i felt about hin in a journal and all the things we did sexually. my mom found it and read the whole thing.she was pissed and yelled at him her husband his mom..i was sad because he said he loved me and when my mom asked him if we ever did anything he denied it! I would blast music in my room screaming into my pillow. How could he do this to me?then to top it off everyone acted like it was my fault. i never got the sex talk how was i suppose to know? My step dad hated me since then. I was so mad at my step brother So to get back at him I started dating his best friend. He was a bad and yet good deep down. We ended up having 2 beautiful kids. And for a second everything was good until. His bad side exploded. We were to get married in two days till the pressure got to him and he called it off. He never let go of the fact that I slept with his friend. And I don’t blame him but come on that was before we even dated so why does it matter? Anyways I just had to let it out

  196. Claire says

    I have these two friends who were really great friends in sixth grade, and I became part of their “clique” around the end of our sixth grade year. In seventh grade the two original friends were kinda drifting apart because one of them kinda started to hang out with some other people. Thats all fine with me. I stuck with one of the friends more, just because thats kinda how it worked out. over the summer, The girl who kinda drifted away from the group, kinda started to think of me as stealing her original friend. I was not stealing her, I just wanted to be friends with both of them! than this happened. It was carried out in comments on a google plus post. NAME (the girl who drifted away from the group) made a joke-ish thing that involved NAME2 (the other girl). this is kinda how it went.
    NAME- little did my dad know, NAME2 is my columbian boyfriend (its a long story)
    Me- oh yeah she told me about that earlier today!
    NAME- without me :(
    NAME- no i get it.
    me- NAME calm down, it was at a volleyball camp!
    it was after posting that that I thought “wait, maybe I should have said over text so that I dont cause a huge argument.” so I deleted my post about the volleyball camp and said this instead.
    me- calm down NAME it was over text.
    but NAME had seen the first post about volleyball already and said-
    NAME- oh, so no volleyball camp?
    me- well yeah there was a volleyball camp, but she didnt tell me there!
    and that is all that has happened so far. I feel horrible and I know I fucked up.HELP ME!!!

  197. BLT says

    I want to let go of the belief that I will never meet anyone after the man I was dating suddenly broke up with me. I want to let go of the fear that it was my fault but I’m not sure how. I want to let go of my need to be loved by someone else so badly because I don’t love myself. I want to let go of always finding something to be unhappy or worried or depressed about. I want to let go of believing I’m too old to find love.

  198. Dawn says

    I need to let go my ex-husband. I also cheated on him the last few months of our marriage. I want to forgive myself so bad. How do I do this?

  199. jordan says

    I lied after not paying my account for my tanning membership and got caught a year later after going by my marriage name by the owner. I walked out of the room and the man called me by my name and said not to let it happen again or he would suspend my account. I offered to pay the amount I owed and he said he took care of it..I feel so guilty and bad. I never thought I would get caught.

  200. johna_Than says

    My mom found out that I smoked weed and I told her I only did it once and that I didn’t like it. I lied, i’ve actually done it quite a bit, but still even with my mom knowing I smoke weed I feel so guilty and I feel like such a horrible and terrible person. When she found out she didn’t even yell she just calmly said that I shouldn’t be doing it and she was very disappointed in me. I just broke down and started to cry and cry . I felt so awful with myself for betraying her and not even once she didn’t even yell. She even said I can hang out with my friends, but still I just feel like such a first class jerk for betraying her like that. I like pot, but from now on I really don’t want to smoke it for a while. I can’t forgive myself and she seems fine like she still talks to me normally, but I still just feel like this awful son for her to have and that I went against all her wishes. I just really want to forgive myself and move on, but it’s hard and I can’t. Please help

  201. AJ says

    I hurt my exhusband with lies and because I never truly felt in love with him. I left each chance I could. I love my daughter and hurt her because I was selfish. I mess up at each assignment, because I procrastinate and make poor decisions. I have hurt and let down every friend, every family member. I have a great job and make poor financial decisions and payments on even little things. I need to stop thinking about this stuff. It kills me inside. I look at my beautiful daughter and know I have hurt her and set a bad example.

  202. Lily says

    I hate myself for not having the courage to take my 2 older soon away from my mother. 12 years ago I left them instead of fighting. I didn’t want my mother to suffer and she ended up feeding my sons with hate tours me. I hate that she is always judging me because I’m such a bad mother and I hate that she doesn’t accept that telling my son’s that I abandon them and that I didn’t love them and that I want to abort them only make them hate me and they don’t have respect for me. I blame my mother for breaking the beautifull relationship I had with my sons before I came to U. S. I hate that I can’t let go and I can’t see the beauty of my son’s anymore. I just see 2 kids claiming for what I owe them. And it’s all a vicious circle of triying to fix the past and damaging the future everyday.

  203. Deja says

    I want to let go of the hate and resentment I have for two exes, one who used me physically and played emotional games and left me to back to a woman he sasaid he would never go back to. And said he was over her he was lieing to me the hold time just to use me, for his own personal gain and evil needs. Another whom I made the mistake of giving another chance because he swear he had changed, and just lied everything from his evil selfish ass attitude to laziness and brokeness to no job& no car hadn’t change basically he is still a loser . And he did something hurtful to me, when he knew the deal he still did what he wanted to do. He is a nasty, dirty, bipolar nerd just the thought of him I get disgusted and wish I was never with him this last time and wish I could take it back and purge myself of elthe thought of him. As well as family member who wwent behind my back and slept with my ex, and I believe she is pregnant by him now . It has been years but now one of them have aplogize for the hurt and mental anguish they caused, I feel so disgusted and angry still I need true healing I thought I had but apparently all I did was cover it up& now it has resurfaced.

  204. PJ says

    I want to let go of the love and desire to be with a man that could care less if I died today. When we first go together he had nothing but habits. I helped him through thick and thin and he’s done nothing but made me feel less of a woman than I am now. I helped him get his benefits as well as provided a home for us when he would take off with his friends for weeks. I’m living in the house we shared and when he left I was left with no income and bills behind. I’m so devastated because now I’m having utilities disconnected and nobody to ask for help. Yet, I still think of this man and hope for reconciliation and he has moved on with his life.

  205. Ruby says

    Sometimes I wake up in the morning, thinking, I’m a horrible person. Or when I scroll through my Facebook newsfeed, seeing statuses of People who I have burned bridges with in the past. I got fired from my teaching job last March. I had so many other commitments for the two years I worked there, that it was extremely hard to be the dedicated promising teacher I can be. My boss fired me via email while I was on vacation. I was never able to see or communicate with my students again. I have guilt that my students think I have abandoned them. I think about all the things they must say behind my back. I left my nannying job this past month. While I was away on teaching trip abroad, I told the family that I would be gone for 3 weeks…after that, I was too embarrassed and afraid to pick up my phone when the family would call me. She hired another babysitter. Now, I’m terrified to go grocery shopping because I’m afraid of running into this family. I still have two jobs–a teaching job and another nannying job. While at work, I have these moments of complete and utter guilt and I become completely distracted. There has been tension between my boyfriend and I because of it. I’m constantly irritable, defensive and completely stressed.

    It’s a lot of stress having all this guilt and knowing I’m wrong.

    I just needed to let that out.

  206. Amanda says

    I want to let go of the shame and alienation I have been feeling as a result of my past breakup.
    In the midst of the breakup, I obviously was very vulnerable and in a lot of emotional pain and opened up to his sister. She is a mental health professional and her and I had already developed a pretty decent relationship. In the midst of the breakup, I obviously trusted her enough to tell her my inner most deep feelings and one of those happened to be suicide.. another happened to be not being able to let go of the relationship because I felt I couldn’t live with out him. (I truly loved this person.) She told him about this e mail. He did not handle it compassionately, or empathetically. Trying to diagnose me with all sorts of personality disorders out there hastily. I hated him forever. It has been just about two years now since we broke up. I feel like I have moved on in every possible way except, I do feel a lot of shame and guilt with my behaviour and lack of coping skills during this breakup. I can’t help but still care about how alienated he has made me out to be to his entire family and all of his friends and for some odd reason, I am terrified to ever see them because they might view me as crazy. I would like to let this feeling go.

  207. Miguel says

    My unforgiveness for ssa and struggles with emotional attachments and self hatred. Also my unforgiveness toward my self as who I am and the mistakes I have made along the way. Forgiveness of the past tand embracing who I truly am in Christ.

  208. Greta says

    I told my friend I’d play with her and then I kept saying things like oh I’m going shopping maybe afterwards or like oh I’m going to walk my dog I promise afterwords, anyways so I finally admitted that playing wasn’t going to work out today. Then while I was walking my dog my other friend came up to me and asked me if I wanted to play. And I said yes even though I told my other friend no. Then she saw us playing together. Then her mom yelled at me and I’m pretty sure her family hates me. I just want to cry every time it think about it.

  209. jan says

    I feel so ashamed, like a criminal. I need to remember that I can’t control the past. What’s done is done and can’t be taken back. Can only move forward from here. Ov

  210. Past Regrets says

    So did I. Thank God, no one was charged or went to prison. But I still hurt a lot of people very badly. I told this lie as a pre-teen/teen, and now over 10 years later, I don’t know who I was when I did that or how I could have done and said something so evil. Years ago, I apologized to the people I hurt, and recanted, but despite their forgiveness, the guilt, disgust, and shame are beyond overwhelming.

  211. Jah says

    I want to let go my friend who back-stabbed me, he didnt finish his job. I want to let go of my ex girlfriend, she hurt me. I want to let go my friend and my ex girlfriend for betraying me, Im not really sure, i think its infidelity. I was very patient, but they hurt and betray me after all the risk and effort i have given to them. I want to restart my life and be happy again.

  212. Bill says

    I want to let go of my ex wife that really never loved me anyway she was always with other guys from her various jobs and etc I blamed myself but ho can I blame myself for he being a slut

  213. kim says

    I put drugs over everyone I loved, esp my son knowing what I was doing while I was doing it but still making the conscience decision to do them. Im clean now and trying desperately to pick up the pieces but I feel like I’ve caused damage that will never be repaired.

  214. Cavran says

    Okay so my parents are going through a difficult divorce and I chose to go with my dad because I was tired of having to do so many things like meet new people and new children.I didn’t want to lose my mom or my dad to new people.I feel extremely guilty about going to my dads and leaving my mom behind because I needed a break.I want to tear my heart out and put it in a box. I feel extremely selfish because I left my sisters behind and my mom. :(
    I feel extremely bad and when I go home she’s probably going to say I told you so.Then were going to continue on with life all good I hope.I mean I want to go home but that would break my dad’s heart. Then I would feel even worse I don’t know what to do

    Do you have any ideas?
    Should I tell my dad how I feel?
    What about my mom?

    I really want the old days back when they were together. It’s going to be hard to tell my dad this because I never have really had the heart and guts to talk to them but I’ll have to do that eventually as an adult so I have to be courageous and face this.

  215. Ellie says

    I was negative, gossipy and unhelpful to my beloved daughter who really needed reassurance and support. I have deep regret and hope I will never do that again.

  216. A says

    I’ve been a horrible person to my wife, and not the father I have wanted to be for my children, unable to provide more often than not.

    I neglected to get counseling when I knew I needed it, and have spent years repressing everything from my childhood instead.

    I’m good inside, and I’m tired of feeling guilt from my earliest memories onward to this very day for everything I feel “unworthy of love” for.

    I deserve to be happy too, and I’m so sorry for the way I’ve lived my life and I want to forgive myself and let it go.

  217. Crazy says

    I feel so ashamed for getting so drunk that I hit my friend and missed work. One of the friends that I was getting drunk with phoned in to work at 5am saying I would not be in because I was unwell but then rambled on for a minute saying god knows what as I was so drunk I don’t remember this! Later I called my mum, her partner answered the phone, I was balling my eyes out and her partner then phoned work and lied for me and said I had to go visit my mum who was really unwell in hospital. He explained the drunken 5am phone call by saying he had asked one of my friends to call in and unfortunately they were intoxicated and rang in at an ungodly hour saying I (Crazy) was ill rather than my mum due to the personal/sensitive nature of the situation. Now I am so worried about going back in to work and lying about why I missed work. I feel terrible because I’m crap at lying and feel like they’ll see right through me. I wish I had told the truth from the start! But unfortunately I made these decisions when I was still drunk so now I have to roll with the lie. What I I have learnt now though is that I will NEVER do that again! It’s not worth all the shame, guilt and heart ache. I wish I wasn’t such an emotional person because then I wouldn’t care, but I really do care! I really do need to reevaluate my drinking as well. I don’t think getting that drunk is normal and it is certainly not normal for play fighting to end up as me kicking and biting my friend. I hate myself – I’ve decided drink is not my friend as I once thought and really my life would be better without it!

  218. blondye says

    my failures as a wife to my child’s father. I loved him and wanted to be a good wife but I wasn’t and sometimes I was mean. I didn’t meet his needs as a wife. I wanted to be a good wife but I wasn’t. I feel I’m being punished for everything as I have suffered greatly since he divorced me.

  219. Michelle says

    I want to let go the regret I feel for cheating on my partner before we were married. Every single day I feel regret. I can’t move on from it. I feel like I am living a sentence. I hate myself for hurting them. They did not deserve it. I can’t bare what I have done anymore. I need to let it go

  220. Joe c says

    When I was 14 I was a punk. I did a few mean things to my neighbor.
    I called in a false fire alarm and false ambulance call. Also called the towing company to tow their Volkswagen. These people did not deserve this at all. I feel so ashamed of myself and this was 40 yrs ago.

  221. Juniper berry says

    I cheated in school, hated my parents for abusing me, I am unemployed now and I am full of so much hate I don’t have friends because I’ve lost all social skills. My life in passing before me and my mom isn’t going to live forever and I just feel like I wasted my life. Please tell me that there is a point to this banal existence

  222. Harshneet Kaur says

    Past regrets and making that mistakes again now..But now having the deep guilt and want to let them go.

  223. Carol says

    Hurt family members terribly with hurtful email out of anger and frustration. Not their fault but took out on them and having hard time forgiving myself.

  224. Carol says

    Hurt family members terribly with awful email not meant for all to see but sent out of frustration anger and resentment and feel may have lost brother sisterinlaw and two nieces as a result. Very hurtful and having hard time forgiving myself and moving on with a million things that must be done in my life. Thanks.

  225. Von says

    The guilt, shame, self-condemnation, pain and sorrows from hurting and wrecking Fel’s life. Forgive me for all of my sins. I want to let it all go and be a valuable human being again.

  226. justthatblondekid says

    I was at a party last night and everyone was playing spin the bottle, and me and my two best friends were there, (1 male, 1 female) they both used to have a thing together, but ended it recently and I’ve liked him for a while. the bottle was spun and it landed on me and my male best friend, the one I’ve liked for ages, so we kissed, like properly kissed, it was what i had waited for for a whole year, but now i feel so guilty because it really hurt my best friend that used to be with him, I’ve apologised and i think she has forgiven me but i feel awful. i feel like i have betrayed the best friend i have ever had.

  227. tres says

    i turned down going to grocery store with dad, and then a min later all friends left and i felt so depressed about not going with my dad.

  228. D says

    I was such a horrible person…I stole, had abortions, drinking and drugs at an early age, slept with married men. Always looking for love in all the wrong places. Party heaven you know. So now I’m 50+ years old and wouldn’t know love if it bit be in the face! So tired of picking the wrong men, just stopped. Who needs them right? Who wants someone to love for the rest of their life? I do…everybody does…But truly don’t believe I deserve that because of all the horrible things I did! I am so sorry for so many things, and it is eating me up.

  229. Sergio says

    I’ve been married for almost year with a baby on the way… My wife is a working, loving caring person and has been that way with me since we’ve been together for almost 4 years now. I regret that i am constantly thinking of my first love— The first girlfriend with who i had a very intense sexual relationship with… I feel i truly fell in love with that person but broke up because of her parents not approving our relationship which caused a lot of tension… Only to then find out she was seeing a new guy about a month after our break-up… I tried getting back with her and she told me no because of this new guy but anyway, to this day i keep thinking of the sex which i know is wrong and so unfair to my wife. I know this other person is currently married with a baby of her own so i just want to get her out of my memory & thoughts which is hard because i left so many friends behind because of her and feel she did have a negative impact on my life. It’s been 10 years now and I want to stop wishing bad things happening to her and just go on with my own life.

  230. Isabella says

    When you have major mistakes in your post, it may lead people to not take you or your advice seriously. As far as I know, “Standford” University doesn’t exist. Dr. Frederic (not Frederick) Luskin is a director at STANFORD University. You even made the mistake in your citation. >.<

  231. AnonGirl says

    I spent 4 years on a relationship with a boy who, albeit tried his best and had good intentions, took me down roads I shouldn’t have gone down. I’m having trouble forgiving myself for not saying “no” during all that time, even though I was unhappy. I was so young (and still am) that I was just ignorant of what was really better for me. Giving up more than my emotional/mental self for a person at so young an age, truthfully only because he kept pressuring me about it, is something I’ll live with for the rest of my life.

