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Starting a new job can be intimidating. As you step into the unfamiliar territory, a few thoughts might cross your mind, like: Is this company the right fit for me? Will I be successful in this role? And perhaps the most daunting question of all, will my coworkers like me?

Meeting and befriending new coworkers can be scary—but it’s also a manageable mission. Follow our 4 tips to befriend your new teammates:

One, call your coworkers by name. As a newcomer, the first thing you should do at a new job is learn your coworker’s names. Take it a step further and make it a habit to use their names frequently in conversation. Research shows that we love the sound of our own name, which means that engaging in this simple habit could improve your likeability at the new office.

Two, ask for help. This might sound counterintuitive, but in reality, it can put you on the fast track to being liked. Asking someone for help makes the individual feel important and well-respected—so long as you don’t go overboard and come off as needy. Brainstorm a manageable request from your coworkers like reviewing a memo or navigating a project manager. This can establish a sense of camaraderie and kickstart your friendship.

Three, look for similarities. A large body of research shows that we tend to like people who are like us. So, when you notice something that you have in common with a coworker, point it out. For example, if they come to work in a football jersey from your favorite team, give them a compliment and strike up a conversation about the season.

Four, be vulnerable. It’s important to have boundaries with your coworkers, especially when you’re new, but that doesn’t mean you can’t open up. Besides, nobody becomes friends by talking strictly about the weather or the latest HR announcement. Consider showing your new coworkers pictures of your family or sharing stories from your recent vacation. While you shouldn’t reveal your whole life story, divulging some personal information will help you form connections and develop friendships.

These 4 tips can help you befriend coworkers at a new job. 

Taylor Bennett

Taylor Bennett

Taylor Bennett is Senior Writer and Editor at Thriveworks. She devotes herself to distributing important information about mental health and wellbeing, writing mental health news and self-improvement tips daily. Taylor received her bachelor’s degree in multimedia journalism, with minors in professional writing and leadership from Virginia Tech. She is a co-author of Leaving Depression Behind: An Interactive, Choose Your Path Book and has published content on Thought Catalog, Odyssey, and The Traveling Parent.

Check out “Leaving Depression Behind: An Interactive, Choose Your Path Book” written by AJ Centore and Taylor Bennett."

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