Overcoming an Affair – Adultery, Cheating and Infidelity Counselors in Latrobe
“Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” discusses the differences between men and women and hopes that by recognizing these variances, couples can work their way through their problems better. These differences are never more obvious than when it comes to the subject of infidelity. Both men and women cheat on their spouses, but for different reasons. Counseling for infidelity can help to explore those reasons.
Men commit adultery for the following reasons:
- Simple sexual curiosity
- No longer receiving sex at home
- Feeling unrespected or unloved at home.
Men are generally less complex than women about adultery and it’s more of a sexual thing for them. Women, on the other hand, commit adultery for more emotional reasons:
- They’re not connecting with their husband anymore
- Feeling neglected (the same as with men).
It’s rare for a woman to cheat for straight sexual reasons only—a woman is generally looking for something to ease the pain of an unhappy marriage, while a man can be perfectly happy within his marriage and cheat anyway, simply for sex. No matter who is cheating or why though, the discovery that your spouse has been unfaithful can be devastating news that can rock you to the core.
What to Do When Your Partner Has Been Cheating
The first thing to do is to decide whether you actually want to stay with that person or not. Maybe you’ll be better off splitting up. But if you do want to stay together, then you’ll need to know why your partner cheated, what led up to your partner cheating, and if you can forgive him/her. This is what counseling for infidelity is for.
A counselor will help a couple in the following main ways:
- Help to make sense of the adultery by exploring what went wrong to make it happen
- Act as a mediator between the couple, encouraging them to talk about the adultery
- Guide the couple through all the feelings of grief, anger, and resentment that they will be feeling
- Teach the couple how to heal and forgive going forward.
Counseling for adultery can give a couple the tools it needs to move past this damaging episode. There are no guarantees and it’s not easy—both parties have to be committed to making their marriage work again—but if you’re affected by adultery and feel like you could use some help, you should contact us to schedule an appointment.