Stop Yelling at Your Spouse! Try this Couples Coaching Communication Technique Instead.

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It happens every night. It might be the man or it could be the woman, but one of you comes home and plops down on the sofa in front of the TV or hides away in the computer room. At the end of the day you or your partner or both are just whipped from […]

Mindfulness Counselor’s Thoughts on the Observing Mind, Thinking Mind


Writings on Mindfulness by K. Neal Hughes, M.A. LSPE NCC Between stimulus and response there’s a space, in that space lies our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Victor Frankl There once was a young man who lived with his wife and two young children out […]

5 Communication Patterns that Will Kill a Relationship


For better of for worse, every relationship has patterns of communication. Here are 5 (unfortunately common) communication patterns that can kill your relationship. Discuss – Ignore One partner believes that issues and problems should be “talked out,” while the other partner feels that “hashing out” every little thing is like picking at a scab. While […]

Accepting Resistance: Exercise for the Brain

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Writings on Mindfulness With K. Neal Hughes, M.A. LSPE NCC The buzzword in neuroscience has been “neuroplasticity” for about 40 years. This simply means that the brain is able to change itself. That brain functions can change with new information and practice, especially practice, is no longer simply an interesting idea. Some studies even indicate […]

When Your Past Calls, don’t Answer. It has Nothing New to Say.

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Writings on Mindfulness With K. Neal Hughes, M.A. LSPE NCC Our pasts haunt us, especially those of us who tend to experience depression. It is the nature of the brain to remember. It is also the nature of the brain to predict so there are those of us just as haunted in the present by […]

The Neurological Effects of Mindfulness


Writings on Mindfulness With K. Neal Hughes, M.A. LSPE NCC There is a science to all of this, and in the absence of science there really is nothing to any of it. How would lasting changes occur in anyone unless neurology was involved? It is my contention that unless spiritual practice touches neurology then no […]

How to Help a Son who’s Smoking Pot and Getting Arrested


My question is: My 23-year-old son has a drug addiction. First it was marijuana and alcohol for many years, and now he seems to be smoking something called chop out of a bong pipe (tobacco and marijuana), but his behavior has changed he’s become more violent and very angry. He recently was arrested last week in […]

Practically Speaking (On Mindfulness)


Writings on Mindfulness With K. Neal Hughes, M.A. LSPE NCC What is mindfulness? I like the definition of Jon Kabat-Zinn: “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, 
in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.” It really is as simple and as difficult as that. Why is it difficult? Because our minds are geared […]

Chesterfield Counseling Center Grand Opening


Thriveworks Chesterfield had it’s official grand opening today. Hosted by business location owner Christie Blaylock, dozens of persons from the community, Thriveworks headquarters representatives, and the local chamber of commerce attended. Thriveworks is a growing chain of premium counseling offices, with offices in 7 US states. Chesterfield marks the opening of the Thriveworks’ 12th office […]

How to Delegate a Task: 9 Important Steps

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Delegation is one of the most important skills for a business owner to master. Done well, delegation will help get you out of the day-to-day minutia and allow you to focus your attention on broader company issues. In addition, good delegation can increase the morale, confidence, and productivity of your team. Many people misunderstand delegation, […]

Don’t Let Summer Get the Best of You — 3 Ways to Take Control of Your Life

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3 Tips for Taking Control of Your Life this Summer It’s summertime again! You’ve been waiting since Labor Day for the warm rays of the hot summer sun to come back. It’s time for swimming pools, beach vacations, and backyard cookouts. But don’t lose sight of what’s most important. Here are 3 ways to take […]

What is Precrastination? Will Precrastinators Rule us All?

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Precrastination is a concept so new that my spell-check still doesn’t know about it (darn red squiggly lines). But, according to paper being published in Psychological Science, it’s not something the Onion/Conan/Fallon invented. We all know that procrastination is the tendency to put things off, sometimes to our own detriment (think “late fees”). Well, not […]

The Seven Things You Should Never Talk About

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While no topic is ever off the table during a counseling or life coaching session, there are some topics to avoid when talking with friends, family, acquaintances, colleagues, or random neighbors. Below are “Seven Things Not to Talk about in Normal, non-therapy, Conversation.” Or seven areas to avoid during small talk. This topic was the […]

Watch Carl Rogers Describe the Therapeutic Power of Empathy.

