Shame: There is something wrong with me as a person. Guilt: I’m a person who may have done something wrong. What is the thing that causes you to lay awake at night; the thing that causes you shame? I promise that you’re not damaged beyond repair. You’re not unlovable. You’re…
One of my past clients had a history of bullying back in high school. He said that terrifying other kids was one of the few times he felt empowered and tough. This particular client was abused by his father, and in order to alleviate the pain he felt, he took…
Older brothers and sisters push around their younger siblings. But parents can put an end to this sibling bullying by spending more quality time with their firstborn. A University of Warwick study found that giving the eldest child more attention will prevent them from feeling threatened by and bullying siblings….
Bullying and harassment are similar in that the perpetrator hurts or harms their victims and typically without remorse. That said, there are differences between the two such as why the perpetrators engage in the abusive behaviors. Bullies typically seek a feeling of power or control, which they get from demeaning,…
Cyberbullying is a form of bullying in which the perpetrator uses technological means to harass, demean, tease, or threaten their victim(s). Cyberbullies can attack their victims via social media, text, phone call, or email, anytime and anywhere, so long as they have access to this technology. Anybody can become a…
Our friends are some of the last people we’d expect to bully us or mistreat us in anyway, but it happens and it’s important to know what that looks like. While disagreeing and hurting each other’s feelings every now and then is normal, it is not normal nor okay for…
Every single day, people are bullied by their peers: in school, at work, and elsewhere. An important question to ask when it comes to bullying is why: why do bullies bully? A few factors are involved, including whether or not actions are taken by a community to prevent bullying. Additionally,…
Bullies aren’t just kids who pick on their classmates at school—people of all ages and in all settings, including at work, can become a bully. Bullying at work can look a lot like childhood bullying, in that it can involve teasing, name-calling, gossiping, and exclusion. In the work realm, a…
Many parents are concerned about their children being subjected to bullying, but we often forget to consider another possibility: that our child is the bully. If you’re concerned about this possibility, you can take measures to talk to your child and stop their bullying behavior. First, teach your child to…
It’s important you understand it yourself before educating your kids on bullying: for instance, bullying doesn’t just occur at school but in the household. Oftentimes, bullies are created in the household after they are bullied themselves by family members, like parents and siblings. You can spot sibling bullying by keeping…
It can be hard to navigate a conversation about bullying with your child, but there are a few professional tips that can help you do so successfully. First, you should help your child feel comfortable talking to you; this can be accomplished by encouraging and maintaining open communication on multiple…
Fortunately, I had a wonderful childhood. My parents weren’t just my parents, but companions who knew when to give, push, and encourage. And I couldn’t have asked for better siblings: my three brothers protected me (without taking it too far), and my three sisters offered constant support and guidance. I’m…