  232. Josh says

    I’ve let you down. Idk what to do. I can’t do anything. You take what I have done for granted. You take what you are doing now and just spitting in my fave every single day. I don’t deserve that. You are the one who should feel ashamed but yet here I am again. The only one of us who cares. You say these hateful things that you believe now but you didn’t believe them before. You listen to that piece of shit and hang on his every word. You discredit every thing I do even as hard as I work. Even the crazy things I’ve been able to accomplish in my circumstances. But this guy who can’t even be in his own kids life, you appreciate every tiny gesture he makes to our daughter who has everything she could ever want from us. From what we do for her. From my lack of sleep to pay bills. From my 70-80hr work weeks. From my time I miss with her because I work so much to take care of her. Why do you do this to me. Why are you not giving a shit. I’m in the same place in your life and my daughters life as my step dad and he was actually a piece of shit. I’m not. I’ve gone above and beyond and even walked away so you can have things the way you wanted it and you just treat me like shit. I’m so angry at you. I’m so hurt by you. I’m so confused and lost. I’m embarrassed and disgusted. I’m tired. I’m worn out and stressed. I need you right now. That’s the only way I can be happy. That’s my only way to find peace. I need that so bad. I’ve gone for way too long struggling to get by and not being able to get over you. You gave me that chance to make things work and I messed up because I really wasn’t ready even though I thought I was. I just cannot accept these terms. It’s unfair and horrible and I don’t want this situation for our daughter. I work hard to not have her in the middle of the same environment you have her in.. I just want to sleep but I can’t. Everything I want right now, I cannot have and it’s killing me slowly. Please wake the fuck up and come back to me. What will it take. You are always in my head. I love you.

  233. Suzycue says

    When my sister died there was family conflict. I am proud that I stood up for myself but when I began to fight back in a childish manner I just cant forgive myself and I am embarrassed. I am contact with a sister that likes to remind me and at the time understood and was supportive but now uses it against me that I am somehow less of a person and am bipolar because I am so emotional. I am so sorry how I chose to fight back and wish I just would have walked away with my head held high.

  234. Sara says

    I sent a message to my best friend that is potentially harmful to her. I know she doesn’t hold it against me and forgives me for it but I still feel guilty for even sending it. I would NEVER want to be in any part responsible for hurting her. She is my best friend and I love her like a sister. I’m sorry.

  235. Lizz says

    I was abused when I was little. I feel like I’m bad (almost evil), I feel like I need to be severely punished (beaten, pussy whipped). My therapist keeps telling me that what happened was not my fault and that “I am a good girl”, but my body burns with this need for punishment. I can’t stop thinking about it. I don’t want to feel this way. The only way I think I can get over this is if someone would punish me. I don’t know or how to find anyone to do this and I’m trying not to look. I can’t get these feeling and thoughts out of my mind. I don’t want to be bad or feel like I deserved what I got. I know in my head it wasn’t my fault, but everywhere else it feels the other way.

  236. Devastated says

    During a very rocky period in our relationship, I had a one night stand with and ex. It will NEVER happen again with anyone but I am drowning in guilt.

  237. TGirl says

    Finally sticking up for my self and cutting my brother off. He has taken advantage of me emotionally and financially for years. He recently had to get his leg amputated because he didn’t take care of his health when he was advised to by doctors. Now he continues to feel sorry for himself and either blames the world for all his woes…. or he gets overly full of himself and arrogant. Especially forgetting that me and my husband saved his life these last 4 years while he was on the road to self destruction.

    We got into a huge fight (unfortunately we had been drinking at the time) and I let him know for the first time in years how angry and hurt I was. (I’ve never had the guts before. I always felt so guilty to say such things). Granted I had every right to express myself, but I feel it wouldn’t have happened if I/we hadn’t been drinking. These issues needed to be brought to attention – I realize. However sad part is, I know I would have kept them inside forever. Almost as if the alcohol brought the courage I needed to voice myself. Aside from telling him how much he hurt me and how I felt he took advantage, I demanded he leave my house immediately. This was a planned few days for us to hangout. I have never voice myself to him like I recently did when I blew up…, even though other times we spent hanging out at my home we also drank alcohol.

    It hurts me and I feel guilty, but I always feel guilty where he is concerned. I know I had valid issues, but I know I hurt him. He also said very hurtful things to me. I wish I could just let it be with the knowledge that yes maybe not the best way to confront my brother;however, the facts I stated were accurate. My delivery was bad I believe. I know apologizing would only undermine my standing up for myself and, a big part of me feels as though I don’t need to apologize. But, I can’t shake the guilt and anxiety this entire dilemma has caused me. It’s making my a wreck and I’m become dysfunctional over the guilt plaguing me.

    Argh!

  238. L says

    I cheated on my amazing boyfriend three weeks ago and it is killing me inside as I love him so much and don’t want the relationship to end. I do t know what to do :(

  239. B says

    I had 3 hookups at a festival this weekend and even though we aren’t dating, there’s a guy at home I care for deeply. I told him about 2 guys but that was it. He doesn’t really have a right to know because we are just friends but benefits, and I’m into him more than he’s into me… but I’m letting it eat me up inside. I just want this gross anxiety and worry to go away.. blah

  240. BeStill says

    My online gambling addiction. I have made the same mistake repeatedly not only hurting myself bur others who helplessly witness my self loathing and disgust due to my behaviour. I am a good, kind, compassionate and loving person who unwittingly fell down the addiction rabbit hole . I need to lift myself up and forgive myself remembering I am a child of God. He has a plan for my life. I make the choice to receive God’s love and Grace. I truly have come to the end of myself.

  241. suzieq says

    I missed a real estate listing to buy a house – the best 1 to change my fiancé’s life & mine (we have been looking forever!) it was immed. sold (supply & demand in my area) I feel so guilty, sick w. it & can’t get past this, another may not come up this year.. so stressed & tired of this we both want to give up, don’t know if the relation. can sustain this much angst & grief..

  242. NIc says

    I want to be able to feel good about myself, starting a relationship with someone new, and feel that I deserve the happiness, and that I am not a cheater, just because I let it fail my last relationship. I deserve to be happy, I am a good person, with good intentions.

  243. Anonymous says

    I fell I am guilty for why my ex girlfriend broke up with me in January but I just now realize how much I regret letting her go.

  244. Jeffery Hunting says

    I want to let go of all the guilt i keep bottled up for blaming the death of my mother on myself. Making bad choices with drugs and carrer choices. I always run from things insted of dealing woth them. Now that i want and choose to deal with them they are overwhelming me and making me frustrated with life. I just want to be okay again.

  245. Saurnil says

    I want to let go my past bad decisions. I want to forget about what went wrong these past 10 years. To learn from the experience and move on.

  246. Matthew says

    This weekend I drank too much and drive myself home, I was stupid and selfish and could have endangered other drivers. I drove recklessly and it will never happen again. I have learnt my lesson, I never want to feel this way again.

    • JULIE says

      I have had 3 dui’s. now I can’t get a job and everyone looks at me like i’m a piece of shit. DON’T DRINK AND DRIVE. it’s not worth it. get a cab, it’s cheaper. you may kill someone and then your future is screwed. take it from someone who’s future is basically fucked. I am having a very hard time getting a job…… I am so depressed all the time

  247. Anonymous says

    I wana forgive my self I feel so disgusted and awful. My boyfriend is in rehab and I had sex with his friend I fucked up we have a son together now I don’t know how I’m going to look at him when I do see him. God please forgive my sins

  248. Jade says

    I’m tired of making stupid mistakes while drinking. I need to accept the fact that I have the potential to be an alcoholic. I’ll go months at a time without drinking much, or only having a few drinks with friends. But every so often I go through periods where I drink way too much to the point of blacking out, and end up destroying my relationships with people I’m close to. I lost my best friend a few years ago due to blacking out too many times and treating her badly while intoxicated, and now I’m afraid of losing another best friend. We became really close this year and always have a great time together, and I found out from a mutual friend he liked me. I also had feelings for him, but after learning that information I ended up kissing him the next time I was drunk. We never talked about it and things seemed normal, but the next week I made a complete fool of myself by being too drunk around his family and not acting like my normal polite self. I found out from a friend he’s really mad about it, however he hasn’t approached me yet. He hasn’t talked to me in over a week, and since we don’t live in the same cities I have to wait a while until I see him next to apologize. I want to forgive myself for my foolish actions and am done drinking to the point of being so intoxicated I end up hurting the people I care about most. I hope my friendship with him isn’t ruined, even though my chance of a romantic relationship with him most likely is. Being able to accept that is the hardest part but I understand my selfish actions have consequences.

  249. lisa says

    Drunken night game, went against all that I believe. A friend posted a picture on social network and people saw it. I care for a good reputation. I told a friend seeking support but they did not take it seriously, I feel like I have made it worst.

  250. i2i says

    I wish to let go my anger inside. I’m a heart broken divorced woman whose husband did what possibly break a woman’s heart such as cheating,unfaithfulness,defraud and so on.these days i feel empty inside i cant make any friends. my life has drifted apart do you think i can let go this suffering?

  251. Paulette says

    Cheating on such an amazing man with a big fat friggen loser drug dealer that doesn’t take care of his children he has now. I don’t know how it happened. I was COMPLETELY intoxicated and barely remember most of my night, but I remember that it happened. I went home to the love of my life the next day, and couldn’t stand to look at him because of the guilt I felt, how ashamed I was, how much I had hurt him.. Watching him break down in tears & tell me he still loves me and wants to be with me, hurt me even more.. He deserves someone so much than me. It happened over 8 months ago, but I still hate myself so much. We are still together, but if can’t even look in the mirror Somedays, I hate the person starring back. So ashamed & disgusted with myself, I’ve even thought of suicide. He’s EVERYTHING to me, and I swear it’ll never happen again! I never want to feel like this again, or make this feeling worse, I can’t even handle it. Honestly, I don’t know how he’s forgiven me.. When I find it so hard to forgive myself. =’( it hurts soooooooo bad & to make things worse, I’m pregnant, and I’m so depressed this can’t be good for the baby at all. So I’m trying my best to let it go & move on with our lives together, as a family when our daughter is born. I can’t be depressed trying to take care of our baby girl. It’ll only hurt her. Someday, I hope soon.. I can forgive myself.

  252. yeah.. says

    Well..I got branded by my fraternity on my back ( a triangle). It is hurting me very bad(inside and out). I think and look about it every day all day. It’s hard to try and move on. I feel I have disappointed my family, friends, and people I know back home. It’s embarrassing. I was drunk on initiation and made an optional choice to get one and did not see anyone get theres before I did as I was out of the room. It’s been 7 months and I have not moved on, may god forgive me. I’m sorry I wasn’t the best person before I got it, and I feel I deserved to have something bother me so much. Ill have this my whole life. a scar on my back. Moving on is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. I hope my parents will even start to forgive me when I tell them next summer (after it heals). All I can ask for is a boost in self esteem. that I can learn from this. Gain confidence from this. It burned at my soul, and I hope I can grow back a stronger one.

  253. Luis Mathews says

    I lost my virginity to my maid. A few weeks later I started dating the girl of my dreams and now I feel disgusted that I would ever sleep with my maid.

  254. Leia says

    Over two years ago, I slept with my then best friends boyfriend, which led to an affair, a full blown relationship and now we are engaged. He broke up with her a few months after the affair started. We had always been drawn to each other (although, in the beginning I must admit I did not like him because I did not like THEM together… and maybe it was a deep seeded attraction to him but I really thought he was the worst). I never believed in soul mates until I met this man. We are perfect for each other.

    I told the former friend that him and I were dating a few months after they broke up, and she severed ties with me. We had always had a bit of a toxic relationship. I helped find her a job at my company and gave her a place to live for free when she was unemployed and living at home, but she was never thankful. My act led to a strange jealousy in her, and I became her enemy. She spent the next year and a half backstabbing me to friends and colleagues, and once admittedly tried to get me fired at my job. This was all before the affair. She left the job and moved home after the breakup and we stopped talking after that. When I contacted her to tell her about how her ex and I were in a relationship, she started spreading the news to her friends, even to some of my friends, which led to people cutting me off, telling me that I was a horrible person but sticking with her, even though she had done horrible things to me.

    I feel like a horrible person for cheating with her boyfriend. I feel like even more of a horrible person because I didn’t care because she had hurt me so bad. I want to forgive myself and move on.

  255. Chris says

    I left home at 17 to move in with a girl that I’d met at college. The relationship was built on lust and infatuation (mine not hers). My Dad cautioned me at the time about her and suggested I talk to her about counselling before we settle together. I took offence and we had a big fight, after that we spoke like strangers for 15 years before he died suddenly. Now another 5 years later I’m so depressed, I have a 20 year sexless relationship with a woman I have nothing in common with who is emotionally abusive and only cares about work or television. I feel like I’m drowning and cry at least once a day… Guess this is karma for all of the attitude and pain I caused my parents especially my dad when they could see what was happening and were just looking out for me!
    These days I’m a mess, a robot, trying to remain emotionless as the only emotions I know hurt! I despise myself to the point where if I catch my eye in a reflection I’m filled with a rage to smash the mirror and get rid of that person I hate so much!
    I just hope that one day I either learn to like myself and that hopefully can forgive myself or that my death when it comes is quick and painless. At least then it’d be over and done with, no more sad nights or lonely mornings!

  256. Jett says

    I found out that I messed up my moms life because I didn’t like the man that my mom was dating and he did not want to date my mom if I did not like him and at first I was so sad that I messed up my mom’s life and I don’t want her to hate me. I’m just so stupid and sad that I messed up my mom’s hole life I am so loosing it .I want my old crappie life back.

  257. Meranda Lopes says

    I constantly hurt my husband through emotional affairs and lying. I need help. I love him and can’t stand seeing him hurt.

  258. Jeanette says

    I need to let go of the fact that I’ve hurt my husband so much. I was stubborn and wanted to teach him a lesson. Instead I taught myself a very hard lesson.

    We were married for almost 8 years in this time he was working and living overseas and we saw each other 5 weeks a year. In this time I begged him numerous times to please come back as our marriage is in serious danger. He said to me I need to get over it because that’s the way it’s going to be.

    I then started having relationships with a married man and divorced my husband almost a year ago. He begged me to come back but I continued with my “game” of letting him suffer. In the end I moved out and he begged me to come back but I didn’t.

    I then learned that he’s moved on and found a new “friend” but he feels a lot for her. He left for Dubai and is living there now and he’s corresponding with his lady friend. My x and I are now chatting over watsapp and facebook but he said he will never be able to trust me again and I need to let go.

    I can’t let go, I still love him so much it hurt and I don’t know if and how to handle this pain. At this stage I’m alone at home with my kids and not going out to even visit family becaus I feel so misserable and cross and hatefull towards myself. It’s killing me. I can’t work properly, I don’t sleep well and I keep beating myself up over what I did to him.

    I never saw myself as someone who will hurt those whom I love so much.

    We don’t have children together, and my childrens fater passed away 12 years ago. I still miss him as well. I feel let down by myself and don’t know how to forgive myself and to move on.

    Please please help me.

  259. Valerie says

    My whole life I have been a pretty good girl. Good grades, never more than a slap on the hand worth of trouble. I even made it through my high school years as a virgin. Senior year I started drinking and eventually lost my virginity freshman year of college to a guy I had only known for a few days. Me and the guy started liking each other so I didnt feel as bad. But then another drunk night, a few months later I had sex with a guy who was a “friend”, I also had a relationship with him so I didnt feel so bad. Then it happened two other times. Everytime I hav had sex it was followed by no less than a month of shameful guilt. I dont believe that girls should go through “slutty college years” and I have always believed women value themselves as more than a night of pleasure, which is where the guilt stems from. I vow today to myself to never have casual sex again

  260. NarkoSarko says

    I outright bullied someone I hold near and dear to my heart, a friend I consider a brother. I bullied him about the “problems” he has when it comes to interaction and communication. Instead of talking to him like a friend and working out the issues together in a calm and polite atmosphere, I belittled him, I emotionally blackmailed him by making threats to never speak to him again if he didn’t listen, and I made demands for him to change or get the fuck out of my life. I was not justified at all in the bullying I did. He is (perhaps was now, given everything) an important part of my life and I outright made him feel like shit over something that was small and could have been solved quickly, easily, and painlessly.

    I cannot quite fully let go, as I need to make amends as best I can. He is giving me a second chance by temporarily blocking me on Skype until the wounds–for the most part–have healed. What I need to do now is better my character and personality, so I do not bully him or anyone else again for any reason. So that I am worthy of being his friend and his brother. But I am glad for this form and this article. It has helped me let go of the stress so I can focus on the betterment and the amends.