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Carl Rogers, the founder of humanistic psychotherapy (non-directive therapy) talks about the power of listening to feelings, and reflecting them back to clients, in therapy (and in relationships in general). Dr. Rogers states, We give too little importance and consideration to an element which is extremely important… It is one of the most delicate and […]

A Counselor’s 4 Tips For Surviving Eternal Life

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Your Guide to Living Forever A number of recent research studies suggest that scientists are getting closer to extending human life, or eliminating aging altogether. Most recently, a study (using mice) suggested that transfusions of young blood could prevent aging. This begs the question; how will you handle eternal life once it becomes a scientific reality? […]

All I Really Need to Know I Learned … in the 12 Weeks of Summer!

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12 Action Steps for a Renewed Perspective Hard to believe, but the summer months are fast approaching. Whether you’re a recent graduate, maybe taking summer school classes, looking for a summer job, or perhaps anticipating having some vacation time, your thoughts are likely turning to questions about how you might spend the long twelve weeks […]

6 Tips for Overcoming Your Anxiety of Going to the Chiropractor

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Chiropractic Care is Nothing to Fear Are you anxious about visiting the chiropractor for the first time? You’re not alone. It’s completely normal to fear the unfamiliar. But going to chiropractor can be a very positive and therapeutic experience that can improve your overall health. It doesn’t have to be stressful. Common reservations and questions […]

A Journey to Mindfulness

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Starve Ego, Feed the Soul Challenge Day 21: Fessing up to Being Flaky I’m typically a very dependable person. But unfortunately, not so much today when it came to paying at the end of my hair appointment! It slipped my mind that the hair stylist only takes checks or cash. I didn’t have a check […]

A Journey of Self Discovery

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Starve Ego, Feed the Soul Challenge Day 1: Learning Patience at Starbucks Today the Starve the ego challenge reminded me that I’m not so important that I can’t wait a few extra minutes…in the Starbucks drive-thru line. Got 3 more people on board for The Ego Challenge; one gentleman shared how it helped him let […]

Thriveworks Counseling Franchise is Now Registered in Michigan!


Thriveworks Celebrates 39th State Approval Thriveworks, a leading brand of counseling and coaching practices with numerous U.S. locations, has recently been approved by the state of Michigan to offer franchise opportunities in “The Wolverine State.” This registration marks Thriveworks 39th state approval after previous approved registrations in Virginia, North Carolina, and Minnesota. Thriveworks CEO, Dr. […]

Marriage and Family Problems, Insights


Communication, Hard Work and Connection I woke up this morning with an interesting thought about marriage and family relationships. So many people I know have healthy, loving relationships for years and years, but then something happens and suddenly their relationships take a nosedive. It is almost as if there is no investment value in the […]

Starve the Ego Feed the Soul Plan

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Starve the Ego, Feed Your Soul Plan What do you mean, “Starve the ego, feed my soul?” We’re not talking psychoanalytic Freudian “ego” here. Just using the term generally. Over-indulging in worldly, ultimately meaningless, self-serving, or negative things in this life include anger, bitterness, defensiveness, stubbornness, selfishness, pain, resent, lust. Focusing on such things may […]

The Sunnie Kahle Story


Lynchburg, VA Counselor’s thoughts on Timberlake Christian School and Sunnie Kahle Story By all appearances Sunnie Kahle seems to be a wonderful, well-rounded, and well adjusted child. She has received straight A’s at Timberlake Christian School. The administration at Timberlake Christian School may need a lesson in human development. An 8-year-old child hasn’t hit puberty […]

Personal Improvement for a Healthy Life – Part 3 Communication


Part 3 – Communication I cannot think of a topic that is more important or one that we take for granted more than communication. Specifically, I wanted to discuss interpersonal communication…you know between you and your spouse or kids or even your boss and coworkers. OK, first let’s do a little test. So how many […]

Racial Color Blindness Is Not The Answer

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During my second year of college, I remember logging on to Facebook some time during Black History Month and seeing that one of my friends had posted a Morgan Freeman clip. In the clip, Freeman stated that the best way to deal with racism was to stop talking about it and that not acknowledging race […]

Welcome Lisa Shankman


We would like to welcome Lisa Shankman, LMFT to our Thriveworks Atlanta location. Lisa is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Georgia. She works with individuals, couples and families who seek change and have a desire to build upon one’s own strengths and resources in tackling life’s challenges. Lisa draws upon her […]