I am currently in a relationship with a spouse who has narcissistic personality disorder. She can be manipulative and controlling at times. She is a covert narcissist and on many occasions attempts to control and manipulate aspects of our marriage/life. It has caused alot of stress and out of that it has created anger issues because I resent her. What do I do please help/
Unfortunately, i often find myself empathizing with those who submit questions like these, wish I could know more details and unpack these issues with the individual over a series of sessions. Reading this question generates so many other questions: does you wife have narcissistic tendencies (as we all do from time to time) or a narcissistic personality? What past experiences and/or trauma were influential in shaping these narcissistic behaviors? Are there unconscious ways that these behaviors may be reinforced even in the context of the marriage?
Accurate answers to these questions, and other questions which the answer to these may generate, are important to give helpful and effective support. That is the type of support that a trained therapist can give. To address this problem in the best way and receive the support you need, please schedule an appointment with a licensed therapist as soon as you can.