The Surprising and Powerful Influences Behind First Impressions

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We rely on first impressions for more than we realize. It’s not just job interviews and blind dates that we should worry about – first impressions rule every potential relationship ahead of us. That said, we are not slaves to first impressions. We just need to better understand the numerous ways in which the mind forms an impression so that we can react accordingly.

Yes, It’s Possible to Be Both Extroverted and Introverted

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When we think of introversion and extraversion, we pit the concepts against each other, categorizing individuals as being one or the other. And yet more and more people will vehemently shout that they are “a little of both” or within some kind of gray area. If the two concepts are so dissimilar, then why do so many people feel this way?

The Pros and Cons of Office Romance (INFOGRAPHIC)

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When it comes to office romance, some think of Jim and Pam from The Office, while others think of harassment in the form of Mad Men. Differences aside, we now live in a time when romance in the workplace is more prevalent than ever, and the research points out some alarming shifts in what we now find culturally acceptable. Office romance is here to stay, but how do you know if it is a good or bad idea?

The Mystery and Energy Behind Every Touch

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Do you and your loved ones need to keep in touch? We don’t like to be touched. You’ve probably heard the term “personal space” and “bubble” being thrown around by friends and strangers. At the same time, we’re all obsessed with the energy of touch, even if we don’t realize it. Affection, for one thing, […]

The 22 Most Popular Resolutions and 22 Ways to Break Them

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Every year, we torture ourselves by making New Year’s Resolutions that we don’t keep. So our staff at Thriveworks thought it would be more productive to list out the most popular resolutions we all take part in and how we most often (creatively) break them. 1. Read more books this year! Renew your Netflix subscription […]

3 Habits That Are Making You Lonely

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Do you have trouble making and keeping friends? Here are a few habits that might be making you lonely. Almost everyone gets lonely once in a while. Even the most social people you know get lonely, even if they don’t wear it on their sleeves. That being said, one of the main causes of loneliness […]

How to Drive Yourself Sane

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 With some careful listening of your own irrationality, you may find that it’s actually possible to drive yourself crazy with sanity. As you think about things and speak to others, reflect on how you describe what is going on. Do you think and say, “He made me so mad!” or do you think and say, […]

5 Rules for Managing Video Games In Your Household

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Let’s face it- video games are here to stay. With the next generation of consoles about to come out, it’s a great time to review a few ways to make gaming a positive addition to your family, rather than a negative one.  1. No gaming before bed. This includes the adults, too. Research shows that […]

Surviving the Holidays After Divorce

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When we think about the holidays, most of us are expecting a time of fun, family, and traditions we hold dear. Unfortunately, this can also be a time that is dreaded for the first time by people who have recently ended their marriage. For some, this will be the first holiday season without their spouse, […]

Why Every Relationship Needs Courtship

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Courtship, to some, may be an unpleasant concept that is associated with words like “old-fashioned” and “antiquated.” When we hear the word, we may think of how it was used it in the past as a way for parents to oversee the process of uniting their children. In the past. Not that long ago, marriages […]

8 Ways to Make Your Relationship Thrive

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My least favorite part of a relationship is the very beginning. Although the early stages are new and exciting, they’re also difficult to navigate due to the intangible barriers we either face or put up ourselves. I prefer that stage in the relationship when I am first becoming comfortable around a person, and we are […]

3 Steps to Surviving a Breakup

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How to survive (and thrive) through a difficult breakup. Chances are you’ve been in a relationship where everything seemed to be going fine, but then your partner confronts you with those four dreaded words. We need to talk. Few other word combinations can reverse our emotions so dramatically, but the truth is that breakups happen. […]

Are Love and Addiction the Same thing?