  261. Meh says

    I came from a broken family so my mom had to raise us im the youngest so i was like every1 is looking for me..then i got bullied at school since i was young but never told any of my fam and i always pretend that it was nothing which was not a big deal at that time untill im in highschool it start to affect me but still never never told them instead i just prove my worth at school so ive to have good grades but ofcourse i cant do it all the time so i got depress but when im at home i always smile coz i just dont want to add burden on my mom or any of my fam .. So whats ive regreted is y i never really show the real me that even them never really know me that much that i myself cant even understand me also .. If im just not tht coward before ive never face this problem this late and what sucks is i cant control my emotion sometimes i know it affects my fam esp my mom that she says im becoming a stranger but i have to do it or ill explode.. And now im filing a change of name which s 1 of the reasons y i dont enjoy mylife my mom supports it but what i hate is i know she doesnt believe or understand why.. The thought of it makes me so guilty but i really wanna do it i been planning dis all my life.. Though, i know ill be facing big changes and itll affect my identity..

  262. Pete Stephens says

    I had sex many years ago when I was married. I am so sick about it and wish it never happened. I was in a bad place then. I love my wife so much and am so sorry.

  263. self-flagellator says

    I blacked out while drinking and was aggressive toward a male acquaintance (I’m female), kissing him repeatedly. At the end of the night I vomited all over myself and he had to see that because he was staying with me. I actually confessed romantic feelings toward him, even though when sober they weren’t very strong, and then had to deal with the fallout from that the next morning. We talked briefly but were both still pretty intoxicated and tired, so it wasn’t very productive. I’m too ashamed to even try looking him in the face now and we’re supposed to work on a project together in about a month. I know I need to talk to him about this but I also don’t want to approach him because I feel like I’ve ruined things for good.

  264. S says

    let it go, free yourself, it was an accident and mistake and we humans are allowed to make mistakes. you need to live and accept move on. everyone has diff methods for me was to find God.

  265. S says

    i never rang my ill brother in law or brought him over to the UK for much needed life treatment as i was always thinking he shall get better etc and he died suddenly now the guilt is eating up at me inside and i want to let it go as i have small children

  266. Kb says

    I want to forgive myself for letting go of someone who was the love of my life for two years. I forgive him for treating me badly and verbally abusing me. And from holding me back from friends. I want to forgive myself for feeling guilty that I had to let him go. I want to forgive him for not talking to me for he is probably hurt.

  267. Kiki says

    I want to let to of my hatred towards my ex bf who cheated on me years ago. I’m learning to forgive and I forgive him.

  268. Misty says

    I have the same exact situation going on. Id love to talk-since you know exactly what I’m going through.

  269. Misty says

    I cheated on my boyfriend. And I can’t believe I did for someone who was so not worth it. My boyfriend is everything to me, and going through that experience opened my eyes to that. I can’t imagine life with out my boyfriend and to think I was selfish enough to ruin it makes me disgusted with myself. I can’t tell him because I’ve never been so sure in my life that I regret it 100% and it will never happen again for as long as I live. I just know he won’t believe me and I can’t bear losing him over this.

  270. Gina says

    I let me best friend drive home drunk and in fact told her to leave my home. I was angry with her for yelling at ther daughter (12)and told her to get out of my house. She wasn’t talking tome me very much after that and later came to find out she was pulled over for a broken head light and then arrested for a DUI. and almost lost her daughter. I should never have let her leave, but I get sick of her drama and drunkness. My daughter has now lost a friend to. It’s my fault. My friend was mad becasue I knew about her headlight and from the weekend before and left a message telling her , but it never reached her. She hates me and blames me for everything and losing her job because of the DUI. Her niece died last week of cancer she was only 27 years old we are both 43 I can’t even go to the funeral! My friend never wants to speak to me again I’m so sorry and so hurt and hate myself for this. I ruined our friendship.

  271. Mb says

    I love this man and he and I live In states fare away from each other. I am in his state for the summer and we have been in some contact since with each other since we met. I came to see him three times before summer. Since I have been in his state since middle of June we have talked and we just saw each other this past weekend. I came here to his state for him, so we could get to know each other, and see if we have a future together. To I sent him text that are not like me, expressing how he makes me feel when we are together in the bedroom. I know my text went to far as my personality isn’t like that at all. I’m one who never expresses myself In a text like I did. I told how he makes me feel and how he heats up my body, when we are together, and I went to far. I feel so sad and regret the words I sent him in my text. I was very excited and I was telling him my excitement in my text to him. I can’t say I’m sorry enough and I can’t turn back time or take the text back. I have told him I’m sorry, I called him and left a message, and text him and ask him to call me. I know I went to far with expressing to him how he makes me feel because after my text to express how he makes me feel. “He sent me a text and said enough with the messages”. I know that’s why I said to much and I’m not sure if he is upset with me. I just know he hasn’t txt me back or returned my call but its not been but two to three hours. I still feel so bad and I don’t know what else to do, to make it right? So that is what I’m trying to let go on this Monday July 7th. I care for this man, and I Love Him and what to share his life with him. I just pray I haven’t messed up and hope he will call me.

  272. silver says

    I suffer from rapid cycling bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder and I take meds to control a lot of impulsive behaviour and unsafe types of actions. Recently my lithium went toxic, then below normal, now it is high again. Meanwhile I developed hypothyroidism and pericarditis. All of this in under 30 days. I got really drunk one night at my friends house and wound up taking my friends youger cousin home with me. He is 26 and I am 42. And we had a one night stand. I am not seeing him again or staying friends with that girl because they live together. AWKWARD
    But the worst part of it is that I have a 10 year long term relationship with a guy. He knows I went with two other guys previously because I broke up with him first and he cobsidered tgat cheating on him and he never ket me forget it for years afterwards.
    In tge last 10-12 years I slept with 3 other guys that he doesb’t know about including this last guy.
    I have also suddenly fell ill with pericarditis and fluctuating lithium leveks and hypothyroidism. If I tell him, he will end it right away. But I wonder if I will successfully heal living on top of all these hurtful lies.
    Signed
    Guilt Ridden Heart

  273. khashayar says

    i WANT TO FORGET MY EX. THE FIRST LOVE OF MY LIFE. I want to forget her.I want to forgive myself for doing her wrong.I want to forgive myself for stalking her for never leaving her. I want to forget her and move on. I have a very huge nose and i look unacceptable. I want to accept how i look. who i am. I want to have personal goals.I want to stay at my job and do good to the world. I wanna be useful.I wanna have my own thoughts . I’m sick and tired of hating myself. I have my own dignity. I have pride. I can be a successful person.Have a loving wife and a successful child.I wanna visit other countries and get to know interesting people. I wanna know why i am living here.I wanna perceive the meaning of life
    i wanna let go of the bad things i have done. i wanna quit watching porn. i wanna respect humans and world more. i wanna rise and make my ancestors proud. I am who i am. I’ll be a guy who everyone will regret leaving me.
    I did hurt my ex,nooshin.I did hurt her a lot and she has the right to leave me. I need to find new friends to forget her. I’ll live again. I’ll be the old happy khashy. the guy who was full of hope.

    I’ll live again

  274. Blind says

    I am forgiving myself for having sex with someone I temporarily felt desire for- whole I am in a relationship with someone I know I will marry. I would rather die than tell my bf- so I am letting this pass- and forgiving myself. I feel completely blind and numb and don’t even remember the situation. How did this happen? I’m not sure. But I want to breathe and let go.

  275. Livinganotherlife says

    Baby I love you with all my heart- cheating was a mistake. It wasn’t me- I was sober but I have no idea how it happened. I love you and only want you.

  276. Jessica Walter says

    I just wanted to express my gratitude and appreciation to prophet salifu for bringing my husband back to me,I was married to my husband for 4 years and all of a sudden he started seeing another lady (his mistress).he started hailing at me and he was abusive.. and he hated me , but I still loved him with all my heart . the situation made me unsettle and not to focus at work .so a friend told me about trying (prophet salifu )spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to him ? i did not listen to her and hoped that my husband will come back home . after 9 month of seperation and depression , it got out of hand and my husband came back home to break the news to me that he want a divorce that he is getting married to his mistress .Hmmm it was so shocking to me ,i felt sad and more depressed ,so i contacted my friend again and decieded to try to use spiritual means reluctantly..although I didn’t believe in all those things? I never thought in a million years that i will get my husband back to me a again. but I was proved wrong.after 24 hours, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it that we are back together. I am deeply satisfied and thankful with prophet salifu work .if you also want to fix you marriage or relationship email him at or , his work is for a better life .

  277. Rob says

    a girl I was dating rejected me and I acted crazy and scared her away for good. I have abandonment issues and my fear and obsessive nature cause me to overreact and make a mountain out of s molehill. I wish I could go back and react in a more mature sure way.

  278. linda says

    I retreat not being being responsible for myself during my marriage. For being irresponsible with our money, for not being present, for not having a open heart, for not being positive, for not having the skills to move forward. For not knowing how to communicate. For not knowing how to love Todd.
    For not being present! For being stuck in a negative state of mind. For not stopping and recognizing my reality. For not being a equal. For not loving him enough. For not supporting and enjoying his company.
    For not being my ‘best’ for not loving him sexually. For spending all his money. For putting him in bankruptcy.
    For not being my whole, true Linda

  279. Sadmistakes says

    I want to let go of the shame and regret I have for drinking too much all throughout my twenties. I’m 30 now and I want to stop this destructive behavior. It has caused me to gain weight and I am very ashamed of my weight. I used to be thin and I see the way people treat me differently now. Just on my walk home from the grocery store with a frozen pizza, two hipsters looked me up and down, I smiled and them and they didn’t smile back. It hurt. I just want to look like I used too. I want to be beautiful again. I want to let go of alcohol and overeating.

  280. Breige says

    I want to forgive myself for getting so drunk last night that I had sex with a much older man, whose character I don’t like that much and I am not remotely attracted to him. He is rough and ready, defensive and can be quite aggressive.
    I feel traumatized and abused, even though I consented. I have been very vulnerable these past few years due to being in an emotionally abuse marriage. He knew this and I feel taken advantage of.
    I already have components of PTSD and feel like I abused and retraumatised myself.
    I am a single mum and lonely.
    I feel sick at the thought of it and can’t get this out of my head and have no one to share this with.
    Please allow me to be more gentle on myself and let this go. Please allow me to care for myself better, with compassion and strong boundaries.

  281. Stupid Sally says

    I was too touchy with my boss one drunken night, and might have kissed him… In front of my fiancee. I know it is my fault and i blame myself. Shit happens yeah, but I hurt him.

  282. thomas e myers says

    I want to forgive myself for letting my brother fall when I was suppose to watch him his fall gave him bain damage.

  283. Emma says

    I talked bad about my dad to my stepsister which doesnt get along with and now i feel awful im scared of how he will react if someday he finds out what i have said.

  284. David says

    from the time I was 13 until I graduated high school I am very good looking I had a lot of girls fall in love with me I take care of horses and love them so I had a lot of opportunities for love come up but I never asked them out I guess I hurt a lot of them by ignoring them, I am single and 50 now I went to school in the 80s and I feel that my lonlieness now is gods punishment for rejecting all these woman I was often asked why I am not in a relationship and some times called not so nice names I feel that time is running out and I still cannot get over my guilt whats your advice

  285. someone says

    I’m am ashamed of breaking down and crying in front of all my boyfriends friends. I was really upset over his behavior and I might have over reacted but I couldn’t stop crying. I told all his friends what’s going on between us and I regret it because its our private life and I shouldn’t have talked badly about our relationship and his behavior. I’m sad about the way he treated me and I wish he would just text me so we can talk but he is so distant and I don’t even know what’s going on with him. I just want things to get better. And I’m sorry if I did something wrong to make you act the way you’re acting. Let it goooooooooo. Let it go. Let it go.

  286. TINA says

    Got drunk and have to be helped to leave a night club buy my date. I’m now terrified he won’t see me ever again. I apologized with him. Letting time pass. Don’t want to bother him but I don’t want to lose him either. I’m such a loser.

  287. Daisy says

    My self destructive behaviour because of jealousy. Being UGLY to men when I feel put down or out. Sending hateful, ugly messages; going over the top; out of proportion. I feel humiliated and I wish I hadn’t done it. And I wish the man I did it to realises it is one of my flaws. Not my total being. I’m so sorry. I want to forgive myself so I can function.

  288. tanya says

    I’ve been drinking since I was 16 and I’m 29 now I feel guilt and shame over the things I’ve done while intoxicated I have a 4 year old son and he shouldn’t have to see me like that he’s my world I love him more than words can explain and I’ve finally decided its time to get help so I’m going to start going to aa meetings but its still so hard to let all the things I’ve done go everytime I think about them it makes me extremely depressed and like I’m the worst person on the planet

  289. Leo says

    I lashed out with a lot of cursing at a stranger in a car. He and some friends challenge d me and I drove away. I feel cowardly and most of all wish I had not lashed out. He di nothing. I just feel like a joke and want rid of this.

  290. :) says

    I recently got a job in a pharmacy and they’re working me very hard and at a fast pace and the other day when I was putting the checked prescriptions into the hangings bags that wait to be picked up and my boss told me the next day that I had given a women all of her usual prescriptions, plus one of someone else’s and that the women noticed immediately, didn’t take any of the medication and is a regular and was very cool about it. When the pharmacist counted the pills in the returned bottle the bottle was 5 pills off, 2 horrible mistakes in 1 situation. I’m having a hard time forgiving myself for having made such a horrible mistake and so early on in my training. It was embarrassing and dealing with the guilt is hard, no one was hurt but the potential of what could’ve happened is the hardest part.

  291. Alias says

    I still love my ex, we’ve been together for 4 1/2 years and we had our ups and downs frequently . I met him in college when I was 20 and he was 21 yrs. After he lost his job , I was the one supporting him and now I resent myself for having to take care of him because he is an adult and he’s not helpless to find work again. But having to support him , the love I gave him ,I never got in return. I knew he was the Emotionally Unavailable guy . He used verbal abuse on me and is destructive in his mind. He smokes weed because he has an over active mind medical issue and I hated it every time. When he was with me and I don’t use drugs. In the years we been together, he couldn’t really find a stable job and I had a stable job. he was jobless since we were together. We had trusting issues and I use to hate him for trying to make me feel jealous if I didn’t help support him because he was living at home while I was supporting him. At one point he needed to pay his mom rent. He told me he had a dream to become a UFC fighter. When we first met, he was beginning his trainings And etc . But after awhile since he had no money to train He wanted me to helped him $710 to get on track. I felt good making his dream come true and at the same time, I knew I needed that money for my own financial reasons. Anyways, he broke up with me and said I was the one who ruined everything in our relationship. I never once met his mom or dad personally informally. They’re divorced. And he’s an only child but now has a 5 yr old sister . Anyways, I guessed I should’ve helped him more ????but I knew I had to do the right thing to not help him anymore. He recently got a DUI and went to jail for the night. And he made his life worse. Lost his license for 3 months and I had to drive him around. He’s told me he has love me and yet at times i still felt he had brought his past relationship to our future. I had threaten him once because he says he would leave me for another girl if I didn’t help support him and he would ask for my checks every time I have got paid. :[. He says he didn’t force me to help him and at one point I only wanted to support him for a little but turned into our whole 4 years together. I told him I admitted of cheating on him during out college days but that was only because he was always emotionally unavailable to me and I thought he was my boyfriend.Anyways I’m done.

    I want to let go : of all the money I had spent on him and supported him for and all the wrong things I know I shouldn’t have done for him. But yet still , I put his needs before over mine.

  292. scorpio rising says

    being the controlling and jealous one in a relationship. he eventually dumped me after a year, but I miss him so much everyday. It’s been almost a year since he left, and I’m still not over the pain, shame, guilt, and utter desperation I feel everyday over losing him. i fell stupid, embarrassed, and so full of shame. i just cant seem to shake it. i go over it in my head repeatedly – all the shitty things I said or suspected. it’s like he, and the relationship (good and bad) haunt me.

  293. Bernie says

    W. I am so sorry for being mean to you, picking on you and breaking you down. I know I made you feel like you did nothing right in our relationship. All I did was nit pick and come down on you for everything. I don’t blame you for leaving and being so cold and disconnected at the end. In my own weird and sick way I loved and cared about you. I don’t think I truly appreciated what I had until it was gone and you left. I miss you every single day. What I wish I could tell you is that when I got pregnant and knew I had to have an abortion, a switch went off in my head. A part of me hated you. I was angry with you. I pushed you away and sabotaged the relationship, a part of me wanted you to leave, but deep down I don’t think I wanted that. I didn’t know how to cope. I felt guilt and shame and I took it out on you. I couldn’t talk to my family or anyone else, because of my guilt and shame, so you were all I had. Unfortunately, you became my punching bag. I wish you could understand the intense pain and depression I have been going through the last few months. I know I shouldn’t have taken it out on you and you didn’t deserve that. You tried so hard to always be there for me and be supportive and all I did was break you down. I projected my own feelings and sadness on to you. I’m so sorry. I have been sitting here guilt ridden for the last month, unable to forgive myself and miserable. You’re gone…forever…I have to accept that. I need to pick up the broken pieces. I think now one of the hardest parts is learning how to forgive myself for the way I treated you. I feel like a horrible person. Going through an abortion is never an easy decision or experience, and I told you in the past how much I already struggle with my issues from being adopted, in foster homes abandonment issues and insecurities. Over the last month I have tried so hard to tell myself I am not a bad person for how I treated you, that I didn’t know how to cope, but I feel stuck in the mud, and am having a very difficult time getting past it, because of how kind and wonderful you are. I would like to be able to forgive myself so I can stop carrying around this heaviness, realize I’m not a horrible person and try to move forward and let go.

