My boyfriend left me after we dated for about two years. We did a lot of things together and got along pretty well. We did have some rocky times in the relationship, where we broke up for a few weeks and then got back together again. This happened because we both wanted to do different things with our own groups of friends and didn’t want to be tied down. Ultimately, though, we’d wind up going back to each other. So, now that we’re not together, I’ve tried everything to erase him from my mind—I deleted his contact information from my cell phone. I threw out or gave away everything he ever gave, me so I don’t have to look at it. I have even dated a few guys to get him off of my mind. But, I just can’t seem to stop caring about him. I think about all of the good times we had and wish I could have them back. The other guys I date aren’t as funny, and I just don’t seem to connect with them. I want to move on with my life, and I thought I was doing the right things, but I can’t forget about him.
There’s no simple equation to follow here. Some breakups are harder to get over than others. And when you have such a deep connection with someone, it’s hard to completely remove them from your life. But, it is important that you move forward. Don’t dwell on the breakup; instead focus on yourself. This is the time to prioritize your needs. Build yourself backup by employing self-care techniques and maybe even take a break from the dating game. It’s never good to jump to a rebound. The only time you can commit yourself to someone else and another relationship is when you’ve healed from the past. So focus on your health, happiness, and wellbeing and then get back out there.