Dr. Greg Handel

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how can i help a friend who reaches out but then tends to shut down ?

I agree with Abraham. Your friend trusts you enough to reach out to you. However, people who are hurting emotionally are not always consistent with their self expression and will often lash out to those...

May 9, 2019 5
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The reasons that you gave for hating yourself are all physical attributes. They also seem to indicate that you believe you will not be able to sustain a relationship because of these attributes. It is...

May 9, 2019 1
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Anxiety and insomnia

Many years ago I had a mentor who would say, "When someone comes to you who is sleep deprived, don't counsel them. They don't need counseling, they need a nap." While this is not always possible, I believe...

March 23, 2019 5
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My relationship does not feel right

While fear is not always that healthiest motivator, it is also true that your best friend will be your best life partner. Intense emotions associated with being "in love" may be deceiving because that...

February 20, 2019 5
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Being Employed with mental health challenges. L

Struggling with mental health challenges can be very difficult in the work place. It is hard to know if being open about your challenges will bring support for or bias against you. If possible, it may...

February 20, 2019 5
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Any marriage success stories after husband checked out of marriage?

There are actually many. One woman I know was devastated when, after asking her husband to go to counseling to work on their marriage, he responded that he wanted a divorce. Her resulting self-doubt and...

February 20, 2019 5
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Still Struggling

A recommendation to see another counselor may be frustrating for you because it sounds as if you have been to a few. But the key to any life situation is to never give up hope. Richard Rohr has written...

February 20, 2019 5
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rolling stone.

This is hard to answer without a little more information. What are the reason for your moves? Are these moves job related? Are you in the house flipping business? To give a helpful response, a little more...

February 20, 2019 5
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Living with a Depressed and Suicidal BF

If someone we love is seriously suicidal, the first thing they need is to prevent them from successfully completing this intent. This means it is essential that you notify his family and other friends...

February 11, 2019 5
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Anger issues

Past repeated incidents of intense frustrations or feeling unjustly treated may condition us to respond angrily to triggers that remind us of those incidents. Or, there may be an underlining cognition...

January 5, 2019 5
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should my boyfriend tell me how to raise my son?

First, it's important to emphasize that finding help from a personal meeting with a therapist will be the best way to address an emotionally charged situation such as the one you present. Secondly, it...

December 28, 2018 5
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How to I go on not being mad that I couldnt save her?

First and foremost, let me stress the importance of getting personal counseling that will address the specific details of this situation that you are facing. Having said that, I believe it is also important...

December 19, 2018 5
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Are there any MBTI therapists who can help a desperate older male INFP?

I agree with Melissa that you should not try to deal with all that you are going through alone. Seek help from a health care professional. But please remember, when things seem their bleakest, there's...

December 19, 2018 5
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Health Anxiety

Many people deal with these health-related fears. However, as is often the case, the anxiety produced by these fears may be more disruptive than the probability of being sick. Persistent anxiety in and...

November 12, 2018 5
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Complicated presentation

Though all the symptoms you detailed are listed as symptoms of depression, it is not wise or ethical to make a firm diagnosis without examining the individual directly. To make a firm diagnosis one would...

October 20, 2018 5
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Transference

It is impossible to control what you dream about. But it is possible to control your actions. Looking at your therapist's FB page and driving by his house only reinforces these urges and increases the...

August 22, 2018 5
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Anger at specific group in possible hypomanic state

It is difficult to determine the specific disorder that these symptoms may reflect without a personal interview and more detailed examinations of the person's history. However, a person with bipolar disorder...

August 7, 2018 5
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How can I work up the nerve and confidence to start therapy?

Many of us feel alone and isolated when we experience anxiety and depression. We often say to ourselves, "I feel like I'm the only person in the world going through this" or may may think, "How come all...

June 14, 2018 5
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My self-esteem is at an all-time low. What can I do?

There are often no quick solutions for patterns that have been persistent for years, including thoughts and behaviors associated with low self-esteem. But there is hope. Developing an outward focus can...

May 30, 2018 5
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Why do I feel so lonely?

The are various reasons why loneliness may strike us. If there hasn't been a recent break in a relationship that can be identified as a trigger, there may have been some cue that is associated with a past...

May 30, 2018 5
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