  294. Mike says

    I spent 25 yrs in a marriage that never started off on the right foot and is now ending. I realize now what I should have done instead of being self centered and in my own little world. I caused my wife great emotional heartache and pain. I need to forgive myself for being such a selfish person. I never realized how much I love my wife but now it is too late. Her heart is closed and I don’t blame her. I pray everyday that she will see that I am a good person and how much I really do love her. This is the most difficult challenge I have faced in my life.

  295. Jessica Rabbit says

    Last night I got way too drunk with a friend. He went over the line I believe and told me how he thought I was sexy, and would love to do things to me. Although, he is married with a child. I told him how he should let me talk to his wife so maybe we could get “friendly” or something. I have no idea. Stupid drunk talk. I just feel awful about this and wish I would have just shut up and went to bed with my husband when he did instead of staying up until 5am drinking. Urghhhh.

  296. Mark says

    I have reciently lost the love of my life due to many stupid mistakes I have made in our marriage.I have taken a real look in the mirror and dont like what i see . I cant live with out her she is my whole life and i dont think i can ever fogive my self for my mistakes i have made. my biggest problem is that you dont do these thing to the person that you love unconditionaly. my world is shattered my heart is totally broken and i can barely get up and go to work. I cant eat or sleep. the only contact i have with her is texting. Iwould do anything to change the past but i cant . I have learned alot from my look in the mirror . There is more than material things like posessions to obsess over .there is more than worring about a clean house . there is more than harping on the kids and being un happy with the way they keep ther rooms. I had a goog thing and did not embrace it . There is more about being social having people come to our house insted being the fussy pain in the ass that i was and worring about cleaning up a mess .I should have reveled in the moment to make my lovely wife happy . I am so regretfull of these actions . I wish there was a way to make this up not only to my wife but the kids. Insted of being excited when my step dauter got her drivers licence all i did was be selfish and worry about shairng a car. Ishould have been happy for her . I would also not want to play games or do anything as a family . I was always too tired. My job was also a problem I let it come home with me and I would not listen to my wife on how to deal with it . I was always a problem because we worked in the same place. She was a boss and i was on the other side of the fence . My whole problem is that I am stuborn and a poor listener. With all of this self awareness it my be too late for us . I hope not . I know i am a changed man and i can give them all a better happier life. All i want is a chance to prove it

  297. flboy says

    I slept with someone after me and tmy girlfriend of two years broke up then told her I didn’t when we started fixing it.

  298. Me says

    I want to let go of not going to college. I want to let go of not saving money.I want to let go of the depression I had and the weight gain. I want to let go of using marijuana in the past and the subsequent actions because of being high. I want to forgive myself of the anger I held towards those who have abused and abandoned me. I want to let go of living in such paralyzing fear. I give it all over to you Lord. I WANT TO BE FREE!! In Jesus name. Amen.

  299. Cee says

    I want to let go of the fact that I did not go away to college and that I messed up in school so much. Going away to college was something that I’ve always wanted to do but never took the proper steps in doing so. I’m 23 years old now and it’s been eating at me more than ever. I constantly think of “what could of been” if I had went away. I think about all the things that I could have done and how my life would be different today. It’s something that I think everyone should experience. I’ve felt that way since I was a child and I can’t understand how I allowed myself to get in this position. I never knew it would bother me so much and I honestly don’t know why it’s now out of all this time that it’s kicking my ass. I want to let this go because I hate this feeling. I know I can’t rewind the past but all I have been doing is wishing for a rewind button. I wanna let this go so I can free my thoughts of this guilt and stress.

  300. Ariana says

    I let a guy take advantge of me at a party when I was intoxicated, even though I have high values about that sort of thing. I regret drinking so much that it inhibited me from respecting myself

  301. Doris says

    allowing myself to be controlled = being hurt by husband alcoholic over and over – and to let it go

  302. stellios says

    I loved a woman who is more beautiful than I can put into words. Her intelligence was ever present. She missed nothing. Having her come into my life have it purpose and made me feel more complete and whole.
    She was recently divorced and talked about her ex on our first date. She kept in touch with former lovers. Ex boyfriends remained her friends. All of this rattled my confidence. I grew insecure. I grew passive. This put a wedge between us.
    She was demanding of my time. She demanded I essentially live with her. She was always sick and needing my caring. But she was always aloof. I never felt the love returned. I was always her boyfriend at home but felt less than that when we would go out. I gave her so much love. More than I’ve given anyone. Somewhere in her is a beautiful soul. Some man will be able to bring her out and to experience her love. I am so disappointed I was not that man, even though I put my heart and my life into her. I saw such incredible potential for us. As a team. In love, we could do do many things. She called my natural anxiety and gave me guidance on how to love. When I felt love from her it was profound. But she was able to let go of me, suddenly, without much pain. Her caring for me had kept her with me but she had lost her affection. I feel so ashamed that I didn’t just walk away earlier. I deserved to be loved back, even if I may have been over zealous. I deserved her to be interested in me. Not using me.

  303. Julia says

    I broke up with my boy friend because I thought things weren’t working but now I realize it was such a happy relationship. I loved him!!! Now he hates my guts because I broke up with him while he’s dealing with his grandmothers death. I hate myself for this. It’s the worst feeling in the world. I’ve had feelings for him for 3 years. I’m so sorry I did that. He doesn’t want me to talk to him anymore. I hurt him, WTF KINDA PERSON DOES THAT TO SOMEONE THEY LOVE WTFWTFWTFWTF. IM SO STUPID.id do ANYTHING to go back. I hate myself. I care about him a little more then myself.

  304. I stand alone78 says

    Road rage with kids in car, trying my best but not giving my kids the type of life they deserve, isolating myself from a social life, working graveyard shift to be to tired to deal with my anxiety because I can’t afford meds and having my kids see how tired I am all the time, loosing teeth and embarrassing my kids in public because I’m not attractive anymore, wishing I could die so my husband can find a better/prettier mom for my kids, I wish I wasn’t so nervous at work so my co-workers and supervisor wouldn’t make fun of me so much, wish people wanted to be around me so my kids could learn good social skills

  305. Arthur says

    I lied and skipped work.my seniors found that I lied.they saw me as a good person before but I don’t think they will ever again.i m so ashamed to face them again.ill be meeting them everyday and they will think of me as the liar and will never trust me again.im soo soo ashamed of my self.everybody thinks I’m a good worker and that I do my job properly but when others also get to know about this they will think I neglect my work.n that I’m being unprofessional .

  306. Vanessa mcknee says

    My mom has caught me smoking cigarettes more than once.. Her and my dad are very strict since they come from a muslim family. Last time is happened she was mad At me for about a week but now she doesnt trust me anymore. I feel stupid and regretful and very ashamed. It happened last night when i thought she was asleep but made too much noise and waking her up leading to me getting caught . Shes at work now and probably wont talk to me when she gets home . And probably will take my phone away . Sorry if it was ba way if telling the story i just wanted it to be short i need someone to tell me how to make it up to her

  307. Susan says

    The guilt I feel for getting married and moving 40 minutes away from my son who begged me not to go.. The fact that I ruined my new marriage because if I couldn’t be with my don, I didn’t want his kids around. He left me… I treated him badly at times because of my guilt and sadness over missing my son.

  308. gibbo says

    Recently I’ve got into this relationship with this girl that makes me smile, melts my heart, is so caring an adorable an my absolute happiness. But I found myself out of boredom one night sexting a girl that I had talked to heaps prior to our relationship, I mean I basically cheated on her, an it makes me want to cry that I didn’t even think an to do something like that to this girl I am so in love with. So friggin Naive an stupid, so far she doesn’t know an I wanna keep it like that cause I couldn’t bear to tell her, I just forgive an forget an concentrate on my GF, I deleted the girls number an any other girls that maybe a distraction. I want a future with this girl an have to leave my single habits behind. Thank you

  309. Big D says

    My dirty house, taking the SAT 3 times and doing no better than 1600, the fact that I needed debt to go to college. When I was a teenager I grabbed girls butts out of lust, today because of my appearance I don’t think any girl would like me. All the times I wanted to study but wasted time watching tv, lusting, playing games, etc. The sins I have had in my life.

  310. Just want to free says

    I have a really bad porn addiction. Some of the things I have watched were so taboo it makes myself sick. I have been so depressed, have constant intrusive thoughts, and am unable to sleep at night. I can’t seem to forgive myself. I feel like my addiction has broken bonds between family and some friends. I want to let go so bad, move on with my life, and never even have the urge to look at pornography. Worst of all I feel like a hypocrite, since a lot of people expect good things out of me and know that I am Christian.

  311. just me says

    the pain I see in my son eyes from a girlfriend who we accepted into our family. I pray to let go of the stress, pain, humiliation she has caused and pray that she finds happiness.

  312. /// says

    I want to let go of everything. Being brought up in a broken home, with an alcoholic and a drug addict. Being sexually active at too young of an age that resulted in my first child’s birth. Having a horrible marriage and putting my children through so much shit, just so I could say I tried.
    I regret leaving my husband for another man, who is no longer apart of my life. I regret being irresponsible and losing two very good jobs. For being selfish and not putting my children’s needs ahead of my own satisfaction.
    I want to let go of mistakes that I continue to make in my current relationship.
    It’s like I have it on repeat.
    I’m coming to the realization that I am a confused individual. A bitch. I can be so selfish and disrespectful.
    I want to accept and acknowledge all of this so that I can move forward with my life and make a change.
    I have to be happy with myself before making anyone else happy. I have to work on myself.

  313. Ed says

    I have made mistakes financially which have ended up hurting my family. I have also had an affair. My family is there to support me but I can’t move on past those mistakes in my life. I pray every day for that closure.

  314. Meshell M. says

    Getting my tubes tied before I got married (27). My husband wants to father a child with me. Cheating on my husband. Accusing my husband of infidelities without any such proof for over 10 years. He’s still with me, but is somewhat distant and has admitted that he feels distant more so when I throw baseless accusations at him. He’s really a good dude. Thinking that he really wants someone other than me when he tells me that he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Feeling like I’m never good enough. Being so fussy at my kids when they were actually really good kids and are wonderful young adults. I was an asshole. Guilty suspicions!

  315. Dork says

    I got an email from the cable company for pirating. I feel really bad…I want to let it go! I feel ashamed and annoyed at myself for letting it happen. and feel bad. I need to take a deep breath and let it go. I’ve apologized, now its time to move on! Thank you!

  316. Le1851ww says

    i broke my best friend heart ‘by cheating on him with a some1 else whom i had feelings for more than my friend. i regret it.

  317. Brian says

    Hello , this is very hard to do. I’ve fell in love with a women that I truly care about and love so much and her daughter. She’s never been shown any kinda of love in her life before she meet me. I took it and ran with it and at the same time I tripped and fell numerous times with drinking and going out of control with my emotions. Did the stupidest things imaginable said the most ignorant things ever! I’m never this way so she knows that. But I fucked up bad this time and can’t forgive my self. I’m so angry and disgusted and pissed off with myself for my actions. I don’t even understand why I said the things I said or did the things I did. Her family and friends now completely hate me. She knows I’m a great man and just can’t drink but at the same time she doesn’t know what she wants to do. Truly don’t want anything else or want anybody else I’ve quit drinking since Father’s Day and I’m never going back to drinking. It’s crazy how a substance can make you act emotional wrong Destructive and irrational. That’s not me at all. There’s so much to the story I can’t say it all. But I know there’s one thing in my heart is the most to me and it’s My Chell Belle!! I don’t know if I’ll ever give me the chance to be able to be the man she fell in love with again. I’m falling apart. I messed up so bad. She didn’t deserve it. I hate alcohol!!! Money is the root of all evil alcohol is right there next to it.

  318. Graeme Andew says

    hello, recently become good friends with this girl at work and had a little crush on – wehave lots of fun together and with others. This one occassion we all went out on a day drip and got drunk – i let her drink loads – and then when we got back, i left her with some people and i went home. i promised her Dad i would look after her and i Failed.

    She is ok, and another person took her home – but i cant forgive myself, yet she has forgiven me, and we are still goodfriends ???

    If i claim to like this girl and care for her, why did i not take her home to make sure she is ok?

  319. JS says

    There are two people that I did things to that I wish I never did. I want to learn how to forgive myself for what I did. Everyday I struggle with feeling like somehow, someway I’m a bad person and I deserve to feel guilty. I have a big heart and I love to help people but I have this burden that I can’t let go. These two people I have apologized to but not even a million apologies describe the remorse I feel. I want to let go so that I can be a better person to other people I encounter. Also so I can learn to love myself. And to anyone else who encounters this site – we all deserve to let go and forgive outselves. We just need help doing it. I wish the best for each and every one of you..

  320. Callina Hendrickson says

    I want to let go of the guilt that I hurt my daughter by not buying her a bed that she really wanted , I want to let go of the guilt that my addiction may have led to my sons, I want my ex-husband(25) years married to quit blaming me for all that went wrong in our perfect Lever to Beaver Family. After all I was the strong women with many degres that bought him material things that he would have never dreamed of, due to him being un-educated and from a poor family. I can’t handle his burdons as he drops them on me and try to move on and make our family happy!

  321. Hurts So Bad says

    I am feeling shame, guilt, regret and extreme self-loathing right now. I shouldn’t have slept with my ex-boyfriend. We worked so hard at cultivating a friendship out of the ashes of our failed relationship. We had even moved on to other people – - -and then I fell back in love with him again…and foolishly told him. He doesn’t feel the same way about me…or so he said because shortly after that we started spending more time together and being intimate.

    I thought maybe he had changed his mind. Maybe there was hope for the reconciliation I so desperately wanted. But I was wrong. I found out he was seeing someone else.

    My reaction was unwarranted, ugly and disrespectful not only to him but to myself because I know better, but alcohol has a funny way with people, especially me. It leads me to make bad choices. Choices I live to regret because they wind up hurting the people I love the most.

    I wish I could take it back – - – but I can’t. I apologized to him and acknowledged and took responsibilities for my actions, but I honestly think that he has had enough of me and our relationship is now irretrievably broken – - – and it’s all my fault.

    If only I had just counted to 10 and thought about the consequences.

    I have no other choice but to accept this reality and move on. I’ve apologized – - – that’s all I can do and hope that one day he will truly forgive me and want to be my friend/

  322. E says

    Calling my mom a slut bitch asshole telling her I hated her. Calling my dad an asshole telling hi I hated him. Telling them I wished they were dead.

  323. Kimberly says

    I want to let go of the guilt and dirty feeling I’ve been feeling for quite some time now. It’s all due to a hookup. I was at a guys house party and I was drunk and cold and we cuddled and he took advantage of the situation and we made out for a while before falling asleep. I’m mad at myself for not stopping it especially because I don’t like him at all. I just don’t want to feel like a slut anymore. This may not seem like a big deal but I’m not one to do these things and worse of all is he’s friends with my friends so I hate seeing him every time my girls and I go out

  324. karl says

    I want to let go off how I treated my ex girlfiriend I lied I cheated and I took money and her love for granted sibce I have payed what I owed her back . but we haven’t spoken for two years I want to forgive her of the way she broke up with me and myslelf for the way I treated her I was I was young and stupid . I threw away one girl who really loved me , I am happy she has found a new love and I want to cut the tie of guilt I have .

  325. Mr. Smith says

    I broke up for the 3rd time in an abusive relationship. I never really wanted the relationship fully but enjoyed some of the benefits.
    It was a huge price to pay! I lost myself worth. I misplaced myself. I changed fully to satisfy someone else’s needs because I did not want to be lonely. I sacrificed all most all of me to please another. I just took his BS and made little stands but I kept coming back falling for the pretty words with no actions to back them up! This time I made a stand. He cheated on me and treated me like I was less than anything but a convenience. I told him we are finished and I walked away and never looked back. The hardest part is forgiving myself for staying in a terrible relationship. the hard part is I only have one friend and I’m a mess inside and talking about him all the time just makes me mad! I’m so tired! So exhausted! I tell myself this is going to give me a great healing but I will be glad when I can stop think about him!

  326. Tamara says

    I’m a 23 year old womanI have been with my partner for 3 years who is as 22 year old male we get on great talk and enjoy life but early on in the relationship I felt neglected and down as I felt he wasent Thier or listend to me it got me so down I looked elsewhere to snog other guys out outside my relationship to fulfilling my needs that someone wants me but I have been kissing other guys behind his back when he upsets me he dosent know I do this but I want to forget the past and move on the guilt of cheating is tearing me up and bothering me so bad I have not had sex or any other contact except snogging with random men it ment nothing just a pain relief and I feel terrible help what do I do?

