Surviving the Holidays After Divorce

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When we think about the holidays, most of us are expecting a time of fun, family, and traditions we hold dear. Unfortunately, this can also be a time that is dreaded for the first time by people who have recently ended their marriage. For some, this will be the first holiday season without their spouse, […]

Why Every Relationship Needs Courtship

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Courtship, to some, may be an unpleasant concept that is associated with words like “old-fashioned” and “antiquated.” When we hear the word, we may think of how it was used it in the past as a way for parents to oversee the process of uniting their children. In the past. Not that long ago, marriages […]

8 Ways to Make Your Relationship Thrive

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My least favorite part of a relationship is the very beginning. Although the early stages are new and exciting, they’re also difficult to navigate due to the intangible barriers we either face or put up ourselves. I prefer that stage in the relationship when I am first becoming comfortable around a person, and we are […]

Are Love and Addiction the Same thing?

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Is there a real difference between love and addiction? A colleague brought up an interesting topic for discussion the other day. He asked the simple question, “Is love the same as addiction?” This is one of those questions that, on the surface, I believed I had thought of before, though I honestly never entertained the comparison. […]

The Importance of Premarital Counseling

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With nearly half of all marriages ending in divorce, premarital counseling should be sought out when couples are considering getting married (in fact, some states require it for people under 18 years of age). In premarital counseling, couples will learn how to develop the skills to communicate in marriage, identify potential conflict areas, and learn […]

Ways to Thrive: Treat A Random Day Like Valentine’s Day

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Do you want to thrive in your relationships with your spouse, significant other, friend or family member? Treat a random day like Valentine’s Day! Here’s what you can do: open up your calendar and randomly select a few days out of the year to become alternate days for Valentine’s. Pick the person you want to […]

5 Ways to Talk to an Angry Person

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Have you ever felt paralyzed when confronting someone who is very angry with you? Was this a situation where the person was extremely angry and you weren’t sure what the best way to handle them was? Though having to talk to an angry person isn’t ideal, there are multiple “do’s” and “don’ts” to become familiar […]

10 Questions To Ask Before You’re Engaged

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Are you in a serious relationship that might be leading to engagement? Perhaps a friend is contemplating marriage, and you want to provide practical, realistic advice. Whatever the case, there are at least 10 very important questions you need to ask your potential spouse (and yourself) before you decide to embark on this grand commitment. […]

How to Have a Happy Marriage

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The Healthy Marriage Quest Everyone wants to have a successful marriage. Who gets married thinking, “This is probably going to end in a divorce, but let’s give it a shot?” When we get married, we envision growing old with our spouse and looking like one of those older couples walking hand in hand in the […]

Stopping Domestic Violence in Marriages

For those of you who remember the TV show called “The Honeymooners”, you remember the character Ralph Kramden. He spent most of each episode with his good friend Ed Norton trying to scheme and strike it rich. His wife Alice was always there to bring him down to earth when his ideas were all  too […]

Netflix Infidelity: Cheating on Your Spouse with TV

A brief interview on the topic of “Netflix Infidelity” With Dr. Anthony Centore Is “Netflix Infidelity” a Real Issue in Counseling? A couple has never come in with this as their only issue. But, yeah, it’s come up in counseling. It’s obviously not like traditional infidelity. For some couples it’s a non-issue—it’s all out cheating […]

Clinical Psychologist Meg Jay on why 30 is not the new 20

Clinical Psychologist Meg Jay was featured on TED talks this past week for her talk on twentysomthings. According to Meg, there are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now. That’s about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no one’s getting through adulthood without going through their 20s […]

6 Warning Signs of Emotional Blackmail: Couples Counseling Tips

When does it become emotional blackmail? It’s not entirely uncommon to acquiesce to your partner’s requests. After all, you can compromise as well as the next person. But when does healthy compromise turn into something else–something more sinister and harmful? If you often find yourself giving into demands of your partner and feel fear if […]

Couples Counseling Tips: Five Steps to Make Your Spouse Your Best Friend

Couples Counseling Tips: Fiery romance born from physical attraction is the basis of many engagements and marriages. But stop and think about it: What attributes describe best friend relationships? Honest and open communication, trust, acceptance, support, affirmation, empathy, and enthusiasm for shared interests…the list could go on and on. Wouldn’t those same attributes make for […]

10 Ways to Encourage your Partner to Attend Couples Counseling

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Thriveworks counselors help thousands of couples improve their relationships every year. Working with couples on such a regular basis, it is not unusual for us to receive phone calls from couples where one partner is reluctant. • Sometimes this is because the partner doesn’t believe in counseling. • Sometimes a partner is resistant because he […]

The Top 10 Websites that Destroy Relationships and Marriages

The Internet provides many opportunities for creating new relationships through social networking and online dating. However, some websites may be just as effective at destroying relationships. Below are the top 10 websites that can contribute to relationship problems, distress, and sometimes relationship crisis. For some couples, Internet use is a symptom but not a root […]

Does Couples Counseling Work?

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Every year, thousands of couples begin seeing a counselor with hopes that the therapy process will help them to improve and strengthen their relationships. But is there any evidence that couples counseling works? Actually, there is… According to a national survey of marriage and family counselors and their clients, a couple’s motivation for improvement may be […]

Is Marriage Good for Women? – Pros and Cons of Marriage

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An APA (American Psychological Association) Study recently addressed the question of whether marriage helps or hinders the health of women. This is what was found. The study, involving middle-aged women over a 13-year period. Results indicate that women in marriages characterized by high levels of satisfaction showed a health advantage when compared with participants in […]

Is Marriage Good for Men? – Pros and Cons of Marriage

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A Harvard University Study, published by the  Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health (2005; 59:56-62), looked at the question “Is Marriage Good for Men?” Here were the results: The effects of marriage termination were observed, whether through death of a wife or divorce, and remarriage on more than 40,000 men who were between 40 and […]

Is Marriage Good for your Health? Research Stats say Yes, with Some Exceptions

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Is Marriage Good for you Health? Recent authoritative surveys and Research studies show interested data about Marriage and Health. According to the: National Center for Health Statistics: A report based on a survey of 127,545 people (in 1999-2002) conducted by the center, a part of the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The association between […]

How to Forgive Yourself: Letting Go of Past Regrets

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How to Forgive Yourself? Let it go. Forget about it. Move on. Forgive yourself. It’s easy to say, but so much harder to actually do! We all mess up sometimes, whether it’s lashing out at a friend, engaging in a self-destructive behavior, or cutting corners at work. And with those mistakes often come overwhelming feelings […]