Couples Counseling and Marriage Therapy in Suffolk, VA
So many reasons can motivate partners in relationships to choose couples counseling and marriage therapy. Dealing with an impasse or strife that prevents them from sharing communication and intimacy is often helped by couples counseling, where they can learn ways to explore and work on their issues.
Couples counseling and marriage therapy at Thriveworks in Suffolk, VA has helped to guide many couples with a variety of issues. Qualified therapists help their clients learn new insights and emotional skills, as well as make them conscious of new habits that can have a positive influence on their lives and relationships. Thriveworks’ therapists can help couples overcome crises and move toward more fulfilling relationships. The way to a healthy relationship begins here.
Relationships and marriages undergo a variety of ups and downs and, in some instances, there may be issues that weigh heavy on the couple. Each issue—great and small–can be examined with the assistance of a professional therapist who can direct them on a course through unsteady or rough waters. Some of the most common issues couples experience are:
Life has many transitions, from births and marriages to empty nest and death. Some transitions are normal and expected, while others are unplanned and come as a surprise, such as the loss of a job, unexpected moves or tragedy. Stressful for any individual, these transitions and adjustments can cause turmoil and hardship for a married couple. With two sets of opinions, emotions and experiences involved and each partner needing support in different ways, it is important to learn how to work together, turn toward each other and maintain the relationship in the midst of crises.
Some people view a middle-aged man dating a much younger woman as a classic sign of midlife crisis. A man dating a much younger woman is sometimes considered a status symbol. The label of “cougar” signifies an older woman dating a younger man. A significant age difference does not make a relationship any less real or meaningful, although some challenges may arise that do not exist when romantic partners are close in age. Dealing with the social ramifications and generation gaps of a relationship can be tough, but a large age difference can offer the opportunity to consider new perspectives and appreciate the many offerings of a different generation.
Selfishness and Narcissism
Selfishness is focusing on one’s own needs and not thinking about the other person when it is time to make important decisions or in regular day-to-day interactions. When one partner fails to pitch in with the housework or care for the children, the other will begin to feel resentment. Narcissism is a personality disorder that can include superficial charm, a lack of empathy for others and manipulating others for their own needs. When relationships are unbalanced and a partner is oblivious or inconsiderate to the needs of others, the ties in the relationship are weakened. If a partner’s expressed needs for intimacy, understanding and help are ignored, it will eventually create wounds that are difficult to heal.
When something goes wrong, the brain automatically looks for the cause and tries to correct it. But, most problems are multifaceted and don’t have just one cause. One partner may not find a high-paying job despite every possible effort to do so. The other individual may view the issue through their perspective and blame their mate for not trying hard enough to find a well-paying job. This often leads to one partner defending their actions, counterattacking or withdrawing. A negative cycle of miscommunication, anger and hurt are often the result.
These examples are only a few of the many issues couples may experience in their marriage. Whether couples undergo a few ups and downs or a seemingly unsurmountable issue, there is help. Call Thriveworks in Suffolk, VA at (757) 347-3155 to schedule a session or to find out more about how couples counseling and marriage therapy can help get your relationship on track and healthier and stronger than ever. Thriveworks is located at 707 Gittings St Suite #120 Suffolk, VA 23434