  327. X says

    When I was young before I ever met my husband I slept 24 people I have never told him only because he said he didn’t want to know but it haunts me every day I wish I never did it even though I didn’t cheat on him I feel ashamed and I abused my body and I feel like more people should have taken care of me for it never to of happened. It was mainly drunken moments but still.

  328. Mandy says

    I kissed an acquaintance/person in my friendship circle’s recent ex.
    I know how much the woman is hurting and how raw her pain is, yet I chose my needs over respecting her. I am very upset at myself and deeply ashamed.
    I don’t know whether to tell her or any of mutual friends. I am scared of the reactions, but also scared that creating fodder for gossip will make it worse.
    I’m sorry Penelope – if I could take it back, I would.

  329. AJ says

    i completely lost it at my boyfriend this morning, after feeling like he didn’t respect my time and my emotions the night prior. i got more angry than i should have… i completely screamed at him and ended up in a full panic attack. he says he forgives me, but i know him and his voice is so sad and broken sounding. im petrified that our relationship is over because of this.

  330. Kylie says

    giving up on my ex so much instead of trying to work things out, even after he took me back many times before. He was great. I just didn’t know how to treat somebody like him.. I feel like I didn’t deserve him. I wasn’t treating him well enough. I wish I could take it all back. But I guess you live and learn, and I’m only 16. I will get another oppertunity to prove myself and let go of my past!

  331. c says

    I stole from my parents and my cousin when I was 15. I also stole from school. I was trusted with the school tuck shop and I took money to buy things I wanted. I sometimes see the teacher in the street and when he looks at me I know he knows. I feel like I could die. I am now 40. I can’t seem to move on. I have been diagnosed bipolar and when I am low these things fill my mind.

  332. Mayne says

    I cheated on my husband for 7 years with the same man. This ended my marriage. I I hurt my children very badly and now I see what I took away from my grandchildren….to have a grandma and grandpa together. I not only couldn’t keep a relationship together for them to have a father…I couldn’t even have it for my grandchildren. I’m a failure at love relationships and a slut on top of that.

  333. wendy says

    Mistakes I’ve made.. Always changing job thinking I’d be happier. Being too soft on discipline with my son. Now he’s in care,Al because he didn’t like the word no, tidy your room etc. Got bigger and it got violent.sorry I didn’t get therapy as a kid for the childhood I had.how my mum thwarted me ruined so much of my life. My first marriage ended because of her. We still loved each other, we had no reason to part, we were so happy. That still hurts me now 20yrs on.mistakes I’ve made in my marriage now. Head all messed up, seeing my husband as the enemy when he’s stood by me. He’s not perfect but in my head I’ve had its wrong for so many yrs. At 42 still battling fir happy body image,where do I fit in.? I like to have muscles, used to compete and was good! Ivdo things at drop of a hat.if people suggest it
    Without thinking!! This i want to change
    change.

  334. Sarah says

    I want to let go of my husbands past before we were together it’s so hard to deal with it makes me sick an I sometimes want to run away not talk to him r even look at him I don’t want it to bother me we have a child together an it seems it has gotten a lot worse an I bring it up more than I would like to I want to let it all go

  335. lightness says

    I went out with girlfriends last week. I am never the one that looses control completely, but this time I did. I don’t know why but I couldn’t keep it together. I wound up saying something AWFUL to a friend of mine. I just found out about it today. I also kissed a strange boy, and I have a boyfriend. I have apologized to everyone I can, but I can’t shake this guilty feeling.

  336. Kimbo says

    I have a lot i want to let go of so I will make it short. I would like to let go of ever hurting my best friend, I should never have become aggressive in the drunken state, yes we have our differences but getting physical is never the answer. I would like to say sorry to my boyfriend’s friend and girlfriend for ever doing what i did, i should never have gotten too close to your brother i was only trying to help him have fun and i should never have let it get to the point where i ended up in the psych ward for 15 hours. and most of all i want to let go of ever hurting my boyfriend. i know i am hot headed and not perfect and i throw hissy fits when i get angry but i should never have pushed you or screamed and yelled at you like i did. I never meant for you to be shocked or spooked, it was a one time mistake that i really hope you are able to get past in the time you are taking to think about it.

  337. Woo kid says

    I got beat up once in front of my girlfriend. By some guy that’s honestly nothing but a simplistic Neanderthal and it makes me feel inferior to every male that I meet nowadays. I can’t even look anyone in the eyes anymore and it’s going on 4years ago that it happened and I did nothing to deserve it.

  338. riya says

    I am not sure what is that has hurt me so much , but since college I am a different person.Its has been 5 years now, but I cant seem to move ahead. I had a breakup with my boyfriend just in the first year of college which bumped me into a very unhealthy relationship. I was bullied at college by some other people who just wanted to show how much better they are thn me .. this affected my studies and I wasn’t able to perform at school. I didnt get a placement at school and eventually it led to unemployment. I eel like it was my biggest mistake to go to college , becuase i just lost my self there . I used to be more confident , more free, before i went there .. i was molested , I was bullied , unhealthy relationship.. all this turned my life upside down ..I had big dreams before i went to college. I feel I couldn’t make any of them happen .. 5 years later i am still unemployed , in spite of having world class education and caliber.

  339. Iscrewedup says

    After being used and lied to by a few men in my life, my judgement and trust was off to say the least. I had a wonderful man for almost 2 months that everything he said to me I over analyzed and challenged. This led to senseless arguments and name calling on my end. He broke up with me. And, won’t give me another chance. I have lost the one true love I didn’t think I was deserving to find. And, it’s all my fault.

  340. Sugar Pepper says

    I felt vulnerable and had sex with a guy I don’t love. I want to let that go and forgive myself!!!

  341. Baby girl says

    I tired to reconnect with an old friend we were once more than friends but we were young then. I just wanted to see him an let him meet my new husband well he told his sister he didn’t want to talk to me I left my number for him an it’s been 3 days an no call , I don’t understand last time I seen him we were fine but now I’m eating my brain with what I coulda done or what changed. I’m suppost to be the happy newly wed an I am happy but I’m also sad an don’t want to talk to my husband cause I’m afraid he’ll Take it the wrong way I just don’t know what to do.

  342. Veronica says

    I want to let go of my past relationship and what I feel that it turned me into. I want to let go of the mistakes I made while in this relationship, some that affected him and others that affected me. I want to let go of the fact that I know I’m not perfect and that I have hurt so many people in my life. I have been selfish, insecure, vindictive and hurtful on so many occasion. I want to let go of the pain I feel in my heart today and anger and walls I have built up today… I want to let go of everything and everyone that causes me pain. I want to let go and let God take the wheel.

  343. SabineNZ says

    When I was primary school age I stole a few things. I took Lego from a neighbours house when I was at a party there. My mum found it in my pocket and made me take it back. I told her I took it because we didn’t have Lego fence pieces at home and I wanted them. I also used to take money out of my Dad’s wallet so I could buy things I wanted at the toy shop. His wallet was always on a table at the front door. It was paper money not coins, so I probably stole a bit over time, until they caught me of course. I loved having money in my wallet and being able to buy whatever small toy I wanted. I was about 7 at the time. I still feel bad about my stealing because I would never do anything like that today. I returned a wallet to someone that I found with $400 in it a few years ago etc. I feel bad that my parents found out I was a thief when I was younger. I really want to let go of the regret and bad feelings.

  344. leleti says

    My varsity mistake…because I was looking for love and to belong..that made me to sleep with every men that I came across with hoping that he would love me only to realize that I was making my self loose to those men they never really loved or cared abt me they were just using me

  345. Nikki says

    I want to let go of the regret of leaving Adam for someone I didn’t really like back, but couldn’t hurt him by telling him the truth. I wish I had gone with my gut and stayed with Adam. He is the best thing to happen to me thus far, but because of my actions he is no longer available to me and I have been regretting it ever since. I need to let this go and move on.

  346. June Loving says

    Not marrying a man could have given my boys and myself happy nurturing worry free financially secure life and an opportunity to move out of a city where there are too many remembrances and

  347. June Loving says

    I want to let go of the regret that I should have married a man who could have given mt sons and I a much better way of life … A better education , life style, way of happiness
    Because I did not marry him my eldest son did not get to get away to college and move on from a life most cumbersome filled with his own regrets
    I am most concerned as he may have a life threatening disease which could well have been brought on by having to exist all of these years com pulsing about a woman who dumped him years ago
    I regret not having married this man from Boston who loved me very much… He was bright, genuine, financially secure owning many residences all over, successful, respected … Would have been a fabulous husband and step father and provider
    I’ve had a rather unhappy life and my boys were denied a better, more secure less worry filled life
    I feel I have shortened my boys and my life span by having put us thru a less desirable life style and financial happiness and security and an association with higher leveled intelligent successful people
    I compulse and obsess…. And have for 35 yrs over this stupid decision not to have married this phenomenon of a man

  348. Jo says

    I broke up with my girlfriend over a year ago. We dated for over 2 1/2 years. She was great. Beautiful, funny, probably would have married me if I asked but my heart wasn’t at that point. I care for her but I had a wandering eye and wanted to be single. I know if I didn’t break up I would do it eventually or else live a dsyfunctional life. But I have such guilt because I took her for granted I slept with a few (2) girls when we dated and I always took her love and affection for granted. And when I broke up with her she was ice cold and firm about it which also made me feel
    Guilty that my narassistic behavior wanted her to want me still and can handle her moving on. Which she has with a new boyfriend anyway my Brain is all wonky because of it and I want to tell her everything and say sorry but I only see that causing her more pain for bringin up the past

  349. Lei says

    I want to let go of the guilt and shame I feel that I realize now is causing me a lot of worry. I recently moved back home with my parent and family after being away for seven years to give birth to my daughter and to create a healthy and stable environment for us to live in. A few months after giving birth I had an argument with my mom and she revealed so much hurt and anger to me and I expressed the same and since then I have had terrible thoughts about dying and what would happen to my daughter if I left her. My particular fear is dying of cancer even though I know I don’t have it. What makes me worried about this is that so many people I love have battled with cancer and I think all the stress from being a single mom healing from a really bad relationship with my daughter’s father, on top of sleep deprivation, on top of the fact that I’m living at home with my family is adding to the stress.
    I initiated the argument with my mom because for as long as I can remember she has always treated me so bad. She was always yelling at me, scolding me, putting me down and I brought it up to her just to hear her say she never realized she was acting this way because she was too busy working to support me and my brothers. That hit me hard because I’ve been carrying this broken heart with me which has affected all of my relationships with men. And my dad wasn’t really there for me either growing up. If I asked questions they would tell me to stop talking. I grew up being a martyr trying my hardest to please everyone yet secretly expecting them to love me in return which always backfired. I didn’t realize I was doing this until my daughter’s father ended our engagement and I took that opportunity to heal my life. My mom, bless her heart, I think took out her anger on me because my dad cheated on her and I was the product of the affair. My parents took me in but I have always felt like the black sheep. In our house there was no love. My parents were always working and thankfully we always had a roof, hot showers and food. But no love. I can see they were doing the best they could then. But being back home, things seem to be the same. Everything gets swept under the rug. Now that I’m learning to love and forgive, and being true to myself, it’s taking a lot of prayer to realize that change starts with me. I don’t want to hurt anyone anymore. I don’t want karma to get back at me for my past mistakes that happened when I didn’t know better. My parents deal with a lot as is so if anything every happened to me, I feel guilty that they’d have to care for my daughter. Unfortunately even though I love and forgive my daughter’s father for what he has done to me in the past, I can’t trust him because he battles with his own problems and addictions and caring for a child may make his problems worse. First I felt guilty for even being born, but I’m so happy I was because now I have a daughter who I absolutely love and adore. Then I think if my parents hadn’t treated me so bad maybe I wouldn’t love my girl as much as I do now. I used to be so hard on myself. I put my body through anorexia and bulimia and diet pills and extreme exercising and then I messed with drugs and alcohol and one day I cried to God for help and soon after found out I was pregnant. Since then it’s been just over a year of my healing journey. Now that I’m home I feel guilty for using my family’s help because in my argument with my mom she stated that she feels I’m using her and my family but I replied that they offered over and over for me and my girl to move in and told me not to worry about working or a car or anything and I asked her what do you want from me to help you feel that I’m not using you and there was no reply. I took this all in and boom the cancer thoughts started. I want to let go of my past and be the best person I can be and be present and giving yet not as a martyr but as me, the beautiful strong healthy woman I am now. I am no longer beating myself up like I did before. I take vitamins, I eat healthy, I indulge too, I exercise, I listen to my body and it tells me when to slow down, when to rest, when to juice, when to eat a cookie, when to drink more water, and mostly I’m learning to love myself. Yet the thoughts are there. I’m trying to be more mindful and in the moment and mostly grateful for everything and everyone. I love my family. I also learned I’m an empath so I’m also learning to care for my energy better and create boundaries. It’s hard when my parents and family are sensitive to my behavior and I’m constantly having to explain myself or not then they take things personal and all this passive aggressiveness gets pushed around. It’s tough. I don’t want to push any more buttons. I don’t want to feel guilty anymore. I want to take responsibility for my life and actions and just live and love. Having a daughter made me realize how short life is but how so much can be done. There’s so much beauty around us all. There’s so much good happening in the world. Thank you for letting me vent.

  350. Angie says

    I feel like the most horrible, inconsiderate, immature, selfish bitch on the planet. I have betrayed the love of my life. He is the one person in my life, besides my parents, who have loved me unconditionally. He would do anything for me and I have done something that would confuse and hurt him badly. I feel so bad about myself that it’s hard to even type it.
    He has been having a lot of issues with his ex-wife and daughter. I think they are both jealous of me and the time he spends with me. The anger has been building up in me for a long time and last week I snapped and did something I regret. I typed and mailed an anonymous letter to his ex saying that he puts me first now and to let him move on with his life. I made it seem like I was a friend of hers just giving her some advise. I said so many things that I regret. So many things that would hurt him. She told him about the letter and accused him and myself of writing it. He will see it this weekend and I’m afraid he will know it was me who wrote it. I have been denying it to him and he has been defending us both to her. It’s so hard for me to lie to him. Part of me wants to tell him the truth but I don’t want to lose his trust or risk him leaving me.
    I feel like such a piece of crap. I don’t know what I was even thinking or what I wanted out of this when I mailed that letter. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I don’t want to make the situation worse. But that is exactly what I’ve done.
    All of these selfish emotions seemed to take over and I wasn’t thinking clearly. I don’t know if I should confess to him even though this could ruin our relationship or just live with the guilt and try to make it right. Most of all, I don’t want to hurt him.
    I’m old enough to know better and should not be jealous of a 13 year old girl who wants to be with her dad. I honestly don’t think I’ve been so ashamed in my life. I have been praying for forgiveness but I don’t think I deserve it. I hope this will all work out for the best.

  351. Marie says

    I lied a lot about three years ago. Terrible, horrible, awful lies. Most of them were after drinking heavily. Since then I have gotten myself together, been very kind to everyone around me, and made my life into something to be proud of. I have a lot going for me now but I can’t help thinking that any moment i’m going to be found out (even though its been three years). Whenever something good happens to me, I instantly get this feeling that I don’t deserve good things or happiness. I find myself not being able to move on whatsoever. I constantly have a heavy feeling in my heart. I’ve gone out of my way to do good things yet I cannot stop hurting myself every day. Also, I feel as though I cannot complain about anyones treatment of me since I am such a terrible person. Not being able to forgive myself is affecting my mental state, my relationships with people (since sometimes I feel so guilty that I don’t want to face them), and my sense of self worth. I know I’ve done good things too but I can’t seem to let it go. I know that what I did was horrible and I have stopped lying completely but I know I was in a terrible place back then and honestly it doesn’t even feel like I was the same person. Can I let this go? Are there any strategies to let it go? I just want to be kind to people and find happiness. Thanks.

    And thanks to everyone else who shared something! I believe that you are all deserving of forgiveness! Also, sometimes it feels as though i’m the only one who is walking around with all of this guilt and shame! So it’s nice to know that there are other people who are seeking forgiveness from themselves and trying to better themselves!

  352. Ali says

    I broke up with my boyfriend and a couple months later I slept with a guy that I didn’t even really want to. He kept telling me over and over again to take plan B because it was unprotected. I’m pro life and didn’t want to. He yelled at me and was going crazy so I took it. I want it out of me. And my ex boyfriend is the only person who cares for me. And I feel like I am not worthy to say I still love him. I’m border line wanting to just end it. I’ve never had thoughts like this. It might be the plan b. I just feel so ashamed and worthless. I want to let it go right now.

  353. LLL says

    Slacking off on working on my ACA issues and possibly losing the relationship with the guy I love, when I think it might work otherwise…not getting a third chance because I had a second one and I blew it.

