Beverly Hills, MI Divorce Recovery

Divorce Recovery in Beverly Hills, MI—Therapists and Counselors

“Imagine spreading everything you care about on a blanket and then tossing the whole thing up in the air. The process of divorce is about loading that blanket, throwing it up, watching it all spin, and worrying what stuff will break when it lands.”
—Amy Poehler, Yes Please

When people’s world is spinning from a divorce, it can be hard to image a safe landing—especially when there is so much at stake. There are the practical realities of handling the children, the in-laws, the friends, the extended family, the court, the finances, and the housing situation. There is also the personal impact of fear, guilt, confusion, anger, depression, anxiety, loneliness, and more.

When couples are planning their wedding bells, ending the marriage is never part of the plan. Happily-ever-after is the plan, but plans change. Often, change is full of pain and challenge. It can also be full of opportunity. While divorce ends a marriage relationship, it does not close the door on a happy, fulfilling life. During the recovery and rebuilding process, many people going through a divorce begin counseling to guide their healing. A skilled therapist can provide guidance and support during a dark time.

The counselors and therapists at Thriveworks Beverly Hills have worked with many clients as they recover from a divorce and build toward a fulfilling future.

Why Do Marriages End?

For decades, psychologist John Gottman studied marriages and divorces. His famous marriage lab would observe couples in a mundane situation and then predict whether they would divorce or not. Researchers who ran the experience could anticipate a couple’s future divorce with uncanny accuracy.

How? While the specific details of why a couple divorces vary greatly from couple to couple, the undercurrent of those details rarely changes. Gottman identified “the four horsemen.” These four dynamics, when present in a marriage, often mean the marriage will end in divorce.

  • Criticism: Negative interactions, nit-picking, and putting down have no place in healthy relationships.
  • Contempt: Disrespect is almost always a factor in divorce, even if the other horsemen are absent.
  • Stonewalling: When problems are avoided, denied, and/or minimized, then manageable problems grow unmanageable.
  • Defensiveness: Couples become stuck when one or both partners blame, shift responsibility, and avoid accountability.

When one or more of these dynamics are at play in a marriage, they can cause great relational harm. Coming out of a marriage likely means that people need an intentional time of healing and recovery.

Divorce Recovery: Healing Wounds, Building a Future

Divorce is the loss of a marriage relationship, of course, but that is only the beginning of the losses. The costs each person incurs will be very personal and unique, but examples may include…

  • Giving up one’s home and having to establish another living situation.
  • Adjusting relationships with extended family or in-laws.
  • Transitioning to joint-parenting or single parenting.
  • Reducing one’s standard of living.
  • Going back to work/changing one’s work situation.
  • Establishing new friendships.

The losses are many, and they need to be grieved. Varied and even bizarre emotions may arise when people grieve, and it is important that people allow them to feel their way through the grief cycle. They may bounce between emotions such as sadness, shock, anger, denial, fear, bargaining, guilt, and even joy.

As people recover from a divorce, they may need to look back before they look forward. It can be painful to examine a past marriage for what went wrong and why, but doing so can equip people with invaluable information. Maybe adjustments need to be made for future relationships. Maybe deep wounds need healing before people have the strength to move forward. Whatever the case may be, there is much healing to be had by understanding the past.

How Long Does Recovery Take?

Many people seek the help of a mental health professional as they pursue divorce recovery, but there is no silver bullet or quick-fix. Each person’s journey is unique and a number of factor influence the healing process:

  • One’s physical health, age, personality, and mental health.
  • Whether or not the divorce was anticipated.
  • The marriage’s age.
  • Why the divorce occurred.
  • How tumultuous the process of divorce was.
  • The status of a couple’s finances.
  • If the couple has children.
  • Whether new, romantic relationships have formed.

Divorce Recovery at Thriveworks Beverly Hills

You do not have to go through a divorce alone. Thriveworks Beverly Hills has divorce recovery appointments available. If you call our office…

  1. A person will answer and help you schedule an appointment.
  2. Weekend and evening appointments are available.
  3. Most first-time clients meet with their counselor within 24 hours of their first call.
  4. We accept many forms of insurance.
  5. There is no waitlist, so you will not be put on one.

If you are ready to recover from ending your marriage, we are ready to help. Call Thriveworks Beverly Hills today.

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Overall Rating: 5★★★★★ based on 14 5 1 14 reviews. See all reviews
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Great therapist

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Andrea Golden is easy to talk with and goes or of her way to give a balanced perspective.
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Lindsey is great!

