My boyfriend was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety when he was 13. We’ve been dating for over three years now and I know about his mental health issues and how he’s tried to kill himself before. Lately, he’s becoming more aggressive and depressed. He’s told me several times that he is going to kill himself soon. I can’t reach out to family or medical help because he doesn’t want help/ doesn’t think he needs it and thinks it’s “stupid and weak” to accept help. I am so worried about finding his body or getting a call from his family. He’s been pushing me away and making me feel guilty and useless. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know if I can live with the guilt of knowing I couldn’t help him and ultimately being part of the blame for his death.
If someone we love is seriously suicidal, the first thing they need is to prevent them from successfully completing this intent. This means it is essential that you notify his family and other friends to can support him and even watch him. If he is “suicidal with a plan”, which means he is stating how he would do it, you may want to contact the police to visit his home for a “safety check”.
Below is a link to our “Immediate Help Page”. You may want to call one of the numbers on this page with him to talk to someone right away.
But don’t worry how he reacts to your attempts to help him now. Suicide has been called a permanent solution to a temporary problem. In time, he will come to greatly appreciate the fact that you were involved in saving his life.