I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years, and I thought everything was great. We even talked about getting married. I really thought he was “the one,” and I just found out from him, because I guess the guilt was really weighing on him, that he cheated on me. He said it was a one-time thing with a coworker, who had been coming on to him for a while. I’m really anxious about what to do, because he’ll see her when he goes to work. What if it happens again? I want to give him another chance, but sometimes I get so angry thinking about what he did to me that I bring it up and start fights with him. Then, we argue. I want to be able to forgive him, but I’m not sure how to go about it.
The two of you might benefit from seeing a relationship counselor. It sounds like you’ve decided that you want to forgive him and move forward with him, but need help doing so. Set up an appointment with a therapist who will help the two of you sort through the issue and help you move forward. And if you can’t get past the fact that he cheated on you, maybe staying in the relationship isn’t the best idea. The most important thing here is your health and wellbeing.