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I had the honor of working with Lindsey at a previous job and she is one of the sweetest individuals I have ever met. Lindsey listens intently to everyone and is open to people from all walks of life. Lindsey is knowledgeable and passionate about advocating for mental health. This makes Lindsey a great leader and counselor. I would refer anyone I know to Lindsey!
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I’ve known Tammy Wagstaff for quite some time. She was very helpful to me for finding my strengths and improving my working and personal relationships. She is a good listener and is able to “see” my point of view . I would highly recommend this counselor
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Review for Sandra Quigley

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*****I have been a patient of Sandra's for nearly 2 years now and I really can't say enough good things about her work with me. She is a true Christian counselor and that was exactly the perspective I needed to guide me down the path God was trying to lead me. She definitely strengthened my faith and made many of life's big problems seem like small speed bumps when looking at the big picture!! I highly recommend Sandra Q. if you are looking for the someone who honestly cares about you and the journey you are on. Remember, there’s ultimately only one way to peace in your life, and that’s to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus!! *****
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I really enjoyed meeting Melissa.

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I really enjoyed meeting Melissa. It was easy to converse with her. She was very professional but completely relatable too. I would definitely recommend Thriveworks!
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Moving with meaning

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Much Gratitude Christine, You're helping me become the best version of myself. The self I've always pictured the vision is clear and I am ready to LIVE!!
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I wouldn’t recommend it – one of the worst therapists I’ve ever seen

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The doctor (PhD) I saw for therapy decided, on the second session, to pay more attention to doing things on his phone than to listening to me. He thought he was hiding what he was doing behind his portfolio, but he was not. I could see the reflection of what he was doing, and he was looking down more than up. He was pretending to listen but didn't do a very good job of that, because when I stopped talking, he would incorrectly try to restate what I said or, make a comment on what I said which turned out to not be relevant because it was clear he wasn't listening. He did not seem to want to be there. It was a horrible experience. I called the next day to complain to the lady on the phone, and got a sincere "I'm sorry" and that's it. When I got the bill (very expensive, by the way), I have been attempting to call the office to pay it over the phone but I keep getting told that the people that do the billing are currently busy and that I should call back. It should not be that difficult for someone to take a credit card number and apply it to my bill, especially a bill I shouldn't have to pay due to horrible service. I hope the other therapists at Thriveworks are better than the one I selected, and actually have interest in helping their patients.
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Couldn’t be happier

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We couldn't be happier with the staff and help we have received for our family at the practice. Christine has been particularly helpful in assisting myself and our family get back on track.
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Comfortable

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Comfortable, private space for anyone and everyone in the family to get the personal time and space they need.
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She helped change my life

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Dear Marcy, I can't thank you enough for recommending your therapist Dawn Gaden to me. She has helped change my life. I have always struggled with feeling misunderstood. But recently I fell into a deep depression; beyond something I could resolve myself. Therapy was required for my recovery. Since childhood I have been weary of therapists because I would talk through my problems but I didn't get tools and strategies to handle my problems better. Dawn has changed that. For the first time I leave each appointment not only relieved from having talked my issues through, but more importantly with tools to help me move forward. She has introduced me to methods I had considered silly, but now I could live without. I am proud of the person I am becoming and the journey I have chosen to take. Thank you for all you have done to change my life and my family's future.
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She Inspires Hope

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I found Sandra Quigley on the web while searching for a Christian counselor. I was having a lot of anxiety about making a career change. She not only helped through the anxieties, she also helped me with concerns in my personal life. Sandra's non-judgmental and compassionate approach, made me feel comfortable and hopeful.
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Karen Waldrop

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Ms. Waldrop is an active listener and excellent problem solver. She offers practical resolutions to everyday problems for those suffering with depression, life changes, anxiety, and stress. She provides empathy in a quiet manner with a gentle sense of humor. She is capable to offer a variety of tools for those seeking positive and lasting life changes. If you are seeking someone with whom you can discuss your deepest personal issues in a confidential manner I would highly recommend Ms. Karen Waldrop as your therapist.
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Everything I needed

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I found Sandra Quigley in the back of a magazine (Psychology Today). I desperately needed someone to talk to. Newly retired with plenty of time to allow my mind to take over my life, I felt constantly anxious and very out of sorts. Enter Sandra Quigley- compassionate, non-judgmental, kind, and gentle. She is everything that I needed to heal myself. I had never talked to a therapist before, so this was a new venture. It was very important to me that I find someone with whom I could feel comfortable. Right away, I felt comfortable. I did have assignments; I never was prescribed a single drug. She went out of her way to help me specifically with my issues- finding me articles, books, telling stories. I never felt uncomfortable; I felt and still feel that my time with Sandra is valuable. With Sandra’s help, I have unearthed a much calmer, happier, together self that now wakes up each morning looking forward to the day ahead. We all have our baggage- I never once realized that I could unpack that bag and put my crap away. I now get to walk through life so much lighter!!
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So helpful!

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I really love the helpful and peaceful approach at Thriveworks. I have known Marcy for a long time and her ability to work through tough spots and discuss personalities makes her a lot of fun for me. Time flies when we chat and that is a good thing for a guy like me who is always worried about time. I also love Dawn Gadens video blogs! Wow...so insightful and easy to access. I don't see Dawn in counseling but if she is that good on video I have to believe she is great in person. Give a shot...I bet you will love them.
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