I went out with this great guy for a while, and then he said he didn’t want to be in a serious relationship. He’s going to college at the end of the summer, and he doesn’t want to be tied down. I text him, because I still care about him and want to be friends. A lot of times, he doesn’t text me back. But, for some reason, I feel that I can’t help myself and can’t stop. What can I do to stop this habit of texting him once and for all?
Hey there, thanks for that question. Someone from Thriveworks wrote an article last with–with 7 tips for getting over an Ex. I think, even though it isn’t officially an ex in your care, it at least sort of applies. Especially tip #7…
Tip #7: Move on.
At this point, it is time to focus on other things, or even other people. The best way to prevent thinking about your ex is to avoid activities and situations where they are present. For example, spending too much time on social media, where you can see their pictures, can bring back a flood of memories that will prevent you from moving on. Instead, spend your time doing things that you may have missed out on during your relationship. Hanging out with a different social group or working on hobbies you didn’t previously have time for are great ways to move on naturally from a relationship.
The whole post is here if you want to read the rest: http://thriveworks.com/blog/breakup-heartache-8-tips/
Be straightforward and ask him if he values your friendship/wants to still be your friend. It’s best to set up a time to talk about this in person, but if texting is your only option then you can still give it a try. If he still doesn’t respond, that speaks volumes to how feels about you and your friendship. Otherwise, he’ll either give a yes or no answer and then you can go from there. If he says he does still want to be your friend then you can talk to him about how you feel you’re putting in all the effort and he’s putting in none. If he says no, then that will be the end of it.