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Is there a real difference between love and addiction? A colleague brought up an interesting topic for discussion the other day. He asked the simple question, “Is love the same as addiction?” This is one of those questions that, on the surface, I believed I had thought of before, though I honestly never entertained the comparison. […]

How to Survive the Beginning of a Relationship

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Insights on how you can effectively manage the beginning of a relationship. In many cases, the start of a romantic relationship sets the tone for the rest of your time with that person. As fickle human beings, we are able to discern the importance of our relationships early on. One might observe a relationship as […]

Ways to Thrive: Treat A Random Day Like Valentine’s Day

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Do you want to thrive in your relationships with your spouse, significant other, friend or family member? Treat a random day like Valentine’s Day! Here’s what you can do: open up your calendar and randomly select a few days out of the year to become alternate days for Valentine’s. Pick the person you want to […]

How to Navigate (And Survive) A Long Distance Relationship

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Are you considering or already in a long distance relationship? Working in Boston, I have met with lots of clients in these situations (Boston, like many major cities is very transient). My clients in long distance relationships tend to fall into 2 groups: 1. The partners have never had much (or any) in-person interaction. 2. […]

Having a Healthy Teenage Relationship

With summer ending and school fast approaching new relationships are both beginning and ending for teens. It’s almost as if I can hear Justin Bieber singing in the background as I type : )  It can be difficult to form and keep new relationships. Many times teens start dating someone or hanging with new friends […]

5 Ways to Talk to an Angry Person

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Have you ever felt paralyzed when confronting someone who is very angry with you? Was this a situation where the person was extremely angry and you weren’t sure what the best way to handle them was? Though having to talk to an angry person isn’t ideal, there are multiple “do’s” and “don’ts” to become familiar […]

How to Respond in Difficult Situations

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When it comes to relationships, we are constantly exchanging information with one another. This information can come in many forms (i.e. conversations, email, text, nonverbal cues, and/or physical touch). We are continually processing this information and responding to it depending on how we interpret what we hear or experience. Sometimes this exchange of information can […]

10 Questions To Ask Before You’re Engaged

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Are you in a serious relationship that might be leading to engagement? Perhaps a friend is contemplating marriage, and you want to provide practical, realistic advice. Whatever the case, there are at least 10 very important questions you need to ask your potential spouse (and yourself) before you decide to embark on this grand commitment. […]

Netflix Infidelity: Cheating on Your Spouse with TV

A brief interview on the topic of “Netflix Infidelity” With Dr. Anthony Centore Is “Netflix Infidelity” a Real Issue in Counseling? A couple has never come in with this as their only issue. But, yeah, it’s come up in counseling. It’s obviously not like traditional infidelity. For some couples it’s a non-issue—it’s all out cheating […]

Dr. Harrison Davis Quoted on CNN, regarding “Sugar Daddies”

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Dr. Harrison Davis, of Thriveworks Counseling in Atlanta, GA was recently quoted on CNN addressing the topic of Sugar Daddy Relationships. “On one hand, he said, these relationships remind the men of a more carefree time in their own lives. On the other hand, there’s a great sense of control. “”They can take things away […]

6 Warning Signs of Emotional Blackmail: Couples Counseling Tips

When does it become emotional blackmail? It’s not entirely uncommon to acquiesce to your partner’s requests. After all, you can compromise as well as the next person. But when does healthy compromise turn into something else–something more sinister and harmful? If you often find yourself giving into demands of your partner and feel fear if […]

Couples Counseling Tips: Five Steps to Make Your Spouse Your Best Friend

Couples Counseling Tips: Fiery romance born from physical attraction is the basis of many engagements and marriages. But stop and think about it: What attributes describe best friend relationships? Honest and open communication, trust, acceptance, support, affirmation, empathy, and enthusiasm for shared interests…the list could go on and on. Wouldn’t those same attributes make for […]

Tips on Fighting Emotional Blackmail

Emotional blackmail is an issue far more commonplace than people realize. It is defined as someone preying upon the emotions and sensibilities of another for personal gain, rather than external data. This form of extortion usually occurs within close relationships (fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, boyfriends and girlfriends, etc.). People usually emotionally blackmail others […]

10 Ways to Encourage your Partner to Attend Couples Counseling

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Thriveworks counselors help thousands of couples improve their relationships every year. Working with couples on such a regular basis, it is not unusual for us to receive phone calls from couples where one partner is reluctant. • Sometimes this is because the partner doesn’t believe in counseling. • Sometimes a partner is resistant because he […]