I think the guy I am dating is a great guy, stand up guy and I feel friendship wise we are good but I do not feel boyfriend girlfriend wise we are right for each other. I feel like I am staying in it because of fear. Fear that I won’t find someone that will be as accepting as my mental illness as he has been because of horrible past relationships. Fear that I will let this relationship go and I will be searching for someone even half as decent as him. I just do not feel that chemistry that a relationship should have.
While fear is not always that healthiest motivator, it is also true that your best friend will be your best life partner. Intense emotions associated with being “in love” may be deceiving because that come and go frequently. A long term relationship with someone you can trust is will be based on unconditional regard and forgiveness. Finding someone whom accepts us we are and is willing to forgive our shortcomings is a great gift. It also means realizing that we will never find the perfect mate. And to have a relationship based on acceptance and forgiveness also means we need to be willing to accept and forgive as well.