  354. Me says

    I tried to sexually touch my girlfriend.. i fucking regret it so much, i still had the fucking cheek to joke about it.. im a fucking bastard

  355. Eu says

    I have a boyfriend for 2 years now. I have been trying to come to terms with the fact that he is much younger than me even though he is a much bigger adult. Not sure if its because of the age thing but I haven’t been feeling 100% sure if i love him. A couple of days ago I randomly met an old crush and he ended up kissing me. I only reacted and pushed him away 5 seconds later so I know the blame is completely on me as well. Now i feel like i am the worst and weakest person in the world and how is it possible that I have done this to the person I feel most confortable with in the world. Even though i have some doubts, nothing can justify this disloyalty. I won’t tell him. I know i should but i feel its selfish. He loves me and he would still want to be with me but i cant bear to think that he would always be suspicious and scared for the rest of his time with me. I need to forgive myself and know that those 5 seconds cannot define who I am and who I want to be in the future.

  356. Aira says

    I had made a mistake which I even could not realise I made it.I have so much guilt for it.but I can’t change the scenario now.I just beg god to forgive me and give another chance to move on in life.plz god give me another chance.

  357. Aira says

    I had made a mistake which I even could not realise I made it.I have so much guilt for it.but I can’t change the scenario now.I just beg god to forgive me and give another chance to move on in life.plz god give me another chance.m so sorry for my mistake

  358. MF says

    I want to let go of this grudge I have against you. The anger and resentment consumes me on a daily basis. I’m exhausted, physically, mentally and emotionally. I am recently scratching the surface of “forgiveness”. I need to let go of it all and move forward with my life. I too made mistakes in the past and I suppose it should start by me addressing these mistakes. I’m starting to understanding that I hold value, and a load of it, and that I should always hold myself at high regards regardless of how others may make me feel. It is my thoughts that often generate fictitious scenarios and blind the expansion of my horizons. I understand now that it’s time to move on and find true happiness within me.

  359. C says

    I apologize to B (now that you are dead) that I never married you. That I let fear keep me from being your wife. That I never was your lover. And that I never told you truly how I felt. I loved you and still love you with all my heart and I don’t know how to stop loving you.

  360. Joniesa says

    I went out for a night of drinking with my boss and her bf. my other half was out of town working, while we were coming home completely drunk. My boss began touching on me and kissed me. That’s as far as it got and then we stopped, I hate that it happened and ashamed that I let it go that far. It happened due to drinking too much. I didn’t like it and would never dream if hurting my other half or my career. My other half is aware if what happened and isn’t upset. I’m just so mad at myself for letting things get out of control. I’m ashamed because that’s not how I want to be perceived.

  361. Amy says

    Tom,
    I know that I hurt you dearly, practically devastated your life by my poor choices. I wish there were enough words to tell you how truly sorry I am. You were not the best husband but you did not deserve my cheating and lying to you. I don’t even want to try to justify what happened, I feel like I became someone else. I have asked repeatedly for your forgiveness, and every day hope to forgive myself for putting you, our kids, family and friends through so much hurt and grief. I wish I could go back to long ago before we became so damaged and make us as strong as I know we could have become. Again, I am so very sorry from the bottom of my heart.
    Amy

  362. Bethany says

    The main thing i want to let go is my past mistake and recent mistakes . My boyfriend make me feel bad all the time today he broke up with me . He told me because of my past we can’t find happiness . I want to find happiness hopefully i could get good advice . I want to forgive myself it’s hardest thing in the world

  363. JVB says

    I have failed Christ when God tested me. I cannot feel the Holy Spirit any more and am sick. I ask that you please pray for me to be restored. This feeling has been going on since 2011 and it has ruined the life that God gave me. Please help. I cannot get passed this and move forward.

  364. DIAMONDTEARS82 says

    I want to let go of my past actions, and that is getting drunk to the point where i cannot remember and lashing out at the ones I love the most. I have done to my past relationship, and he ended up in a divorce. I’m currently or i’m not sure anymore and i’ve lashed out at him so many times. I’ve always beg him to come back and this time he’s completely blocked me out of his life. I don’t know how to manage this situation.

  365. Shannon says

    I never realized until today that at 30 years old I’ve been blaming myself this whole time for not being able to save my mom dad and sister from my dad’s alcoholism that ruined our lives my childhood and still today I want to forgive myself for punishing myself for so long not realizing that for hurting myself destroying my life because I believed I couldn’t save them that I was responsibly even though it all started when I was only a little girl. I want to forgive myself for hiding and stuffing everything for putting others first. I neglected myself I abandoned me I didn’t protect my heart I destroyed myself time after time in so many ways I pray god can help me be
    Cause I have been like this all my life almost I’m not sure I know how to let it go but I want to so bad so bad to move on and finally grow up and be free I pray god can heal me

  366. Wayme says

    The past…death,loss and all da mistakes…how do I open up n tlk abt whts insyd,how i fill??i fill lonely.m angry at everything and every1 including god…m ashamed of myself.

  367. Josh says

    Although I’ve apologize to this person for cheating and messing up the life we had planned…..I really wish I could get another chance to show you the man I know I can be. I’m truly sorry for what I’ve done and I really want to remain your friend but I still want something more…..I really do feel like I’m meant for you.

  368. R says

    My bad decisions in my career over the past 2 years that have spiraled me into a self destructive path of self loathing, self pity and constant regret.

  369. Shay says

    I want to let go of lying about a heart disease that I really didn’t have, I want to stop lying for attention I want to let go of my horrible past with guys, I want to let go of pants burning with my younger sibling when I was younger and my big step sis and lil stepsister. And allowing my lil step cousin to touch on me and I want to let go of my cousins that’s bro and sis feel on me and me feel on them when we were younger than I am now. I want to let go of the anger I’ve ever had inside when a lil kid makes me mad and when I pinch then til they cry. I also want to let go of kicking my lil cousin when she wouldn’t listen that was out of anger. I want to let go of anger of wanting to hit my baby daddy lil niece for being bad out of anger. I want to let go of that rage of anger!!! God please help me!!! I’m tired of feeling guilty for all this I really am. I’m about to have a kid I don’t want this to affect the way I take care of my child I want to be the best mom I can be !!

  370. Liliflower says

    I’ve hurt the one person who has ever understood me, to some hurting someone’s feeling is not much, but for me this person is my soulmate and one moment of an erractic moment I sent our relationship down the tubes. He has forgiven me of course for this laspe of judgement, but I know he is disappointed and only ask that I think about things first. I am relieved that we are still together, but the guilt of treating the person I love dearly this way, is eating me up inside.. Does this make sense… There was no cheating, there was no lying or even disrespect.. I just acted like a spoiled brat who did not get her way so I threw a tamtrum… I am such an arse..

  371. Cindy says

    When I was 18 years old, I had plastic surgery and have regretted it for the past 30 years. I feel like I disfigured myself – I don’t look like myself. I regret it so much that I can’t stand to look in the mirror. I cry a lot and wish I could go back to the day before surgery. I would like to reverse it, but am too scared to have anyone cut my face again.

  372. Tiffany says

    I want to forgive myself for not appreciating family times when I was younger and everyone was healthy.

    For not handling a breakup better when I was very young. My feelings had changed after a year, but looking back I could of handled it differently. I will regret hurting him forever. He was kind and gentle and wise beyond his years. In the 30+ years since I still feel horrible how I treated him in the end.

    For wasting 12 year with the wrong person.

    For not trying harder to have a second child. I am so sad that my son does not have siblings.

  373. please forgive me says

    i went to far and invaded someones privacy….i didnt mean any harm ,and i immediatly regretted it after i had done it,i felt so ashamed that i have been punishing myself ,every bit of me aches…….i am full of absolute remorse and hope i am able to get past it and move on ……i was wrong ,i shouldnt have done it ………

  374. So ashamed says

    When I was in my 20′s, I slept with a lot of men. I never enjoyed it,really. I only did it to feel close to someone because I felt so alone, I also had hideously low self esteem. I was a very naive girl about men, sex, and love and I am deeply humiliated about how I carried myself. I know I was an easy skank and I can’t seem to forgive myself. I think about it even now years Later and the tears won’t stop.

  375. Star says

    My husband and I had an affair 18 years ago. His marriage at the time was essentially over and I was the catalyst that pushed him to move out. We have since been happily married for almost 12 years, but I feel deep shame and regret for my actions. During times that my guilt and shame peak I also regret not “investigating” feelings I had for someone else but was not able act on because of another relationship I was in. I met my husband three months after that relationship ended and our affair started shortly after that. I sometimes wonder if life with that guy would have been easier because it’s been a long bumpy road for us. But I try and trust my decision to be with my husband that I made then, and know in my heart that he’s my one and only. But I still have moments when I think about the other guy, who I haven’t seen for over 15 years. I feel guilt for that too.

    I had a very tough, sad childhood, and often feel fear that my happy things will disappear or be taken away. I’m just tired of waking up afraid every morning. Sorry for the long message- it feels good to vent.

  376. unknown says

    ok here we go..i fucked up and messed up with my relationship. I’ve been with him for a year as a couple but we’ve known each other for years. He was there when i used to be with my ex boyfriend the one before him. No one liked my ex boyfriend. He is a player and he even play around in front of me. I never done anything intimate with him but we did kiss only. then i left him for someone better. someone who was serious and truly love me. in the beginning of our relationship, i treated him like shit because im scared to get hurt all over again. i used to not really hanged out with him instead i hanged out with my ex and other friends as a friend only. 5 months later, we fought and he asked me to completely stop talking to my ex and his group and i did stop. He even asked me to remove all of my guy friends as he doesnt want any guy to flirt with me and i did remove them from all my contacts and life. Before we were together, he used to be one of my best friends and i shared a lot of things to him and i never expected him to be my boyfriend. after we becoming a couple, we shared lot of past stories together and he knew exactly the story behind my past. What happened was, he used all my past against me. I only shared my past stories with him because i think he is the one for me. He called me a bitch for being with a player like my ex boyfriend before him. I didnt expect him to use my past against me and end up breaking our relation. his excuse for breaking our relation was i dont deserve a good guy like him, i dont deserve to be treated good, i only love guy who only used me n treated me like shit. and one of the reason tht he can never be with me because he felt disgusting that i used to kiss a player. I really dont understand him. another reasons was because he said im stubborn enough and always do things that he said dont do. i dont like anybody to control me first of all. if i did something wrong, there is no harm to tell me that what i did was wrong instead of ordering and controlling me. To be honest, me myself i dont know why i treated him like shit but i just dont really trust guy when they said they truly love me. so in beginning i admit that it was my mistake as i took precaution for myself. i didnt expect that he could giving up easily as he told me that he truly love me. When a girl got hurt so much, she took time to heal from the pain but he never understand me. he only keep blaming me for having such a horrible past with bad people around me. I tried to convince him by telling sorry and i wont repeat the same shit again but he said i will never change when i did change for him. I really want this relationship again and hope to not fuck things up again. But he refused and asking me to move on. sometimes he told me that he do love me still but not in that way anymore and sometimes he said he hates me so much everytime he remembered what i did to him which can never be accepted. he said i dont deserve his forgiveness. I dont know how else to tell him but i really love him with all my heart and wish we can be together again.

  377. Silly Boy says

    Ok i have messed up a few times with my new girlfriend blacking out and remembering but i go crazy and call her on everything. i am currently umployments and in a different country where i haven’t had a job in months i am feeling the press of not feeling like a man not earning money and just watching my life go by every time i touch a drink the worst has come out and i am sick of it. This girl has support while i went through my umployments in another country. I don’t understand why i am doing this i really like this women but she is very clever and educated and has said why should i give you another chance so you can do it again. We talk about it and i said i would show her i. We talk a couple of days face to face after the fight. I stay at her house that night we ended up having sex and the next day she cooked me breakfast and then i walked her to walk kissed. she message me that night after work to say goodnight and today she has not txt i haven’t txt her because i feel like i don’t want to put any expections. I’m lost for words how i feel please give me something. Is she getting ready to let me down easily. Someone who has lost their trust in others would still have sex with them or i’m not sure thats what confusing.

  378. Barbara says

    I want to let go all king about peoples weaknesses and downfalls it lets me know how horribly broken I really am

  379. Barbara says

    I want to let go all of the hurt and pain that was done to me, and the pain that I have done to others. Lord please forgive me for what I did today to the man next to me, I should have acted more maturely, and the stress is killing me inside and out. Please forgive me for talking about peoples weaknesses and downfalls it lets me know how horribly broken I really am

  380. Jose says

    I dated a girl for three years, off and on at my college at Georgia Southern University in Statesboro, GA. She wanted a serious relationship but I didn’t. She foolishly hung around for three years. I left her before she left for the Peace Corps, and begged her back. She obliged me. Soon thereafter, I cheated and she accepted me but never forgave me. We tried for three more months but we couldn’t get over our indiscretions; mostly me. So I cut her loose.

    It’s been 7 months and not a single hour has gone by where I don’t relive the past, or fantasize about her. I’ve grown cold, apathetic, and bitter. Very bitter. I found the love of my life, and ended up losing her, and as of consequence, she has learned to let go. She’s happy, now, with a bright and fantastic future. Surely, she’ll go with the motions of life: working, traveling, laughing, and finding someone to experience all of life’s pleasures. Good for her.

    I failed to see what that woman meant to me, and now all I have are a pack of smokes and the memory of her.

    Paloma negra, te falle y mi corazon siempre estara herido. I’ll never stop loving you, that I know, but I must learn to live without you so I can attain the level of happiness you’re currently living.

    Paloma negra, paloma negra, donde, donde andaras?

  381. AS says

    I had a friend online who never told me their address.I spoke to them trying to persuade them to go for help with suicidal thoughts.They had these thoughts for many years before I knew them.I said that I understood what it must feel like to be down as if even if they had won the lottery or slept with a porn star that they still wouldn’t feel happy.I said it to make them aware that I understood but I think it might have had a bad effect and was a trigger. Lots of people knew he had these thoughts.I regret deeply to my very core that I didn’t contact his mother and make her aware of these feelings he had. I should have not let him silence me and made it understood that I would get his home number and contact her. I have become house bound for nearly six years and panic attacks ,seeing no one because of this.He was such a wonderful person and I am so sorry that he died.

  382. Crazy drunk in love says

    I met a wonderful guy whilst travelling and we dpeant 7 days together which were wonderful on my last night i realised how much i liked him and got scared. He was working at the place and i got blind drunk and other stuff. I didnt spend time with him and proceeded to tell him how his friends werent real friends that the place where he lived and worked was a shithole and told his friends they were losers. I slso got upset for two hours crying and crying because i didnt know what id done wrong i told hom i loved him and other stuff which was embarrassing. The next day he asked me to leave and stoid over me while packing my bags like i was a crazy woman he locked his door so i could not go to his room and ge told me we couldnt be more than friends right now. I know i have a prob with drinking as i use it to numb myself and hurt myself sometimes im going to fo teetotal afrer this its a wake up call and i hate the person i was. And am
    Whilst drunk. I still like the guy alot it hurts to think he thinks im
    A crazy girl and that ill prob never see him again. I need to forgive myself but at the moment i hate myself and what a loser ive become

  383. thinkstoomuch says

    I want to let go a time when me and my brother got into a fight. I started choking him and he pushed me away from him and he broke my nose. A few weeks later we went out and I told him if he does that again I would hurt him when he was sleeping. I feel terrible for it and it haunts me to this day.

  384. TUESDAY HENRY says

    Texting another guy inappropriately and my boyfriend went through my phone and found out.

  385. In Pain says

    I have recently awakened to the reality that is my life and was horrified to see the person I have become. I stole many things in my life (I wrote down everything I could remember and it came to 4 pages!) I have told many lies and been prideful as well. I have been a loner and not very sociable. I have focused my life primarily on money and not developed in a whole person. Now I suffer from severe depression and chronic insomnia. It is just awful. I have begun to change my ways but am crushed under the weight of guilt and shame. I need to learn how to forgive myself and move on.

  386. Daniel says

    My ex broke up with me I treated her more like property and not like a gf. I feel so broken because I wish she would not give up on me I want to be better but now it’s seems so hard to better my life with all this pain, anger, shame I feel. She’s moved on and there’s nothing I can do I just want to Move on also its been 2 months and I still feel stuck.

  387. Jennyanydots says

    I messed up with a man I truly loved. We were together seven years. There were problems in our relationship but After months of fighting I chose to try and jump ship instead of whatever else I could have done. Seeing how much this hurt him horrified me. I didn’t know if could be so hurtful.

  388. Lily Revere says

    I neglected my children. I was not present or attentive. I put myself and my needs first.

  389. Big Buddy says

    Behavior that lead to divorce, alienated children and friends, and job loss. Behavior that lead to head injury and mental problems.

