Relationships are not easy. Anyone who has been in a relationship for any amount of time will probably agree. But sometimes, it’s harder than it should be. The fighting, the screaming, the slammed doors, the loneliness, the isolation; these things do not need to be part of your relationship. All couples go through difficult times, but when there is more sadness and anger than there is happiness and peace, something needs to change. You and your partner deserve to work on your relationship and explore the possibility of a better life.
Couples counselors and psychologists at Thriveworks Boston can help you and your partner determine what problems exist in your relationship. This is not always an easy first task. Each person sees every disagreement differently. Agreeing on the problems that need work will take time. If you reside in the greater Boston area, an experienced counselor can help you with this important undertaking. Call us today to schedule an appointment at (617) 671-1264.
Do We Need Couples Counseling?
There are many reasons why couples experience difficulties. These can be caused by a number of different situations and circumstances. Some of these may include:
- Infidelity
- Addictions
- Loss of job
- Death in the family
- Trouble with children
- Financial problems
- Extended family dynamics
- Theological or religious differences
- Difficult or opposite work schedules
- Anger issues
- Personality differences
- Psychological or medical problems
After reading this list, you may feel disappointed because your specific issue was not addressed. This does not mean that you will not benefit from couples counseling. In fact, some of the most difficult problems in relationships are so complex, it is difficult to put them into words. The problems in your marriage or relationship may have been festering for years or even decades. The difficulties in your marriage may seem like part of the very essence of your relationship. It may be difficult for you to imagine any other way of interacting with your partner.
Perhaps when you read the list above, your issue immediately popped out. You felt such relief that you could put your thoughts into words. You may not be able to convince your partner that your relationship needs work. You feel lonely and isolated even though you share a bed with another human. Perhaps the issue that you and your spouse are working through is so huge, you feel there is no way to get past it. Without serious work and effort on your relationship, this is probably true. But with real time and energy spent together as a couple, you may be able to move into new, happier places that you only dreamed possible.
How Can Couples Counseling Help Us?
An educated and trained couples counselor will help you and your partner identify your most pressing issues, and then help develop a plan of action. There are many different techniques that a skilled therapist can employ to help you improve your relationship. Some of these methods may include:
- Identifying problem areas
- Improving communication techniques
- Resolving past issues and hurts
- Developing and practicing healthy communication patterns
- Identifying underlying psychological problems
- Treating mental health issues
- Working on addiction problems
- Creating mutual respect
- Journaling and sharing thoughts and feelings
- Creating opportunities for focused and intentional family time
- Fostering intimacy
Usually, a blend of methods and techniques will be needed to help a couple work through long standing issues. Changing unhealthy patterns of behavior is not easy, but it is possible. A skilled therapist will not be shocked by whatever issues you and your spouse bring to the office. We are understanding and skilled professionals. At Thriveworks Boston, our licensed, experienced couples counselors have both the patience and the clinical tools to help you and your partner.
You and your spouse may have discussed your problems with all of your friends and relatives. Or perhaps you and your partner seem like “the perfect couple” and no one knows what you have been experiencing. Even if you have shared your issues with every one you know, there is no comparison to the skilled and calm environment of a trained therapist’s office. It is a neutral zone where problems and fears can be openly and honestly shared.
Schedule a Couples Counseling Appointment at Thriveworks Boston
Thriveworks counselors and psychologists are leaders in their field. We are very selective in choosing our therapists and find those with the best talent and experience. We pride ourselves on not operating with a waiting list for appointments. We have appointments available immediately, usually within 24 hours. We respect that you and your partner have not come to the decision to contact us lightly, and we want to be available to you when we are needed most. We are simply a phone call or message away.
Perhaps you have looked at this page many, many times. You have tried and tried to convince your spouse that your marriage needs help. Perhaps you are considering walking out the door, leaving your relationship and never coming back. Maybe you are staying “just for the kids.” You deserve more. Your partner deserves more. You owe it to your relationship to work as hard as possible as a couple and see what can happen.
Our doors are always open and our phones are always on. We would be honored to walk with you on this journey of healing. Call Thriveworks Boston couples counselors at (617) 671-1264 and get your relationship back on track.
