Couples Counseling and Marriage Therapy in Long Island, NY
People seek couples counseling and marriage therapy for help with communicating positively and to maintain intimate and close relationships. Couples counseling is not only for relationships experiencing crises. There are many reasons for individuals in relationships to pursue it. Whether the reasons are large or small, they deserve to be explored and worked on.
Couples counseling and marriage therapy at Thriveworks in Long Island, NY has helped partners with a wide range of issues. Qualified therapists help their clients learn new insights, cognitive and emotional skills, as well as how to practice these new skills and form good habits. Couples counseling can help foster a healthy relationship and make a huge impact on the individuals’ lives. Thriveworks’ therapists can help couples overcome trauma and guide them toward better relationships.
Throughout relationships and marriages, it is common to experience a few conflicts. In other cases, the issues may seem enormous. Each situation can be explored with the help of a professional therapist who can guide couples through the hurdles and the seemingly overwhelming obstructions to a better relationship. Some of the most common issues couples experience are:
Arguing Becomes Normal
He seems incapable of actually getting his gym clothes in the washing machine, and she takes up every inch of space of the bathroom counter with bottles of makeup. These frustrating actions might drive a couple up the wall. When yet another fight about these annoying habits erupt, it starts to feel that arguing is more normal than getting along. What was once only a rough patch has now become the reality of a union. The warning signs show the couple may be heading toward a loveless marriage.
Being Nicer to a Work Frenemy Than a Partner
When it seems easier for a partner to have small talk with a coworker who always steals business ideas than it is with the person sharing the relationship, it is time to figure out why. A partner may not make an effort to share experiences with the other without even realizing it. This may stem from the fact that one had to drop the kids off at school, spend the day in meetings at work, pick up the kids from school (when the partner was supposed to, but had to work late), went grocery shopping and made dinner. Once the spouse arrives home late from work, it would seem that talking about the stress of the day and working together to figure out how to lessen the load would be ideal. Instead, the partner keeps the stress inside, gives the spouse a side-eye glance and curls up in bed alone to read a book. Whether it is conscious or not, the individual is making an effort not to connect—and setting the same pattern day in and day out.
Hanging out in Separate Rooms
While sharing a house and co-existing in every room is great, partners need some alone time every now and then. But, when it becomes normal for a partner to actively avoid being in the same room with the other person during downtime, there may be a reason. Not having relaxation time together prevents couples from connecting in a way that keeps marriages together. One or both partners begin to feel neglected, resentful or lonely.
Everyone Else Has a Better Spouse
When the couple married, it must have meant they were truly, madly in love at some point. Fast-forward to the present, and one partner is constantly putting the other down in front of other people, which makes one feel bad and the other look bad. Situations that occur in public usually happen because a spouse hasn’t expressed anger or resentment over something the other person did or did not do. When the partner compliments other spouses and ignores their own partner, it is a form of passive-aggressive shame and criticism. By talking down and ignoring a spouse’s needs, it can make a partner’s self-esteem plummet, leading the relationship down a slippery slope.
These examples are only a few of the many issues couples may experience in their marriage. Whether couples experience a few ups and downs or a seemingly insurmountable issue, there is help. Call Thriveworks in Long Island, NY at (631) 318-3212 to schedule a session or to find out more about how couples counseling and marriage therapy can help your relationship get on the road to a healthier, stronger relationship. Thriveworks Long Island is located at 520 Franklin Avenue Suite L22 Garden City, NY 11530.