  390. bren says

    I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago. We were together for 4 months and i’m pretty sure we were falling in love. He started going through a lot of stuff, getting off opiates after 20 years. ( he’s a hemopheliac and does live with chronic pain ) But I think he was overmedicating to not deal with stuff in his life. When he stopped taking the opiates he totally changed. He went from being very loving to being detached. He said he was numb and experiencing chemical depression from the withdrawal. He is not divorced yet and has not worked through his baggage from his marriage. He didn’t treat me bad at all, but he was kind of callous with my heart. He started contacting me a couple of times this month, and I was wondering why. it seemed like an excuse to just make contact. Because of that i sent him a text inviting him to my birthday party. He didn’t respond at all. I took that as sign to delete his contact info and just move on. I got drunk at my party and when I got home I sent him a mean email. I woke up in the morning with the horrible feeling that I had done something……..I told him fuck you, you’re an asshole. OMG! I would never do that sober. I sent a heartfelt apology, but I feel so sick. It’s not in alignment with what I believe. I don’t even have hard feelings toward him. I was mean and hurtful and i broke my own heart. I’m so disappointed in myself. What I said was so ugly and hateful. I’m not an ugly and hateful person. I always thought when he was done working through his stuff and moving on from his toxic marriage we would find our way back to each other. But now I feel I’ve ruined the chance for that. Now he probably thinks I’m crazy. I feel incredible shame. It’s going to take some time to let this go.

  391. siddharthbhatnagar says

    My past mistakes of not having taken responsibility about anything in life.. I have destroyed my life completely and it’s beyond repair…

  392. Rebekka Johnson says

    My boyfriend Andrew and I, before we dated were talking and getting closer with each other on and off for about Three years, we had never met in person; only talked online but I met him through a friend I went to school with. Then we had a big fight and stopped talking. I ended up sleeping with a few guys towards graduation when all the drinking happens. Well he had slept with some girls while we didn’t talk as well. Then in September he entered into the USMC, I was living in Oregon and in November he had written a letter to his parents that he wanted me to write him. So they told me what his wish was, and I did so. Later on when he came back from bootcamp in December we had finally met in person. Greatest feeling ever. We had talked online for a bit and discussed things. He said he had a few flings while we weren’t talking, and I lied.. I said I didn’t do anything. And then I got upset at the fact he had done things with girls. I gave him hell with that, for a while I just didn’t like the thought of him doing things with other people. But skipping to just a week ago. One of the few guys I had no feelings for but slept with in highschool decided to tell my boyfriend something that obviously gave it away that I wasn’t a virgin. Then the realization of what I had done out of shame and regret struck me. I felt awful, and still do. I torture myself with thoughts everyday that I am stupid for lying to him. A deep feeling when I had first lied that I should have just told him. But I hated the fact I had sex. Because I was never interested in these people, I didn’t feel any satisfaction. I didn’t care about anything and I just used people. After my boyfriend had started talking to me again, I wanted to deny everything that I had done, because I regretted it all; and I wanted to give my virginity to him. He is so special to me, but I screwed up. He has forgiven me and we have moved forward as a couple, but I still feel so awful. I could have been so much better, and not lied. I gave him hell, when I did the same things in the past, but was too much of a coward to admit it. If I could truly hate anyone in the world, I’d have to say I hate myself. For lying to the most perfect man I know. I don’t know what to do with myself. I feel so depressed, dizzy and don’t get out of bed that much after what happened.

  393. Anonymous says

    I know it was still wrong. Before I married my husband I met him online and had just started talking to him but we had never met in person yet. I had a friend, which since my husband and I got serious I stopped talking to bc I know it was unhealthy not a god or respectful friendship we stopped talking respectfully and my friend knew why and agreed but I got drunk before depressed from losing my parents and everything else going wrong and did something I never gave done before slept with him and feel so ashamed I’ve asked for gods forgiveness. I have never done anything like this since I met my husband and married him. I love him with all my heart. But I know it was still wrong because I was still talking to him. I promised to never jeopardize my true love ever again. My fear is he would leaver and I would want to die without him I couldn’t bare to lose another loved one. I just prayed god will forgive me as I know he has and that this past never get in the way of my relationship with my husband and never be brought up.

  394. EBA says

    I lashed out at my gf one day because I wanted to see her but my mom was going to take me to a water resort that she had promised to take me and my brother for a long time. So to try to make things better I told my gf and my mom I wasnt going to go, cause i had midterms coming up. My gf took this as an excuse and I told her about the trip. Idk what her grudge is against my mom and my family but I hate it so I yelled and cursed her out and I didnt stop until my mom told me I was acting abusive. So I hung up the phone and I didnt talk to her for a few days to give myself space. She called me back and I was so embarrassed by how I acted and stuff that I was scared of getting back together with her cause during the yelling I basically threw her out my life. I was just mad, you know. I hesitated to get back with her which I did but I realized that she doesnt see me in the same light as she did. Now im upset at myself even more because she is supposed to be my gf and her views of me no matter how angry I get shouldnt change. I want to let go of this resentment towards myself. My self pity is creating a hole within me that is becoming to much for me to handle. I know how I felt that day and I know how I felt the days after so I feel ridiculous that my gf after telling her what happened still thinks im a liar and I abandoned her.

  395. Laci says

    My fiancé has done many things to betray me! Starting with his ex wife, he was still messing around with her the whole time I was pregnant with our now 3 year old.. He even continued doing so for several months after our son was born and he even said some really horrible things to me, like “leave me alone, I am going to be a family with my real family now!” It hurt bad! I found out about two weeks ago now that he has been doing drugs (almost everything)! Doing drugs is my deal breaker! How do I forgive him when he promised to never do them again

  396. Tommy pickles says

    The fact that I mistreated my girlfriend, that I hurt her so badly and I wasn’t there when she needed me. I felt no empathy towards her, and I ruined her sophomore year of college. I wasn’t there to support her emotionally.

  397. Mike says

    This all came flooding back to me after 40 years….I went out with a nice girl when I was 18 (she was 17). After a couple of dates I decided she wasn’t for me, (too much of a party animal), but I didn’t have the balls to tell her. So I just cut off contact…didn’t answer the phone, ignored her when she came by. In retrospect, it was one of the most shameful things I have ever done. It’s way too late to apologize….I know I hurt her deeply….and there is nothing I can do to make it up to her. I doubt she even cares, or likely remembers……Its more that I am ashamed of myself. Now that I have grown children, I realize how hurtful I was, and I am gratified that none of my children would act like me. Kind of hard to act like a “role model” when you didn’t do a very good job yourself. I am so lucky to have a perfect wife, good kids, job, friends, etc……Its not that I beat myself up about this, but it has been in my thoughts a lot……hard to let go.

  398. Sasha says

    I kisseda girl when I was drunk and she is a family friend I apologized and still feel guilt and also touched my cousin when we were younger I apologized to her aswell.

  399. hoosierguy says

    I want to let go of my extreme regret over leaving a job I was good at for the unknown and making a poor decision in haste. I didn’t consider the true long term consequences of my actions and I showed weakness by leaving my job instead of staying and fighting to make it better. Relationships that could have been salvaged are now destroyed forever.

  400. Parvej Rash says

    I promised God that he can destroy my career if I watch porn again. Unfortunately, I did. Now can God forgive me for my sins or am i doomed??

  401. ABeliever says

    I loved someone but couldn’t trust him enough. I ended up being the jealous and crazy lover and lost him forever. I have tried to prove to him that I am not just what a certain phase of my life showed him. But its irreparable. I feel angry and sad. I made a mistake of forgetting my priorities especially my career, my studies, my overall well being to go after someone. I couldn’t make him understand me not could I excel at other priorities due to my own irresponsible behavior. The last three years have been very difficult for me. Each day I only survive and do nothing more. I am slowly getting out of it and trying to forgive myself for my bad decisions. But I am scared of never being able to recover from it. Its scary to not be able to be love life and other people . I am having a hard time . I cannot stop picturing the future with so much self loathing. I want to forget it all and start a new life. But I am failing at it. It’s like I am convinced that I don’t deserve to be happy. But I want to be happy in spite of all these negative thought patterns. I am sure someone can share similar experiences. Perhaps such sharing will help me in this process.

  402. David says

    I blew it. I was so selfish. This girl gave me everything she had for almost 3 years. I broke up with her multiple times, and in those short time periods I would hook up with other girls, and then convince her to get back with me. I often channeled my anger and unhappiness with myself by lashing out on her. (Never abusive physically or mentally) just not pleasant to be around because I would always take everything out on her even when it was completely out of her control. I didn’t deserve her from day 1 and finally the 4th time I broke up with her she decided she had enough and she is never coming back and good for her. I am honestly so happy for her because now she’s following her dreams, living in a big city, studying economics, doing what she always wanted to do. Something I was never supportive of because I didn’t want her to leave. I was a shit boyfriend. She is the most beautiful person I’ve ever meant, inside and out, and I’d do anything to show her that this past year without her I’ve come so far in addressing the issues that caused a lot of our problems. I just can’t forgive myself for, not only losing the love of my life, but being an idiot while we were dating too. She deserves better and it’s just a matter of time before she finds someone else. I just feel like I’ll never forgive myself for losing her and I am so caught up in this struggle of wanting her so badly but knowing it’s no good for either of us, especially since she lives 2 hours away…along with the fact that she deserves so much better.

  403. Anonon says

    I lied. To the only friends I had. I lied for so long. Whenever I tried to think of ways to get out of it – I only dug myself in deeper. I claimed I was something I wasn’t, and that I could be anyone. It has haunted me for years.

  404. Guy says

    Earlier I evily lashed out on my little brother he is ten it all started after my stress and anger level went over the amount I could take I was angry and feeling evil I felt like killing our 3 month old puppy I was choking him then I was holding his head down on the bed he started crying and I enjoyed it a little then my little brother said stop and I got more angry then a commercial came on and said dogs are like family then my little brother said that I got angrier and said yeah your family to and I forcefully to the dogs flee collar off and forced it on my little brother and he was crying I wanted to hit him and strangle him with the collar he kept crying then our grandma came out and I stopped I felt like that wasn’t me like a demon or devil took over my mind and body I feel so sad and I just want to die now I never choked him tho I wanted to but I don’t now or ever have wanted to

  405. Extraterrestrial says

    i feel that yes maybe you should have felt some type of way for losing your virginity to such a jerkoff, but at the end of the day there is nothing that you can do to fix the situation but forgive yourself for doing so and then just move on from it. With your current boyfriend, i do not think that you should have told him that he should have sex with another girl because i feel then that he is just going to use you. Telling him that he should have sex with another girl was an act off of you emotions and that is why you guys are constantly arguing with one another. he should feel good that you told him in the first place that you lost your virginity and that you didnt wait until it was too late. he should have accepted the fact and moved on from it so that things could be better for the both of yall.

  406. Extraterrestrial says

    i need to let go of my actions of infidelity.
    in another state i had sex with someone else and i thought that instead of lying to my ex i would change that and actually tell the truth of what i did in hopes that we could work through it together and move on. i feel that it was naive of me to think such a thing and to feel that after i messed up and realized that i should not have done that that everything would be okay. which it is not.
    he wants me to basically cut off all social connections with any other male and to do everything that he says and to only talk to him. I thought that it would be good for me to do that because id be punishing myself for making such a terrible action. i thought that if i did these things that in the end we could work something out. but then again that is not the case. he just wants me to be miserable and then happy when i talk to him; he wants me all to himself just for a friend ship and nothing else.
    im stuck because i really do love him but at then end of the day he wants nothing to do with me. should i continue with him or just make the hard decision of finally letting go and trying to move on and enjoy the now?

  407. akp says

    i am broke.. somewhat because of my parents inaction toward life and work. i couldnt get much of what i wanted like things which i wanted to do in life which i knew will make me a good man and somewhere wise too. but because of my financial problem i couldnt get anywhere. because i was facing family problems my girlfriend broke up saying iam immmatured and broke and im not good for her.. but i knew hat if she would be with me i will do something great in life and prove to myself that i am worth all the struggles.. iam going through daily. i had sex with her at very early age which i am guilty of, beacuse i had sex with her because i thought she would be with me forever. now iam so guilty and regretting my action. that girl would marry someone else and have kid. it hurt so deep that i couldn’t say these thing to my friends beacuse i will kill me from inside.. 3 years i was with her and felt she was all. beacuse i am a lone child no brother no cousins, nothing.. just me and my mom dad. one day when i brought my girlfriend to my house and had sex with her some people of my town made a vedio of us by sneeking through the window.. it made me so mad and fearfull that i did not come out of house of shame for 6 to 8 months.. they all smiled at me. i felt from inside that what i did was wrong i shouldnt have brought her to my house. this incident changed the whole life of mine. i became very bad person in front of my parents and girlfriend. if that incident wouldnt had happend i would be happy and going on with my life. my gf went to another state to study and because i was left alone in my city…. i became fearfull of all the people who did that to me and started gettting more dependend on my girlfriend.. i used to cry on phone and call her regularly she got angry and frustrated and broke up. my life is so messed up that if i get a chance to clear my mistake i would do everything. my 12 standard exams went bad because this incidednt happed just 7 months before my exam. i was very good in studies but somewhere i knew that i am going in a wrong direction with this sex and love thing. which ended with that incident. now today when i wake up everyday in this same town where the incident happened i feel to run a away i feel like i lost all my happiness here. and with all these there are so many strugels daily i am facing. my parents fight and all. i am just so very upset….

  408. sona says

    Now a day i am facing stress, depression because of my mistakes….
    I had a relationship with a guy we used to talk on phone we never meet i am 23 years old my parents wants me to get married so i said him to send proposal but he said that he is not established to get married…. i started doing a job my mom is not happy with my job she thoughts no one will marry me if i will do job and my some relatives used to brain wash of my mom that no one likes working women’s so i was very much upset and i had pressure… and a guy to whom i only used to talk on phone we never meet each other we both love each other, he do not use to give me proper time he called me only twice a month or sometimes only once at month…. so one day i resigned from my job so a unknown guy called me and said that he knows me and he likes me and he is interested in me as i was already under-pressure i believes on his words as i love to be independent and wants to do something for myself in my career life so that unknown guy said me I’ll get u the job and he makes me jack! actually he was only playing with me and using me… and the back story is that unknown guy used to do a job in my dad’s office so he was terminated because of his actions so i personally feels he takes revenge for that…! he touched me and un-dressed me i don’t know why and how i lose myself i was crying and really i don’t wants this to happen but unfortunately i can’t stop him even i was crying and feeling that this should not happen and it’s not good…. but we do not do any sexual thing or intercourse he always force me to do intercourse but i always refused him…. and i realized that he is not a good guy so i left him…. and then i text to my old friend to say sorry so he called me and we talked and i told him each and everything but not in one go because things are not easy to me as we both love each other only because of family pressure my mind was diverted and i really feels regret for my this action…! finally my old friend decided to accept me so we got engaged but now if we ever had arguments on any topic so he always taunt me and treats me very badly… when i was teen age girl so i was like tom-boy type i used to be very frank and sometimes use slang with my friends as m the only daughter of my parents as i don’t have brother or sister so there is no one to guide me accordingly… after engagement i took admission in university so there was welcome party and i went there one of my friend take my picture and all of sudden one of my class mate stands next to me and picture has been captured and that friend put it on face-book so we had a worst fight at that night..! since then my fiancé always feels insecure from my side but i swear i love him with all my heart and my feelings are true to him but now if we ever had arguments on any topic so he always taunt me for my past and treats me very badly…. but truly now i do not talk to any guy now i don’t know what to do how should i makes him comfortable now a days i am not feeling good all the time i feels nausea doctors prescribe me some blood test all my reports are well but i am not feeling good i am taking medicines…. but honestly i am stressed and don’t feels good sometimes i feels to go far away from everyone and sometimes wants to kill myself…. i feels i am not a good daughter…! and now i am changed but my fiancé is uncomfortable with me but he also loves me…. really i don’t know what to do or what to say i really changed each and every thing in myself i am trying give my best but life is not giving me chance please I only wants my fiance trust me and we had a good and successful married life

  409. Anna says

    I had make a mistake in my past i had a relationship with a guy and he was not honest and sincere to me he played with me and used me he touched me, kissed me and undressed me but no intercourse! and the back story is before meeting to me that guy do a job in my dad’s office so he was terminated because of his actions….. then he approached me…! and i personally feels that he ha take revenge…. so he approached me and used me for that…. now m engaged and i told each and every thing to my fiance he forgive me but whenever if we had some arguments on any topic so he always taunt me for my past and he treats me very badly if no one can imagine…. i am suffering very badly even sometimes i feels to kill myself so wants to just go away far from every one…. i love my fiance a lot and i really commit each and everything with him honestly he also loves me a lot but whenever we fight on any topic so he always taunt me for my past….

  410. Me says

    I’m sorry I never believed that I was pretty. Now I feel very ugly, and it’s ruining my adulthood. I’m sorry I never made myself feel worthy of my own love. I’m sorry I don’t love myself more.

  411. Elaine says

    My husband and I separated 6 weeks ago and he has moved on to a new relationship. I spied on his actions by logging in to his Facebook account, then using things I saw there to start fights with him. I had the opportunity to confess, and I did. He understandably hates me right now, probably forever. I know telling him was the right thing to do, but I don’t know if I’ll ever stop hating the person I’ve become during this time. I felt justified in my actions for weeks, telling myself hurting him was retribution for him hurting me. I want to let go of the guilt for my actions, even if he never forgives me.

