We all have an inner bully who focuses on the negative and threatens to send us into a shame spiral, which can have harmful short and long-term effects. This makes acknowledging your inner bully crucial to improving your life and defeating the bully, so you can then replace the negative…
While there are many issues discussed in therapy (including mental health conditions and relationship challenges) an extremely common issue is low self-esteem. Therapists use a few key strategies to help their patients build their confidence and overcome their feelings of inadequacy. The first essential step is acknowledging one’s negative thinking…
Abandonment issues can leave you feeling completely hopeless and alone in this world—but you can take action and pull out of this low level of despair. First, you must take a good, long look at what happened. You can’t ignore or avoid what happened or those difficult feelings that resulted…
Imagine this: You and your friend are going out for your weekly dinner date and you couldn’t be more excited. You grin from ear-to-ear thinking about the slice (or two) of greasy pepperoni pizza you’re about to indulge in. But when you pick up your friend, she doesn’t appear to…
We’re often told to trust our intuition and “go with our gut.” Why? Where did this saying come from? Well, it’s actually quite literal: when we find ourselves in an uncomfortable or potentially troublesome situation, we get “butterflies,” or a nervous feeling in the “pit of our stomach.” In this…
I’ve let my temper get the best of me—and my guess is that you’ve let your temper get the best of you too. We’ve all been there, in times of extreme frustration, irritation, or outright anger, when all of the negative feelings bubble to the surface and over the rim…
Have you ever witnessed a friend become increasingly aggressive during a night out? As their bar tab grows, so does their aggression and hostility. They get into a silly (but heated) argument with another friend or better yet, a random person minding their business in the corner. And before you…
I used to be really good at not talking about my feelings. I kept everything bottled up until I near exploded. Why? Well, if I opened up about my feelings then they became real; and, more importantly, I didn’t like to burden anyone else with my feelings. Fortunately, I’ve since…
Simply defined, your self-esteem is how you feel about yourself and your abilities. And according to Tina Bakardzhieva, Level Two Mindfulness-based Interventions Teacher, it can have a pretty big effect on your life, whether it’s high, low, or somewhere in-between. Bakardzhieva says it’s important to understand that nobody is born…
When something has upset me, I like to listen to sad music, watch sad movies, and read sad books. I have no desire to “cheer myself up,” with happy tunes or inspiring plots—instead I like to completely engulf myself in the gloom. Plain and simple. This may sound counterproductive or…
We are just about halfway through December, which means winter is in full effect! Some delight in this snowy season, while others spend these cold months counting down the days until the warmth returns. Either way, it’s smart to protect yourself from the potentially harmful effects winter can have on…
We often get scolded for daydreaming—for becoming distracted by important and pointless thoughts alike. Still, we let our minds wander and ponder the meaning of life, the necessity that is pizza, the inner workings of our crazy friend’s brain. We lose control of our thoughts and sometimes feel confused upon…