  412. Kathy says

    Some of the examples I set for my children continue to cause them to struggle and experience pain in their lives now. I feel so much regret for having decided certain things while thinking “It will be okay. They will be okay,” knowing all the while that it was not okay what I was deciding. I denied the impact on my children’s lives, and now I get to see that impact. I am so sorry.

  413. Sandi says

    I feel guilty that I didn’t say “I love you” back after my fiancée left for work. He died that nite and I never got to say it again.

  414. peace says

    Please pray i know exactly how you feel i have felt that way so many times before please pray and talk to him beg him to come back explain to him how sorry you are please i beg you he is the one if you feel that way go and get him show him youre completely sorry please youll continue to make mistakes but you will get better and you have grown spiritually … talk to him show him exactly how you feel be as honest as god and pray hard i will pray for you too

  415. peace says

    I have the worlds most beautiful partner , i am jealous and possesive and i cannot stand watching myself hurt him .I get so mad and got so mad that i cut myself and sent him the images to hurt him and i am struggling so much with the guilt … it is unbearable and i wish i could undo it. Theres nothing i want more than to be as good to him as he is to me

  416. Kathy says

    My baby died of SIDS 21 years ago and I was convinced that I did something to cause which i didnt i just want to thinking about it

  417. jo jo says

    Im a girl.
    I lost my virginity to a total jerkoff and now regret it.. it makes me feel ashamed of what I did and I know I can’t fix that situation at all.. I now have a boyfriend and told him what happend.. at a point I decided to let him have sex with another girl not because I wanted to but because I thought it would be the right thing since he said it bugged him knowing I had five it with someone else and he hasn’t.. I’ve caught him texting other girls flirting it saying things he shouldn’t have and when I confront him he says I told him he could have sex with another girl…the thing is I hate it that they are girls from the same school we go to…we are currently going out and I hate knowing that he’s texting others it makes me feel like I’m not good enough for him like he needs better and u really hate it I don’t know. We’re constantly arguing about that and it always makes me feel like I’m not good enough because he’s texting other girls what to do help?!
    Please write back

  418. Alias says

    I had a perfect boyfriend for four years. He never did anything wrong. I had moments where I lashed out and treated him like crap, being so mean it kills me – one time I even slapped him. I broke up with him because I felt I needed to work on myself. Now that I am independent and stable on my own, I look back and see how wrong this actually was. I love him so much, but know I will never be taken back. I can not let go of the guilt of what I did. I wish I treated him the way he treated me and I feel horrible for it every second of my life. I’m sorry.

  419. I'm sorry and it will never happen again says

    I was at a convention and had way too much to drink and was approached by several women. I was blacking out, kept drinking and I think we went too far during the night. It was still a blur. I’m married and have a kid and I love my family more than anything. Never thought this would happen since I don’t usually drink hard or get caught in these situations. I want to let go of the guilt and promise never to put myself and my family at risk

  420. Sadly says

    I am an animal lover and not long ago took in two baby rats, I have another rat so know about the care of them. During a hectic couple of weeks I rushed through my daily chores feeding the rats treats and food, but didn’t have time for holding them daily. One night friends came over and she commented how skinny one was and then I found the second one dead in the house, the third rat much older rat, in another cage was fat and sassy. I have no idea what happened, did I feed treats to the babies and reg food to the adult? Did I think I was feeding them enough and wasn’t? Did I not feed them at all?, I do not know, but something happened in which one died and I feel overwhelmingly guilt that they suffered, due to my neglect. And the fact that I walked by them every day and talked to them and gave them treats and didn’t realize they were skinny pains me so greatly.

  421. Asia says

    I don’t think I’m mad at myself.
    My dad had got on drugs I can’t stand to see his face everyone says I’m being unfair about how I choose not to see him ,but all I want to know is am I being fair or unfair about this?? Plus I’ve seen him hit my mom once or twice. I just wanna know if I’m taking the right path and ignoring him??

  422. Can't let go says

    I left a $300,000 plus job to do my own thing – no plan. I spent down $1.4 million in savings to maintain my family’s lifestyle with nothing to show for it. Now I am in a job search competing for fgew jobs with stale credentials that don’t set me apart. I dread each day and lack the motivation to do what I know I need to do. I am incredibly angry with myself and feeling alone and desperate about my future – losing wife and friends, no or a lousy job, suck life and retirement. Like you I want to die but know what pain that would cause loved ones. To top it all off I am virtually unable to ask for help beyond spilling guts to counselor every week.

  423. naina says

    God i am sorry for all.dat i ahve done in my past …
    God plzz forgive me dis time and frm today onwards i am going tak care of all my action and mak it a point all of dem are with gud intentions and purity…
    No adultration

  424. emily says

    I broke my engagement two months back. He was a super good guy and just perfect for me. I still dont know exactly why i broke with him. May be it was stress, fear of commitment or just cold feet. But whatever it was i became reason for hurt and pain for so many people. Now he has moved on with his perfect better half and am really happy for that. But i feel so guilty and regret my actions that it sometimes becomes very hard to digest. I accept that past is past, but somehow i am just not able to forgive myself for what i have done to myself and others.

  425. Alias says

    I regret the story I made up about why, as my parents would eventually (respectively) confess, I was invisible as an infant, child and adolescent. I regret the story I came up with (that I must be intrinsically unlovable) because in believing it, I allowed myself to be haunted by it. And as I haunted myself with this story, I developed a mindset of “not enough.” The not good enough to be noticed mentality comes hand in hand with another troubling state of being, and it’s a governed by one rule: do not become too much. Life was a constant tightrope walk between perfectionism (good enough) and accepting scraps (because to complain would be too much, needing too much, in particular, and cause rejection). So the end all, be all regret is really the defense of that I developed. It’s not particularly uncommon for those who were invisible to their parents, and never held or rocked and told that “it would be okay.” I regret believing the story that I was valueless because it caused me to also believe no one would ever hold on to me, because who would hold on to someone like me? By believing this, I caused others pain. I never held on to some, and I rejected or boxed out others without consciously meaning to as a way to avoid what I thought of as the eventual disappointment I would feel when they, too, would leave me behind. I didn’t allow anyone to love me, either, and it breaks my heart to think about someone offering their kindness as a gift to someone who essentially turned from the giver, leaving the gift unnoticed and unappreciated, unused and still in their outstretched hands. It is a difficult thing to forgive. I guess I realize now that I have no choice; paradoxically speaking, if I want to move forward in life and stop hurting people, I have to forgive myself. And do so by pursuing forgiving values, I guess. The good news is that I can do this; the bad news is I have to live forever with past mistakes. I hope they shrink as I make self forgiving actions now and in the future. I guess I’ll find out if that helps. Until then, thanks so kindly for this outlet.

  426. Lara says

    I was in a complex relationship with a guy for three months before he left to work abroad for seven months. I guarded my heart as I couldn’t allow myself to trust his words and potentially get hurt. There were a lot of red flags with him, I particularly felt like he put me on a pedestal and I didn’t want him to attempt long distance with me thinking I was perfect. Knowing that he hated smoking, after a night out I took a smoke from a stranger. I could tell by the way he looked at me that I had ruined things. I recognised my self-destructive behaviour and feeling brave, I openely admitted to it and we talked. He never quite got over it though, he would bring it up time and time again claiming that my insecurities caused him to question the relationship. No big surprise but it didn’t work out. I wonder what would’ve happened if I hadn’t done that. I was so afriad of him figuring out the real me and leaving that it became a self-fulfilling prophecy. He also made mistakes but will never apologise for anything. I can’t seem to stop blaming myself but I’m choosing now to let it go.

  427. bigred says

    First I am a Christian and I keep getting into troubles lately (sexual sin trouble) I meet a guy and we talk about love and marriage and for some reaaon I keep do the same behavior pattern sex and when finish I feel so low bad is like I want to just be out of the world people look up to me and I will help them with the sturgles but mine I hide it till it began to weary me down shame has consumed my life now ao I feel tired fawt head aches mood swings tensions I need this to let it out ! I am so shame to let any one know this ! Them I am going through a financial seaaon so all that couple it together! So rihht now I want to let go ofthis guilt I already tell God about but me it still comes befor my face and cause me to feel so bad help help help the first time I ever bring this out o my.

  428. past prisoner says

    I passed on a career opportunity due to some other stress, and i was never able to forgive myself about it, everyday i think “what if” , and it simply destroying my life.

  429. Alias says

    I worked on a history project that was for a test grade at home when the teacher said not to. I feel guilty because I received 75/75 points unfairly. I know what I did was wrong but I don’t want to confess to the teacher. I feel bad. I know it sounds silly, but I can’t get it out of my mind. I want to forgive myself and let go.

  430. Amanda says

    Messed up with lover sent text his wife read at first he was able to cope with the grief she was giving him and after a period of time (2 weeks ) he said we could carry on with our affair because things at home could not get any worse but then he changed his mind and said he could not do it anymore and he would not ring me again, he was a client of mine and I ask if he would still see me in a perfessional capacity he said he would but it’s been over a month and we haven’t had any contact the pain of the loss is killing me , I understand it was my mistake that made him fear the loss of his family but not having any contact is just the pits .if he had said no I can’t see you anymore in any shape or form I could have excepted that but it’s the not quite knowing if he coming back or not . Do you think I should except he’s not coming back and try to stop thinking about him easer said then done and if he does phone me it would be a lovely surprise what is the best way to cope.

  431. nameless says

    I was involved in an ugly custody battle and was being forced to get rid of my cats. I could not find homes for them and could not afford the fees to relinquish them to animal control. I ended up abandoning them. This is something that goes against everything I believe in.

  432. little girl lost says

    the hatred for myself, the constant reliving of past mistakes to the point that i am too scared to apply for a job or live in the same area as a multitude of people ( usually exes), the constant need to lie over little and big things, hating myself and feeling jealous of others, wishing I was someone else, wishing that i just don’t wake up one day all of the negative thoughts in my head which lead to negative actions

  433. MasterP says

    I want to let go of the hate I have for myself. I can never forgive myself and it’s making me miserable. I want to let go of the self doubt that almost cripples me.

  434. Too soft says

    I want to stop beating myself up over the fact that I allowed myself to be manipulated so easily. A couple of years ago, a woman came running up to me, crying, telling me that she needed someone to give her a ride to her church just down the street. She was supposed to be getting a ride to a Greyhound station because she was flying out to see some family member that was sick. I was so startled, I didn’t know what to do. She had cornered me where no one was around to hear this, and it was one of those things where you don’t immediately recognize you’re getting scammed because it’s not happening in a way you ever imagined it would happen. I don’t know why I didn’t immediately turn her down…I had no problem brushing aside people who made obvious attempts to scam me or get money from me…but this was a strangely different scenario, and I didn’t know what to do. This woman was crying in front of me and pleading that I help her. She just needed to be taken a couple of blocks down the street. So I made a big mistake and agreed to give her a ride there. When we got there, there was no sign of any sort of ride or even anyone present at the church, so she feigned confusion and cried again and begged me to drive her to her house instead. By now I’m already in a trap and I know it, but I already have this woman in my car, and I don’t know what to do with her. Taking her home sounded like the only other thing to do, so I continued to play into her hands and started letting her give me directions. By then I was terrified, I didn’t know what to do, or what this woman would do. She asked to borrow my cell phone so she could call a friend. I made another mistake and let her do so. Instead of dialing a number, she tried to look through my phone settings to find any sensitive information. When after a few moments I realized she wasn’t dialing a number, I yanked my phone out of her hands and started asking her stop and get out of my car. She continued to give me sob stories, telling me she wasn’t making anything up, pretended to cry again and begged me to take her home so she could work out a ride situation. Again, not knowing what else to do with her, but now clearly aware that this woman was a fraud, I followed her directions to where she wanted to be dropped off. But she was smart. She knew she was playing me like a piano, and pressed her luck. She asked for money to help pay for her previously mentioned fake Greyhound bus ticket. I told her I didn’t have any money to give her. She begged me again and again, to stop by an ATM and pull out some cash. And because I wasn’t able to remove her from my car, and because I was so afraid, I followed her request and pulled money from an ATM. Now that she had everything she set out to get, she directed me to a gas station where she finally got out of my car and left. It makes me sick to my stomach to think about how stupid I was to let all of this happen. I should have been suspicious from the start, because the whole situation had red flags all over it before it even started. But I was scared, and had never been in a situation like it before, so I didn’t recognize the signs until it was too late. I hate myself even more for letting her continue to manipulate me multiple times afterward. I should have walked away. I should have at least driven her to the police station instead of doing what she asked. I certainly should not have given her money. This was a couple of years ago, so by now I am able to put this behind me on most days, but some days I randomly recall this horrible situation and I get so depressed over it. It was so very humiliating. I try to justify to myself that the woman may have been carrying a weapon and could have hurt me if I didn’t do what she asked, but I doubt she had anything because she never threatened me. Just manipulated me. Played me like a damned fool so easily. I’ve been so embarrassed about it ever since that I haven’t told anyone about it, and it eats me up inside. Today it came back to me again and I have not been able to let go of it all day. I want to be freed from this humiliating mistake. If I could selectively erase a memory permanently, this would be the one.

  435. Akhtal Saghir says

    I have committed a series of investment mistakes and sale of valuable property at the wrong time that left me with just enough to survive at my old age let alone leaving something of value to my children. The downturn came after years of success, starting from scratch. Every time I watch a building rise or a property I once owned that some friends and acquaintances believe is still mine I turn into painful regret that paralyses my ability to carry on with whatever remained. I practice daily exercises that keep me well fit but when I smoke my first cigarette, a habit that I’m not able to stop, something like a second personality, hesitant and fragile and cowardly, takes over me and I start dreaming of death as a way out but only my belief it will hurt my family even more that makes me brush the thought aside.
    If, on the other hand, I quit smoking for a couple of days, I become more aware of the mistakes I committed that sends back into another depression and sense of regret.
    I saw a psychiatrist who prescribed a tablet of Cipralex (anti-depressant) in the morning and that of Xanax (anti-anxiety) in the evening to help me sleep. They did little good. Maybe I should stop even the single Scotch I have in the evening. I don’t know.

  436. BeyondLimits says

    I want to let go the believe that I was born evil and that I am nothing but bad for everybody. I was a divine creation created by the divined hand of GOD, special and unique like no other. I don’t hate myself, and I am indeed beautiful. I had indeed made many mistakes but I am not a robot! I am human, I am a daughter of GOD who is learning how to walk and to learn how to I must fall. I will no longer be around people who don’t deserve me, but instead surround myself of people who do.

  437. kathryn says

    I cheated on my boyfriend repeatedly during a period when our relationship was long-distance. He forgave me, gave me multiple chances, but I have denied every one because I cannot forgive myself. The other person involved threatened suicide, but has now moved on and forgiven me. I am now broke, unemployed, and living at my mother’s at the age of 29. I had everything I wanted and now lost it. I am suicidal and don’t see how to move forward.

  438. David says

    I would like to forgive myself for cheating on the love of my life DMV (her initials). We are no longer together as she has moved on and wants nothing to do with me. It’s hard to come to terms with this however, it is time to move on and finally forgive myself to let go of all this built up guilt. I hurt my ex and feel so guilty and bad. I wish as everyday passes that I did not wrong her and could snuggle up in her arms. I reminisce of all the good times we had. 3 years worth of great memories, that I will never forget. I love you d, with all my heart. It may not appear that way but, I wish you the best! Time to forgive myself and move on as well.

    RIP Little D and Big D
    03/20/11 – 01-30-14

  439. innocence lost says

    i have made a lot of mistakes in my past. i drank too much, lied, cheated, stole from my family (never anyone else), did drugs and tried to justify it by saying that i was coping. i rebelled later in life than most people and ended up ruining the wonderful life that i had made for myself. i cant look myself in the eye and i cant let myself get close to anyone. i saw too much and had been way too sheltered, so now i’m terrified to be on my own, but have no one to turn to. i know that no one is perfect and i know that even at my worst, i always had the intention to return the items i took or pay back the money i borrowed. but never could. the road to hell is paved with good intentions, so i just started believing that i belonged there. now, i am a wreck and having to walk through each day with a smile on my face and the second i’m alone, i am right back here. reminding myself what a horrible person i am and that i will never have someone i can trust and that i everyone would be better off with out me. i’m not suicidal, i’m just stuck in this wretched cycle. knowing what i should do, but not being able to. i know that i am a good person and i know that we all mess up and i know that life must go on. i just dont know how to. thank you.

  440. don't give up says

    I’m sorry to hear of your pain. Life is a gift and you deserve the chance to be happy. We all make mistakes but if we learn from them it’s important to try as best as you can to move foward. You may have done a bad thing, but that does not make you a bad person. You sound like you are sorry for the pain you have caused, but what about the pain he is causing you? Is he sorry too?